Speaking English - DEAL expressions - "big deal", "deal with it"...

Hi. James from www.engvid.com. And this lesson is brought to you by Eddie Lucas Mens, from

Facebook. Eddie, thanks a lot. It seems Eddie didn't know how to deal with it when he couldn't

understand when people told him, "Deal with it." So we made a deal to help him learn,

okay? And Eddie said, "Deal me in, dude." Okay. So these are idioms that have to do

with the word "deal".

Well, first of all, if you don't know what a deal is, none of this is going to make sense.

And there're two very important ones you have to know. Funny, the second for the idioms

is more important than the first one. And the first one -- well, you can see Mr. E,

he's shaking hands with a human. Okay. Because he's as big as a human. Human. I think that's

how he sounds when he speaks, "Human make deal with Mr. E." Sounds like a Russian on

steroids. Okay. No, just kidding. It's a bad Russian account, I don't know. So, here we

go. Here's Mr. E making a deal. It's an agreement, an agreement that must benefit. So when you

make a deal, it means "it's good for me; it's good for you." It's a "deal", okay.

When it's not a deal it means something -- one person or a party is not getting something

out of it that's good. But funny enough -- and I should say this is the official version

when people say, "We made a deal", they're talking about this. But a lot of the idioms

really have to do with this one, which is funny: "to give out cards in a game". If you

like playing poker -- you know, poker -- and there's, you know, the heart card -- there

you go. You play a game. When you play that game you give out cards. And when you give

out cards -- when you receive these cards, you have what's called your "hand". And this

is what you have to "deal with". And that's what I'm going to explain. This is what you

have to "deal with". It's what you have. You don't have anything else. You must make these

cards work the best for you, all right? And that's what a lot of these idioms are about.

So let's start with it. You meet somebody. And they're in a bad mood. You might say,

"What's their deal?" It means, in that case, "What's their problem?" They got cards and

maybe they're, like, "My cards are bad. I'm not happy." And you go, "What's their deal?"

Of course, you don't know their deal because you don't know their cards. And that's where

I have -- has to do with giving out cards, right? But it's not just for that. When we

say "What's his deal, or her deal, or their deal", we mean, "What's their problem, or

what's their situation", right? You might see someone drive up in a Mercedes looking

good. You go, "What's his deal?" He owns IBM. Stocks in Microsoft -- rich. That's his deal.

He got what we call a good hand in cards. Everything is good for him, right? The other

problem -- person with the problem -- got a bad set of cards. All right?

So next one, when somebody says, "Deal with it" -- I'm going to go back to the cards analogy.

"Analogy" means when you take two things and you try and, you know, you tell a story to

explain something else. It's an analogy. It's not necessarily true. It's just to explain

something. And I told you at the beginning, and I'll repeat: Most of these will have to

do with to give out cards because we talk about fate or what you've been given, and

you must use. There will be one about dealing. Don't worry, okay? So when you say, "Deal

with it", once again, these are the cards you've got, and you're like, "It's not fair.

I don't have the good cards. Johnny has all the good cards." And somebody says, "Deal

with it." What they're saying is, "That's the reality. That's the situation. It's your

problem. There's nothing we're going to do about it. Stop complaining and just move on

from here." Wow. That's tough isn't it? Yeah. Just deal with it.

Next -- remember we talked about cards? "Deal me in." Well, Mr. E's watching the card game.

James is playing. He sees me get money, and he's like, "I like that game. I want to be

part of that game." Well, then you need your own cards. So somebody has to give you cards,

right? That's what we mean by "Deal me in." When you say, "I'm having pizza tonight",

and you go, "Deal me in", it means, "I want some pizza. I want to be part of it. I want

to join the poker game." It's not poker, remember. It's just -- we're talking about cards, and

that word analogy. We're talking about one thing to explain another. So someone says,

"Deal me in", it means, "Let me be part of this." Okay?

So let's go back to it. "That guy/girl is a dealer." Sorry. In North America there are

two types of dealers. One is a card dealer that plays the cards. He's the dealer. The

other one gives out drugs. Remember, "You give out cards"; "You give out drugs." If

someone says they're a cocaine dealer or a marijuana dealer or a -- I don't know. I don't

do drugs. Seriously, I don't do drugs. I mean - no, I don't. Then you're saying they give

drugs to people. They're a "dealer". They give out like giving out cards, okay?

Here's something funny. This one will sound like this one, but they're not the same. See

it says, "Deal with it", then, "Deal with it"? Not the same. When you say, "Who will

deal with it?" We're saying, "Who will be responsible for it? Who will take care of

it?" In this one we're saying, "We don't care. It's your problem." In this one we're saying,

"We need someone who can take care of the problem. Who can help us take care of it?

Will Mr. E deal with it? Yes he will. He'll take care of the garbage and get rid of the

dealer." Okay?

Now, finally -- well, not finally. If somebody says, "It is a big deal." Do you remember

over here we talked about, "So what's the big deal?" Right? What's the big deal? I don't

know. Hopefully I did. Maybe I missed it. No I didn't, Mr. E just said. So I'm coming

back to it. So what's the big deal? I made a mistake, right? I forgot one. We can deal

with it. Evidently not. When someone says, "So what's the big deal", they're saying,

"It's not important." You go, "It's my birthday." "So what's the big deal? You get older every

year." You go, "I care. It's important to me." Another -- something someone can say

that's similar to this is just go, "Big deal. I don't care. Big deal. So what? It's French.

Big deal. Not important. It's another book. Big deal." So when you say this, you're actually

saying, "It's not important." The opposite of that is this: "It's a big deal. It's very

important. The president of the United States is coming to Canada. It's a big deal." For

many Canadians we go, "big deal." Okay? So opposites of this, "It's big deal", "She is

a big deal", "She's a big deal. She's Madonna. She's Madonna." Or, "He's a big deal. Superman's

a big deal, man. He's a big deal. He's got a cape that's red. It's a big deal." Okay?

It's important.

Now, finally -- finally, we're going to get to one which means, "It's an agreement that

benefits two parties": "It's a deal." And what I would like to do is I would like to

make a deal with you to help you learn and continue your English experience, okay? I'm

sure you're saying right now, "Deal me in, dude. Deal me in. I'll love this." Okay? So,

my man from Facebook -- I forgot your name, sorry. Sorry, dude. Where are you? Eddie?

Okay? I'm sure you're going to deal me in for another lesson. You make the suggestions;

we bring them out. It's a deal. That's how we work here, okay? So where I want you to

go is www.engvid.com, where "eng" stands for "English" and "vid" stands for "video", okay?

Cool? You like that? So what's the big deal? I just taught you seven things in less than

10 minutes; that's what the big deal is. See? It is a big deal. Learn English for fun, right?

Deal with it if you didn't learn -- that's not so nice, but I'm just saying. We'll deal

you in. And it's a deal; we'll work together, okay? It wasn't the best ending I had, but

it's an ending. See you later. It's a deal -- big deal.