Subjects to avoid in British small talk: Sex

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Neil voiceover: I've been working at the BBC
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for a long time now. I've met lots of people.
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And I sometimes bump into them… and make
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small talk. They call it small talk, but that
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doesn't mean it's of little importance.
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Keith: Neil! Hi, how's it going?
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Neil: Keith! How's it going?
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Keith: Yeah, not too bad, thanks. Long time
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no see.
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Neil: Yeah it's been a while, hasn't it? You've
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got kids now.
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Keith: I do, yes. That's why I'm looking so
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old and awful.
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Neil: Tiring, isn't it?
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Keith: It is. It is.
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Neil: So… how's your sex life?
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Keith: Err…
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Neil: You know… your sex life. Is it going
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well?
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Keith: I've got to errm…
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Neil: OK, see you later.
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Neil voiceover: Let's see what our experts
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have to say about that.
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Kee: He obviously asked about his children,
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family. That's a kind of standard thing to
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talk about.
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Sam: Yep.
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Kee: But then sex…
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Sam: Yeah… No!
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Kee: No, no
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Sam/Kee: It's not a standard thing to talk
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about. Especially not at work.
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Kee: Would you ever ask anyone about their
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sex life at work?
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Sam: No, I don't think… no, no. I'm trying
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to think if I would ask even my closest friends.
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Kee: Me too, yeah.
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Sam: I don't think I would.
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Kee: I'm starting to feel uncomfortable talking
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about it now. Sam: I won't ask you that question.
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Kee: Please don't!
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Sam: So, because he had a good start, I was
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a bit surprised that he didn't just carry
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on talking about children or family. That
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seemed to be something they had in common.
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Kee: Yeah, I think he was asking about, like,
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whether it's difficult… he's having difficulty
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raising kids.
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Sam: Yeah
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Kee: And I think he talks about having bags
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under his eyes. Sam: Yeah
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Kee: Lack of sleep
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Sam: Yeah, yeah. There's lots of things you
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can go off… from there.
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Kee: Absolutely. And if you've got your own…
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And if you've kids of your own, you could
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also maybe like give advice, talk about your
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own experiences…
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Sam: Or talk about your own kids. He didn't.
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Neil voiceover: Thanks for the tips, guys.
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I'll try harder next time.
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