How To Make English A Native Language For Your Home And Family

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see everybody there I am Drew Badger the founder  of EnglishAnyone.com and the English fluency guide  

Welcome All right we should have uh an interesting  one today uh this was from a question I had uh  

from a learner actually uh on one of these uh live  videos nice to see everybody there I don't have  

a lot of time today uh so I want to jump right  into this uh but this was from a learner asking  

uh about how to make English uh like a native  language in their home uh and so hopefully you  

guys will enjoy this I wanted to begin as I often  do with a quick story so I was having lunch with  

a friend of mine and his daughter yesterday  uh we went to an Indian restaurant actually  

and she is uh a good so this is his daughter  she's a good speaker of English uh but like  

many of the people who I help uh she has trouble  thinking and translating Andes hesitating when  

she speaks so she can often understand things  and she can write English really well but when  

she has to respond quickly she often has trouble  doing that so I was explaining to her about what  

I do with helping Learners uh the English as a  first language approach and helping people get  

fluency triggers and all the things that I talk  about uh but I wanted to explain to her I'll just  

very quickly explain this for you uh because  it's really part of helping your students uh  

or your children if you're trying to do this uh  in your own home to help your own kids learn to  

speak English well uh so I was explaining to her  that the reason she struggles the reason she has  

to think and translate and process information and  think about sentences before she speaks is because  

she learned English through Japanese uh and so it  rather than learning English directly as a first  

language she really is trying to study things and  understand rules and that's how she's learning to  

speak uh so of course when you're learning uh  through translations you will speak through  

translations as well so I said let me give you  an example right here in this Indian restaurant  

I'm going to teach you some alien just an alien  word for something and I want to see if you can  

understand this in the alien language I will not  use Japanese or English or any other language to  

teach you this and so I just gave very quickly I  was pointing at different things on the table uh  

I pointed at some rice and then uh I said CA and  she said oh like c means rice I said no no that's  

actually incorrect is wait and listen so I pointed  at the rice just a regular bowl of white rice and  

I said CA and then I pointed to a plate and I said  CA again and then I pointed to a napkin and I said  

c and I pointed to a little piece of paper and it  said or I said c again uh and as I gave her more  

examples she said oh white and and then she got it  so at that point I I basically gave her a fluency  

trigger rather than teaching her a definition or  a translation so this is just a very quick example  

of how you can help someone understand something  in the language without trying to give them the  

answer so I really want to help people discover  the way uh to learn or discover the definitions  

of things rather than just tell you what things  mean because if you understand it really the same  

way a native does you speak fluently all right  so having spoken about this story uh I wanted to  

explain something uh just in this video about how  I'm teaching my own kids at home so how I make a  

native English environment for my own kids because  I live in Japan and most of their day is all in  

Japanese so they have you know a mother who's  Japanese and grandparents who are Japanese and  

their friends in school so all of these things  it's basically a non-native environment the  

only thing that really makes it more native is is  because I happen to be teaching them but remember  

uh it's not about me being a native that makes  them native it's about how I teach and so if I  

can help them understand things without thinking  about translations or definitions then I can help  

them understand so let me give you an example of  this uh is another kind of story from my uh from  

my life and just something that actually happened  recently I'll go back through chat very quickly  

to make sure um nobody has any questions I'm  missing I want to be again very quick so hello  

nice to see everybody there pardon me if I don't  go through everybody's name but I really want to  

give you guys some good content today uh let's  see BM says how to improve speaking skills or  

listening skills uh you'll learn about that in  this video Ivan says hello again nice to see you  

watching from Morocco hi from Japan nice to see  everybody out there people from all over Louis  

says if you was speaking with other American I  think you would speak faster yes you could say  

if you were speaking yes so typically I would be  speaking faster with other English speakers this  

is the way I would speak uh and you'll find me  speaking this way in fluent for Life uh that's the  

program where I actually show you how to go from  understanding teachers to understanding native  

speakers uh can he read a live chat or is he just  teaching I'm doing both all right hello teacher  

uh the English pronunciation is similar but the  meaning is completely different for example weak  

and weak yes so we have uh words like this these  are called homonyms where you have the same sound  

uh but the word is different so they actually  quite a few interesting words like this where like  

the spelling is the same but the pronunciation  is different like read and red it just depends  

on the context U but if you'd like to learn more  about that and understand these and learn these  

differences uh you should get Frederick so click  on the link in the description below this video  

you will find a link for Frederick uh but very  quickly so the English as a as a second language  

way I wanted to explain this in a different way  today let's just call this um so es l so you're  

learning English through your native language I'm  going to put a grammar table up here just as an  

example so I'm not going to fill it in uh but I  want you to understand the different ways that  

non-natives are learning uh versus how a native  is learning so the kind of native environment I  

create in my own home this is an example of that  so again learning English as a second language  

means you begin with your native language and  try to think uh try to think and translate and  

learn that way so you're learning let's say I'm  uh in Brazil so I'm learning English through  

Portuguese and then I'm thinking in translating in  Portuguese when I speak so if you learn that way  

you will speak that way too so that's the English  as a second language the typical way people learn  

so what I do in my home I'm actually trying to  teach my kids English directly so I want them to  

understand English as a first language so in  both cases we still have a grammar table now  

what's interesting about this uh is in the case  of people learning uh like English as a second  

language you will get a grammar table like this  and it will have all the information filled out  

for you because people think that this is like the  better way to teach hey look here is a table with  

all the grammar rules so we have like a get gone  gotten and we go through all of these like eat8  

eight and we're going to go through all of these  examples uh and help you understand everything  

and hopefully you remember it on the test but  probably you will forget it and have trouble  

remembering and using these things confidently  in your conversations but this is basically what  

people are doing all right but I want to make  it clear that in both cases uh both non-natives  

and natives are still they're basically trying to  fill out this grammar table uh and I'm just giving  

the example of a grammar table but it's really  understanding the rules of the language and the  

patterns of the language but we do it differently  when you're learning the native way all right so  

the native way what I really want to help people  do is understand uh and eliminate the doubt they  

have about particular words and phrases so what  happens is when an English speaker like a native  

English speaker a native child learns something  they really learn one thing at a time so they get  

maybe one example of something I'll give you like  an actual example of this in a minute but I just  

want you to understand the difference here when  an English as a second language student begins  

a lesson with a grammar table they're actually  having all of this filled out but they're they  

don't really understand it very well they probably  don't remember it and they can't use it fluently  

but in contrast a child they're actually learning  things they get like maybe a few examples and  

as they get these examples they can start making  connections and understand oh like if we have this  

one one and this one then maybe I know what that  one is too and so this is where we get an example  

like a a child learns walk and they learn the past  tense of that is walked as an example but we're  

not we're not actually doing it I don't actually  teach my kids with a grammar table I'm just I'm  

I'm trying to make it clear what's going on in the  mind of a native speaker as they learn so that you  

can do the same thing uh for your learning by  yourself to become a more fluent speaker or if  

you're trying to make that environment in your  own home so in this example we have walk and  

then walk uh maybe have like talk over here and  so they learn the past tense is talked all right  

so they hear that just naturally so I'm talking  right now yesterday I talked about something so  

they hear oh that's interesting walk and then we  have the past tense over here which is walked all  

right but this is it's just a natural process  of understanding the situation and what word  

do we use in that situation so if we're right now  something is happening I am walking but yesterday  

I walked so without telling them they don't even  know like past and present and future we're not  

talking about any names of Grammer tenses it's  just understanding in this situation uh the this  

is the word that we use all right uh anime says  uh hopefully I pronounced that correct let me see  

uh uh me excuse me the L is silent yes you would  say talk talk you will hear you will hear some  

people say maybe like tall tall like a little bit  but it's usually just talk talk and Nils is back  

nice to see Nils from Wisconsin over there all  right so so they learn something like walk and  

then they hear something like oh walked that's  interesting and then they hear talk and then  

they hear oh talked that's interesting so they're  they're developing a sense of pattern recognition  

so they're thinking oh okay walk becomes walked  and talk becomes talked and so oh look at that  

we probably have an ed at the end of something  so if they were if they learn a word like play  

they learn oh play they might automatically think  I wonder I bet I guess probably the past tense  

of that would be played okay so what's happening  in uh a native's mind they're not actually going  

through all of the grammar tables kind of in order  like this they're learning kind of random pieces  

of it and starting to put these together as ah I I  start understanding it now I'm starting to get it  

now an interesting thing happens when they learn  an irregular thing or something that breaks the  

pattern so that's why you would hear a child make  a mistake like go so we say oh like I I go to the  

Park yesterday so this is the logical thing you  would expect from the language but we don't say  

go we say went and as they get more examples  of that they become used to that thing that's  

how they start filling out this grammar table  okay so it's it's really just an understanding  

of that where they start learning rules because  they get examples but it's not they don't start  

with everything filled out it's like a puzzle and  they get pieces of it but because they understand  

these pieces now they can start filling out more  of it just with their own pattern recognition all  

right so let me give you an even better example  of this I just wanted to do this with grammar uh  

because it's very simple but what I'm trying to do  in my house the core idea the thing I really want  

is to help them eliminate any doubt they have  about vocabulary okay so that's the main goal  

the main thing I'm trying to do when I teach so  remember a regular like a typical English lesson  

a teacher will give like a word uh let's say I  just I don't know I'm going to like I'll teach  

you the word stop uh in in whatever your native  language is and you would get a translation of  

that that's not really teaching you anything I'm  just giving you information and then you have to  

remember that but for me as a parent I really  want to be able to communicate with my kids so  

I have to make the language understandable I have  to eliminate any doubt that they have all right so  

kind of like this example I'm going to just talk  about something else recently that happened this  

story uh just in my in my daily life about how  I help learn help my kids learn English at home  

so right now my uh my older daughter Arya she's  8 years old and she's learning about volume uh  

like volume in in containers you know like this  so we have a container you know how much liquid  

or how much stuff can we fit in this and so in in  Japanese classes she's learning about the metric  

system so we actually it's different from how we  would do it in English so we say like you know  

feet and inches which is a real pain in the ass  uh but my daughter is not learning about feet and  

inches right now she's learning about meters and  centimeters okay so what happens is uh just like  

this grammar table over here she's developing  a sense for what's the correct thing and trying  

to understand what something means so we begin  with one meter so one meter this won't be like  

an actual meter a meter is you know like this long  or something uh but just so you get the idea that  

meter works in the same way that a grammar table  does uh it's really about uh recognizing these  

patterns and then how can we take those patterns  and apply them in other situations when else can  

we use the vocabulary all right so she learns at  1 meter uh and she's also learning uh like a liter  

so this is like a liter uh this is a 2 L bottle  so I'm going to make this uh shorter here you  

guys probably know these uh definitions already uh  but again this is new for a child so we begin with  

one uh liter I'll just put that as a uh a curvy L  right there and then one meter okay so she learns  

both of those examples she knows what a liter  of water is this is a 2 L bottle so a one lit  

would be half of this and then a meter she knows  what that is and then she starts learning like

one like one de leader and the same thing  here one de what DCI excuse me I can never  

write and and talk at the same time de leader  all right and then she learned 1 c l 1 ctim as

well so as she's learning these examples she can  start making connections oh that's interesting  

you can have one liter or one meter or you can  have one Dei which would be one tenth of that  

or one cent which means one 100 all right so  the same idea and so what's interesting about  

this is that I can take something like if we  have uh like I want to have like one mill one  

milliliter and so by by understanding this if  she understands these she can guess just like  

this grammar table over here that we if we have  1 milliliter over here we probably also have one  

Miller the same idea okay so the first idea here  is that that we're uh rather than trying to teach  

like all of these as a as as like like a row  and you have to remember remember the whole  

table she's learning pieces of these and you  could start with any one of these things we  

typically start with something like one liter  or one meter and then she's now learning oh  

these are pieces of that so a deciliter is  1/10th of that and a decimeter is 1/10th of  

a meter so you take 10 of those and get that  all right now here's what's interesting we  

don't stop here what I do as a as a teacher  at home and really trying to make sure that  

she understands what these things mean I I start  looking at these individual pieces and I think  

where else could we learn this or where else  could we use this so as an example we might

have a century a century is 100 years a  century is 100 years Century isn't that  

interesting we've got scent is one 100th we  got a 100th of something a century is 100

years where else might we hear that so  if we're looking uh looking at American  

money we've got dollars and cents dollars  and cents so we've got dollars uh and then  

we've got this is little symbol for scent  over here isn't that interesting so there  

are 100 cents there are 100 cents in a  dollar isn't that interesting 100 cents  

in a dollar and now we were reading there was  another book we were reading it was about a

centipede a centipede a centipede  what is a centipede a centipede  

I'll try to draw one for you here pretty easy to

draw a centipede so a centipede  looks like this little [Music]

like little bug like that a centipede with a lot  of legs so I asked my daughter look at that how  

many legs if this is called a centipede how many  legs do you think it has and she said oh 100 now  

an actual centipede probably has like 30 legs but  still the idea is like it's the same kind of thing  

oh that's interesting we're making a connection  you see I'm going from here to here to here the  

point is to give lots of different examples to  really help people understand the language okay  

now we take it even another step forward so we  got sent and then we've got this part over here  

what do you think this means I'll leave that for  the chat as I go back and check chat but hopefully  

if people are following me you should know the  answer to that even if you've never heard this  

word before you don't know what a centipede is  now you know this is a kind of bug with a lot of  

legs so what do you think that means I'll give  you guys a moment to figure that out let's see  

if you can do that all right see if anybody has  any questions over here all right right so nice  

to see everyone is all right other people look  at that we got people from Japan Brazil let's  

see BF said teacher what's your name do you know  about sense and reference what's your name Drew  

if you're talking about me uh do I know about  sense and reference I don't know what you're  

referring to what reference to what Bruno says  long time no z uh okay I think I answered that  

one already nice to see you there Hi I caught  up with you from smal nice to see you there can  

you recommend the best way to get better in VOC  vocabulary I'm satisfied with my level uh I can  

fairly communicate but the vocabulary thing I'm  stuck at B2 uh the problem is you probably don't  

know the vocabulary as well as you think you do  so many people I made a video about this talking  

about the three different levels of fluency so  the first is exposure where you just maybe hear  

some vocabulary you don't know it very well uh  the next level is awareness where you recognize  

information but then the highest level is fluency  and the way you get from knowing vocabulary to  

using it fluently uh is to eliminate any doubt you  have about that vocabulary so this is an example  

of how I'm trying to make these different pieces  of vocabulary uh basically more clear I want to  

eliminate any doubt that my children might have  about these different things okay so if you're  

trying to get from uh like one level to the next  next then that's how you would do it so it's not  

about learning more vocabulary uh you need to  know that vocabulary better you need to have no  

doubt at all about the vocabulary you want to say  leis says how many words uh you have to learn to  

achieve fluency is there a number what do you  think uh I it's the same answer I usually give  

which is one you you become fluent in individual  words and phrases as you learn them so if you  

don't know the vocabulary very well you could  know a lot of words but not be a good speaker  

so it doesn't matter how many words you know you  could know 10,000 words but how well do you know  

that vocabulary if you have any doubt any worry  any question about that vocabulary then you won't  

use it okay so this is why we become fluent  in individual words and phrases as we learn  

rather than in a like like it's not a process that  happens you don't become fluent after you learn  

a bunch of words you become fluent in individual  words and phrases as you come to understand them  

like I'm helping you do with scent over here  all right uh let's see Steve says assimilation  

and accommodation helps intelligence uh that's  true let's see you can buy a vocabulary book  

blue cover it's an excellent book to devel your  vocabulary uh yes uh I mean it says decade also  

yes another good example from Desi so a decade  becomes 10 now an interesting thing like the word

December it should be the 10th month it should  be the 10th month but it is not it is a 12th  

month uh but it used to be all right if you if  you change your counting around deck should be  

the 10th month isn't that interesting just like  October so OCT we've got the eighth month all  

right October October all right let's see here if  if anybody else got the answer to this all right  

uh about amount of vocab is not relevant it's  about flow as you still have some unknown words  

in your language amount of vocabulary doesn't  count as much as other components yes that's  

correct all right we have true even though I saw  a picture that says when you learn 2000 you're  

fluent uh yeah that's incorrect I I would just  it's it's easy to check any of this information  

anytime you hear something about learning just  Tes for yourself can you have someone who knows  

2,000 words but not speak yes there are a lot  of people like that a lot of them yes so PID  

meaning feet so a centipede is like it's like a  100 foot even though it probably only has about  

30 legs but isn't that interesting okay and so  we can think of something else like a pedal on a  

bicycle so ped the same idea p e d ped all right  so you see what I'm doing is I'm helping make  

connections and then Arya and Noel my daughters  they can fill in they can kind of naturally do  

this they're just kind of conscious well more like  subconsciously doing it they do it automatically  

they're filling in this grammar table that gives  them the sense for communicating correctly so if  

you want to make your own home or even your own  learning more like this you should go deeper into  

the vocabulary to make sure you really understand  it you don't need to get 50 examples of something  

but just enough till you understand something  where you can make that connection in your mind  

you understand the pattern and you can also take  it and apply it excuse me somewhere else so just  

like this I've taken scent like Cent meter  or centiliter so these are just examples of  

prefixes and suffixes but this works with any  anything okay so I could take as an example I  

was having a conversation earlier today with  a fluent for life member uh and she was uh I  

was just giving her some examples about this uh  as an example from baseball so when you hit the  

ball out of the park that's called a home run a  home run so a home run becomes uh anything that is  

like a great job you did something amazing and so  it's not just for baseball we can talk talk about  

writing a report so you did a great job on your  report you hit a home run or wow you found like  

a really good boyfriend or girlfriend you really  hit a home run with that person okay so you did  

something great the point is you understand the  situation directly as a native speaker rather than  

through your native language okay so this is what  it means to learn a language as a first language  

and if you want to understand better yourself uh  but also if you're trying to teach your own kids  

like you know you know you live wherever and you  want to make your own home a more of a an English  

speaking environment you must eliminate the doubt  people have you don't sit there and give them a  

grammar table to memorize you help people make  connections like this so just like this I want  

my my children to be thinking like this so my  daughter she knows ah scent when she hears that  

she can probably guess I bet that means 100  okay so it's related to that in some way so  

we have 100 cent in a dollar or 100 years that  kind of thing all right so hopefully this makes  

sense let me go back and look through chat uh if  people have any questions about this or anything  

else let me know yes pedestrian that's another  word so somebody walking on foot a pedestrian  

a pedestrian uh centipede yes I think did I  spell that correctly of course I spelled that

incorrectly uh can you teach us how how  to pronounce Ed verbs in linking words  

like I worked at ah uh we do this  in fluent for life that's already  

done and I if you search my YouTube  channel you should probably find uh  

more pronunciation especially Frederick as  well let me put that up here make sure that

fits so Frederick this is our pronunciation app  that will let you hear lots of things like Ed  

words okay so it actually gives you lots of  examp ex to hear the difference for uh when  

you would pronounce them differently okay so  if you want to do that that's it's all done  

for you in the app uh let's see Rose Volo says  great job Professor is my pleasure all right  

let's see practice journaling yes you could  do that but again like uh I want to make this  

as simple as possible like you don't need to do  journaling uh in order to understand individual  

words what you're really trying to do is know  when do we use something and when else might  

we use that thing and those connections are  what make it very uh strong in your mind so  

you don't forget it all blue sky what is the  difference between on the train and by the

train the difference between on the train and  by the train you should watch the video I made  

uh talking about this specific idea but I'll just  cover it very quickly again here's our train if  

I'm on the train there are two things I could be  doing I could be sitting up here on the top of  

it or I could be riding on the train if I'm by  the train I'm around this particular area so I  

could be here I'm by the train by the train over  here I'm not by the train I'm a little bit further  

away okay so this is buy like within this bu on on  so if I uh if I'm talking with a friend of mine I  

say oh I'm by the train so depending on how long  the train is it means I'm around the train in some  

way I could be here here here here anywhere  around this all right this particular area so  

I could be close by the train I could be nearby  I could be around the train so usually you will  

meet somebody and you're on the phone you need  to you need to find the specific location I say  

oh I'm on the train and they go on the train and  they're looking and I say no no I'm on the train  

I'm sitting on top of the train all right so I  need to be more clear I'm on top of the train  

I'm on top of the train okay hopefully that makes  sense all right uh let's see C says a scent which  

is mean full with smells that really to scent also  uh no not that I know of but that's interesting  

like it could be like a way to remember that so  sometimes uh it's not exactly also you have like  

the center but uh they it's not always the case  that a word will be like have an exact meaning  

even even a word like uh like in we could be  talking about different things typically it's  

inside a particular space but I might also be  like in the middle of a conversation all right  

so it's kind of inside something but not like  physically inside of it so you will have words  

where the meaning is a little bit different and  this is why it's important to get lots of uh lots  

of examples lots of naturally varied review so you  want different examples different times different  

places where you can really understand something  very well so I know it seems like you're spending  

more time on individual words and that's true at  the beginning but if you learn this way it saves  

you way more time down the road so over time you  become fluent much faster because you're getting  

fluent you really understand you're eliminating  the doubt that you have for individual words  

and phrases so this is pronunciation grammar  anything all right so now you know oh look at  

that a centipede and I guess you could probably  you can probably tell a milipede oh my goodness  

a millipede is also a thing too so if we have  a millimeter and a milliliter and a milipede  

wow a centipede has 100 legs I bet a millipede  must have have 1,000 legs wow I think actually  

some some millipedes might have over 1,000 legs  so a millipede and a centipede different things  

millipede is kind of like a it's a little bit  bigger of like a thing like this almost looks  

like a long kind of hot dog looking thing with all  these legs on it like that a millipede just look  

up a picture of one a millipede but it's the same  idea uh and again we really want want to help you  

understand something so you feel confident about  using it all right so it's not just for prefixes  

uh or suffixes or or or word pieces like this I'm  just using this as an example to make connections  

with things because if I just say like to a child  a sentim meter doesn't really mean anything but  

as soon as they recognize oh scent like it's  100 of something I got it and now we have 100  

pieces of of a distance or 100 of a of like a a  volume of of liquid or something like that so a  

milliliter or a millimeter all right uh let's  see so Bruno has a let's see Centurion which  

is an officer in the Army is responsible for 100  soldiers y very good a centurion B says oh okay  

I'm St I study translation literature and deeper  English uh phones phenology morphology syntax any  

sense references in phology anyway I thought you  may know about it ah well if you're if you're if  

you're talking about fluency which is the the  subject of this video uh I didn't know what  

that specifically was referring to but all right  let's see uh let's see limus from Cuba all right  

I have watched a few videos from you to improve  my English fluency know a bit about your life  

just out of curiosity are you living in Japan now  and is your wife a Japanese yes I do live in Japan  

looks like uh Nishi that's an interesting name is  that your name uh yes my wife is Japanese and I  

live in Nagasaki Japan all right B in on yeah  all right and look at that xdl got the iPhone  

15 I know you were thinking about that let's see  Zoser says he requests for Urgent management of  

asthma is that a correct sentence uh I guess  technically yes if you're talking about you  

need to get a problem like asthma under control  he requests for Urgent management of asthma but  

that would be this specific wording the way you  have the sentence here this would be like if  

somebody said uh like the doctor requests that I'm  talking about the doctor rather than like he said  

I should I need to get my asthma under control or  something so that would be a more casual way uh  

of expressing that so A more like the way like  a non-native doctor would say is like you need  

urgent management of your asba but a a casual  conversational ways you need to get your asthma  

under control get your asthma under control uh  and I mean it says getting different examples from  

different points of view yes that's correct so the  point is we need to get more information to help  

us really understand something and the goal is  just to eliminate any doubt you have about using  

vocabulary or grammar pronunciation anything else  so if you have doubt it means you're not feeling  

confident you need to replace that doubt with  confidence by getting more examples what whatever  

you need to help you understand that but that's  what triggers the fluent communication switch in  

your brain and allows you to speak uh let's see  I don't know what management of asthma change

requ and Nur says uh you really made me understand  the usefulness of es efl and also you highlighted  

to me the difference between both methods  uh watching you all the way from Somalia  

nice to see you thanks for joining us yes uh it  it really is a simple idea but many people have  

been learning the traditional way for so many  years it's hard when I when I try to teach them  

something different but uh I think it's easier  for many people uh if you if you have trouble  

speaking it's not you it's just think about the  the way that you're learning is that helping you  

learn and get fluent and become a better speaker  or is it not and for most people it's not because  

our brains don't really enjoy learning and improve  very well with the traditional way you certainly  

can but most people do not and it's much better  to just try to eliminate the doubt as quickly as  

possible you don't need a thousand examples but  you really need just as enough examples it could  

be two or three or five or something like I gave  in the uh earlier in this video I'm talking about  

uh teaching my friend's daughter a like a word  in in an alien language like ca and I'm touching  

these different things if I only touch a bowl full  of rice and I say ca it's really not clear what  

I'm talking about if I don't explain that or give  you any other information if you only hear CA and  

I'm touching a bowl of rice then you you might  guess I'm talking about rice but maybe I'd mean  

the color or I mean the shape or I'm counting all  of the little grains of rice I could be meaning  

lots of different things so that's why we need  to get more examples and it's better to do this  

rather than just get a definition or a translation  of something because we want to really understand  

we want to give ourselves give our brains that  moment of understanding like solving a puzzle  

because that's what actually allows you to speak  when you think ah I got it I understand what that  

means now ah that aha moment you get that's when  you start speaking okay all right let's see if we  

have any more questions oh it looks like we don't  wow look at that 39 minutes this may be a record  

uh a record speed lesson here so we got through  this as I didn't think it would be a long lesson  

but I'm happy uh that people if they understanding  exactly what's Happening Here the basic idea is  

that if you want to make your own learning for you  personally or if you're trying to help your own  

children or you just want to make that environment  in your in your own house the goal is not to like  

put English you know stickers on everything or  whatever it's just to eliminate whatever doubt you  

have about about vocabulary and as you understand  things more like a native you will speak more like  

a native so it's a very natural process I live in  Japan and I am really the only native influence  

on my children for them learning other than maybe  them watching TV shows or something and they will  

learn a lot uh from TV shows but they're they're  learning it directly in English and what they're  

doing is they're correcting or connecting  excuse me they're connecting the vocabulary  

with situations okay so they learn like my younger  daughter I was I was doing something in Noel said  

to me don't panic and I was like oh I'm okay I'm  not panicking over here like I was I was I was  

looking for something I said oh I'm I'm looking  for I don't know a shirt and she said don't panic  

I thought that was very funny and again like  she she saw that in in a situation in a TV show  

so it was a similar situation and then she was  applying that to me so I'm looking for a shirt  

uh I wasn't like panicking or whatever but she  you know she was kind of using that as a joke and  

I thought that was very funny but she used that  correctly because she understood it like a native

okay all right let's see here see if we got  any final questions over here uh Eric says hi  

Drew how can you help someone to get Fredrick  and fluent for life at a very low cost uh well  

they're already like very cheap for what they are  like for for fluent for life especially uh if it's  

if you're looking for guaranteed fluency I don't  know what else like what what would you what is  

what is guaranteed fluency Worth to your life if  you think about like imagine a whole lifetime of  

being able to speak fluently what is that worth to  you and most people think wow that's like really  

cheap uh and the same thing with Frederick as  well uh hello from Seattle Washington nice to  

see you there Hannah BF says I I have to leave but  I want to say I love your passion when you explain  

something it is inspiring keep up the good work  all right fantastic all right RX says Hi everyone  

I'm from China nice to meet you all nice to see  you there Brett nice to see you here how can we  

practice speaking specifically assuming we are  not living in an english- speaking country and  

also assume we know the basics of the language uh  again as I usually recommend um the the speaking  

practice is it's like a very small portion of the  actual learning I would spend more time getting  

more examples until you feel that you really  understand something well and then when you  

have the opportunity to speak the vocabulary will  come out so you could uh like writing would be a  

better way to practice your speaking the output of  that I mean you can physically speak but if you're  

talking about just speaking by yourself uh it's  not really very necessary unless you just want to  

hear yourself but the the important thing is to  understand the vocabulary very well if you don't  

understand or if you have doubts about anything  that's what's going to stop you from speaking so  

it's not about having a speaking partner you  just need to understand that vocabulary very  

well okay so I would spend more time getting more  examples eliminating uh any doubt that you have  

about particular words or phrases uh but it's  easy certainly to find lots of native speakers  

online if you want to speak with someone but  the majority of your improvement will come from  

just understanding the language better even in a  conversation you will learn more just by listening  

to other people and getting examples from other  people it's it's not not really what you say it's  

just getting examp from them and that means we  can actually improve a lot with just watching  

videos or watching other people speak that's why  people can watch these videos right here uh even  

though you're not speaking anything to me you're  still improving because you're understanding the  

language better uh Louis says how to learn grammar  and apply it uh you need to understand connect  

Grammar with situations so like understanding  something in the past or something happening  

in the future but not trying to think about the  rules it's just oh look like if it's if I'm doing  

it right now if it's happening right now we put  that ing on there so this is the same way as I  

was explaining before about how young children  understand grammar rules so they're not really  

trying to get a grammar table and fill in all the  examples in a in a conscious way they're getting  

pieces of these things and as they get more pieces  they can start making a connection so let me let  

me give you like one kind of simple example about  this uh let's say they learn like they learn the  

word go uh and then they learn the word walk now  if they also hear going and they understand this  

their brain makes that connection naturally huh I  bet this would be walk Walking I bet and so their  

brain again it's like a Target where we have  uh the brain is trying to understand what the  

rules of the language are but as a native speaker  not like a not like someone just telling you what  

the rules are we want to discover that that's how  you learn to speak so you learn to discover these  

rules by yourself so you learn something like walk  and then maybe you are like 90% 90% sure that if  

you have go and going then we probably have walk  and walking as well and then when you hear that's  

correct ding Bullseye we got that correct yes I  understand I understand that correctly and now I  

can apply that with confidence okay so the point  is not to take a grammar table and try to memorize  

all the examples and different ways we would  say it try to get one thing that you understand  

correctly going okay that's interesting how can  I apply that to something else I bet there are  

other verbs that also have the same thing applied  to them now there might be some exceptions I will  

learn those as I go but in general this is what  we're trying to do so we fill in these as we get  

these pieces okay you're not trying to take a  whole completed thing and memorize it you want  

to get these different pieces of grammar and  put them together naturally okay so you might  

get this piece and then this piece over here and  then oh look at that I bet this piece right here  

is this and you're not thinking about it uh like  consciously I mean you might as a learner think  

about this but children aren't aren't really  thinking about it like that they're not trying  

to think about a grammar table and plug this  in but when they're asked uh how do you know  

what word to use they just develop a sense  for what's correct and that's how they do it  

okay so remember the English as a second language  approach is to try to give you all of the answers  

that you memorize but that's not how we learn the  brain doesn't want to do that the brain wants to  

solve puzzles and the Brain likes when oh look at  that I get some information and I figured out the  

puzzle I solved the problem I got go going walk  walking so I bet if we have talk over here oh I  

bet that's talking and they become more confident  as they get more examples that really help them  

feel that they understand something well as they  feel certain they speak okay so I know people want  

to improve like speaking a lot but I promise you  the more confident you feel because you know the  

language well if you really know the language well  the speaking is the easy part okay and and even  

finding people to talk with online is easy as well  especially if you're a fluent for life member we  

give you lots of ways to do that okay but the more  important thing like I could go if I go to I don't  

know like a different country I go to Korea uh I  might meet lots of people I could just walk around  

on the street and try to talk with people but if I  don't feel confident about my Korean I'm not going  

to speak with people very well okay so understand  the language better get more examples you can do  

all this by yourself anywhere you live you don't  need to be talking with anybody it's very easy to  

do this uh let's see brid says hrew uh do you know  how to quiet the chattering in the chattering mind  

in order to absorb the learning ah uh well this is  a bit more of a psychology issue but the the thing  

that really quiets the mind is focus when you are  interested in something so if I give you a puzzle  

and I say okay try to solve this then the Mind  becomes quiet automatically because it's really  

just focusing on that particular issue okay but if  I if I give you like a bunch of grammar tables and  

I say okay I want you to memorize these things  then the mind immediately gets like very noisy  

like a child in a classroom but you notice like a  child in a classroom when the child is listening  

to a good story the child is quiet and focused  on that particular thing so the brain works the  

same way if you if you you give the brain what it  wants and what your brain wants is the ability to  

solve puzzles and little challenges that's why  people like playing games they like to get some  

information and then solve that last piece where  ah I figured it out I understand how something  

works and that's how you become native uh Zasha  says sorry to bother you again he requires urgent  

management of asthma I'm studying at the O exam  trying to write a referral letter yes do not  

like you should go talk to an actual teacher or  like a a medical doctor about this because this  

is different from just a a grammar question and  I don't know what you need specifically for your  

test or whatever Alexander says thank you drew  for the thought of eliminating doubt it's useful  

indeed yes uh if you have doubt you will not speak  it's really that simple so even if you have people  

around you to speak with if you feel shy it means  you have some kind of doubt about your language so  

you must eliminate the doubt and then the speaking  will will follow naturally automatically uh that's  

when you start learning subconsciously deep  learning right yes I mean the the Learning  

Happens automatically when you're learning this  way the point is not to tell yourself the answer  

it's to discover the answer all right I know it  seems like a slight difference but a teacher's  

job is really to guide you to the correct answer  to make it easy to do that so I don't tell my kids  

look sent means 100 I just say oh like that's  interesting like what does scent mean and if  

they if they ask like look at that a ceter and  a sent a leader so what do you think this means  

so I'm asking leading questions that lead to the  answer like I know what they're going for but when  

they discover it themselves they feel a lot more  excited about that uh let's see asra says I feel  

tired and down so often these days vocabulary  is really an issue for me uh it's killing me  

for real well what what exactly is the issue with  the vocabulary it sounds like I'm guessing you're  

probably trying to learn a bunch of vocabulary but  you don't know what it means uh and that's that  

would be that would be a frustrating thing Dan  says hello best teacher in the world well you're  

too kind Mr Mo says do you think reading stories  could improve the communication skill yes anything  

that eliminates doubt So reading stories watching  videos lots of different things like that grammar  

table is very useful in China we recite the table  and do many exercises yes that is a typical way  

many people learn but it's much faster if you do  it my way so there it's like it's like I could I  

could swim from here to America it's possible but  uh I'd much rather take an airplane cuz it's going  

to get me there air faster and I will stay dry  and not get eaten by sharks that kind of thing  

BR again so how can how I can remember any words  or Expressions I'm studying and I'm getting lots  

of examples until I deeply understand them  because I realize when I don't use them I  

lose them eventually yeah there will be some like  even me I will if I don't use some English I will  

forget it I mean that's just you know there there  are some things like that uh but typically uh if  

you feel more confident about vocabulary you will  remember it and you will feel more uh feel more  

confident about that vocabulary as you're getting  uh more varied examples and so it's really about  

like understanding something you you feel that  moment when you understand it well enough to use  

it it's it's you can actually feel that process so  when you understand something you get that aha I  

got it when you feel that that's when you know you  understood something all right so you like you you  

don't need to take I don't want you to think about  like uh like lessons it's more about just take a  

word or a phrase and just focus on that so if you  understand it and you feel confident about using  

it move on to the next thing you don't need to sit  and repeat uh phrases over and over again to help  

you understand them I'll give you an example uh so  someone mentioned like the Chinese example about  

like uh memorizing grammar tables and stuff like  that uh I don't I I I can only speak about Japan  

as an example I can't really talk about China uh  but memorizing grammar tables a lot of people do  

that here too and they still can't speak so  memorizing grammar tables is not the way but  

uh but Brett's specific question about like how  to review something uh remember the the number  

one thing is to focus so you pick a word or phrase  I'm going to give you an example from me learning  

Japanese all right uh let's say I want to learn uh  a word I'll give you I'll give you an example I'm  

going to write the the the kanji so the Japanese  character I'll just put this up here for you uh  

like that okay so this is not very neat but this  is the uh the character for snake uh and again  

I'm not like my conu writing is like as bad as my  English writing all right so I can look at this  

and there are two ways I can learn this I can take  this and I can try to repeat it over and over and  

over and over again and maybe I would remember  it Maybe not maybe I would but I could I could  

I could that's the traditional way of learning it  uh but instead I'd rather try to just remember it  

quickly maybe review it once or twice to really  understand that uh but I want to take something  

like this and think like oh like what's a fast  way to learn this so what we have here these are  

actually three different parts of this character  and I'd rather tell a story uh to myself just to  

help me remember it um and I want to make a story  so this part over here this actually means bug or  

insect uh this part up here it's kind of like a  house and this part over here it's not a very like  

uh clear looking character but this is like it's  kind of like a person like like slumped over so  

what I do to remember this is I'm going to think  of a story uh yes so this is a kanji but uh many  

Chinese people can read this as well well and it  goes like both ways so more of the the kanji that  

I know I I know a lot of kanji I can't actually  read it but I know what it means all right so as  

an example we've got bug I'm just going to give  you a translation just CU it's faster over here  

so we've got house over here uh and then we've got  kind of this is it could be a spoon or like a body  

that's kind of slumped over so I tell myself a  story where if I think a bug bite if I think a  

bug bite is bad and a snake biked wow that's going  to leave me in my house slumped over like this so  

this is my way it's uh this is just a demonic but  it's a way of triggering that uh understanding in  

my brain where it becomes Unforgettable for me  okay so I don't take this and try to like again  

it is possible to force information into your  brain through repetition but you don't really  

feel Mastery over that thing you don't really own  it until you get that eye moment like ah now I got  

it now this Kani is Unforgettable okay so this  is like me just thinking of a personal way to  

remember this kanji uh and I can use an nemonic  like this because when you write you have time to  

think but when you're trying to speak the point  is you need to get lots of examples so you feel  

very confident that you understand something  well okay you need to eliminate the doubt so  

if I write this if I try just like writing it  over and over again I'm going to write it write  

it write it I might write it incorrectly maybe  I write it it's like uh oh no wait a minute does  

it have two of these boxes or one or something I  don't remember but this way like I remember how to  

write it I can write it quickly I can explain it  I have confidence about this character but notice  

there are lots of other Kani I don't know okay  so I've become fluent in individual characters  

as I learn them and if I understand them well  then I can use them I can write them I can read  

them I can understand them okay so I don't I I  want to make it clear like you become fluent in  

individual words and phrases rather than the whole  language so I don't try to learn like a whole  

bunch of kanji try to remember them and like let  me write these I want to focus on something learn  

it quickly but understand it well and then move  on to the next one and that's how I'm learning  

them so this process it will take me I don't know  maybe like a few months or something like that  

but I will know the Kani that most people it takes  them many years to learn okay so it's not because  

I'm smarter it's just I'm trying to learn it so I  really understand this and then I move on to the  

next thing so I know this piece very well I know  this piece very well I know this piece very well  

and I know the story that connects them all okay  I'm giving you a Japanese example but this is the  

same for any language the point is eliminate the  doubt okay I'm going to say that like like over  

and over and over again whatever triggers that you  need to eliminate the doubt and that's when you  

speak okay so whatever your word is focus on it  get more examples you may have a situation where  

you forget something but I don't I don't I don't  worry about that personally uh like I might forget  

a word it might even be like a funny thing in a  conversation where like I I can't remember I don't  

know some word but it's it's never an issue that  stops me from communicating because I can always  

switch to something else there's always another  way to express something in a conversation all  

right uh people who have uh speak like me the  native fluency blueprint fluent for life will  

know about uh this this idea of moving like water  where you don't you don't get stuck on one word  

you just move to something else very easily  okay so that that's why when you're learning  

vocabulary this is just is one example of that uh  but when you're learning English vocabulary uh if  

you learn it like a native you understand that  a situation actually has many different ways of  

expressing you know what whatever that thing is  you want so you could have uh like some someone  

gets hurt they could say ouch damn [ __ ] you  know something like that lots of different words  

they could use to express like the pain of that  situation okay so if you're in a conversation  

and you can't remember a specific word that's  fine either make a joke about it or move on  

to something else it's usually very easy to do  that you can express something uh rather than  

expressing it one way we express it in a different  way all right so don't worry about trying to like  

Master every every word and remember everything  perfectly your brain doesn't work like that but  

it it will remember most things especially if you  use them frequently but even if you don't then you  

can just use something else okay all right uh  let's see C says have you ever made uh content  

about common topics and conversations because I  think it also related to keep conversation yes  

uh this is what fluent for life is if you click  on the link in the description about it you will  

learn all about that we have created all these  lessons already that take you through this process  

of helping you understand giving you fluency  triggers that really make the language memorable  

and you can learn whatever you like for whatever  you need for your life all right duh says uh you  

help me nail my English proficiency proficiency  exam you are the real deal thank you very much  

glad to hear it if you know other people who I  can help send them my way uh let's see uh yeah  

I don't I don't really like spaced repetition  isn't really going to help you uh unless you  

already know the information really well so it's  better to get varied review that's why I recommend  

something uh like this so I could I could get  spaced repetition and continue to review it  

over and over and over and maybe I would remember  it but it's much easier to remember it this way  

so I can learn this I can take like one or two  minutes create a story for this and then now I  

have it forever I don't need to write it over and  over and over I could write it any time I like now  

all right without the spaced repetition all right  uh repetition as well as the best way to learn as  

well as is best way to learn a foreign language  yeah I don't really recommend people just repeat  

stuff because it doesn't help you understand the  language better remember you have to eliminate the  

doubt there's there's something blocking you there  whatever that is where you don't really remember  

it yet but when you eliminate that doubt ah now  you've got it okay that's what we're looking for  

spaced repetition isn't giving you new information  to help you understand something better it's just  

trying to delay okay I remember this and maybe I  remember it later but probably you will forget it  

uh let's see I've never heard you talking about uh  chat GPT I mention it occasionally but uh when I'm  

using it like I find it it makes errors so I'm  I'm less less like reliant on it as a teacher  

I can use it because I know how to correct things  about chat gbt but as a learner I would be less uh  

less certain about that uh let's see I know your  teaching method is interesting glad to hear it  

uh this approach works well when learning other  languages yes it works for every language every  

part is a story very good yes uh like when you  don't know a specific word you can call it the  

Whatchamacallit yes people do that natives do  that all the time what's the word what's the  

word I'm thinking of ah it's on the tip of my  tongue it's on the tip of my tongue I can't I  

can't remember it it's natives forget words all  the time and that's why uh but it doesn't seem  

like that because they just switch to something  else they're moving like water they don't get  

stuck on a rock they just move around it they pick  something else all right let's see Brett's got it  

let's see XD back again a minority in Kenna I I  can tell we have no writing words but we fluent  

in talking and speaking our own languages like  for sure now I wonder if I can do this like what  

I did when I was five or six I don't know what  exactly you're referring to I know you should be  

studying your college courses though not playing  around with your new iPhone 15 all right you be  

good over there all right uh I think that is it  for today but remember the basic idea if you're  

doing this in your own home you want to eliminate  doubt all right if you feel and and do this word  

by word if there's something you want to say but  you're nervous about saying it think about why why  

am I nervous about that is it the pronunciation  am I worried about a usage or something it just  

means you don't really understand something well  you need to understand it well enough that you  

feel that moment ah that moment of understanding  the aha moment okay and that's word by word all  

right so as you as you understand something when  I when I thought of the story for this cuz I'm  

thinking like how am I going to make up a story  with these like random characters like what does  

a story like you could you could think of many  other ways to tell this like a story about these  

characters like there's a like a snake eats a eats  a a bug or like you know and then the snake goes  

into the house or but that's it's it's for me it  doesn't help me all right I can I'll probably like  

make another video about how to remember stuff  better um like using these kind of but uh in  

general you want to eliminate the doubt that's it  it's really that simple okay hopefully this makes  

sense if you'd like to learn more you can get  fluent for life or Frederick click on the link in  

the description below this video for both of those  and I will see you uh look at that kind of trying  

to find a part-time job okay that's a good idea  then forget forget your classes and and get get  

some work instead all right have a fantastic day  out there and I'll see you all next video byebye