Culture And Vocabulary Of The American Restaurant Experience

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pain in the butt all right I am Drew Badger the  founder of englishanyone.com and I'm back here  

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I thought it would be an interesting lesson I was  talking with my wife about the differences between  

uh restaurant kind of culture and vocabulary  in Japan versus the United States so this is  

specifically about sitting down restaurants  a dine-in experience and I want to talk about  

this because I was I worked as a waiter I was  a manager as a at a restaurant and I was also  

a part owner of a restaurant so I know lots of  different sides of the restaurant experience  

obviously I'm also an American that has dined at  some American restaurants in my day so I thought  

this would be interesting where you can learn a  little bit more about the culture and why we say  

the things we do and also again I thought it would  be fun to compare it with how things are in Japan  

so I have a few people in Japan who follow my  videos and I thought in this one I could speak a  

little bit to them as well so I don't really talk  about Japan or Japanese very much I do I do give  

a few examples of Japanese just to help people  understand what it's like to learn English as a  

first language but just a kind of General overview  of the cultural difference between ordering at a  

sit-down restaurant in Japan versus sitting down  at a restaurant in the United States the the kind  

of core difference in the hospitality is in the  United States you have a culture of tipping so  

this means you're paying a little bit of extra  money based on how good the service is but in  

Japan it's just a flat fee you pay for the food  and the servers just get paid the same amount so  

this changes everything about the culture and  then because of the cultural differences this  

also changes everything about the vocabulary and  the dining experience all right so let's see all  

right nice to see here everybody there I'm at the  beginner level with you will your lessons benefit  

me if not how do I start Heather says if you're  at the beginning level I would watch and it looks  

like your English is probably pretty good if you  can write that sentence most of the people who  

find my videos are usually a bit stronger than  a beginner because I'm speaking all in English  

even though it's pretty simple but you can watch  the beginning English grammar playlist on our  

Channel and that actually goes from absolute  zero or you can download Frederick which you  

can click on the link in the description below  this video to download and that will teach you  

English as a first language it will help you  basically teach the language to yourself so  

you learn pronunciation listening vocabulary  grammar all of that the same way native kids  

learn that vocabulary so if you're at really at  a beginner level you can get Frederick as well so  

what we do in fluent for life is really for more  advanced students it's for people who already know  

and can understand a lot of what I say they  understand English teachers but they don't have  

a good uh really experience in conversations  because they forget their words and they lack  

fluency so what we do is we train people to  understand English like a native so they speak  

fluently in that program but we do try to cover  a wide range of things here but hopefully this  

should be an interesting lesson I'll keep an eye  on the chat if you do have questions let me know  

all right so uh the general experience like when  I go to a restaurant in Japan what's interesting  

is that you know the people are always very  friendly very polite never have any uh like  

rarely do I really have interesting conversations  with with the staff at a restaurant unless I've  

been there many many times so it really takes a  while to discover like kind of the staff there or  

to try to learn more about them but you can go to  an American restaurant and in the first day you go  

there you can know about a person's background  or like what problems they're having in their  

personal life it might not be that serious  depending on how casual the restaurant is  

especially if it's a like if it's not a corporate  restaurant that has very strict procedures about  

how you you take orders and ask for things but it  really is interesting to see the different is even  

between different kinds of American restaurants  so when I come to a restaurant in Japan it's it's  

even again as I've I've been maybe a place like I  could I could go to a like an Italian restaurant  

maybe once a month and the staff will recognize  me but they don't say anything about me or ask me  

how I've been or anything like that so it's it's  not a very personal experience at all but if you  

go to an American restaurant they're like hey how  is it how's it going how have you been it's nice  

to see you again and again because the whole point  is to develop a good relationship with the person  

and so that's why there's a lot more speaking in  an American restaurant environment all right so  

again when I go into Japan or I'm in Japan and  I go to a Japanese restaurant it's just hello  

and sit down and then you know push a button or  raise your hand or just call us if you need help  

and so this is another difference in Japan versus  the United States and again it could be different  

depending on where you're coming from but in Japan  it doesn't really matter what service staff you're  

calling you raise your hand you say hey I need  some help and really anyone could come over and  

help you out because again the point is not to  have a personal relationship with the customer  

because it doesn't matter now I want to imagine  something specifically about tipping because I  

know this can annoy people uh they can't come from  other countries and they wonder why do they have  

to tip so they're paying for the food why are they  tipping on top of that it seems like like a waster  

it's they don't understand why that is so usually  what happens with uh like typical restaurant wages  

like the hourly pay that you get is much less  than someone else working like you know the  

person working at McDonald's whatever it's a  restaurant but you would make a specific you  

know however many dollars an hour but a regular  waiter in a sit-down restaurant is going to make  

a lot less so the tips become much more important  for them so the the restaurant maybe they get a  

share of those or something but typically uh it's  really the the ability for them to sell and make  

sure that the customer is having a good time that  allows that person to earn more money so that's  

why we have uh part of that tipping culture and  again that informs vocabulary everybody enjoying  

this is this entertaining for people let me know  again I wanted to talk about something uh that was  

a little bit different from what I usually talk  about but again the interesting thing is I always  

try to get to the foundation so understanding the  culture why do we do these things and then where  

the vocabulary comes from so when you go into an  American restaurant people will be asking you like  

how many in your party or how many are dining  tonight or dining today or how many or how many  

are with you or they'll just ask you how many how  many so you come in and that's also the same thing  

you will get in a Japanese restaurant they want  to know how many people how many in your party  

and again when you sit down typically you will  have a like a specific waiter that's assigned to  

you in the American in an American restaurant  so you might have a host at the restaurant so  

some places just have a host who specifically  there to welcome people and then to bring people  

to a certain area and then that area will have a  server that's specifically for that area now you  

might raise your hand or something and ask like  just for some help or something but typically uh  

like in Japan because people don't care well it's  not that they don't care but they're not motivated  

they are less motivated to come to your table  and offer you anything or ask you how the food  

is or anything like that because their their  pay doesn't doesn't matter like you know they  

don't get any extra money by working harder to  have a better restaurant experience now it would  

be interesting actually to run a like an American  style restaurant in Japan and see if that made any  

difference there must be some Japanese customers  who would probably appreciate that I'll talk  

about a few more of those differences in a moment  but again the basic idea is because the service  

culture is different because people are getting  paid differently depending on how they perform  

now in an American restaurant again the server  typically they might get a little bit annoyed if  

you're asking for them uh usually the server is  trying to do something they're either going out  

and and like bringing something or getting  something or talking to another customer or  

something they're usually not just standing around  waiting for something to do which you will find  

like occasionally in Japanese restaurants where  people are just kind of they're there and they're  

waiting to be called if you need them or you just  push the little bell or something actually in many  

Japanese restaurants now you just order right from  a tablet and then people will bring the food over  

to you interesting I think probably more American  restaurants will do like that in the future I did  

see there was like a McDonald's that had like all  uh ordering without having any staff you just put  

put your food in I think you know and somebody  uh brings it to your table or or you get it at  

the counter so anyway back to getting uh you're  sitting down at the restaurant uh the first thing  

the server is going to do is ask you you know how  are you doing or if they're asking like are you  

from out of town or something they're looking for  a way to make a connection with you and based on  

kind of who you are or what you're doing and the  second thing they're doing is whether consciously  

or subconsciously they're looking for the leader  of the group and this is an interesting thing I I  

remember when I was learning to be a server in the  United States I actually actually found a like a  

DVD training of how to be a server at a library  so you can find you know specific like industry  

training like this you can also find this on  YouTube I'm sure there will be maybe even training  

for specific companies but just restaurants  in general and so one of the things that I was  

learning about that is like there typically is a  leader at the table so it could be like the mom  

if it's a family or whatever you know the there  there's typically somebody who's kind of like  

leading that and organizing that so you want to  figure out who that is without specifically asking  

for it but usually you do that by you start to  talk and then the leader will usually speak up at  

the table and say oh yes like you know we're from  here or they will answer questions while other  

people might be a little bit quiet so this is just  an interesting thing you can notice from that and  

as you're learning whether you go to a restaurant  by yourself pay attention to what other people at  

other tables are doing so maybe you have uh you're  like listening to what people at a I don't know  

like the next table behind you are doing how are  they ordering how is the staff speaking with them  

if they have any questions about like how is the  food or something but you'll notice again when  

people are like staff are just asking people  they're trying to figure out again who is the  

leader and then trying to establish good rapport  with the party of people now another thing they'll  

do like in an American restaurant typically uh  the order of of who will be taken first usually  

we begin with the leader of the group or there  will be a specific order uh at the table like you  

start from your left and work around that way you  remember who ordered what I always found uh it was  

interesting when I came to Japan and I would order  food even if it was maybe just two people at it  

would be like me and someone else at a restaurant  the staff would come back and say who ordered this  

and I would I would just think like  you don't remember who ordered the  

food like it was it's just two of us  here you don't remember who ordered what  

and again because they're not motivated you will  get a question like that in Japan who ordered this  

but in in America that would be really bad form  you know it would be like very impolite to say hey  

who ordered this food and that's why typically the  the like you're trying to order uh in a specific  

order so you look around the table and even like  a restaurant uh like the check where you're you're  

looking at the like the little uh piece of paper  where you're taking orders it will have pictures  

of different kind of tables on it if you've never  seen that before so it'll be like a diagram of a  

different kind of table like a circular table or  a square table and then what order you should go  

in when you're asking people about food all  right let me check chat right quick make sure  

everybody is doing all right all right hater  says how do I learn the rules in an easy and  

simple way without complication I learned them  but when I want to use them I lose for example  

adding s to those verbs so in this this case this  is just something you have to practice and it's  

something that you need to get lots of examples  for and this is why we talk about naturally  

varied review so you want to really focus on  one if I can just write an example of this  

you you really want to understand a language  pattern and practice that as much as you can  

until you use it without thinking that's really  the goal here so this is why I talk about the  

like the different levels of of like understanding  for English so people will say hey I understand  

what you're saying but why can't I speak and  it's because you don't have the ownership  

level of understanding so you have maybe a logical  understanding uh I'll just cover this very quickly  

here so the lowest level of understanding uh is  where you're just getting exposure to the language

so you're getting exposed to it like right now  you're listening to me maybe you understand  

everything I'm saying maybe you don't understand  everything but it's going into your brain and  

your brain is trying to process that but maybe you  only hear it one time and then you don't listen to  

anything after this uh you like never hear English  again so you're still exposed to the English and  

you're probably exposed to lots of messages all  the time but a lot of it is forgotten you know  

that's part of the way our brain works there's  lots of information coming into our brain all day  

but we filter that so we're not really listening  to all of it all right so the second level is  

where we actually understand and we can we can  recognize certain things so this is awareness

so when you have awareness of something you  recognize information when you hear it so you  

think ah like I remember that word or Drew  said something in the last video and now  

he's using that same vocabulary again where  you hear that from somebody else whatever  

uh and then the highest level so the the  place people often get stuck is right  

here so they get to the awareness  level and then they stop learning  

it's a it's a weird thing that happens like  because people think they know it but then  

when they get in the conversation they can't  use it and that's because they lack ownership

so the ownership level of vocabulary understanding  means you can take something you can understand  

really how it works and you understand it like a  native you own that it's part of your vocabulary  

now so it's not like something that you translate  you use that language because you understand it  

very well so if you know something like uh  so hater has the example of like let's we'll  

just say uh I think that's probably verbs I  guess you're talking about so like adding an  

S to a verb so like if I would practice  something like I go uh and then she goes  

the the way I get from from this level to this  level is I get lots and lots of examples of  

something until I recognize the pattern so well  I just I just know it automatically all right  

this is why we get naturally varied review  and you can't like you can learn something  

very quickly but to develop fluency it takes  time to actually recall that information to  

push it deep inside your brain and the way you  do that is by getting lots of varied examples  

so you don't want to just practice the same thing  again you want to get lots of different examples  

and so you would have like  I go she goes uh or I play  

and then after a while you know what it's going to  be like oh I play he plays or I play they play we  

play he plays and it's it's the the focus on that  particular thing that's why all of our lesson sets  

are designed the way they are because we want  to have people learn the information we want to  

make sure you're exposed to the language you get  that awareness level and then you review it enough  

times that you have the ownership so you use it  automatically all right hopefully that makes sense  

all right but that's how you do it how do I reach  a level where I can register with you to not know  

what level I have to reach to not take from your  private lessons so if you understand like if you  

understand what I'm saying in this video so if  you understand and you have like awareness and  

you understand the English I'm using but you're  still not not communicating fluently it's just you  

don't have the ownership level so you just need  more practice with that you need to systematically  

review the information and you should be just  doing one thing at a time instead of trying to  

learn a thousand words and you know them in a very  shallow way you should know a few things focus on  

that and focus on that deeply and that's why the  system that we use it gets people fluent it's the  

same thing you did in your native language so  if you think about when you were learning as a  

child your parents would tell you something and  then maybe you would probably forget that but  

you would hear it again and again from lots of  other people and then the pattern you understand  

that so well that when you start to speak you just  use that automatically okay so it's it's there's  

nothing complicated about the learning process  it's just getting from here to here means you  

need to get lots more examples all right hi  everyone says Josette and Zaid says can you  

please give us an idea about your private lessons  uh so we don't have private lessons and the reason  

I don't have private lessons well number one it  would be way too expensive for people if I had  

private lessons but number two more importantly  is that you don't really want to learn with one  

person because like learning with one person is  going to train you to understand their English  

and often an English teacher is going to make it  easier for you to understand the language like  

they will intentionally try to be easier but you  need to really be exposed to lots of different  

English from many different native speakers  so this is what we do in fluent for life so  

the whole point of the program is to help you not  just listen to me so you're learning some things  

for me but then you need to hear that from other  speakers and then that's what we do in the program  

so you shouldn't it's really trying to simulate  the native environment but wherever you live  

so you could be living in India but really have a  native environment in the program because you're  

listening to all these different speakers  and so this is exactly how you got fluent  

in your native language it's just we want to  systemize it so that you can do it much faster  

so again I don't have private lessons uh this is  like the closest thing I have to like doing a live  

thing where people can ask me questions but you  don't really get fluent from the videos we make  

on YouTube uh and the reason is because there's  just not enough review people will watch one video  

about one thing and this is not just for like only  my videos or whatever most of the things that I  

teach on YouTube it's really just to teach the  principles about learning like what I'm talking  

about in this video about dining at restaurants  so it's more about understanding the culture like  

oh people want to get tips so they're going to  work harder they're going to try to communicate  

with me more to have a better relationship  with me okay so that like understanding that  

that's an easier thing to understand rather  than like taking the time to develop fluency  

so all the things that we do on YouTube uh when  I say we like meaning like you and me together  

uh the the things that we do it's really about  helping you understand those principles but it  

takes more than just one lesson in something to  get it and it just like it for learning English as  

a native or learning your native language you got  lots of examples of them so you didn't just have  

one person say something you got lots and lots and  lots of varied examples of that thing all right  

so if you'd like to learn more about  that you can click on the link in  

the description below this video and  that'll teach you about fluent for life  

we will release very soon a series a new free  video series actually that explains about the  

process of learning English as a first language  and it shows you how to do that and then it also  

it takes you through like what fluent for  life is and explains how the program works  

all right uh hola saludos Disney Colombia  nice to see you there from Colombia  

Mikhail says if efl approach is supposed to teach  you English as naturally as Natives and as far as  

a language is formed by classic literature isn't  it to be most beneficial for Learners to read  

more Classics uh that's a good question Michael  actually yes it would be it's a great thing to  

get more more information about like reading or  you know any kind of information I don't know if  

like reading classic literature is going to be the  like the most efficient thing one of the reasons  

and I talk about this in another video we're  getting we're getting far away from our restaurant

for our restaurant example over here uh so if you  read let's say you read like a classic book or  

whatever so let's say that takes you I don't  know how long that would take you like a few  

days or a week I don't know how long like the  average person most people are not reading that  

many books in a year I mean maybe they might I  don't know what the statistics are about that  

but most people do not uh and especially if it's  a book in a different language it's easier uh like  

you can go through a book more quickly in your  native language obviously unless your English is  

really at a high level but what happens when  you you take time let's say you take a week  

to go through this process of reading one book  if you do that you will probably be get that  

like I just mentioned these different levels of  awareness you will maybe learn like level three  

you'll be exposed to a lot of vocabulary you will  recognize a lot of vocabulary but it will be more  

difficult to get to that ownership level because  you're not really reviewing this information  

all right so you take a week and most people will  not go back and then read the book again or listen  

to more people talking about that or watch the  movie uh based on that book all right it's really  

the review that gets you fluent not the specific  like information that you're learning all right so  

it's helpful to learn you know specific vocabulary  uh or you know whatever that you especially that  

you would use for your life but the most important  thing is the review of that vocabulary and this  

is why young children are not reading classic  literature but they're still becoming fluent  

because fluency it doesn't have really anything  to do with the specific vocabulary it's just how  

well you know that vocabulary so if you read  like a like a good book and I I made a video  

all about this I think that was uh what was that  what was that video most of my videos are talking  

about this same basic problem but this this was  one in particular it was I think it was like uh  

how to speak fluently about almost anything  yeah watch that video it explains this same  

same basically problem so this was a video I  made for a woman who was learning English and  

she said she can read books and she can watch  movies but she doesn't feel herself becoming  

more fluent she's not being able to express  herself better and I said it's because of  

this problem so you're getting input but you're  not getting the naturally varied review that  

builds the fluency it's not just knowing the  information you need to know it so well that  

you're you're basically removing the doubts  that you have in your mind about vocabulary  

so you might learn some new word or phrase and  then immediately your brain is like well what  

if I do this or what about that situation or  what if or what if I pronounce it like this or  

something or maybe someone else says the word  in a different way like I was watching a video  

yesterday it was a British so a British native  British English speaker but they said inventory  

inventory inventory but an American English  speaker would say inventory inventory  

and at first like you hear that as a native  I'm prepared for that because I've heard it  

many times from many different people including  British English speakers so I'm prepared for that  

I understand that but often non-natives if they  learn something like that especially if you only  

have one teacher so you're listening only to one  teacher then you don't know or you're not prepared  

for non-natives or other natives who are saying  things it could even be the same vocabulary but  

they're pronouncing it differently so these are  all the things that you need to get from uh kind  

of more compact smaller amounts of input that you  review again and again so I made an example of  

this on the YouTube channel as well it's about  learning how to make espresso so if you watch  

that video you'll see this each of the clips  that I used for that video they're only like  

two or three minutes long so you're getting the  just a focused piece of of vocabulary or culture  

or whatever that thing is and then you you're  reviewing that in many ways and it's much easier  

to do that if you take something short and simple  rather than taking something long that's going to  

take you more time so it's great whatever kind of  whatever the information is if you want to read  

comic books you want to read classic literature  you like watching TV shows it doesn't matter what  

the information is the point is are you reviewing  it enough to understand it and develop fluency  

all right the fluency comes from the review  without the review you don't become fluent  

all right just remember like it's the same  thing you're doing in your native language  

uh let's see can you please support this with  some idioms are you mean like talk about some like  

idioms for uh like for ordering food or whatever  some order what do you mean exactly uh Michaela  

again says but different but maybe provide you  with lots of naturally of your own similar matters  

yes I'm just I'm I'm just really making the point  that like the book format is a it takes more time  

and it spreads out like the the amount of like the  space that you would get when learning something  

so the the actual native process of learning for  most kids like even native children is not very  

systematic so they might watch a TV show let's  say they're like two years old uh and then they  

like maybe they don't hear a word again until  they are like five years old or something and  

maybe they recognize it like they remember I mean  this same thing happened to me it's it's happened  

to everybody but I can just think of a specific  example so I remember watching with my dad I was  

watching the movie Mad Max Beyond Thunderdome Mad  Max Beyond Thunderdome and I don't remember how  

old I was when that came out it was on video I  think we watched it and the the word was embargo  

embargo and so they they use that word a few times  in the in the movie and I was asking my dad I said  

what's an embargo because I didn't understand the  vocabulary but I kind of forgot about the word now  

to embargo means you're you're basically stopping  someone from doing something in the movie uh the  

the guys in the kind of the like underground  almost they're producing power for the people up  

on like above ground and if they're not treated  well then they have an embargo and they cut off  

the power and so that's the part of the the story  of the of the movie it's a it's a good movie you  

should watch it uh but anyway that was an example  of me hearing something and I don't hear the word  

embargo ever like in you know daily life or  or hearing from other people it's it's a more  

advanced word usually for government or politics  or something so kids would I mean you don't talk  

about embargoing your friends or anything like  that and so if you hear something like this it's  

not very systematic about how you review it like  the next day my dad was not like hey let's talk  

about embargoing again you know uh and so if  you if you have to learn uh like the native way  

like and this is why what I do is a little bit  different I don't really call it like learning  

it like a native uh because it's I want to be more  efficient than that so in in the native way again  

you might hear something here a few years later  you hear something else so there's a long space  

in between when you hear something and maybe as  you get older you hear something more frequently  

now it depends on the vocabulary so a word like  embargo might be like that but a word like the  

obviously you would hear that again and again  and you would use that very frequently so the  

more the the frequency here is important but also  the varied review is important so it's not just  

about learning uh the vocabulary and hearing it  again and again you want to hear it in different  

situations and that's why it's important to learn  it systematically like that all right hopefully  

that makes sense all right let's go back to uh the  restaurant example uh but let me see if I can if I  

can if I can like weave This Together uh with the  restaurant example now what was interesting for me  

as a server at a restaurant and this is something  that I I began telling people when I was teaching  

English uh is that you have an opportunity as a  server to try to like practice something and hear  

the same kinds of things again and again in the  same way that like when I worked at a hotel I was  

also a manager at a hotel uh you would have the  same experience with lots of different customers  

and so this is again a very systemized systematic  way of getting naturally varied reviews so whether  

you're practicing something saying something  slightly different each time or you're hearing  

slightly different things from different people so  when a restaurant server comes to your table and  

they're they're beginning the conversation where  are you from or what brings you here tonight so  

what brings you here tonight or what brings you  here today so they might say something like what's  

the occasion what's the occasion so what is like  is this anything special you can look about it or  

look at the like the couple are they you know does  it look like a Valentine's Day or like a romantic  

meal or something and then you know you might try  to change like the the ordering or something like  

that just to make something that's a little bit  better of an experience and so that again it's  

the The Tipping culture at the foundation of  that that changes that so I would be like at a  

um like at a at like when I was working as a  server uh so I would go at it from different  

tables you know I'm asking them how they're  doing and then I'm trying to figure out what  

the occasion is so maybe they're just there  to get some different food or maybe they're  

in town and they want to try something different  uh typically people who are coming as a tourist  

in a town they come to a famous restaurant or  something uh and they might say like what's  

the specialty or what's popular over here uh  like what do you recommend so they would ask  

me like oh I recommend this but you can also ask  the people like what kinds of things do you like  

so I would have longer conversations with some  people and I noticed my tips would be better  

and so like it was fun I enjoy you know working as  a server and and talking to people uh and actually  

so I worked at a uh as a sushi restaurant and so  that was a fun experience also like to use some  

Japanese when people would come I remember one  time there was a a couple there it was like a  

Japanese guy and his girlfriend I think uh and  she was she was like their jet their English  

wasn't very good but I was I was speaking  English to them it's it's an American uh  

sushi restaurant uh but I was asking okay what  would you like and and they said well like I'd  

like this but the the girls started asking her  uh boyfriend like well I don't know how big is  

that and so I could hear her speaking in Japanese  and I was like oh it's it's about this big so I  

could explain that to her in Japanese uh and like  but the the problem is they don't tip very well  

so it's fun to try to work with that but like you  you kind of notice like our our Japanese people  

tipping very well when they go to a restaurant  often they don't because they don't know  

known culture but again this is like to  prepare you in case you are going to uh  

like a Japanese uh you know restaurant or an  American restaurant all right let's see here  

guys we are at 81 and he has just 47. terroria  yes yes if you like the video click the like  

button or tell other people about it uh let's see  sakiko says hello look at that if you're Japanese  

say hello uh and Anthony's Antoine says hello  Mikhail again I'm of your age and I have no uh  

I have no so much time as a little kid so I have  to plunge myself in Reading intently unlike a 10  

year old in order to reach their level in such  a short time so that's not a worst way yes again  

there there are different levels different speeds  for the information you might be trying to learn  

so what we do in fluent for life like it's for  people who don't have much time and they want to  

be as systematic as possible and you you really  get that by focusing on a particular topic or  

vocabulary whatever that is and so you you focus  on a particular Topic in our program and then you  

would you would learn that really well so you  use it fluently and that's that's how you do it  

that you move on to the next thing and you learn  to use that fluently and then you move on to the  

next thing and then so you choose is what you want  to learn you create a fluency path there obviously  

reading books and things is a great idea too but  this is less helpful for preparing you for the  

real world you really need to get lots of input  from different native speakers not just listening  

to the voice in your head as you read something  all right so you need to be prepared for that  

even if you can understand a good novel often the  native speakers in real life are going to be less  

easy to understand maybe their voice will be less  clear or you know whatever their their issue is

from Japan being alone from Australia Africa  says Best Day Ever finally I can see on live  

streaming after following you for a long time  well I'm glad to hear it's the best day ever  

fantastic now nobody has asked any questions  about restaurants this is interesting maybe  

people don't care about that is that why  you why you're not here or why you're here  

let's see uh and Andre says you were my first  teacher when I was a teenager now I'm fluent and  

work in sales remotely I owe you so much Fantastic  look at that another testimonial for people who  

are learning English as a first language glad to  hear Anthony again I've been speaking English for  

so many years I work in a call center and I really  understand English perfectly but I feel not really  

comfortable with my pronunciation even if people  understand me uh depending on what your issue  

is maybe you worry about like making certain  sounds or there are certain words you can let  

me know in the chat but I would really recommend  Frederick so if you want to learn how to improve  

your pronunciation how to understand native  speakers much better and learn the same sounds  

they do in the same way they learn get Frederick  so just click on the link in the description below  

this video Abdul says hello I'm scared about  pronunciation I'm fear about when I'm speaking  

it will come out bad pronunciation I am from India  Yes again same thing the the point of of how you  

learn so the the practicing that we do like in  fluent for life or in Frederick this prepares you  

to understand and and be able to use the language  well in real life and so how you prepare is how  

you speak so if you're trying to learn things  if you're reading more textbooks or if you're  

only watching uh like YouTube videos about how to  pronounce things you really need to be hearing how  

native speakers actually pronounce things you  know it's interesting I was I met a friend of  

mine out here who is French and he teaches French  he teaches French so he's from France and he was  

talking to me about the students in his class so  he teaches some Japanese some Americans some just  

like people from different countries because he  teaches at a language like a language University  

so he gets lots of different kinds of students in  there and he explains to them a little bit like  

like uh we were talking about this and like  because I I'm like a language teacher as well  

and he's a language teacher and so we were talking  about this and and he was saying yeah most of the  

stuff he teaches in his classroom is kind of the  typical French clear pronunciation but then you  

know in real life they don't really speak that  way so even teachers like teachers have a there  

there's an interesting problem where they want  to make sure they're understandable but part of  

that is is also helping you understand the the not  understandable English or French or whatever the  

language is so that's why again like for a lot of  what I do in the YouTube videos it's just giving  

you a kind of basic understanding of uh often  teaching a lot of vocabulary but principles for  

learning and getting fluent faster but you really  need to get lots of exposure to native English  

to understand how people are really speaking  so how they're really using vocabulary slang  

and idioms and other things like that but also  understanding their pronunciation so he he was  

saying like he gave me a French example which I  forgot I don't recall much French at all but he  

was just talking about how he teaches one way  in school but then usually when he's speaking  

with people normally like he removes a lot of  the sounds from you know the words or the scent  

so it's the same thing in in English so right  now I'm speaking much more clearly but the way  

I might speak in a kind of casual way with  friends of mine I'm going to be much faster  

the vocabulary will be different and also my voice  is going to be less clear because I like the other  

person can understand we understand me without  me trying to trying to be extra clear about it  

all right uh let's see so could you give me three  script sentences for explain culture give me three  

script sentences for explain culture well we can  just give you like the restaurant example um like  

three cents or for like you're talking about EX  explaining culture explaining culture well you  

should pick a specific thing like the like the  restaurant example let me see if I can if I can  

think of something right now three uh sentences  about that uh if you're talking about kind of  

culture in general or you're talking about a  specific part of some culture like dining culture

so dining culture is uh let's see  so I can even say like American

dining culture is

based on tipping [Music] now you can use chat GPT  to create you know more sentences if you type in  

that same prompt it will just you know it will  give you more example sentences or you can do  

the same thing uh in in Google or whatever  but this is one example so American dining  

culture is based on tipping and because the The  Tipping is is the most important part of that  

really that's where the service culture comes  from all right uh let's see an ABDO again if I  

am only here can I get good pronunciation yes uh  so the the being able to pronounce something well  

first comes from hearing it well and often if you  listen to little kids when they are speaking with  

their parents their parents are maybe a little  bit trying to make something clear but often  

kids are listening to their parents when their  parents are just talking normally so you have

like a parent let's say a parent  is like talking down to their  

their child and they might in this  example be a bit more clear like I'm  

trying to teach them I don't know  what's it like station or whatever

so here's a word with a few tricky sounds  in here like stay shun and this this is  

one particular phonetic sound phonetic element  station uh and if I'm talking with a friend like  

this adult is if they're talking with another  adult over here they might say like station

yeah I'll meet you at the station  so it sounds more like stage

station so even I don't like to my child I want to  make sure they understand what I'm saying station  

oh look like my my son loves trains and and  look at that we are at the train station look  

it's a train station and over there that's  a a bus station so I'm being very clear I  

want to make it easy for the other person to  understand but my friend over here he already  

knows what I'm talking about yeah I'm taking  the train I'll see you at the station at five  

I'm taking the train I'll see you at the station  at Five I'll see you at the station at five so  

notice a lot of this is Blended together it's  shortened and the reason is because I can say  

it faster and he understands what I'm saying  I'll see you at five so I'll see like I will  

see you at five I will see you at five like you  might read a book and it's clear when you're  

reading because the words are written out I will  see you at five but in an actual conversation a  

native is like I'll see you at five I'll see you  at five I'll see you at bye I'll see you at five  

but this Blends together all CLC at five it's like  I'll see ya yeah we don't say c u we say see I'll  

see you at five see you later see you later so  this even this phrase by itself see you is used  

so frequently that people just it becomes just  like one one quick thing see see see you around  

I'll see you tomorrow I'll see  you tomorrow I'll see you tomorrow  

okay so when you're listening like to answer  your question if you're getting uh examples of  

okay here's station and I'm learning it clearly  like a child but I'm also hearing it the same way  

I would say it to a native then you really become  confident in how you say this okay it's the same  

thing with writing so let's say you're learning  how to write um like I'll just give a Japanese  

example of this uh I'm not going to do this very  well but if you imagine like when I'm trying to  

learn how to write kanji so these are Japanese  characters in the same way a child would learn  

how to write so a child a child might learn  let's see what's a good one like uh let's see  

so like Hikaru something like that like a a child  is going to take more time and like write it  

carefully so if I'm gonna write like okay here's  this character and this one this one this one  

okay I'm gonna really take my time and  write it but most people when they're  

just writing every day they don't write like  that like this one's like you know like that  

and people can read that because they're used to  how that looks okay so if you want to be able to  

function in Japanese Society like being able to  read you need to know both of these things okay  

and again this is an example of naturally varied  review you don't just learn this one this is the  

clear okay this is the example we're getting  like making sure everybody can understand but  

this is the one people are using it's like when  I when I get my mail I might might find like you  

know some some people are hand writing something  and it's like look at that like this this like  

like this very clear looking kanji over here  looks it looks like a mess but people can still  

understand it from the context all right so that's  my long answer for that but uh when I when I talk  

about people getting exposure to the language and  listening this is what I mean so it's not just  

getting a clear example of something you need to  get lots of people that don't see it clearly this  

is why you need to get naturally varied review  with lots of other native speakers foreign

is there a science behind what you are using a  red marker instead of a black one which are you  

used to is there a science behind that uh no  I just happen to have these like these three  

markers uh I actually bought I bought these  because I wanted to use something bigger and  

it's a little bit like if I'm if I'm writing  something it's a bit clear like these are very  

different from each other I wouldn't want to  use like a red marker and an orange marker  

so these are I mean these are two primary  colors and black so I don't know about but  

I there might be people who are colorblind  and maybe they can't see certain colors so  

I think like I think maybe I used green at one  point but people couldn't see it or something  

so maybe that's why I use these but also this  is just it's what I have it's what I have here

is this making sense hopefully I'm I'm covering  quite a few different things in this video  

it's supposed to be about restaurant culture and  differences in restaurants and stuff but again  

the story of this is is basically how people are  learning and so when you're it's rather than just  

hear like a few phrases or whatever it's helpful  to understand why people do this so when you're  

at a restaurant and you're ordering your food  and people are bringing it to you they want to  

make sure like how is everything so you will hear  this a lot like how is everything is everything  

okay can I bring you some more water can I bring  you something else is there anything else you need  

would you like to see the menu you'll get lots  of these different things and if you hear these  

like pay attention for this let's say if if you  were you know for this video I'm just giving you  

a like a general introduction of these kinds  of things but as I said earlier in this video  

hearing me give these introductions it's it's  really just an introduction you really need to  

get lots more examples and see lots of people  actually doing this that's why I like a really  

good video about it would be like 10 different  people ordering food it's not one person going  

to a restaurant you would need to see like 10  different videos of that or 10 different people  

doing it in the same video all right that's  the naturally varied review of doing that  

uh let's see and and hide us is how do you teach  the intermediate level in order to attend your  

lessons on uh English anyone well the for for most  of the people that I help like I'm helping people  

who already understand a lot of English so my my  videos are not really for beginners I made that  

uh series if you can if you can think about what  I do on the channel if you look at the the history  

of it so I started teaching on uh YouTube in 2010  I think wow it's like 13 years or something now  

um and so mostly what I do if you think about  like this is like a highest highest level [Music]

and this is absolute zero over here so  I started teaching for people up here  

and the the main goal of the channel is actually  uh because the these people up here they have a  

very specific set of problems these are people who  know a lot of English but they can't speak very  

well and it's because they've spent many years  training themselves and it's not their fault this  

is just how everybody teaches languages but this  is basically learning English as a second language  

so they're learning it through their first  language they're trying to translate rules and  

understand uh vocabulary by studying definitions  and explanations rather than really understanding  

it like a native speaker so basically there is  a whole like the whole planet everywhere around  

the world people are learning English this way  so they start out when they're young and they  

begin like again using translations and all these  other things over here and then when they reach  

this point that's where I start helping them  but uh it occurred to me like this was too late  

so I actually wanted to go back to the beginning  and then recreate the way people are learning so  

that they don't have these problems anymore and  actually like my programs up at this level are  

like not really necessary if that may and it  sounds like silly idea but that's basically  

that's basically what I'm doing so fluent for  life is up here uh and then I created Frederick

which starts you off at the beginning and this is  also uh obviously people who are good at language  

already but they're maybe they're listening uh or  their vocabulary is not very good and they want to  

learn more so a lot of those people get Frederick  and use that as well but you start down here in  

like the the goal is really to start learning like  a native as soon as possible and my I guess I see  

it like a native but it's just learning English  as a first language so what I do teaching English  

as a first language and helping people be very  efficient about how they're learning it so that's  

why we get lots of naturally varied review so you  understand it like a native you're learning the  

real vocabulary and then you're able to improve  naturally and automatically so it's it's kind of  

two different two different tracks over here so I  didn't draw this very well but one of these this  

would be e SL and then what I do is efl so fluent  for life is over here and Frederick is over here  

as well and this is the the typical approach so  the people who have gone up they've spent many  

years learning this way now I'm trying to move  them over to understand and use English fluently  

with fluent for life but Frederick you can start  out like if you give it to your children they  

would start learning English as a first language  from from the beginning and so I might like the  

next program I want to make will be like even  more of this kind of thing and so you won't  

you won't need to go through all these typical  things that that people most people normally do  

and and this isn't even just uh like regular  classes that people have in school like most  

like language learning apps are doing the same  thing so they're not giving you real vocabulary  

or they're not giving you exposure to real people  actually speaking so it might even be like an AI  

Voice or something that's especially clear or  it's a robotic voice or a teacher or something  

but you're not you're not getting everything  you need to to like to be in that native the  

native culture for Native using the Lang much  like a native uh let's see excuse me all right  

uh hello sir from Iran I see you there Steve says  hi tharsus says a good night teacher from in India  

India nice to see they're from Gabon wow look at  that people from all over the place from Kyoto

Jewel says hi finally I could watch you live with  a heart nice to see you there so it's uh that's a  

nice name is it possible to learn native English  outside the U.S if you're outside the US and  

you're learning with me right now you are learning  native English look at that the nice thing about  

having the internet now is you don't need to go  anywhere I can learn Japanese in the United States  

even if I never meet an actual Japanese person  just by getting the right input the right way  

the tricky thing is if you're trying to study  by yourself trying to figure out how to learn  

these things like a native speaker all right  so you want to get that same information that  

natives are getting but you need to really go  especially for the people watching my content  

it's like you've already you've already learned  it and you understand it but a lot of it is kind  

of retraining your brain I know that sounds  weird to retrain your brain but it's because  

you've spent many years teaching yourself to  Think Through translations or to use I don't  

know like like explanations and and grammar  rules and vocabulary lists and other things  

like that that you would just never do  when you're learning your native language  

and the interesting thing is like as a native  speaker of your own language you don't you don't  

learn this way now it's like you could start you  know from right here let's say you start at age 30  

let's say you were 30 years old so you would  continue to learn your language like as a as  

a native speaker but you have to choose  like do you want to keep learning English  

as a second language or do you want to learn  it as a first language and that's what I teach

uh OS your voice OS your voice I don't know what  that means uh let's say afro again do you have a  

formula or strategy for making long speech because  as long as I'm following your channel I found your  

speech uh never less than an hour actually most  of the the videos on the channel are under an hour  

it's just the live videos I've done recently that  uh that I you know I just answer questions and you  

know the chat is going and people have lots of  questions so I'm not I'm not just speaking for  

a long time to be speaking but oh no I should plug  my battery in here I know I forgot to do something  

but yes uh when I I actually I thought about  doing that uh today let me know would it be  

interesting for you guys to have a  video about making more like complex  

sentences would that be helpful when you talk  about like speaking for longer periods of time  

you mean just like like how I'm speaking now like  I'm able to uh to keep talking for a longer period  

of time is that what you're referring to or do  you mean like the length of sentences themselves  

because I know a lot of people have the  problem of uh not being able to have  

longer conversations because they're  only able to use short simple things  

pardon me I'm going to plug this  in over here should be one moment

let's see man we're rolling okay we still got  power yes so that's uh like why we do the kinds  

of things on this channel it's it's really to  help you build fluency but the tricky thing is  

that you don't really get fluent from a single  video it's rare that you would get it from a  

single lesson and that's why like the the problem  I'm always trying to get people off of YouTube  

because the YouTube itself is is is great for  just learning like a lot of random content but  

if you want to build fluency it's more difficult  you need to focus and spend more time with that  

information that's how you do it all right oh  and uh two pluses again Yoda guys Maria let's  

see says good night I'm studying English I like  so much your classes glad to hear you can say I  

like your classes so much I like your classes so  much and these are the things as you pay attention  

really try to pay attention listen carefully  some people will say wow that Drew he talks a lot  

and if if you're if you're really listening to  what I'm saying like you will get the English  

lesson without me kind of teaching you anything  just pay attention to the way I'm speaking and  

you will hear certain patterns again and again  and those are the things you can learn just the  

same way I speak with my own kids and they learn  even if I'm not you know trying to teach them  

something specifically I was uh talking with my  younger daughter Noel today we were looking for  

I don't know she dropped like a little I don't  know Lego piece or something uh and and I was  

like hey it should be around here somewhere and  she was and like she she doesn't really use the  

word should but she started using it today like I  don't recall her using it in a different way but  

I was I was you know and I recognized that and so  I'm giving her more examples I was like yeah like  

we we should we should we should have it or it  should be around here somewhere it should be and  

so here she's learning a specific word and then  the pattern where you use it and this this is  

what you do so you learn the pattern you get that  understanding but to get to ownership you have  

to have that again and again and you know when  someone has ownership because they feel confident  

about using something if you don't feel confident  about using something but you can understand it  

you lack that ownership level and that's why  you need to get more review so it's not just  

like learning the vocabulary there are probably  still some doubts you have about how to use it  

but I might be in a conversation like if I'm  speaking with someone in Japanese uh most of it  

I will understand and feel confident about using  it but there might be some things that I don't  

I'm like oh here's some new vocabulary and yeah I  don't I don't feel confident using that because I  

still have questions about maybe the the grammar  or what exactly it means or something like that  

because you might you might learn something and  then try using it but you find out that vocabulary  

is incorrect or he used it you know wrong or the  pronunciation was wrong or something like that  

I like the example I gave before about uh  inventory inventory inventory rather than  

inventory inventory so if I'm a English learner  and I watch a British person speaking English  

and they say inventory inventory and then I go  to my American friend and I say hey like I was  

learning about in my inventory or whatever and the  guy like if it takes him a minute to understand  

what you're talking about he's like what ah  inventory ah inventory I understand all right  

so a lot of that has to it comes from like the  preparedness and also what people anticipate so  

if a person doesn't think you can speak very well  they probably won't understand what you're saying  

in a weird way even if you're speaking clearly  all right uh let's see I always listen to your  

videos before I sleep so very good glad to hear  it uh so I would all you can say I always listen  

to your video so I listen to your videos before  I go to sleep and here again like if you make a  

mistake with a grammar point then you would want  to be like oh let me get 20 more examples of this  

in different like different situations again that  naturally varied review is what builds the fluency  

so you recognize the pattern and as you hear all  of these examples then it sounds weird to you if  

you hear something incorrect like sometimes I will  hear other foreigners speaking Japanese and I can  

hear the mistakes that they make and I'm like oh  that sounds it sounds funny to me the same way it  

would sound funny to a Japanese person because  like I've I've developed the like that level  

of ownership for some of the vocabulary Michaela  again uh uh do you respond on the questions below  

the videos after the online translation finished  and downloaded it might be quite helpful for those  

who are late occasionally I will go back and  answer some questions if you look at previous  

videos you will see that I do do that it depends  on what the questions are and sometimes I will I  

will answer you know whatever the questions  are but yes I do that do that sometimes  

uh smash that like yes or gently tap the like  button whichever you would like to do whichever  

you feel uh comfortable but yes I'm always  happy to have people smash that like button  

uh if possible explain about come up with things  okay all right so this is uh to come up with  

let me come up with an example  come up with an example for you

whenever I'm teaching phrasal verbs  and this is an example of this this  

is the same thing I would do with  my own kids the same thing I do in  

the visual guide to phrasal verbs  which is part of fluent for life

you can think about this physically I think I  probably talked about this in another video as  

well but when you come up with something it's like  imagine if I'm trying to think right now I can I  

can physically come up with the idea like I'm kind  of reaching into my mind and I and I and I come up  

with something but you can understand it even from  a more basic level of like let's say I have to  

walk down and get something I can like I'm going  down here and look at that like I came up with an  

eraser so I came up with an eraser like I brought  something up with me all right so if I'm on the  

first floor of a house and I walk up to the second  floor like I came up with uh you know some tea or  

something like that all right so I'm physically  moving something from one level to a higher level  

to come up with something so it's almost like  because I'm saying like I I came up with something  

a similar expression is to bring up something so  I might come up with something in a conversation  

or bring up something in a conversation typically  like coming up with something the the meaning is  

slightly different this is where you're maybe  thinking of an original idea something that you  

had not thought of before but if you bring up  something it might be like something you were  

thinking about previously so maybe yesterday I was  I was worried about I don't know my son trying to  

get a job or something and today I brought that up  with my wife so I was worried about something and  

then I brought that up again but when we talk  about coming up with something it's more like  

thinking about a new idea or like hey I just I  just thought of something I just came up with an  

idea so it's almost like I'm in my own mind I'm  down somewhere but then I come back up like this  

and here I am so I came up with something all  right so it just means you thought of something  

but that's a an easier way to think about that  idea let me know if that makes sense all right

all right uh it's my first time today I'll be  participating from now on nice to meet you welcome  

to the party all right and Jose again it would  be interesting if you used some phrasal verbs in  

different situations more often yeah you will here  if you listen to the the videos you will hear me  

using some phrasal verbs from time to time just  like you know any any of the other things I use  

again like you can watch if you're interested in  phrasal verbs specifically just type phrasal verbs  

in my search for my channel and you'll find lots  of videos about phrasal verbs so I've already done  

that but you will get lots of lots of examples of  those even in uh I don't I don't like highlight  

them but you're if you're listening you you will  notice some of them and you'll start noticing the  

patterns like when it's a phrasal verb like if I'm  talking about coming up with something rather than  

thinking of an idea or something or like I've  been inspired by or inspired with an idea all  

right well let's finish this up uh with our like  last just bit of information about restaurants  

that kind of thing uh so at the end of the meal  like in in Japan people typically not come and ask  

you like would you like dessert or can I get you  anything else they might do that but uh typically  

they don't they're really just waiting for you  to make a decision about something and it really  

surprises me because the the staff is there and  the and the restaurant is paying the people to be  

there you might as well get them to serve better  and you'd probably make some more money I don't  

know why they don't why they don't do that even if  it's not part of the culture there would probably  

be I don't know anybody up for the like a sakico  or anybody else in the chat you can let me know  

how you would feel if in a restaurant they came  up and said oh would you like some dessert even  

just like making an offer about something else  all right sometimes you like they will tell you  

what the special is if you go to a restaurant  but it's it's a pretty rare thing to see people  

like promoting certain items or whatever in a  restaurant but that's a very common thing in  

the United States good evening Drew nice to see  you there greetings from Brazil nice to see you  

let's see who is that from Tom nice to see you uh  so at the end of the meal they're asking you know  

making sure everything is okay is there anything  else I can get you would you like some dessert  

you might also hear do you have any room for  dessert or have you left any room for dessert  

now there is like a Japanese expression for this  called the betsubara which is like second stomach  

so like people have you know they like oh I'm so  full but I still want dessert you know maybe you  

have something similar in your uh in your native  language but in English we don't really have an  

expression for that it's just more like uh you  know we all we always like save room for dessert  

so you have regular meal and then like you save a  little bit of room for dessert so people will say  

did you save any room for dessert so that's  like a great like natural uh without being  

salesy without trying to push that like it's  like okay I want you to buy some dessert now  

they say did you save any room for dessert did  you save any room for dessert or can I bring you  

or may I bring you the dessert menu may I bring  you the dessert menu so this is kind of assuming  

or or you can just like bring them like sometimes  I would you know if if we have a dessert menu or  

whatever I just bring them the menu so it looks  like you guys are up hopefully that was a great  

meal here's the dessert menu and just just give  it to them so these are you know kind of salesy  

things or whatever you can do in a restaurant  that would be very easy to do in Japan is  

maybe I should like open another restaurant in  Japan and see how it works actually uh for any  

let's see oh you can you can tell me if you think  this is a good idea I wanted to open up a uh like  

I would call it Yaki sushi so instead of regular  Sushi which is uh raw so you have the raw fish  

on some rice I would I would Grill it slightly  and then put some kind of sauce on that and I  

and my my market would be pregnant women because  they can't really eat sushi but they want to eat  

some sushi so I thought that would be a like an  interesting thing to make all right now before I  

lose my voice you can hear it it's going again  I wanted to make sure I don't lose my voice a  

second time uh we're going to shut this down  but if you have any last questions let me know  

uh this was kind of an interesting video where  I'm starting to talk about things but people have  

general questions about fluency but remember  if you want to become a fluent speaker it's  

all about focus and then getting that naturally  varied review if you learned something one time  

from a YouTube video you will most likely forget  it and then not hear it again and then you're  

just not going to become fluent and feel confident  about using that vocabulary so if that is you if  

you would like to learn more about that click on  the button below this video for flowing for life  

all right if we don't have any final questions  here let's see does repetition work while learning  

to speak English fluently uh the reason I talk  about so like if you're going to repeat something

versus NVR

if you repeat information let's say I learn a word  

I don't know what what's uh what's  a good word let's just say house

if I learn a word like house and I just repeat  that again and again there's a weird thing that  

happens in your brain where you you kind of  lose the meaning of a word as you repeat it  

over and over so even like a word like bib I like  to use this example because it's short but if you  

just say the word Bib and a bib is like it's  like a little kind of a little apron that you  

put on a baby so they're drooling or getting  food on them you know you put a bib on them  

but if you say this word over and over in your  mind you kind of forget what it means like it just  

it just becomes a weird sound it's interesting but  also uh the more you try to repeat something the  

less interesting it is for your mind your mind it  kind of rejects repetition and it's really boring  

for for people to do that this is why so few  people become masters of anything because it's  

really difficult for the mind to Simply repeat  stuff over and over again so if I'm practicing  

you know karate or something I'm gonna do my  punch like and I've just got to sit there and  

do like you know 100 of these or a thousand of  these or something most people will quit just  

because it's boring to do it's not difficult to do  this the difficulty is the is the repetition of it  

all right so these are reasons why if you just  take a word and try to repeat it and these are  

just two reasons why repetition by itself is  is not very helpful for for building fluency  

it's the same thing with like if you're reviewing  flash cards so people will often use spaced  

repetition so this is where we try to like try to  logically figure out like okay we need to learn  

it here we're going to give you the flash card  and then wait I don't know five minutes and show  

you the flash card again and then wait again and  show you the flash card again it's kind of trying  

to trick your mind into learning something but  your mind is is still not really interested in  

doing this either uh and and then again like the  another reason why repetition is not very helpful  

uh is because the the real language is not it's  not just like one word spoken in one way so like  

the example I gave earlier about inventory so I  might say inventory but maybe a British person  

says inventory inventory inventory if you only  repeat what I hear or what I say then you're  

going to be prepared for what I say but you're not  going to be prepared for all the other people who  

are speaking so people who don't speak it clearly  or maybe they say a different word for that thing  

all right so repetition by itself is is like  a very weak form of of of review because it's  

not what natives are actually doing in real life  there's very little like repetition in this way  

when people are language learning there might  be repetition for other things like I'm trying  

to swing a baseball bat or a golf club where I'm  dancing or gymnastics or something where you need  

to take a physical motion and you practice doing  that thing again and again but with English or  

learning any other language what we use instead is  naturally varied review so just like the example  

before I don't want to give like the same thing  I don't want to say like one word and just have  

you repeat that again and again because the real  world is not like this I need to prepare you for  

the real world so you need to hear how I say it  then here's how someone different says it nears  

like a different person maybe their pronunciation  is different maybe they say a different word  

maybe instead of house they say home or they say  like my spot come to my spot around six o'clock  

my spot so they're not even using the word  house they're using something different even  

though they mean the same thing so the naturally  varied review is is review of vocabulary review  

of grammar pronunciation all these different  things but it's it's naturally simulating the  

way a native would do it in in their real  life so this is where uh naturally varied  

review comes from and that's why I tell people to  do that so it's much better than repetition for  

many reasons hopefully that's my long answer to  that question good question though uh let's see

uh

okay let's see so Steve says I feel like I  am fluent in my mind but when I have to speak  

to someone I lose the words and that makes me  stressed yes uh depending on why that is this  

is a very common problem for people and this is  one of the things that naturally varied review  

will solve so you can think about when you're in  a conversation with people what it what is the  

specific thing let me know in the chat anybody I'm  sure there are more than one of you like has this  

specific issue so maybe you know the English but  in the conversation you lose it what is happening  

to you at that moment is it just like I feel a  lack of confidence or like I just don't really  

remember the word what is let me know in the  chat what specifically that is the solution to  

that problem is to feel so confident about the  vocabulary that you just use it automatically  

all right and that comes from how we review  the review is the is the whole thing okay so  

I went I was I was talking to people about like  business one day and talking about like like a  

like a you know a list of customers or whatever  and so the the people often say like yeah like  

the the money is in the list of people it's like  well it's it's not really just like having a list  

of people it's your relationship with the list  it's how well you know those people what kind  

of relationship do you have with those people  if you know like you have like a list of 10  

000 people but they don't like you then they're  probably not going to buy anything from you but  

if you have a list of people who like you and  they enjoy what you do then probably some people  

are going to buy something from you you know and  it's the same thing with the vocabulary so often  

uh Learners just have like a huge vocabulary  of words they don't really know very well  

but natives especially children they don't know  very many words but they know those words very  

well so it's a relationship with the words  it makes it uh useful so let me know in the  

chat anybody if you can think about the  last time that happened to you you were  

in a conversation and like something happened  you're like I can't I can't like I just like  

lost the word or whatever really try to think  about what happens in that situation foreign

I didn't understand exactly I  always eat dessert after eating  

okay wait Which part of that  didn't you understand let me know  

uh Thursdays here in Brazil I usually uh use  some advice from dessert I guess next video  

how to keep conversation stay on the topic for  a long period of time well that's an interesting  

question if you'd like to know more about that  let me know in the chat you would like to know  

how to speak like how to stay on a topic I mean  rather that's like this video is a bad example  

so we're talking about restaurant stuff first  and now now we're not talking about that at all  

uh but yes so next like how to keep a conversation  staying on topic for a long period of time okay  

uh never heard about that word bib  apron now I know what that means yeah  

let's see here let me save  that that's an interesting idea

see anything else here uh the servers just think  it's polite not to disturb you while you're having  

your food anytime you need them they are ready  to rush to you yes but often like if you go to  

a restaurant and this is a thing about like if  you're the owner of a restaurant the the person  

is there or the or the family or group of people  they're there for a certain amount of time and you  

can increase the amount of like not only money  that you earn from them but also like make them  

enjoy the experience a lot more uh by taking time  to learn more about them and actually have them  

like you know uh get like the best kind of food or  whatever that they can get or learn about things  

that they're not maybe they don't know about or  someone might go to a restaurant and they're like  

expecting this kind of thing but you tell them  hey like you might enjoy this other thing better  

and then it's like a surprise that they enjoy so  yes like it's it's not about being impolite but it  

would be an interesting test uh to see if anybody  doing that I bet I could I could probably compete  

with like some Japanese restaurant but with  American style service and do better I bet I could  

yeah so bib is a verb or is it a noun  yeah it's a noun like this is a bib

you might also have like a lobster bib if you go  to a lobster restaurant you want to make sure you  

don't spray some food on yourself have been hello  from Barcelona I understand teacher Drew thank you  

says Tom okay good night and thank you for the  lesson says Nils what Nils is back Nils is back  

nice to see you there even just pop in to say good  night all right we're gonna have to shut this down  

in in a moment anyway but glad to get some last  comments in here so bib is kind of the same thing  

from apron babib is for babies they use it when  they're eating not to get yeah so it's like again  

a bib you know just it really just means like some  little thing that you're covering yourself with so  

it's not like a full shirt it's just something you  have like just kind of hanging up here usually an  

apron would be a larger thing and that might  even like go down to your uh go down to your  

waist or lower cover your legs and maybe it maybe  it doesn't cover your back but just the front so  

these are these are slight interesting things you  learn when you're learning like a native speaker  

it's like oh is that a bib or is that something  else is that like a chair or is that a bench  

you know interesting questions and those are  the things that that you learn when you learn  

you know English as a first language uh practice  my English while Drew is talking yes and that's  

that's it exactly as you're learning more uh just  by listening to me or other people and again you  

want to get lots of different examples of people  that's why we have so many Native English speakers  

in fluid for life we really want people to listen  to lots of different examples uh in in fact for  

Frederick I want to add different voices in that  in the future every day let's see practice is  

important to speak a language I practice let's  say I practice all listeners talking I lack  

the confidence yes so typically the the lack of  confidence comes from specific questions you have  

about the vocabulary or grammar or whatever so  you know the grammar or vocabulary but you don't  

know it as well as you should all right you don't  have that ownership level where you feel really  

confident using something so you can understand  that vocabulary but you don't really feel  

confident using it there's some kind of question  there and once you solve that question you get  

the answer to that then then the confidence is  unlocked all right and that typically comes from  

getting naturally varied review because this is  going to answer a lot of those questions this  

is my job as a teacher it's not really to like  teach you the language it's to answer all the  

questions you have about learning in like a like  a subconscious way so if I can teach you well then  

you really won't have many questions you will just  understand and start using the language all right  

so that's what we do actually in this uh this new  uh four video course that I'm releasing very soon

uh is there a best way to be fluent in English  better than living with an American I mean I  

know people who live in the United States for  years and they still can't speak same thing for  

people living in Japan people been living here  I know people who've been living here for like  

30 years and still can't speak Japanese it's not  about where you live it's about how you learn and  

so if you learn English as a first language  it doesn't matter where you live like people  

watch my videos and get fluent you've seen  some of them in this chat here talking about  

that so it's pretty it's a logical thing it's not  about the physical there's nothing magical about  

the like the physical place you could be even  around native speakers and still have trouble  

if you don't learn how to get fluent like they do  you have to do basically what natives are doing  

learn English as a first language all right true  speaks English pretty fast and I can understand  

most of what he's saying yes and part of that is  because I'm using quite simple easy to understand  

English all right now I think uh that was the  last question we got through everybody George Chan  

nice to see you there it says thanks hopefully  people have enjoyed this uh kind of interesting  

lesson talking about restaurant things uh but  hopefully you understand the basic idea that the  

culture informs the vocabulary so the culture  creates the vocabulary and that's how you can  

learn something interesting about that and like  you're like why are these people asking me so many  

questions like you know because they want to make  sure you have a good time so you leave a good tip  

there you go all right so if you'd like to learn  more you can click on the links in the description  

below this video again especially if you want to  improve your pronunciation and listening quickly  

get Frederick but if you'd really like to become  a fluent speaker get fluent for life and then  

I will let's see all right glad to hear for the  explanations everybody understands all right have  

a fantastic day be sure to like the video as well  if you have not done so already tell your friends  

you should go watch this guy Drew and learn  English like a native speaker so learn English  

as a first language rather than learning as a  second language I promise if you do that you will  

become fluent it's guaranteed have a fantastic  date and I'll see you in the next video bye-bye