Brits On Being MORE CONFIDENT | Easy English 109

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The answers lie within you.
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You have all the answers.
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You are whole and complete.
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Don't believe the stories that you tell yourself,
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they're just opinions, not fact.
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Create a present, not in the past,
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create a present in the future.
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The re-imagining of the self.
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Hello, welcome to Easy English.
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So today, I'm asking the peopleĀ  of Britain about confidence.
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Advice they'd give to peopleĀ  on building confidence
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and examples in their own life
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where they were lacking aĀ  little bit of self-esteem.
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Here we go.
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What advice would you give onĀ  like, self-esteem or confidence?
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I think it's about doing the stuffĀ  you're good at and enjoying that.
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So I think if you'reĀ  struggling with meeting people,
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finding friends, what I would do is say,
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what's the thing I like doing?
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What makes me feel good?
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When did I last feel good?
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And then try and replicate that.
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So that helps build your confidence,
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because you feel, you're adding value back
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into the group of friends you're with.
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And I think a lot of lacking in confidence
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is because you don't feel valuable
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amongst the people you're mixing with.
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So with confidence, I thinkĀ  it's about comfort zones.
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And I think, if you can pickĀ  something that you're interested in,
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or something you kind of, really into and really,
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really want to speak about,
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you'll be able to find your confidence with that.
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If you're comfortable speaking about it.
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If you know what you're talking about,
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then your confidence will come through that.
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So you should always try and kind of,
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deviate the conversation the way of,
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something that you are confident about,
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something you are interested in,
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whether it's a sporting event, whether it's...
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whether it's anything you like,
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whether it's being at theĀ  beach or going for walks.
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Anything you have the enthusiasm about,
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speak about that and that'll giveĀ  you more confidence, I think.
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So, I think as my job is as a lecturer,
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so that does take confidenceĀ  standing up, in front of a group.
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And sometimes, you don't always feel it.
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And... and often perhaps, I don't feel it is,
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if it's about a topic thatĀ  I'm not comfortable with.
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So, I think my top tip, quiteĀ  often is being prepared.
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So if there's something, likeĀ  a, whatever you're doing,
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perhaps always do that preparationĀ  and if it's doing a run,
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or any exercise, just doing a bit of research,
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erm... talking to friends, gettingĀ  advice, that type of thing.
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So that preparation, I think,Ā  helps build confidence.
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Well, what I would always doĀ  is pretend like I'm really sure
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in what I'm saying.
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If you're unsure with yourself,
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then you're not going to appear confident.
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So just be really sure about what you're saying,
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because then people willĀ  believe that you're a confident,
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outgoing person.
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Don't, you know, think too much aboutĀ  what you're saying all the time,
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just go out, be free with it.
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Don't directly focus on anyone,Ā  if you're talking to them
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and just be confident inĀ  what you're saying, really.
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You know, believe what you're saying is right.
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What advice would you give toĀ  someone who wants to appear
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or seem or feel more confident?
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Breathe and believe.
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That's it
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Breathe and believe.
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That's it.
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Physically breathing and believing mentally?
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However you want to take that.
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Breathe and believe.
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Breathe slowly or breathe quickly?
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Depends.
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Breathe and believe.
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Breathe and believe.
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Hello!
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So unfortunately, we didn't get soĀ  many interviews for this episode,
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storm Eunice had other ideas.
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So, I thought, in fact, thatĀ  I'd give you my opinion,
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if you'll take it.
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So I believe that you can't just sort of magically
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improve your self-esteem,Ā  you have to own it, I think.
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And that involves, you sort of,
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understanding why you'reĀ  lacking, in certain senses.
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Maybe you were bullied in school,
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maybe you lost your job,
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or you just know that you'reĀ  lacking in some sort of,
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skill in life.
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I think, it's also worth realising that everybody
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has some sort of neuroticism in their life
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and that most people who are outwardly confident
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are usually doing this toĀ  compensate for something,
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which makes them feel a little bit insecure.
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I personally, actually, love people
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who admit to their failures in life
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and who, admit that they areĀ  quite insecure about things.
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I think it makes people reallyĀ  modest and quite humble,
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which is a very attractive quality, I think.
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So I dubbed this the ''8 Mile''Ā  approach based on the Eminem film.
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I think, if you're feeling nervous or emotional,
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you're probably best-offĀ  just outwardly admitting it.
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I think people can often see behind any sort of,
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ruse anyone has, if they're pretending to be okay.
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I think it's quite easy to see through this.
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And to be honest, I think mostĀ  people, if you admit this,
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will have empathy towards you orĀ  they should show empathy towards you.
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So for me personally, I have a confidence issue
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in speaking another language.
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I work in the Easy Languages network
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and all of our meetings are held in English,
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so I get to see the level of English
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that all the non-native speakersĀ  have, and it's truly amazing.
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So it does make me veryĀ  self-conscious that my German
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is absolutely nowhere near theĀ  level of English that they have.
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And so, I find it's justĀ  better for me to admit this,
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that I'm not very comfortable,Ā  or confident speaking
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another language yet.
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And yeah, everyone is very receptive to this.
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And I think, if you haveĀ  confidence issues speaking English,
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then I think you should just tell people
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and I'm sure they'll accept you.
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So I have a means toĀ  defeating my confidence issue,
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which is through my language app.
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And now, I personally recommend Busuu,
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So the thing I like the most about Busuu is
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there are many ways to learnĀ  a language through their app.
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I tend to get quite bored, whenĀ  you have the same learning method,
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but with Busuu, you get toĀ  watch videos, listen to audio,
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read texts and practise your pronunciations
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and have it reviewed by the fellow native users.
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A great feature is its study plan,
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which helps keep me motivated and not overwhelm me
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with unrealistic goals.
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So we're all busy people, I imagine,
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and we need to set our own times for learning
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And Busuu recognises this and it is really great
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Now back to the episode.
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I'm going to play like,Ā  devil's advocate right now.
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Let's say you're not in a group
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and you're not doing anythingĀ  which is particularly rehearsed.
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Let's say, you're on a date for this scenario,
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with someone that you think; oh,Ā  I'd love to be with that person,
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but you have just, cripplingĀ  anxiety about this kind of thing.
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Smile a lot. - Yeah? - Yeah.
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Smile a lot and tell yourselfĀ  that you are confident, really.
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Stand tall, always stand tall;
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the way that you walk's really important, I think.
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And eye contact; you must make eyeĀ  contact at all time, I would say.
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Not look away, but make eye contact, yeah. - Okay.
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Stand tall and make eye... so lotsĀ  of physical... - Physicalit...
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The way you enter a room's really important.
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The way you stand is important.
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Yeah, you can deceive somebodyĀ  that you're really confident, yeah.
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I was a drama teacher in the inner city,
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in White Chapel, for 33 years.
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So I spent a life giving children...Ā  inner city kids; challenging, Ā 
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confidence, the belief thatĀ  the answers lie within them.
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The transformation of the self.
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And if you want to read more about it, plug it!
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Shameless!
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''IN SEARCH: Reimagining WhatĀ  It Means To Be A Teacher'',
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Daniel Shindler; you can getĀ  in ''Amnesty'', in Brighton,
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in the North Laine, get itĀ  now, loads of advice there.
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In my world, I feel very nervousĀ  around talking to new people,
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'cos you always have that... kind of, am I...
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am I any good at what I do andĀ  I don't think that ever goes,
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I don't think it ever leaves you.
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But what I've learnt, is to listen, really well,
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to the way people are talking.
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Even with... like now,Ā  obviously, a lot of it's online.
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But look at people, look at the room they're in,
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look at the space they're taking up and just...
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just try and picture how thatĀ  conversation is going to go.
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And obviously, the bestĀ  thing is age and experience,
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in a lot of ways. Because, youĀ  understand different types of people
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have different needs. But if the person that I...
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if I've got a new client, for example,
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I will try to get to knowĀ  them, ask them questions,
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keep it fairly light.
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Make sure I feel comfortable in my space,
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especially on things like ''Zoom''.
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So, make sure it's tidy, all that boring stuff,
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that always... you always think; Oh!
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But actually, if you feel confident in your space,
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then that will help that conversation.
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So, say for new clients,
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I'll make sure my office looks nice and tidy,
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that I'm having a conversation that I feel...
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about things I know about.
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So, yeah. - Fantastic, that was really great.
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Well kind of recently, I didĀ  have to like present things to...
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to my class, 'cos erm... in college.
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And, I had to present things to like,
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put myself forward as a candidate.
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And so, I just kind of, stood upĀ  there and just tried to say like,
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I'm... I'm really great for being a candidate,
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even though I knew that I wasn'tĀ  the best suited candidate.
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But it worked anyway, I did get...
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I was nominated to be a class representative,
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even though I probably wasn't the best person.
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I have to do a lot of speaking to...
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to groups of people and hosting meetings.
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And even now, after years of doing it,
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before every single meeting,Ā  I get that feeling of anxiety,
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it's the same people I deal withĀ  every time, it's the same subjects
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and I always start with that anxiety,
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that kind of, panic of; Oh,Ā  what if I say the wrong thing?
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What if something goes wrong?
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The confidence comes when I step up there,
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I always start with a little kind of, maybe,
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a little anecdote or a little erm...
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breaking the ice with a joke,Ā  maybe, that's always good.
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And that relaxes me more than anything.
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And then, the confidence there,
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comes where I can speak about theĀ  subjects we need to speak about
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and get the point across.
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Oh right, so you think of... you've sort of,
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put into place something which you've...
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not rehearsed as much, but you know the...
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you know where the story goes. - Yes.
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Yeah, the hardest part isĀ  starting, I think, with confidence.
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Right, yeah. - Once you getĀ  involved and start doing it,
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whether it's on the karaoke machine,
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or whether it's in frontĀ  of... in front of your class,
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speaking about a subject or reading from the book,
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that first line will always be theĀ  most uncomfortable you will be.
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Once you break that barrier,Ā  you will gain in confidence,
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you... you'll speak better,Ā  you'll... you'll talk better,
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you'll present yourself better.
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And it's all about that first little bit,
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getting through that, I think.
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That's really good, areĀ  you... do you do the karaoke?
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Sometimes.
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Nice.
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Thanks for watching this week's episode.
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Let us know in the comments below
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your tips and tricks on building confidence
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or appearing more confident.
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Also, let us know in the comments below
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if you like the fact that we appear in the videos
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and give our opinion. D'youĀ  wanna see it more in the future,
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or do you wanna see less of me in the future?
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Let us know.
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And we'll see you next week,
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bye.
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