Managing Sensitive Topics in Small Talk [ACTIVATE THE SUBTITLES]

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Business English with Christina


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- Hi there!
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I am your English coach Christina
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and welcome to Speak English with Christina
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where you'll learn about American culture
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and business know-how
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to become confident in English.
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There're quite a few topics that are
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taboo or frowned upon at work.
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Politics and religion
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are the two most obvious topics.
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Why?
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Because people tend to have strong opinions
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and if either topic comes up
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in conversation at work,
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it can make people feel uneasy.
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Overgeneralizations about a group of people,
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office gossip and complaining
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about job frustrations
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can make people feel awkward or unwelcome.
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Work should be a positive environment
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so everyone can achieve their best
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for the good of one another
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and for the organization, right?
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In this episode, we'll discuss
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some of the things that you can say
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to gently steer the conversation away
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from sensitive subjects at work
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and help make the office environment
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more positive.
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Let's get go!
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(upbeat music)
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(lively music)
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If the conversation is moving
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in a direction that is inappropriate,
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you can simply find a transition
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to a new more neutral topic.
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One way to do this is to change
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the focus of the conversation
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to the person that you're talking to.
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You can ask them about a project at work.
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For example.
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"Ah, before I forget, I enjoyed
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"the presentation that you gave last week.
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"Did you design that Power Point yourself?"
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If you know that this person has a hobby
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that they're passionate about,
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you might ask about that.
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For example.
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"I know that you ran the half-marathon last month.
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"You know, I'm interested in jogging.
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"Can you give me a few tips on how to start?"
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(lively music)
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Who doesn't like to hear something nice
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about themselves?
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You can pay a compliment to the person
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that you're speaking with.
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For example.
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"Carol, I love your earrings.
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"Where did you get them?"
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Or, "Daniel, are those new shoes?
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"They look great!
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"Where did you get them?"
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A compliment and a followup question
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is a great way to change the subject
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of the conversation.
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(lively music)
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A quick way to steer the conversation away
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from a touchy topic is to introduce
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a new person into the conversation,
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and this way you can reset the conversation
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and you have an opportunity
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to move to a new topic fast.
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It's like hitting a pause button
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or saying "Time out!"
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If you don't see anyone that you know nearby,
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you can ask the person that you're talking to
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for an introduction to someone
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that they might know by saying,
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"I've been wanting to meet David.
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"Can you maybe introduce us?"
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(lively music)
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Never underestimate the power of "Yes, but".
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You can easily change the topic
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of a conversation by agreeing
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with the speaker with "yes",
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and then quickly changing direction with "but".
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For example, if the person you are talking with
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is speaking negatively about their colleague
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such as Sue,
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"Sue talks very loud."
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Your response can be "Yes, but she makes
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"wonderful chocolate brownies.
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"Have you ever tried them?"
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And with a simple "Yes, but"
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you've moved the conversation
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away from office gossip
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about someone who talks too loud
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into a crowd-pleasing subject of desserts.
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It's almost unfair,
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sort of like a bribe talking about desserts.
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Yes, but have you tried our brownies?
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(lively music)
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You likely aren't chained to this person.
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If you really want to get out of a conversation,
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you can just say "Excuse me" and leave.
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But if you want to be more polite,
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any excuse will do.
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You need to make a call,
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go to the restroom, get some fresh air outside.
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If you think you might be ready
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to talk again afterwards,
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you can say something like,
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"Excuse me, I have to go to the restroom real quick.
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"I'll be right back."
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Or, "Sorry, I'll be right back.
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"I just need to make a quick call."
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And stepping away from the conversation
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gives a natural break,
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and when you resume talking with this person,
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you can start fresh by introducing
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a new topic, like "Oh, I was thinking.
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"Are you coming to the company picnic
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"this weekend?"
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And if this person is your employee,
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well maybe you can just fire them.
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No, no, no.
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Just kidding, just kidding.
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(lively music)
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Now, what about you?
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Have you ever been in a situation,
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perhaps at work,
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in which you felt uncomfortable
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with what the other person said?
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What strategies have you used
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to manage sensitive topics
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that come up in conversations?
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