Improve your Vocabulary: 29 ways to express anger in English

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Welcome to www.engvid.com , I'm Adam.
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In today's video, I want to talk to you about ways express anger.
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We have many ways to show that you're angry or that someone is angry about whatever situation
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or person.
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And surprisingly, we have a lot of ways to show that we're angry.
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A lot of words we can use, and expressions we can use to show anger.
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We must be very angry people, because we have so many words, but that's what it is.
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So, we're going to start with the every day, simple anger words, which are upset, angry,
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and mad, okay?
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Now, some people will say that "mad" shouldn't be used, because mad means more like, crazy.
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But people use "mad" all the time to mean angry.
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So, it's fine.
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Notice also, we can use different prepositions.
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At, with, or about.
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Now, we can't use all of them with all of these words, right?
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We can be upset about something.
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We can be upset with someone.
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We can be mad at someone or something, but usually just about a person.
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We can be mad about something, but we can be angry at, with, or about.
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Now, what's the difference between them?
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Let's say we're going to go with angry.
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If you're angry at something, it means you're basically directing your anger towards that
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thing or that person, right?
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So, I'm angry at the president for the bad choices he's made, for example.
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You're angry with someone, it shows a little bit more of a personal relationship.
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You know this person.
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Maybe it's a friend who did something bad, or a coworker, so you're angry with this person.
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It has a bit more of that close connection.
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And if you're angry about something, then that something is just a cause for your anger.
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You have no relationship with this thing.
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So, you're angry about the government's decision to change their policy about whatever.
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Nothing you can do about it.
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Nobody you can be angry at, so you're just angry about the situation.
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You're angry at the government.
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You're angry about their decision, and you're angry with your local politician who you voted
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for, okay?
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Because maybe you have a bit more of a direct connection with that person.
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So, these are the every day words that we use.
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Now, if you want to show that you're very angry, you have lots of words and expressions
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to use to do that, okay?
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It's a very creative language when it comes to anger.
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So, first of all, you can be pissed off, okay?
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That just basically means you're very angry.
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But some people think that "pissed off" is a bit of a rude word, almost like a swear
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word, so they will use "ticked off".
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Ticked off and pissed off mean the same thing.
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Ticked off is a little bit more polite, a little bit more gentle than pissed off.
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Now, you can be mad as hell, so this is more of a - gives you a bit of an imagery idea.
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Hell is a very angry place, very hot and the devil lives there, so very angry.
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So, you're mad as hell.
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And people sometimes say "madder n' hell", madder than hell.
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So mad as hell.
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Hell, your anger, same.
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If you're madder than hell, you're even more angry than hell itself, okay?
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And we use the - reduce the "than" to just "n".
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Madder n' hell, madder n' hell.
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Now, and idiom we use is "seeing red".
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If you're so angry you don't see anything except red, that's how angry you are, because
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all the blood is rushing to your head.
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You don't see anything but red, okay?
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Now, we have other words, adjectives.
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Furious, livid, incensed, and enraged.
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Now, keep in mind, if you're going to use any of these words, these are very, very strong
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emotions, okay?
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If you're angry that your little brother took your ice cream, you're probably not going
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to be livid, okay?
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You're just going to be mad, you're going be angry, you're going to be upset.
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If you're livid, it's like that's all that's occupying your mind.
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You're like shaking almost, right?
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Which will come to the next set of expressions, but very, very strong words.
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Be very careful about using them, because you're expressing a very strong emotion and
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some people might get the wrong meaning from that as well.
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So, if you're livid, furious, or incensed, you might even have a fit.
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When you have a fit, you're so angry that you're shaking.
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So, that shaking is a fit, okay?
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It's not fit like you go to the gym and you're fit and you have a good shaped body.
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Fit means like, shaking.
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It's a convulsion, if you want another word.
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You can't control your body; it's just shaking from anger.
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If you're throwing a tantrum, usually we say this about children.
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Children throw a tantrum.
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So, you go to the mall and you see like, a child, maybe four or five years old and he
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says to his parents, "Oh, I want an ice cream."
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And they say, "No, you can't have any."
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And he starts screaming and he lies down on the ground and arms and legs kicking everyone.
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That's throwing a tantrum, okay?
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Again, usually for kids.
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If you're saying it about an adult, that adult has some problems and maybe is acting very
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childish.
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So, go ballistic, and usually you go ballistic on someone.
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So, some of you might recognize this word "ballistic" from ballistic missile, right?
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So, a missile explodes.
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So, if you go ballistic on someone, you just blow up, okay?
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Same idea, you blow up on them, you lose control, you start yelling and shouting and sometimes
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you can get a bit violent, but it happens.
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Try not to do it.
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But, that's a very good expression and saying "blow up" on someone.
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So, the most common situation you'll hear that is in a company.
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The boss went ballistic on his staff.
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He started yelling at people, maybe he fired some people, maybe demoted some people.
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He went a little bit crazy.
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Now, similar to "seeing red" is to be in a blind rage.
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Rage basically means anger.
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It's a noun.
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If you're in a blind rage, you're so angry that you can't see anything except the object
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of your anger, okay?
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If you're in a blind rage, there's that thing that's making you angry and nothing else exists.
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You're blind to anything else except that thing.
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You want, maybe, to blow up on that thing or that person.
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Now, we can also say that something is an outrage or an action is an outrage.
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So, notice that it's "an", so this is a noun.
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Enraged, that's your emotion, that's an adjective, and outrage is a noun.
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Now, usually you'll hear this on the news, you'll hear politicians using this word.
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Somebody on the other - on the opposition did something that the other guys thought
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was not correct, and this - oh, this is an outrage!
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This is making us angry because this shouldn't happen, right?
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There's something very, very bad.
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But, all of these words are, again, you're going to hear them on a daily basis, okay?
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Different ones.
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You have your choice of which ones to use.
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But you have to be very careful, especially in business.
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Especially if you're in school.
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If you have some sort of relationship with someone, you might not want to use any of
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these words, because again, they might give the wrong impression to someone.
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If you're telling someone, "Oh, what was his reaction to this situation?"
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"Oh, he was livid."
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But maybe you don't want to express such strong emotions.
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You want to use a little bit more subdued, a little bit more gentle words, but still
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give the idea that the person is angry, then you're going to use some diplomatic words.
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Let's look at some of those.
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Okay, so now, we're going to look at some softer ways to show, let's say, to talk about
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someone being angry.
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And here, I wrote "diplomatic".
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Now, a lot of you think of diplomats or diplomatic being like, politicians from different countries
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working together, trying to negotiate deals or whatnot.
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But, being diplomatic basically means getting to a point where you can have - establish
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a good relationship with other people, right?
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And in this case, in language, we just basically mean it's polite, right?
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Because you don't want to offend someone.
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So, let's say I have two friends and they're very angry with each other and I'm the go-between.
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One person, oh, tell her this, tell her that.
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And I'm between, passing along messages.
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So, if she says, "Yeah, I'm furious with her", and I want to make them friends again, I'm
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not going to go tell this other person "Yeah, she's furious".
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What I'm going to say is, "Well, you know, she's a little bit displeased with what you
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did."
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So, I'm softening it, but just enough so the other person knows there's anger, but it's
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not crazy anger and doesn't make her angry even more, okay?
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I hope that's a little bit clear.
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So, instead of saying, "She's furious", I would say, "She's a little bit displeased".
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Displeased means, again, not pleased.
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You have the dis- here, and the dis- here.
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Basically means not.
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Not pleased means she's not happy about something you did.
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It suggests angry without expressing anger and therefore making the situation worse.
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And the same with disappointed.
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If you're disappointed with someone, you're a little bit upset by what happened and you
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expect better.
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This is a word that parents often use with their kids.
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So, for example, if my parents told me, "We're very disappointed with you."
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That sometimes is actually worse than saying, "Oh, I'm angry with you".
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I'd rather just be angry.
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If you're disappointed, it means I've done something even worse than what I did, right?
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But it's softer, but it gets the point across.
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Now, you can say "somewhat".
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You can say, "Oh, she's somewhat disappointed with you".
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She's somewhat angry, she's somewhat upset.
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This somewhat means a little bit, but not really.
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If someone says, "She's somewhat angry", it means she's angry, or he's angry or whatever
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the situation.
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But you will hear this as a way to soften but still express the anger.
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Okay?
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Not very happy.
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Not very pleased.
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Not very thrilled, or not too happy.
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So, the boss is not too happy with your performance this month.
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It doesn't mean that he's - I'm happy.
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It means he's a little bit angry.
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He wants you to do better, right?
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So again, without saying the boss is angry, it makes you feel bad, well, you know, the
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boss is not too happy with this sales performance.
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Could you try to pick it up a little bit?
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So understand that the boss is upset, but giving you a chance to fix the situation.
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So, not too happy, not too pleased, not too thrilled, or not very, etc.
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We also have an idiom.
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If somebody comes into the office and he or she is like, you know a little bit angry at
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everybody and snapping and saying things like, a little bit not nicely, we could say that
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he or she got up on the wrong side of the bed.
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So, if somebody says to you, "Did you get up on the wrong side of the bed today?"
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It means that you're acting a little bit angerly, a little bit not nicely, and they're just
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saying you seem angry.
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So, somebody got up on the wrong side of the bed, they're not having a very good day.
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They're probably a little cranky.
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So, for example.
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I'll take myself as an example.
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I like to eat.
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If I don't eat for a long time, I get very cranky.
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So, if you talk to me and I haven't eaten for a long time, I might be a little bit rude.
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I might be a little bit angry with you.
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I'm not angry with you, I'm angry at the fact that my stomach is empty, but I'm a little
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bit cranky or a little bit grumpy, okay?
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So, another thing about me, I'm not a morning person.
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I'm a night person.
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I go to sleep late; I don't like to wake up early in the morning.
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So, if I have to wake up early in the morning, don't talk to me.
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I'm very grumpy in the morning.
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I'm not very nice in the morning, okay?
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So, make sure you wait until like, 11:00.
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By 11:00, I'm okay.
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So, these are, you know, soft words, but they still convey the meaning of anger.
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Now, it's very important to have an understanding of diplomatic language, okay?
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And I'm going to make another video just about diplomatic language, because it's useful in
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many situations, especially business, with your coworkers, with people you have relationships
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with.
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Sometimes, you have to be very careful with the words you use.
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If you don't want to offend someone, if you don't want to make a situation worse than
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it already is, you're going to soften your language, and I'll show you in that video
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how to do that.
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So, make sure you subscribe to my channel and check back once in awhile until you see
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that video.
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can take.
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See you then.
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Bye!
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