Improve your Vocabulary: Stop saying I KNOW!

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How to get one million followers... hey, you know, I was just reading this book and we
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could get lots of people to watch us if we changed a couple of things.
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Oh, I know.
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Huh.
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Hi, James from engVid.
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Mr. E seems to know everything.
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You know what's interesting about knowing everything?
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You actually stop knowing anything at all.
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Hi.
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What I want to do on today's lesson is I want to talk about the word "I know".
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It is a word that is used by many English speakers who are just starting to learn the
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language.
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In fact, it's used a lot by native speakers, unthinkingly, to cover all sorts of situations.
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In today's lesson, I'm going to give you some new phrases, I'm going to give you some new
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vocabulary that we can take the same idea that comes from "I know" and use it to further
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our communication skills.
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Now, why is this important?
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A lot of times, we watch videos and they give you the tools but don't explain why or where
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you'll use them.
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I like to make sure I take an opportunity in this video to make sure I not only teach
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you why but where it is most beneficial for you to use the new vocabulary.
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You ready?
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Let's go to the board.
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Now, when you look at the words here "I know", I've outlined or really put "no" in a big
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sense.
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We even say the word "no", and when in English we say "no" it means "stop" or "I don't like"
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or something negative.
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When you use "I know" in a sentence and it's not used in its most effective manner, it
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tends to stop conversation or make people feel as though you're not listening and they're
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not understood, which makes difficult conversations actually more difficult and go on longer.
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Now, before I say another word, I want to say hello to Prachi and Andrew.
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We met at the McCaul eating area, and you guys were having a conversation and you were
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really graceful and great and allowed me to use some of this lesson on you and help me
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fix this lesson up, so I greatly appreciate that.
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And this English saves conflict resolution.
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I want to use a quote from Theodore Roosevelt.
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He's a former American president.
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Most of you won't know who he is because he's been dead a long time.
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One of their better presidents, and he had a quote that I really like that kind of helps
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with this lesson.
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Theodore said, "Nobody cares how much you know until they know how much you care".
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I want to change that last statement of "care" to "understand".
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Once people understand that you have an interest in what you're saying, then they know that
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you care.
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And, funny enough, "understand" is one of the words we're going to use instead of "know"
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in order to create greater communication skills.
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Now that you know why we're doing the lesson:
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* To further your communication *
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* Make sure you're understood *
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* Let people know you understand them *
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Why don't we get to the lesson, right?
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Now, the best way to go about this is to look at what does "know" mean?
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It's a short form of "knowledge", it's a verb, which is nice, but what it really means is
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to know something means you know something through information, observation, or inquiry.
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Inquiry means to ask questions.
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If you ask a question, then you'll get to know something, alright?
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"Why is the sky blue?"
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Blah blah blah blah, I will tell you, now you know.
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Observation, now you watch.
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You see two bunnies running across the grass, it's springtime, one bunny jumps atop the
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other bunny, they're playing, you know why they're doing that, alright?
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And information; you read something or you watch a video or a YouTube video and you learn.
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Now, that's knowing something.
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But if you notice something, when we talk about knowing in this particular case, knowing
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is not actually talking about understanding.
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Although people confuse these two words, they don't really appreciate how those two words
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can affect a conversation.
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I'm going to borrow a cell phone for a second, and I want to show you something.
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All of you have used cell phones before, and you know how to use them.
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I know you do, right?
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I say to text me "blah blah blah" send me this "blah blah blah".
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Now, what happens if I took this cell phone, I took it apart to all the smallest parts
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and laid them on the floor, okay?
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And I said to you "Put them together".
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Could you do that?
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No.
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So you know how to use the technology, but you don't understand how it works to put it
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back together again.
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And that's the power of the words that I'm going to give you now.
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That'll give you that power of putting it back together and even creating something
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new out of it and creating greater communication skills.
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So, let's start over here.
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I said stop saying "I know".
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I give you five phrases to improve the communication, so let's talk about number one: "recognize".
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Right in the middle of "cog" means "thinking".
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"Cognition", thinking, and recognize means to go back and to think.
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The meaning of "recognize" here is to acknowledge a truth, existence, or validity of something.
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That's a lot of noise and movement.
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It's to say I notice what you said and what you said had some truth to it.
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Notice I didn't say "I know", I said "I noticed".
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I could say "I know what you said, and when you said it to me, there was some truth that
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I have to say is true".
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When something's valid, we say there's truth to it and acknowledge saying "I'm going to
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say this is true".
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So, that's more than I know.
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When you say - if I say to you "It's raining outside" and you go "I know" and I might say
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that I recognize that the weather is bad, not only do I have this knowledge, I'm saying
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there's validity to what you're saying, alright?
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Cause it's not just "it's raining", you're saying the weather is bad, there's a bit more
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to it.
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And on that, I'm going to come back when I talk about understanding intent.
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The second, and this is different than "I know", but it's "from my perspective".
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When you say "from my perspective", it is to give your opinion and attitude on a subject,
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but "spec" meaning "to look at", you're actually saying "I see this".
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I see what you're saying because I'm aware of what you're saying.
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In other words, I know what you're saying, and I see from this knowledge of knowing what
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you are saying to me.
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That was nice, right, from this knowledge of knowing, I have an opinion on that.
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So, I have the same knowledge you have, but the way I interpret it, the way I feel about
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it, the way I see it is different than you.
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So that is acknowledging the person saying I know it, got it, okay, cool, but I see it
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in a different way.
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For instance, I'm standing here.
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And when I'm standing here, they're different positions, although we're in the same room,
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cool.
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So, you can use that one.
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So, "From my perspective, that's an interesting point" means I know what you're talking about
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and I like it.
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"Appreciate".
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Appreciate is an interesting word, because by itself, I always think "appreciate" means
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"to be thankful", to say thanks for something.
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"I appreciate you helping me", I'm really -- I'm thankful for it.
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When I look at appreciate and we use it instead of "I know", it's saying I recognize the implications
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and true value of the subject.
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An example of this would be if someone says to you "Hey look, if you don't get enough
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sleep tonight, you won't be able to catch the train in the morning because it's really
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early."
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And I might say instead of "Oh, I know", I go "I appreciate you telling me that".
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It means "thank you" because there are implications if I don't get up, I will miss my train, and
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there's a value to you telling me that because getting the train is important to me.
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While "I know" just means "I have the information, I have the knowledge" but it shows no value
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in saying "thank you for doing that for me".
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So, you notice a lot of times if you say "Oh, I appreciate you saying that", people will
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step back and give you some room because you're saying "thank you", so they know "Oh, you
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heard me and you like - not like, but are thankful for me saying it".
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You may have to go on and say something different, but they will appreciate that you took the
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time to listen instead of saying "I know".
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"Understand".
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Now, I started off over here talking about understand and I said it was an important
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one.
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The difference, as I showed you with the cell phone, between "understand" and "know", when
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you know something you have the information.
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When you understand, here's what's important - you perceive the intended meaning.
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Now, I used the difference between being able to put a cell phone together and knowing how
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to use one, okay?
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When people are speaking to you, sometimes they're trying to say more than the words
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they give you and saying "I know" doesn't show that you actually have paid attention
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and you got the message they were really trying to get to you.
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An example would be when someone says - if you said, "Look, if you keep being late, it's
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not great.
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You might end up losing your job", you say "I understand" versus "I know".
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"I know" means "of course", that's what happens, you keep telling me I'm late, I lose my job.
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"I understand" means "Okay, you're giving me an opportunity, you hope I recognize what
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I'm doing is incorrect right now and you hope I change my behavior".
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Whoa, where did that come from?
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Well, that's what understand means.
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It means I heard you, I'm taking some information in, I know what you're intending to say to
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me and I'm not getting fired yet, but it's a possibility if the behavior doesn't change.
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"I know", saying "I know" in this case means I'm aware of the situation, I know your part,
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my part, or your position, my position, but it doesn't give us any room of, like, I understand
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where you're coming from, because it's saying something like "You're always late and if
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you continue you might lose your job", you're saying you're actually kind of concerned about
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me losing my job, and saying "I know" kind of doesn't give back that emotional bond.
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And this is what I was talking about with communication.
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You can say anything you like and you don't even have to take this lesson at all.
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You can say "Yeah whatever, I know is good enough", but by varying your speech, you'll
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notice that you're giving back not only information "I understand what you're saying and I was
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listening to you", alright, but also "I care", or in some cases "Thank you for saying it",
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or "I heard what you said but I see it differently, "I recognize some of what you say is true."
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Alright, and this is changing it, and it shows the mastery - your mastery of my language,
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of the English language, cool?
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So, understand is very good one, "I understand", because it means I do know what you're saying
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and there's even more, I'm getting more out of it, what you're trying to give me, and
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that is your intended meaning.
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Perceive is to see.
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Now, I said perceive is "to see".
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Funny enough, number five: I see.
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This is a really good one, because it's similar to the rest and "I see" doesn't seem to be
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"I know it all", like, they're not even related.
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More on that in a second.
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I actually had a friend who told me a few weeks ago he had a situation where he was
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going to look at an apartment and he really wanted the landlord to know he was serious
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about taking the apartment.
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Now, when the landlord was showing him the fuse box or this little electric thing, it
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wasn't a big deal, he said "Oh I know" and all this stuff, he never said that.
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He said, on purpose, "I see, I see", hm.
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Smart guy.
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He could have said "I know" and probably would have gone off, you know, gone along with it,
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but he knew the landlord might not like it or perceive him as arrogant or talking down,
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but his saying "I see" was a way for him to say "I'm listening to you.
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I'm really paying attention.
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I'm taking this information in, and thank you, I got it".
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I see - to show you are paying attention and understanding.
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He knew that.
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Now, most of you when I said "I know, I know" and you're saying "I'm smart, I get it", but
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you want the person to know you're actually listening and paying attention, "I see" is
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good.
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And even the way we say it, we go "I see, I see", we slow it down.
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"I see... yeah...
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I see... yeah, I see".
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And all of the sudden, magically, "I know" becomes "I see" and the person is like "You
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really listened very well" versus "I know, mmhmm, I know" because even when I say it
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like this [slower] "I know" means I have a better idea or another idea versus "I see".
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All the same tonality, but one is I'm taking in what you're saying, you're important, I
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need to understand you, versus everything I do is more important, cool?
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Okay.
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So now that I've taught you why we're doing this, and we've talked about - I gave you
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some things about a change in grammar and form.
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Oh, and before I go there, I want to talk about another way of saying "I know", which
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is what is what we call colloquial, the common people use it, and it's not to say "I know"
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but it's to change it up so you're not just saying words, you have some phrases.
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That was part of the deal when I said how we're going to change it, I will teach you
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phrases.
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Here are some phrases.
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What's interesting about these phrases is that they follow the kinesthetic, auditory,
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and visual models.
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That's right, I was ready for you to go "What is he talking about?
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I don't know, he just went crazy!
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Brain does not work!"
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Okay, auditory - sound, audio.
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Visual - to see.
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And kinesthetic, that nice long word, is just movement, body movement, though I don't rock
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like I used to, okay.
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Now, not everybody - we actually speak and we learn in three different modes.
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I've done a couple of videos where I've mentioned them before, some of the best ways of learning
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and how you can use the auditory, visual, and kinesthetic way to improve your learning
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of English or any subject for that matter, but we also speak in this way.
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Not all the time, but depending on how a person is thinking, they may use one of these models
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to explain what's going on or the thought process in their head at this time.
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And one of the best ways to communicate you're listening and understand them is to what I
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call "copy" that model.
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If someone says something like "That looks good", you can say "I see what you mean".
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I'm using "look" and "see" which are similar verbs to show that I'm thinking the same way
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you are, and it shows a connection.
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It enhances or helps the communication get better, cool?
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So, these three phrases are in different ways of communicating your thought pattern to people
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in the audio, visual, or kinesthetic model, cool?
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I know, I got all schoolsy there, oh, I got goosebumps.
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So, the first one is "I hear what you're saying", alright.
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It's like "I know", "Yeah, I get it", "I hear what you're saying", "I have the knowledge
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you're giving me now".
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Remember we talked about how you get information?
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Someone gives you information, you can say "I know".
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Well you can say "I hear what you're saying".
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I'm receiving the information, and that is auditory.
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The next one we can use, which is visual, is "I get the picture".
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I see a picture in my head of what you mean, so now I know.
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If someone says "I want a red sweater with a hood" "Okay, I get the picture".
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I can see it in my head, okay.
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And you can say "I see what you mean", alright, "I see what you mean".
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And that's visual.
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The last one is "I catch your drift".
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Remember when I told you about new vocabulary?
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Here it comes, son!
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Drift is a movement, but when you're drifting, you're not going in a straight direction,
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like this is direct.
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If you're drifting, you're kind of going this way and that way.
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A good example is me through high school, I drifted through there.
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It wasn't straight like this, it was like grade 9... grade 10... grade 11... not direct
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route, okay?
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If that doesn't help you, sometimes when they're falling asleep when they're driving, the car's
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going, woo, it's drifting.
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It's going in a direction, but it's going kind of a little off, so it's movement.
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Drift is a movement, not a direct movement, it's like a subtle, soft movement.
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So, when someone says "I catch your drift", it means you're giving me something and you're
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giving me an idea and I'm like "Okay, I've got it.
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I've got that information now".
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So, I catch your drift.
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I catch what you're saying, cool?
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So, these are for the auditory, visual, and the kinesthetic.
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So, you've got three phrases, you've got another two, I guess, we've got one new phrase and
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four new words for "I know".
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So, I think if we've learned enough we always do the quiz, so I think it's time for us to
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see, and I know you see what I'm going to get at, right?
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Quiz time, are you ready?
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Let's go!
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Okay, it is quiz time, and I know you're looking forward to it, right?
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And I don't blame you.
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There's something really exciting about getting knowledge, yeah?
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So, let's go to the board and take - I want to do a quick quiz and then I want to talk
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about where we can use or apply this knowledge.
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Sometimes, I think we miss this in the videos where we teach you these things, we say "here
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you go, great!" and then we forget to say "You know what, it's best to use this when
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you're doing this...", okay?
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So, let's go over here.
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The first one I want to look at is "I don't like the sound of that".
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Now, when I gave you an example and we were talking about speaking to people for better
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communication, this is a question that's going to reveal if you understand what would be
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the best way, because they're quite similar, so let's look at "I don't like the sound of
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that".
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Which one should you - or which one is the best one to use, the best response to use
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to show that you understand them?
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* I hear what you are you saying? *
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or
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* I appreciate what you are saying.
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* Good.
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You thought about it and you looked at the key difference, or you looked at something
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that we talked about: auditory learning.
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And here we're talking about sound and hearing.
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So, although they say - you know, I appreciate is like "Thank you, thanks for saying that,
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giving me the information", it sounds so great, but hold on a second, if you really want to
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hit it on the head, you want to get it as close as you can, "hear" and "sound" are talking
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about auditory way of communicating, and that would be the best one to use, even though
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both could be appropriate, this would be the best one.
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See, this quiz isn't about knowing whether to say "appreciate" or "see" or what have
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you, it's how well you understand it, alright?
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So, we get to the best communication we can, the best level of communication.
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What about the next one?
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"What I'm telling you could get a lot of people hurt if this information is used incorrectly."
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What is the best answer here?
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Once again, both work, because I know some of you right now when you see:
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* I understand.
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* and
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* I see.
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* go "Look, 'I understand' works and 'I see'
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works!".
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Yes, but in the lesson I gave you specific reasons why you might want to change and might
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want to use one over the other.
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I want to see if you caught that and think which it might be.
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Okay, people getting hurt.
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If you were going to get hurt, would you want someone to listen very carefully to why you
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might get hurt?
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Probably so, right?
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You'd be like "I hope you understand.
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Listen to me carefully and understand".
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"I understand" is part of it.
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"I understand" means I understand.
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"I see" means "I'm listening very carefully and I understand".
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That deepens your communication skills or your listening skills.
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Do you remember what I said at the beginning of the video that we're going to be working
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on listening skills, and it's like "Well how, we're using the word 'I know'".
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You have to listen well to give the right answer back to the person listening.
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"I see" is the correct one here simply because you're saying not only do I understand, of
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course, but I'm listening very carefully right now and to any further information you might
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give me, because a lot of people might get hurt.
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This is important stuff.
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It's not enough to understand, cool?
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Alright.
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Because I know a lot of people go "They're similar!"
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I know, but it's the little differences that make the big difference in being understood
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by other people and people go "Oh okay, you're listening, cool, we can have a real conversation".
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Now, this one.
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"I __________ what you're saying has some merit."
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Merit means value, so we're saying value or some truth to it, alright?
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So, which one would be the best one to say?
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"I recognize", or "I know"?
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* recognize *
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* know *
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Yeah, you remember when I talked about using recognize, we talked about something being
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valid, or having validity, right?
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So, you saying "I know" is kind of okay, but "recognize" is adding like, almost doubling
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it, like I recognize the merit.
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I see the value of what you're saying and I know it's got some truth to it.
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That's why we'd use this one, so A's the best answer here.
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You could say "I know", but once again, it's showing a limited understanding of the English
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language.
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You learn one word and use it like a multitool, they have little pegs, you get like a knife,
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you get a screwdriver, sometimes a little gun, oh there's no gun in a multitool, you
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wish!
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But instead of using it like that, you're like "Hey, you know what, I've got tools in
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my pocket, and I want to start using them to show that I'm an intelligent individual
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who is adaptable and can use different words or vocabulary or phrases in the appropriate
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situation instead of using the same one over and over like a robot", and we know you're
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not a robot, because we made you do that test before you watched the video.
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Alright.
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Finally, "I have _________ her for 5 years.
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She is a good woman."
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Would we say I have
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* seen *
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* known* *
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(Hint hint: asterisk).
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I'll give you a second to figure it out.
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Alright, some of you were like well look, a couple of things are going on.
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James is saying don't use "know", that's the new word, we've got new words.
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And "seen" is the a present perfect being used properly, both of them are.
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But hold on a second.
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I didn't talk about "known".
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Knowledge, remember, we talked about is information, inquiry, right, that's how you get it, or
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observation.
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Well, another meaning for to know someone is to have a relationship with them.
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So, if I have known Mr. E for ten years, it means we have a relationship.
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We talk to each other, we hang out or whatever, we have some kind of connection.
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It's not just having information on that person or observing them or asking questions, there's
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a relationship.
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And I do this because sometimes when people learn some new information, they throw all
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the old information out.
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In English we have an idiom, it's called "throwing the baby out with the bathwater".
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You never want to do that!
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You wash your baby, she's clean, the last thing you want to do is take the dirty water
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and the baby and go "Okay, out we go!".
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No, you want to keep the baby, maybe get rid of some of the stuff that wasn't necessary.
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And in this case, I want to come back to known saying sometimes the best word to word is
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"know" or "known", especially if we're talking about relationships.
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So, in this case, I have known her for five years.
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We have had a relationship for five years.
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And that's how I know she is a good woman, it's not just observation, it's through our
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relationship.
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To say I have seen her is correct grammar, yes, but not the correct meaning, and this
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is what this whole lesson was about, improving your communication skills, your understanding
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of English, and you being able to be understood and having people understand you.
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And I know you did a good job on this quiz, so I know that you have passed with flying
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colors.
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See, I said "I know" through observation, right?
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Now, as always, we have our bonus section because now you've learned the main lesson.
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What's the opposite of "I know"?
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"I don't know", or "I didn't know".
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So we'll learn the positive and the negative so you don't keep saying "I don't know" "I
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don't know", you can say different things.
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One thing we say instead of saying "I don't know" is "I misread it".
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Now, can I tell you something funny about all these things here?
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I'm going to read them and then explain them.
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Misread, misunderstood, mixed up, confused.
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It's funny, when I know something is very direct, "I know, I know!".
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But when we don't know something, it's like "I was confused!
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It's not my fault!
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I was mixed up, I was in the wrong direction, I misread it, I mean, I thought I knew but..."
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see, it's never our fault.
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So, when we don't know something; "It's not my fault, man, it's not my fault, I misread
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the situation".
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But when I get it right it's "I know, I knew, I have known!
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Hahaha", puff our chest out.
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Just this little aside, because you'll notice like "mis, mis, mis" mixed up, confused, it's
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all like "the air did it", "a birdie did it", "It wasn't me, it was not my fault", but knowing
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has the arrogance of "yes, yes, me know right, me always good" alright?
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Just getting that out there.
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English is a very funny language.
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Pay attention, you'll laugh like me.
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So, to misread something.
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You know what to read means.
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To misread it means you read it but you maybe made a mistake, so instead of seeing "an"
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you saw "and" or you saw "and" by mistake you said "Oh, I thought it was the chicken
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and steak, I didn't know it was chicken or steak, I misread it", okay.
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It means to judge or interpret something incorrectly.
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So, you're looking at it and maybe you think "Um I'm two feet away" and you jump and say
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"Oh, I was three feet away.
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I misread it."
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Made a small mistake, okay?
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So I didn't know.
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"Misunderstood" is an incorrect judgement.
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They are very similar, but the whole point of this lesson is not to teach you one thing
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and teach you they're all the same thing.
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We want to be able to change up our language, okay.
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So, I misunderstood you.
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Misreading is like "I see it, I look at it, I make a wrong judgement".
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Misunderstood was when I had one idea and I thought you meant this but that's not what
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you meant.
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I misunderstood you.
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So, I had this idea I had in my head, I judged it, I got the information wrong in my head,
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so I misunderstood you, alright?
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Now, that's an incorrect judgement.
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"Mix something up" is to be confused.
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So, if you mix something up, let me give you an example.
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I have three markers, okay.
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I put them down and I want to keep the blue marker in my hand, but because I got blue
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and black and I wasn't paying attention and I switched them because they were in my hand
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like this, I switched it like this, I wanted to keep the blue but I put the blue down by
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accident because I mixed them up.
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Oh, I mixed them up and I wanted the other one.
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Here's a great example.
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Mr. E and I are going out for drinks.
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This one is gin and this one is vodka.
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Gin and vodka look almost exactly the same by the way.
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They are both white liquids of alcohol.
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Now this one's gin, this one's vodka.
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Mr. E loves his vodka and I only love gin.
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But, by accident, I put the glasses down, I turn around, I come back, and I give him...
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you noticed they're in the wrong place?
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Well, I've mixed them up, I changed their position.
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So, they're both still valid but I've moved them and put them in the wrong place.
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And that's why when we say you've mixed something up, in my head, I mixed it up.
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I had the information, but I put it in the wrong place so I got the wrong answer.
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Similar thinking to this is "confused".
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When I'm confused about something, I have information but I don't really understand
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it.
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My thinking on it is not clear, I couldn't make a picture in my mind to really understand
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what I was looking at to know it for 100 percent.
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So, sometimes some people say "I got confused when you said this or that" which means similar
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to "mixed up", is to take two things and put them in different places, like I confused
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Johnny with Tommy, alright?
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I mixed them up.
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I confused your meaning.
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I thought you meant this, but you meant this, but I confused it.
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I got the wrong answer, or I was not clear on my thinking on that.
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Cool?
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Alright.
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I've given you bonus, I've given you a test, there's only one more thing I would like you
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to do.
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And I'd like to say this is, like, my thank you to you, because at the end of the videos
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I usually say "thank you" and you go "How does giving me homework say 'thank you'"?
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Well, if you stayed this long and worked this long, you've really wanted to learn and I've
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always wanted to give you a tool you can use afterwards to improve your learning or enhance
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your learning.
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One of the tools is to do homework to give you something to, you know, go deeper, go
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study on your own.
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Another one is to get you involved with a community of people who are also studying
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English so that you can exchange information.
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I've seen it happen before, and then people get to grow that way, by getting more people
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interested in the same thing they are.
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And, in this case, this is one of those things right now.
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I've got two statements, so I want you to correct one of these statements in the comments
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and you will receive one million points!
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That's right!
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No cheapness, no one, no one thousand, one million points you will get.
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So, the two comments I have for you, and I want you to look at them carefully.
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In the black, I want you to change, or exchange the thing in the black to one of the things
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I've taught you today.
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Either the top five things you can say instead of "I know", or one of the phrases (hint hint,
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it's not a phrase), or it might be something from the bonus section, okay, the "I don't
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know" statements.
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Now remember, if the person gets it right, you are to give it a thumbs up.
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If they've got it wrong, give it a thumbs down.
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So you're going to get instant information on whether you get your million, ten million,
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fifteen or seventeen million points, alright?
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So the first one is "I am thankful for the information".
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I want you to think about one of the five that I gave you that talks about being thankful,
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alright?
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The second one is "I confused which drink went with whom".
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Whom means "to who", okay?
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So, those are the two statements.
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I want you to think about it now, kind of helped you a little bit, I think you'll do
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a great job.
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Once again, thank you very much for watching our videos.
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I appreciate that you take your time out of a busy day to come watch and learn with us,
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and I love doing this for you.
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Now, if you want to get more videos like this, okay, and do the actual quiz that will go
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a little bit deeper into what we've learned today, I'd like you to go to www.engvid.com
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and do the quizzes there and look at the other teachers that we have available.
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Anyway, you have a brilliant day and I'll see you soon, okay?
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