Advanced English Fluency Training - Mindset And Mind Control

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Hi there, I'm Drew Badger, the English Fluency Guide, and it's a great pleasure to see you
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in another video. Today we're going to be talking about psychology, how you think, and
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how that affects your fluency training to become a confident speaker. Should be an interesting
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video, hope you like it. If you have more questions or comments, please let me know
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down in the comments so we can keep the conversation going.
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Very briefly, if you're new to the channel, I talk about usually four things about language
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learning on the channel, the top one, you're going to have words and phrases dealing with
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particular topics so going fishing or going to the doctor, what vocabulary to use for
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that. A little bit more down, this is almost like a tree here but the fundamental things
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about language learning like pronunciation and grammar here, because those things affect
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all of these other ones.
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You also have, more further down, particular learning strategies so you learn what's important
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to learn, why you should be learning it, what are faster ways to learn. Even lower down,
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the most fundamental and most important is your psychology so how you think. A lot of
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channels on YouTube and just lessons in general. Usually focus more on these two things up
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here, but I like to cover these a lot more just because those are more important. If
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you focus on these and get them right, all of this stuff becomes much easier.
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This video is almost a response in my previous video on the channel where I was interviewed
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by a local Japanese radio show. I got a comment on that video saying the person was a little
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bit offended because I used the word America to say what country I'm from. Now, especially
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out here in Japan, people use the word America instead of the United States of America to
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describe where people are from so if I say, "Oh, I'm from America," they know I'm talking
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about the US and not Brazil or Bolivia or Mexico, even those places, even though those
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places are in North America so the North American continent or the South American continent.
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I can see how a person might say, "Oh, I'm offended by that, why are you saying you're
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from America and not specifically the United States?" Well, they are kind of two reasons
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for this. The first one is that it's just faster to say. Now, the second reason is because
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other people understand what I'm talking about when I say that idea. Often, language is a
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living thing and people will change a word or something to make it faster, easier to
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say, this is why people get nicknames or why you might take a product like a cotton swab.
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These are the little things that you clean your ears with. That's the regular name for
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the product, a cotton swab, but the popular brand name for that, at least in the United
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States, is the Q-tip and so people will, for any kind of cotton swab, they might just say,
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can I have a Q-tip or pass me a Q-tip and people understand what you're talking about.
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It's a conversational shorthand. Again, just a way of being able to express what you want
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to say much faster and people understand what you're talking about. This video isn't really
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arguing that it's correct or incorrect to say something like that but I want to make
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a different point about the idea of telling someone that you're offended by some language
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that you're using. Now, if I want to make this incredibly simple, imagine if we have
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two people here. We're going to draw this person, make sure you can see that.
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All right. We're going to have person one and person two. Person one may think that
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something, saying America describing the United States is an offensive thing to say. Again,
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this is not about right or wrong, this is just thinking about this person here. This
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other person over here does not really care if America is describing a country name or
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not, but there are two different ways of these two people thinking and this becomes really
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important for fluency for one big reason. That one is that fluency is a skill, it can't
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be bought. You can't take it from someone, it can't be given to you, can't be stolen
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from anyone, it's a skill that you develop.
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To develop a skill you need to be really more like ... What's a better way of kind of drawing
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this? Thinking about yourself as moving out into the world and affecting the world around
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you. I'll just kind of draw it. I think I got my people reversed over here but this
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person here ... I'm going to reverse them now because I drew all these arrows over here.
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Let's say this person is the one who does not get offended by saying the United States
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is America and this person does, so this person is affecting their world and that's another
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way of saying that if other things happen to them they are not affected by that.
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This other person over here is doing the opposite, they're living according to what other people
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do to them. The reason this is a more powerful strategy just in life and for language learning,
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as I just mentioned, is because it's a skill that you have to develop. You can't get fluency
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from somebody else and so you don't want to develop a mindset that's saying other people
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can offend me by what they say. I want to make this really important because I think
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in my entire life I have never once thought or said to someone that word that you use
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to me is offensive. There are a number of reasons for this but probably the most important
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one is this idea right here.
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If I think that someone says something and that offends me, that means that that other
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person or some whatever person is changing my behavior instead of me deciding how I respond
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to a particular thing. Again, this video is not about whether it's correct or incorrect
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or really offensive or not to call a country like the United States, America. It's more
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about encouraging people, if you do have that kind of view, to think about why it might
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be helpful to not have that point of view.
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Again, it's a tricky but the people who become fluent are the people who affect their world
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rather than letting the world affect them. It's a very simple idea but it's profoundly
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important. Again, you can see this in an example something like I'm offended by that. If someone
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tells me they're offended by something I say, I say, "Okay, well I understand." There's
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not much I can really do to affect that person's behavior but they're trying to change the
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way I do something so that they can feel better about a particular situation or whatever.
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Even if I say, "Okay, I'm sorry. I understand that might be offensive to you and I'm going
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to apologize for that," I don't know that that really helps that person become better
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or more able to affect change around them other than being able to do things to other
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people. Hopefully this is not too confusing, but when you think about other people controlling
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you or you trying to control other people, if even if a person says that they are offended
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by someone saying that the United States is called America, if you're offended by that
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and you get that other person to change their view or to apologize, that doesn't really
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help you.
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You're trying to control another person based on the way you feel but fluency, again, it
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doesn't matter how many other people you can control, you're still not going to improve
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your own fluency. You might be able to maybe get, I don't know, something from people but
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as far as skill development goes you really need to think about how do I move out into
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the world and control the world rather than having the world control me?
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Hopefully, this is not a confusing idea. I didn't want to write a long thing about this,
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I just thought it was an interesting topic. Again, I can see why someone might think,
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"Well, I'm also in the continents of America, North America and South America," but again,
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this is just talking about conversationally. When people often develop a shortened term
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for something like that, lots of people are going to use it and instead of feeling offended
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by that you might just think, "Okay. Well, I understand other people will do that," and
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without accepting that you might just think, "Okay. Let me develop in such a way that I'm
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not worried about what other people are doing to me for my own development." Does that make
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sense?
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Hopefully ... I know sometimes I'll make videos like this where I'm not just teaching you
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a bunch of vocabulary but these videos really are important. They're what helped develop
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me for my own learning. I don't wait for other people to teach me anything. I don't wait
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for other people to tell me what to do. I go out into the world and I determine what
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I'm going to think or what I feel about something.
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People could say hateful things to me. Part of being a person making videos on YouTube
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is you're going to get hate sometimes, it happens, and it can be really harsh for a
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lot of people. For me, I just think, "Okay." Well, if people have a good criticism of what
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I'm doing or they disagree with something, that's great. If you've got some arguments
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and you have an idea about how to make it better, I'm here to get better. Again, I'm
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not going to sit and cry about other people if they say something and I feel offended
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by it that. That's why ever since I was very young I think I never really worried about
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that, even though every day you have the opportunity to feel offended or to feel like you don't
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like certain language or something like that.
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Hopefully this makes sense, I don't want to go on too long about that, but this idea of
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you controlling how you feel, it's really important and it's hard if you ... Sometimes
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you're going to be like this person and sometimes you're going to be like that person, that's
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really tricky to do so I might think, "Well okay, I'm going to not be offended by this
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but I will be offended by someone using a country name in a way that I don't like."
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You have to ... You could do this but it's much more difficult. It's a lot easier to
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just pick one and stay with that because, again, it's going to affect other aspects
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of your life, how you learn, how you think, your mental health. See, I'm basically happy
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most of the time, pretty much all the time really because I don't worry or wait for other
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people to tell me how to feel or wait for something outside of myself or my situation
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or something like that to determine how I feel. This is especially important if you're,
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again, learning a second language you will encounter people who will laugh at you for
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how you speak and it's going to happen.
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My own family will laugh at me sometimes. I will say something and my wife or my mother-in-law
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or somebody in my immediate family will laugh at me, and it's okay. I just think, "Ah, okay,
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I learned something." I can be offended by that or I can think, "Maybe that's an opportunity
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to learn something." Hopefully, this video is not offensive to people but we'll see.
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If you are the kind of person who can take some advice and think, "Oh, that's interesting,
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maybe I can think about that in a different way," then you will most certainly improve
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from that. But if you are waiting for other people to do what you want them to do when
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it comes to something that you must develop from within yourself, you're going to be waiting
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for a long time.
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All right. Well, hopefully that makes sense. If you have questions or comments below, let
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me know. It should be an interesting video, we'll see. Maybe it won't get so many views,
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