Don't Worry, Be Happy - English Addict - Episode 261 / Sun 27th Aug 2023

Let there be light.

and there was light.

I'm in charge.

I'm in charge of the light.

Don't panic!

Oh, my goodness.

Oh, dear.

Oh, dear me.

Oh, dear.

That's nice.

Oh, thank you.

Thank you. Thank you so much. Isn't that lovely?

Hi, everybody.

Yes, we are back.

But why are you so shy?

Why are you over there?

Come on, come closer.

Don't be afraid.

We don't bite much.

Hi, everybody.

Yes, we are back.

Did you miss this?

We've been away from here.

We haven't done a live stream for three weeks.

It might be the longest time that we've been away from you without doing anything live.

I can't actually believe it. But we are back.

And there he is as well.

Mr. Steve.

Hello, everyone.

Yes, we are back.

Last week was a disaster.

It was. We had a few problems.

The Internet.

There is a problem with the Internet here.

We've been trying to sort it out.

It might even go wrong today.

We won't. Mrs. Duncan, Don't say that. It's fine.

We have somebody round. We had an engineer round on Monday.

They fixed it.

It's been okay this week, so we will keep an eye on it.

But hopefully you will stay with us for the full hour.

And there will be no hitches whatsoever.

No hitches.

Hitch. Hitch.

It is a problem of hitching up by there, Steve.

Yes, it moved quickly.

Hitch A hitch is a problem.

Maybe there is a problem.

Or if you attach one thing to another, you attach two things together.

So maybe if a couple of people who are really, really full

fish and slightly insane decide

that they want to spend the rest of their lives together, they might get hitched.

You see?

But who would do that?

Who would decide to do that?

I think only crazy people would get married.

When you think about it.

What do you think, Steve?

Well, I mean, I suppose if you've been with somebody for a long, long

period of time, many, many years, maybe 34 years, it's just a random figure.

I'm picking out of the air, Mr. Duncan.

Then you might decide to formalise that arrangement.

For legal purposes,

I have no idea.

Nothing whatsoever to do with love or anything like that.

Yes. Quite often people get married for various reasons.

I would say that people get married most of all

because they want to have some sort of partnership and they want to make it secure.

I would say so.

Maybe in some cases people get married because they want to spend

the rest of their lives with their loved one.

By the way, it looks like it's Palmeiras birthday today.

Is it really?

Well, Palmira says she's one year old today

that normally signifies a birthday.

Yes, you have made it.

You have made it once more around the sun.

I think so.

Beatrice is congratulating Palmira, and so is Maria.

So lots of other people.

So let's take it is indeed your birthday to get today.

So happy birthday.

Happy birthday, Palmira.

I hope you have a super duper birthday.

It was my birthday a few days ago.

Did you see the video message that we broadcast?

We didn't do it live, unfortunately, because the place we went away to

to celebrate my birthday was in the middle of nowhere.

We are going to take a look at that in a few moments.

We have lots of things to talk about.

We are talking about worry now.

If there is one person that I know

in this life who worries a lot, it has to be Mr.

Steve. I would say between the two of us,

between the two of us.

Steve worries more than I do.

However, I do have my mobile.

I'm just about to get to that.

Steve I have my moments, of course, where I worry,

but Steve constantly worries where is

I will worry sometimes, but when I do,

I normally get myself into quite a state.

So talking about worry, are we Mr.

Duncan Worry, worry. I don't worry.

I mean, if you looked at my nails,

they would tell you, Oh dear, they're bitten down to the quick. Yes.

So Steve bites his nails. I don't.

That is one way you've just told me. You do.

How strange.

My phone isn't working today.

There is always something that goes wrong.

I don't know what is happening, but I'm trying to read the live chat and it keeps shutting down.

I will have to tell you all about the live chat.

It's good.

It's working.

I have control.

Yes, if you wish.

This is the live chat that you can join in on right now.

Yes, we all live for those wondering.

We are now live as live can be.

And the reason why we do this is because we love the English language.

I like English, Mr.

Steve, like speaking English.

And I have a feeling that you like doing that as well.

So that's the reason why we are here today.

We did something very adventurous

whilst we were away.

We did a few adventurous things.

In fact, one of them, of course, was tying the knot.

The other one was something that we haven't done

for nearly four years.

Would you like to see what we were doing?

Well, I'm going to show you anyway.

Yes, we decided to do something

very exciting and adventurous and this is what we did

and how clear the sound is going to be out here.

But we are now cycling around Lake Verde.

I'm on a bicycle and to be honest,

I haven't been on a bicycle for quite a while.

In fact, maybe four years since I rode a bike

first.

I have to say I'm doing quite well.

Mr. Steve is just behind me riding his bike.

I think he's okay.

Both of us, of man is not to fall off yet.

So we're okay.

We are enjoying ourselves.

Oh, cool. Mr.

Steve. Mr.

Steve's fallen off his bike.

That's not very nice.

Did you fall off your bike?

Not really.

I didn't really fall off.

It sounded like you did to me.

Very careless.

Well, that was a bit of fun, wasn't it, Mr. Duncan?

Going on the bike, cycling around the lake? Yes.

It was interesting.

I did get halfway around the lake, and I did think that maybe I wasn't

going to be able to make it all the way because my legs suddenly

decided to to hurt quite a lot.

But we made it and here we are right now to tell the tale, I suppose.

Who was first on today's live chat, by the way?

We had someone new as the first person on the live chat.

Demetrius Hello, Demetrius

I don't know if you've ever been first on the live chat before, but guess what?

Today you were so congratulations.

Demetrius was first today.

Who else is on today, Steve Lots of people, Mr. Duncan.

Lots of people.

Let's have a look. We've got Palmira, we've got Ebru.

We got Vitus Vitesse.

Nice to see you here.

You were second today.

Ten who

says hi?

And also ten said earlier on, not so long ago

that they are going to buy or have been going out to buy some damson jam.

Okay.

Which is interesting because I make Damson jam.

So if you were here, I could give you some because I've still got some of that from last year.

I made 36 pots of Damson jam last year and we've still got some left.

In fact, the diamonds on our tree are nearly ready

to be picked and it won't be long.

It's always around September time that I make the damson jam, so I will be making some more.

And there is a video of us making that or me making it.

So maybe you're going to have a look at that, sir.

But yes, what a shame. I could have sent you some.

Good, but never mind.

Yes, we've got lots of people on today.

We also. Harris is here. Hello.

Can I say hello to Louis?

Mendez is here today.

Did you miss us?

Because we haven't been with you live for three weeks.

We've had so many things going on in our lives.

And you know what life is like Sometimes life is full of new things,

new things to think about and also new things to worry about.

And that is what we are talking about today, worrying.

Are you a person who worries a lot about things?

Are you a person who often thinks about things too much?

Talking of pipes, we are also talking about cycling if we have time.

Do you like cycling and is cycling popular where you are?

Because a lot of people in this country are taking up cycling.

Well, we know somebody that loves cycling, but they're not on at the moment.

That's Christine.

Okay. Christine, I love cycling.

She cycles all over the world.

Well, certainly in Italy. Yes.

So hopefully we will we will see. We will see Christine.

And she can tell us all about her latest adventures.

I think she's on holiday at the moment, but maybe she's taken her bike with her

and she will be out and about and sending us pictures.

So we are talking about later on, we are talking all about that particular subject.

However, at the moment we are looking at today's subject.

It is a short live stream.

We are looking at worry.

People worry quite often.

Mr. Steve, There are many things in the world that people worry about, maybe something

that is on your mind, something that you are concerned about,

might make you worried.

So when we talk about worry, we can express it as a noun or a verb.

The feeling of deep concern.

Mr. Steve You have deep concern about something.

Or of course you can make a person worried,

you can cause concern, or maybe something will

cause you concern or worry.

So I think it is fair to say that most people worry

at some point about something, especially during certain parts of your life.

So maybe there is something coming up that you are a little worried about.

So the feeling of deep concern

or of course you can cause concern

to have worry or to feel worry

or to be worried or to worry.

Another person, you are making them feel worried

by the things you are saying.

I didn't mean to cause you any worry.

I constantly worry about the future.

So you can see that we are using those in different ways.

First of all, as a noun and secondly as a verb.

So you can have worry or you can worry as a verb.

So there are different ways of expressing that

a certain thing can be a worry,

a perceived problem.

So when we talk about a perceived problem, it can be anything really, can't it?

Yes, a lot of people are worrying about climate change at the moment.

In fact,

reporters often go out and ask

people in the streets are you worrying about climate change?

And a lot of people say they are.

But then we don't know all the full facts.

And sometimes sometimes I think in life, you have to try.

And I mean, I'm I'm saying this, but I'm very poor at it.

And people often say, what's the point of worrying about something that you can't do anything about?

Mm hmm.

Climate change being a case in point, we're worrying about it.

We're constantly being bombarded on the news about boiling temperatures.

But can we as individuals actually do anything?

Probably not.

I mean, I can't do anything personally.

We're not talking about global warming there. We're talking about worry.

I know someone talking about people worry about.

I'm talking about worrying about things that you can't actually control. Yes.

And that is one of them. Hmm.

Because, you know, you could argue that if every individual does

something, then it will make a difference.

But we don't know what to do and we don't know how to.

But you can't worry about things you can't control, you know?

So worry can be something that is needless.

You might say that a person worries needlessly.

They worry. But you don't have to worry about it.

A certain thing can be a worry.

As I said, a perceived problem.

The rising crime rate is a worry.

So something that is of concern

to many people can be described as a worry thing.

Thinking about worry is it is a natural part of our behaviour.

Mm hmm.

Because it enables us to foresee problems that could.

I mean, if you go back a thousand years or something,

it enables us to look at something or imagine what could be a problem

if we don't do something to prevent it.

So it's a survival mechanism.

Yeah, Really worry is a survival mechanism.

Well, I noticed this with the birds.

The birds are always in a state of worry.

They always seem as if they are about to have a nervous breakdown.

And of course, because of all the predators.

And of course, for them, it's very real.

That's a very real problem.

They could get eaten at any moment.

Whereas for most of us, human beings at the top of the food chain,

we don't have to worry about being eaten

by animals unless you're going out into the wild.

We worry about lots and lots of things

that don't necessarily have an impact on us. Zoo

Or maybe we think about something

that might happen, but the chances are very low

and we are always taking action to try and protect ourselves. Yes.

One I suppose one is old age, so getting older.

So a lot of people worry about getting older because they don't want to get older

and there are various reasons why they would worry about that.

Maybe they don't want to become unwell or unfit or maybe they don't want.

Well, there looks there beauty to disappear.

Well, maybe they just want to live forever and they worry about not living forever.

But sometimes there are things that you needn't worry about.

A certain thing can be a worry.

That's when a worry can become a problem.

It's okay to think about what might go wrong in a certain situation.

Like you're planning to go on holiday and you might think about, I've got to make sure

I switch the water off in the house in case there's a burst pipe.

When I'm away.

I want to think about getting insurance when I go weeks.

If something happens, how will I pay for repairs or medical it?

Those things are things that you need to think about.

Yes. And take and there things you can take action on.

Worry becomes a problem when you bring it worrying about things that you

oh, you can't switch it off, which is, you know, something which we all get from time to time.

Yeah.

So there are things that you should be worried about, but for most of the time

we do tend to worry about things that are not important, are concerning.

Thing is worrying for example, in this sentence

there is a worrying rise in the number of jobless people.

So maybe unemployment is rising,

maybe more people are without work.

So it is a concern.

It is something that is worrying.

So that thing is being described as worrying.

Maybe you are worrying about something.

I can't stop worrying about the job interview and that's what I mentioned a few moments ago.

There are things in life, Steve, that we might have to face in the future

that are genuine concerns

or genuine worries, and I'm sure you could name at least one straight away.

Yes, that's it.

So, I mean, this is perfectly natural.

It's a perfect it prepares

for some upcoming event like the job interview.

You worry about the job interview.

So what will happen when I say the right thing?

So what you do is you go away and you prepare

for that job interview as much as possible.

And then hopefully when you go in, you are well prepared

and it will go well and you might worry about

having to do a performance somewhere.

I was worried when I have to have to do a play or sing a song, I always worry about it.

If I practice enough, what happens?

Will I hit that high note?

Well, maybe you will forget the word one of the most one of the most

avoidable things that people do try

to avoid doing is to stand up and perform in front of other people.

So you might be worried about that.

Anything that puts pressure on you,

anything that puts you under pressure,

will quite often cause worry.

You are worrying about something.

For example, the job interview, that might be a job interview that you have to go to.

You can't stop worrying about it.

It's all got its root in something.

So if you worry about performing in front of lots of people, so why are you worrying?

Well, the reason is because you don't want to look a fool.

You don't want to forget your words, you don't want to look at,

you know, everybody's going to they didn't do very well.

They think they're going to tell everybody know you're worrying about a lot of worry

comes down to people worrying about what other people think of them. No.

And I think, you know, it's like what you wear

when you go out, what you say in public, a lot of worry comes down

to worrying about what actually how you will be perceived.

So we we call for we call this social anxiety.

So I think everyone suffers

from a certain amount of social anxiety.

When you are out in public, maybe you feel self-conscious,

maybe you are having a bad hair day.

No, it isn't something we suffer from.

But you might be self-conscious about something, something about yourself

that you feel self-conscious of and that can cause you worry.

Social anxiety is a very common type of worry.

We go, Yes.

So Christina says that if you're worrying too much, that can lead to anxiety.

So it's fine to worry about something if it helps you prepare

and to protect yourself or prepare for something.

But then if you don't stop that worry and you keep going on and on and on,

then it can turn into anxiety and then you you start worrying about anything ness.

And this is this, this is why you have to make sure you control it,

because it just continues and it grows as well.

So worry can be a bad thing to worry,

to feel anxious to agonise.

I love that one.

That's a very strong word. Agonise.

If you worry over something, you agonise

because you might say that worry is painful.

It can cause a type of pain.

You are almost going through a painful experience

whilst worrying to be in torment.

These are really powerful words to feel anguish,

dread and trepidation.

So all of these things relate to something maybe that is happening or will happen in the future.

So worry is something that is is quite common

because there are so many things around

that we can feel worried about, even though

most of them we needn't, Claudia says

that she's worrying about money because here in Argentina

we are all worried about it because obviously we've seen it in the news.

Inflation is going up.

So yeah, that is something real

and is something to be concerned and worried about because you don't know

for how far is the inflation going to go, how much the price is going to go up.

Will I have enough money to pay for my bills?

That is a genuine worry.

That is a threat to your way of life

and may be causing some stress and anxiety.

By the way, Claudia, I saw the photograph that you took of

the $2,000, $2,000 note.

Apparently this is a new note that they've just printed in Argentina because of inflation.

So you always know that things are bad if new money

or higher denominations

or values of money have to be printed.

So we did notice that. But our thoughts are with you.

And of course, we have also Beatriz as well, also living

in that same situation here as well.

I want to say thank you to Franco Ferrari.

What a lovely name for

congratulating us on our partnership.

It's not nice. I thank you very much for that.

Really appreciate you, you recognising that.

And we did stream, we did post a video announcing it

and the nice thing is we only got the same amount of hate as we normally do.

So that's great really.

So I am pleased that we only got the same amount of abuse and hate as we normally do.

So that that's quite good really when you think about it.

Steve I think everyone's always worrying about something that I mean, I am a worrier.

I've always been a worrier.

I worry about everything you take after your late mum.

Yes. So I'm always seeing in any situation what could go wrong,

which I think is a positive because it can prevent

things going wrong and can prevent disaster.

But at the same time, if you're doing it too much, it then turns into

anxiety or stress.

I don't really know the difference between those anxiety and stress.

I think they're

intertwined.

I'm not an expert on that.

I think stress can be the cause and the result.

Whereas anxiety quite often is the is the result of the stress.

So stress can be used in more than one way.

So the stress is the thing or it's what you feel.

Anxiety is what you feel because of stress.

I think so you might you might be burdened

with a lot of a lot of work.

Your boss might be saying, Oh, can you do this report?

Can you do that?

Can you do this? And you feel overwhelmed with

a lot of work and you've got

time pressures in which to complete it so that can lead to you feeling stressed.

Your heart rate can go up, you start getting irritable with people,

and if that carries on for a long period of time, I think that can lead to anxiety.

Anxiety is just I think I'm right in defining that.

It's just bad worry, really.

Just you worrying all the time. Yes.

When when your thoughts become physical.

That, I suppose, is anxiety.

So it is the actual physical response,

the response in your brain is just thinking.

But doing that too much then leads to physical problems.

I suppose you might say that a lot of people have been

using this particular sentence a worrying time.

We are living through worrying times and I, I would say that I've heard

definitely heard some people say that recently about various things.

So I think it is fair to say that we are probably

probably

living through worrying time, but it's all relative, isn't it?

So I mean, in Argentina at the moment they've got this big problem with inflation.

We think we've got problems here, but that's really nothing compared

to what they're suffering over there with their economy. So.

Well, imagine what that feels like.

It's all it's all different levels.

One person's worry is another person's carefree moment.

So not everything worries everyone in the same way,

and not everyone has the same stress in their lives as they normally do.

Or maybe it only happens now and again.

Another people always seem to be suffering more.

So there are people who are quite carefree.

They go through life not worrying too much about things.

But of course people like that can it can lead to problems because if you don't worry

about the consequences of anything, then sooner or later

some accident will be for you. Yes.

So people that live reckless lives don't worry about anything.

They might go bungee, they might do risky sports,

things like that, and then get themselves into trouble.

But the other extreme,

you've got somebody that worries about anything and is too scared to leave the house.

Somewhere in the middle is where we want to be, isn't it?

We want to we want to be genuinely concerned

or worried about certain things, but then we need to let that go.

It's very difficult.

I think we've all probably all of us have suffered

from stress or anxiety due to overbearing.

So I think it is like a metre, I imagine a metre

so that that needle is moving from left to right.

So you have worry and then you have relaxation or calmness.

So I think most people go from from one thing

to another quite often, but never too much of either because both of those things,

if you take them to the extreme level, can be harmful.

They to me, trust says thank you for this comment.

I don't worry about many things.

As time goes by, I think you mean as you've got older

you don't worry because as you discover,

as you get older, most of the things you worry about are out of your control.

So there's no point in making yourself worried,

which leads to stress and anxiety because it is most of it is out of our control.

And we see new, particularly the news you watch the news

and you start to think that, you know, there's crime everywhere.

The planet is about to burst into flames.

You know, we're all doomed.

But of course, most of these things only affect a small number of people.

So the chances of affecting us are very slim.

And yet we worry about it, particularly if you watch it late at night,

you watch the 10:00 news, just go to bed.

Can I just give you a piece of advice?

Don't watch the news. Don't watch it.

Especially late at night before you go to bed.

So we always like to watch things that are funny or maybe something interesting

or some sort of documentary.

We've just discovered a new TV channel called Wild.

What's it called again? I call this Wild Earth.

That's it.

So there is a TV channel we've just discovered called Wild Earth.

It recently popped up on my TV from nowhere,

and we like watching that because they have live shows

from different parts of Africa looking at all of the wonderful wildlife.

And it's very interesting.

So we like to do something at night before we go to bed

that takes your mind away from all the stress and worry.

Something funny, something interesting, something calming.

So that's my advice.

A person can be wearisome.

It's a great word.

It doesn't look real, but it is a real word.

Trust me, a wearisome person worries a lot.

They cause worry and annoyance.

And that is true.

A person who wears a lot can also be a very annoying person.

Well, that's strange because that's exactly what anarchy is, says

I run away from worrisome people because it's contagious.

Yes, it is.

If you are always around people that worry,

then you will probably start to get worried yourself.

And a good point as well from an

Dimitra says stop watching the news.

But we have if you want to know what's going on in the world,

just read it in a newspaper or online because it's it's

emotional impact on you is far less

if you are just reading the words

compared to if you then see it on a television

where they're showing dramatic pictures and they're playing music.

And that's what annoys me about the news that these and it's repeated and it's repeated over and over again.

It's like it's like somebody punching you in the face,

but instead of their fists, they are just telling you bad stuff.

Yes, everything's bad, everything's awful, everything's awful.

Everything's terrible.

Go to bed, be afraid. But if you just read about it,

they say after a volcano's gone off, some are gone off.

Is that what they do?

Is that they go off and, you know, thousand people have died or something.

If you read about it.

Yes. You would be you know, you would see that news and it would have some impact on you, but it wouldn't

be anywhere near as much as if you were to see photographs

of aeroplanes flying over smoke and flames.

It's like if you read about the wildfires that are going on in various parts of the world

at the moment, if you just read about it, it's impact, you know, devil that's going on.

But if you watch it on the news, suddenly you think the whole world's going up in flames.

So, yes, watching it involving more

senses has a greater emotional impact.

If you see something, you hear it.

But if you just read it, you just it as it is

and it's you can keep up with the news without having to watch it.

Okeydokey, is the point I'm making.

So a person who wears a lot can be also quite annoying because they are often fussing about things.

Or maybe they are always in a state of worry

and maybe, maybe their their fears

could also become your fears as well.

So I sometimes like to stay away from from people who are like that.

I like to be around positive people, even though these days it's very hard to find them.

By the way, it's also Pedro's birthday today, is it Pedro?

I believe it is. Let's play there a second.

Pedro Belmont, happy birthday to you.

So you share a birthday with Palmira then because it's Palmeiras birth day today.

So were two people with nothing to worry about there

unless you're getting old and even then you've got to accept it. Yes.

So, yeah, congratulations to you both.

And it's nice to see you on here.

A lot of people seem to have their birthdays in August,

and I always say the best people in the world have their birthdays in August.

You're in very good company.

Claudia says she's worrying not

to burn the pastry on her pie.

Yes, well, that is important. That's an important worry.

You should be very, very worried about that

because no one wants their pie burnt.

Yeah, well,

we hope you're not worrying at the moment because happily, you're enjoying

watching us, and that is taking your mind

off your worries, even though we keep talking,

even though that's today's subject to be a worry wart,

a person who is a worry wart, it's a great phrase.

Maybe we don't use it as much these days as we used to,

but a person who is a worrywart is a person who worries a lot.

So you might describe that person as a worry wart.

Don't be such a worry wart.

Never heard of that Anyway.

Mr. Duncan, It was Petra, his birthday yesterday.

Oh, okay. Not today.

So you were wrong nations. Well, I just.

There was something about a birthday, but it.

Well, next we looked like it was Pedro's birthday.

Mary said it was yesterday.

Next week, we're talking about jumping to conclusions.

We might use this part of the life story.

I was just going on what I had read on the live stream.

Yes, Well, never believe everything you read.

Very nice.

So a worrywart is a person who worries quite a lot,

a jumpy person that is on edge.

They worry about everything around them.

And there are people like that.

They are they are so worried all the time about everything they are.

I suppose one word you could use is nervous.

Yes, a nervous person is is effectively somebody that's

who is worrying about things, what might happen,

what might what have what if we go on a drive today?

The might of somebody might be somebody out there that might crash into us.

Oh, should I go to that party?

Well, what happens if somebody gets drunk and violence breaks out?

I might get something might happen to me.

But then if what kind of parties are you going to.

Well, I'm just saying, people will worry about these worry about these things.

And after lockdowns, of course, we were all made to worry ourselves.

Sick. Yeah.

About a virus that was circulating and it might be coming back probably.

We want to make people worried. Mr. Duncan.

No. Well, everyone's talking about you.

I know that.

Well, I know they're talking about it, but we're going to worry people.

Yeah, they want.

They want us to start wearing masks.

So this is it.

You see, They want to control. They want it.

They want to keep us in a state of fear.

This is not a this is not a soap.

Well, it is at the moment. All right.

I you know,

people that you know, the politicians, the powers that be which politicians, like all of them,

they would like to keep the keep us in a state of fear every single politician is doing.

When we are in a state of fear, we can be controlled.

Okay.

Because if you make somebody fearful about climate

change, for example, oh, the world is coming to an end.

Oh, that they can persuade us to buy electric cars

or to change our heating system to to do something else.

It's once you've got people in a state of fear, it's easy to control them.

Yeah.

So that's what we need to be always constantly aware of all the time, you know, is this, you know,

why is this while they're telling us about this, why they worrying is Yes,

I said, well, quite often because they want to sell electric cars to everyone.

Yeah, well, maybe change your mind.

It's a bit like a religion really.

So religions are a type of control.

And you might say that the new green agenda, where everyone's talking about the climate

and everything might be another type of religion where you take things too far.

It is good to be worried, but

you can make people too worried and they start to panic.

So a jumpy person and there are people like that who are afraid of their own shadow,

even words connected to worry include agonise.

That's a horrible word, but it seems it seems to sum up

the feeling

of being really worried to be bothered by something.

I guess I agonised over my decision.

I agonised over my decision.

That's true though.

That means that you constantly or you want to do something like,

for example, you might want to get married

and you might think, should I marry that person

you agonise over, you know, because I'm on the plus side.

They've got these these things are very good about them, but I don't like these things about them,

you know, What shall I do?

What shall I do?

I'm agonising over my decision.

And you might have a deadline.

It could be over whether you leave work and take a new job.

You are tormented by it.

You might.

Yes, you might like your job.

But then another job comes along, which seems better.

And you think, Well, oh, I don't know what to do.

Shall I do it? Shanthi?

My current job is good. It's safe.

I've been there a long time, but I'm boring.

The new job looks exciting. There's more money.

But what should I do? Yes.

So 79.

Sometimes making a choice can can lead to you agonising.

Sometimes it might be easy.

Okay, Steve, we got to move on.

We've only got 15 minutes left.

Be bothered, fret over some things.

Oh, stop fretting.

First you can say to somebody, lose sleep or even sweat.

So you might say that a person who is worrying is sweating.

Don't sweat, don't sweat, don't sweat the small stuff.

Don't worry about it. Look,

sorry, don't sweat.

The small stuff is a book by somebody

trying to encourage you to stop worrying and stop worrying

about the things that you can't do anything about.

But yes, if you fret, somebody get frets.

They're just worrying all the times you know, your self fretting.

Stop fretting, calm down. Yes.

Oh, oh.

I'm not sure I should be clever in my brain. It might rain.

I want to go over in my brain, try to cope with me.

So take an umbrella. What do you think I should do? Should I wear waterproof?

Oh, stop fretting.

Yes. Let's go for a walk first.

Stop doing that to lose sleep over something.

Now this is a good one because it's very common.

So this is a phrase you might hear a lot

when a person has something on their mind, they are worrying about it.

They might lose sleep over something.

You spend too much time worrying about one thing,

you lose sleep over it at night,

sometimes literally, so you can use it figuratively,

but also you can literally lose sleep when you're worrying about things.

Yes, that phrase is often used when somebody says something to you.

You say, Oh, I'm, you know, at work.

I think they're going to make redundancies.

Someone says, What do you think?

And you might say, Well, I'm not going to lose any sleep over it. Yes.

So if you say I'm not going to lose any sleep over

what you're saying is that particular thing

that's being discussed, I'm not going to worry about it because the implication is if it was something

to worry about, you would wake up in the night and you would lose sleep.

So it's a good phrase to use.

I'm not going to lose any sleep over that because it might be something you can't control anyway.

I think so.

So if you lose sleep, you are worried it is causing you a lot of anxiety.

Christina says some mums lose sleep because their teenagers,

sons or daughters go out with the wrong crowd.

Oh yes, they might be.

They might be laid back.

I know my sister with her children.

She used to worry, Where are her children?

They're not back.

You know, teenagers. They go out.

It's one, two in the morning.

They haven't come back.

They haven't sent a text.

Where are they?

Isn't isn't that just natural?

But that's natural to be worried, obviously.

But that is worry.

I think that is a natural worry.

So you can track your

children.

Can you on the phone?

Yes, they can.

Apparently you can.

There's something on on phones that enable

you to you agree to it and then you can track them, see where they are.

But I would imagine most teenagers wouldn't want their parents tracking them on their phones.

Oh, no.

I don't think anyone wants to be tracked by anyone.

When you think about it for a moment,

it's my first time on this channel says somebody who's obviously Chinese.

Hello to China, I think. Hao from Mr.

Duncan and Mr. Steve.

Yes. Nice to have you here.

It's nice to have new people.

It's always nice to see new faces on the channel.

We are talking about another subject in a second.

We are looking at

cycling now.

This is something that's become a very controversial subject in many areas.

Really?

Yes. Well, that's why I'm saying

in London, especially big cities

where cars and bicycles

are trying to use the same area.

And it is very popular now here in the UK.

I don't know if it happens where you are, but there are people now who film

everything that happens whilst they're riding their bicycle.

And then if someone does something to them

quite often a motorist driving a car,

they will, they will record that moment

and then they will put it on the internet and show everyone.

So cyclists have become,

I suppose you might say that they've become a very vocal group

because there are more people now riding bicycles.

I would say around here where we live, there aren't many people

riding bicycles generally because there are a lot of steep hills.

The roads are narrow and a lot of people drive crazy in their cars.

So I think so.

But in London, a lot of go on.

A lot of car drivers now have cameras in their cars for insurance purposes.

Yes, as well.

They you don't realise you might engage in some road rage incident

or an accident and

somebody is recording everything, how it stands up in a court of law, I don't know.

But they're there anyway. Yes.

Talking of bicycles, here's a great phrase, by the way.

Now, this was a phrase that was created by a member of parliament

at way back in the 1980s,

an MP called Norman Tebbit.

And there were many people who were out of work.

They were unemployed during that particular time.

And he told people who were unemployed to get out

and get on their bikes

and look for work and look for work.

So and of course we can use that as a phrase as well

if we want to tell someone to go away on your bike, maybe something that we are annoyed

by, maybe a person that we don't like, suddenly they do something that you don't like.

You might say on your bike, On your bike, go away.

So get on your bike to go out and do something.

Famously created by an MP way back in the 1980s.

But there was an MP, a member of Parliament a couple of weeks ago

that said the same thing and he got into a lot of trouble.

Yeah, but the thing is, you see people get very upset.

How is somebody suggests to them they should they're not doing enough to look for work.

But of course the way that's coming from

is that we know that there are lots of jobs that

employers can't fill at the moment in the UK.

And, you know, rather than anybody, let's not go into that.

So you say this this he is Mr.

Duncan Shine chow, which means hello in Vietnamese.

Let me get that was easy So we've had Ni hao ni hao

which is hello in Chinese and Shin Chow

which is hello in Vietnamese and of course

hello which is hello in English.

We will be saying goodbye in around about 9 minutes from now because we are all going.

So bicycles are everywhere in London.

I did notice when I was in London a few weeks ago,

I did notice that there were bicycles everywhere.

There are definitely more bicycles on the road and dare I say?

Fewer cars,

not taxis, because there are still lots of taxes on the roads in London.

But there were definitely fewer cars driven by the average person.

There were definitely fewer, but many more bicycles in London.

And this is now causing a lot of a lot of problems.

Though there is this strange resentment

between motorists and cyclists.

Now, I'm going to ask Steve the question.

I'm sure you've been waiting for this.

No, you know what I'm going to ask you on, okay.

You're a motorist.

Yes. What do you think of cyclists? Annoying?

Oh, yes.

I had to ask the question.

Well, I personally I mean, I wouldn't go out on a bike,

on the roads, on myself because I just don't think it's safe anymore.

But, you know,

there is the argument that everyone has a right to their space on the road.

And of course, cyclists do you know, they've got a right be on the road. Hmm.

I just think sometimes you see I would worry

I would worry about going on the roads on my bike.

I used to worry.

I used to cycle everywhere when I was younger.

But there were there was less traffic when I was younger.

Cars were a lot smaller

and with very narrow British roads, each of which.

And cars, of course, go a lot faster.

Now, yes, people are more impatient.

I would I would worry about going on.

Maybe that's because I've got older.

That is something I would definitely because I've got a bike, I've got the same bike.

But the bike I had when I was, I think 14, 15, my parents bought me this racing bike

and I've still got it and I want to restore it and go and ride.

But I wouldn't go on the road on it.

I would have to go somewhere off road.

Yes, I would worry about I used to start to Wales everywhere,

even when I was in my twenties.

So I think the roads have become more dangerous, especially in the countryside

where there aren't many cars.

But they do tend to drive slightly recklessly at speed.

And of course if you are on a bicycle going along the road

and a car wants to come past, they might try to force you over to get by.

So there there are many instances where cyclists have been injured

and even killed, I think especially in London.

I don't know what the statistics are, whether it's gone up compared to when I was growing up.

As more people get injured, I don't know.

Yes, well, cycle deaths have increased a lot over the last five years, have they? Yes.

So they've gone up a lot because more people are riding bikes,

but also they are trying to use the same road

or the same piece of road as motor cars and lorries.

And you know that

I'll tell you what is annoying

is if you get stuck behind cyclists on the road

where it is twisty and you have no chance to overtake

and there are two cyclists riding together

in parallel yes, like that, like that.

And they're talking away to each other, you know, what about doing about seven miles an hour?

So they're doing that whole line of traffic.

They should be like that behind now.

Yes, you could say they're doing that. Yes.

If they'd been not together, you could have probably overtaken safely single file.

But they are holding up the traffic for some time, several miles.

Yeah.

So you you know, you are taking a big risk

because somebody is going to get impatient.

Maybe you should argue that they shouldn't get impatient, but they will.

And then that's when accidents can happen.

Mm. I think so, yes.

Rosa says it's

hard to see motorcyclists because then they suddenly appear.

Well, that's it.

You're not expecting to see a cyclist are here, but motorcycles

go faster so they can appear suddenly.

But I think it's the same thing with bicycles as well.

They can suddenly come out and they are often criticised

for breaking the rules of the road as well.

So quite often a person on a bicycle will go through a red light and I think it really does

anger motorists because they have to wait

and the bicycle just breaks a lot of the rules.

The other reason I wouldn't go and ride a bike Magdalena does every day five kilometres

to work in back, which is great in the rain in the winter, all conditions great.

I don't know what

sort of traffic conditions you're riding through, but I used to cycle to work in.

When I worked in Wolverhampton.

I lived on one side of Wolverhampton and my place of work was the other,

probably about four miles, and I used to cycle that every day.

In the end I stopped doing it not because I felt unsafe,

but because the fumes that I was breathing in because yes, good point.

And I thought this is going, you know, even it's supposed to be good for you to cycle,

to be fit and healthy.

Breathing in those fumes must counter that.

I would probably it ends up being worse for you.

I don't know.

No, I think that's a good point to make, actually, because,

well, this is

what's happening in London where they're trying to discourage motorists

from driving on the roads at all,

or only when necessary because they're being charged.

I think it's £12.

So imagine if you wanted to get into your car and drive down the road.

A camera will take a photograph of your car and the number on the front

and then you will be charged £12.

So imagine if you have to go in and out from your house maybe three or four times.

This is if you've got a car that, is an older car, that's it.

That doesn't meet the pollution standards.

So this is happening quite often in London.

And now it is being extended.

But of course, for cyclists that is a good thing

because it means you can ride on the roads more freely and much safer.

So I think it's an interesting subject and one we might cover again in the future.

And the reason why I mention that is because a few few days ago

we were riding a bicycle around Wales and we had a great deal of fun.

By the way, Patrick, one of our regulars, Patrick

Novak from IS in France,

is currently biking through an area of France.

So he's on holidays on a biking holiday.

Now, I have to say, if you want to ride a bike,

one of the best place to do it is France.

It's true.

Yeah, because France has got the similar population to the UK, but it's about two or three times

as big geographically, so there's less traffic, so the less dense in the country.

Yes, it's great.

And probably less cars.

So it's probably much safer to drive in France than it is in the UK.

That's date I recommend driving cycling on the roads in the UK.

No, definitely.

Definitely not.

Unless you can take all the back roads. Yes.

And even then even then it's not really safe anyway.

Steve, guess what?

We have come to the end of today's live stream.

How wonderful. But is it.

I'm joking. Oh, okay.

I was.

Well, I'm worried now, Mr.

Juncker, that people will think that we're not staying on long enough.

Well, well, if you want us to stay on for another hour, we can not.

But our.

Well, that's it then.

Then I'm worried that I will.

I will get tired if we stay here too long.

This is it. Yes.

You see? You see, Mr.

Steve always worries about things.

We will be back next Sunday and of course, next week.

It's September.

September.

We'll be here next week, the 3rd of September, next Sunday.

And everything will be

feeling

late summer ish.

Autumn on the way. Autumn is coming.

And can I just say now, please

don't mention Christmas yet

because I know someone is going to I know someone in the media or on television

or in the newspapers or not four times, but someone is going to mention Christmas.

It's too early.

Do not mention Christmas, even though

September is just around the corner.

That seats for today.

Happy birthday Palmira.

Happy birthday for the 20th.

To Pedro

and thank you very much to you all for watching.

And we will be back soon.

Don't forget new lessons coming during the week.

There is an actual

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So there is a playlist that is under this video underneath,

and it has all of my short video lessons.

See you soon. Take care.

Enjoy the rest of your weekend and have a super duper time.

And don't worry, don't worry because we'll be back next week and Mr.

Duncan will have his short sent out this week.

So you've got something to look forward to.

There's always something, always something to look forward to.

Don't sweat the small stuff

on behalf of well, England.

This is Mr.

Duncan and Mr.

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And of course until the next time we meet, you know what's coming next.

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