Personal Things You Wanted To Know About Me | Hadar Shemesh| Q&A

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Hey there, it's Hadar. And today we have a slightly different video because today I will
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be answering personal questions that you asked me. So a few days ago I posted a question,
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uh, what are the 10 things you'd like to know about me, 10 personal questions. And I got
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like a billion questions about different aspects of life and business.
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And I was so humbled and thrilled to talk about these things and kind of like... unveil
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my, my life cause I feel that I'm so connected to you, but maybe you don't know a lot of
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things about me and about my life. So I decided to be more open and to share more things with
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you. And that's it. Here we go. So let's begin with the basics.
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"Where are you from?" I was born and raised in Israel. I grew up in Petah Tikva, and now
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I live in Tel Aviv. I haven't lived abroad for over 15 years.
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"How many languages do you speak?" Okay, so I speak Hebrew, of course, English, and then
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I speak Italian, Japanese, German, French, of course, Arabic, Russian, and little bit
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of Brazilian Portuguese. No, I'm kidding. I just speak English.
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A lot of you have asked me about my family, if I have a family or to tell you a little
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bit about it. So yes, I have a beautiful family. I live with my partner, his name is Gil. We've
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been together for eight years. We are not officially married, but we are bound to each
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other. We have two beautiful daughters. The eldest one is Amalia. She's six years old,
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and we have Asia, is three and a half years old.
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Isis wanted to know how I met my husband/partner. So actually it's a really interesting story.
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So we met exactly eight years ago during the social protest in Israel. It followed The
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Arab Spring and Occupy Wall Street. So here as well, we had weekly demonstrations, fighting
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for social justice, and are resenting the crazy housing situation.
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And what we did is we actually lived in tents in the middle of the city. And yes, I had
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my own tent, and we would protest and actually sit every evening. And then a bunch of us
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got together and we wanted to do something more, something to, uh, show the injustice
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that is happening in the city. And we discovered that there are a lot of
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apartments or buildings owned by the municipality that are completely deserted. And we wanted
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to raise awareness around that. So we created a group, an action group, and in that group
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I met Gil, who is now my partner. Now, it's a fun story, so I'm going to tell
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you about what we've done. And we actually found this incredible, huge building. Like,
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you had to like, it would take you 20 minutes to just walk through the entire building in
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the middle of the city in one of the most expensive areas. And what we did is we found
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our way in, we cleaned up the house and we like, there was one event, we planned it out.
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We said, "Okay, there is a secret action going on. There was a secret event going on, a meet
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us at 8:00 PM on this and that date". And we picked up like thousands of people from
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around the city. And, uh, we had like a few meeting points of hundreds of people from
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around the city and we led them into that building.
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And it was like magical, like, like the, at that moment we felt like, you know, we are
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really taking our destiny in our hands. And people connected. And we declared it as a
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liberated building, and the news was there. And we were, kind of like, we were in euphoria.
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And then at 4:00 AM the police came in and we said, "No, we're not going to move from
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here. They're going to have to evacuate us". And then, you know, they just talked to one
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of the people and we're like, "Oh, okay, so let's go".
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So that was kind of lame, but it was a lot of fun. And actually, a few years later, the
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municipality has turned it into, um, a public building for the people. They created a bunch
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of kindergartens there, after school programs, and it's like, it's really beautiful. And
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we are very proud, I have to say. And that's how we met. So next time you're debating whether
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or not you should go to this or that protest, I say 'go' because you never know where it's
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going to take you. Lulu is asking, "So, which things make you
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crazy to the point of screaming - people chewing gum, people being rude, coming home to a messy
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house?" Okay. Yes, definitely, coming home to a messy house, ask Gil. And um, especially
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like dishes in the sink and like filthy food. I'm not the cleanest and the most organized
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person I have to say, but coming home after a long day like that can drive me crazy.
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Also, people being rude on the road. I mean, in Israel, you'll find a lot of them. Also,
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I think injustice drives me crazy. I actually got into a fist fight once. I mean, you see
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me all cool and chill, but I have a short temper when it comes to being rude or aggressive,
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or uh, or to injustice. And I remember when I was a bartender in New
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York, I was like, it was like 3:00 AM and we were at the bar, and someone just walked
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in and started being really aggressive with one of the women. And I walked out of the
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bar and I actually kicked him out with my hands and I pushed him out, uh, away from
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her. And I think he punched me. So a lot of you have asked me about my hair.
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What products do I use? What do I do with it? And, uh, how did I inherit it? So yes,
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I was blessed with thick, middle Eastern hair. My grandma is from Tripoli, and she had this
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really thick, dark, long hair. I, as I remember, and my grandma on my dad's
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side, is from Iraq. And she also had this like beautiful long hair when she was young.
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And that's it. Like I got there, great genes. And the secret is that I only wash it twice
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a week and I rarely brush my hair. And if I do, it's just before I go to bed. Otherwise
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it would look like this. And um, and yeah, that's it.
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Now, a few people also asked me about, um, the fact that I quit acting. And, um, if,
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and if I miss it. So the answer is, uh, in the first few years after I stopped acting,
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I definitely missed it and I felt like it was a huge loss.
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Um, I felt like I was not fulfilling my dream, I was not fulfilling my calling. It had been
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my dream for, you know, like for 10 years, between the age of 20, even before that. And,
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uh, until I hit 30, uh, and when I moved back to Israel.
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So, uh, now I don't miss it cause I feel that the reason why I wanted to pursue acting is
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I wanted to connect and to, uh, be in front of people, and to get them to feel and to
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think and to experience something. And I think that I was able to find this.
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This is my niche of doing what I love and being passionate about what I love. Uh, and
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still finding that space of standing in front of people and, uh, getting them to feel and
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to experience something with me. So I think that it wasn't the need to be an actress or
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famous. It was the need to communicate and to, to feel the people that are in front of me.
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And, uh, I have been doing that. And also I've been coaching a lot of actors.
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And I think working on texts with them, uh, has really, uh, fulfilled the place of working
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with language. And I do work with and like, and as an actress, I loved working with language
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and dissecting sounds and words, and understanding the emotional baggage each word has. And I
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think I still do that, but slightly differently from a different angle.
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So I think that passion was, uh, accomplished. To say that I don't miss it that I don't feel
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like working on a role or a character. I would like to say that I don't, but I don't have
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time for it right now in my life. And if I had to choose between what I do now or to
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have a a career as a successful actress, I would, hands down, choose what I'm doing right now.
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So I guess the answer is no. Mishelle is asking, "How do you manage your
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day-to-day tasks and increase your productivity?" Actually, that's a great question. I'm obsessed
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with productivity methods and techniques. I read a lot of books about that. Not only
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because I want to improve the quality of my life, but also I incorporate that in my training,
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and as a in in the way I teach English, because I feel like you have to be very productive
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about how you learn English, especially these days.
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So first of all, I, I don't have a lot of distractions in my life, so I don't have a
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TV, I don't watch television, I don't watch shows. I rarely do. Um, I, you know, I, I
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only consume... I try to stay off social media, even though it's hard. I mean, that's my weakness,
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I guess. And it's hard cause that's where my community is. That's where I work and live
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and create content. So, but I try to stop myself if I see that
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whatever I'm doing is not super productive or is not getting me somewhere, I'm just like
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scrolling up and down. Um, I say 'no' to a lot of things, even exciting things. Uh, even
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things that are very profitable. Because I feel like when I say yes to things
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that are not taking in the direction of where I want to go, then I'm basically saying no
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to other things. Like, uh, creating more content or developing my other programs. Uh, so I
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really try to be careful with what I say 'yes' to.
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And my task list is usually huge, but every day I try to decide on my main three things,
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and I try to accomplish them. And actually that has worked for me. When I do it, when
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I'm, I don't get distracted. I'm not perfect.
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"Successful people usually go through major
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transformations in life. What was your biggest failure? Do you come from a place
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of suffering and then succeeding or is that not the case?" So, I'm guessing the transition
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that from being an actress to doing what I'm doing right now was very painful for me.
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Um, deciding to come here, to Israel, after five years in the US um, and it happened because
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my visa expired, uh, was not something that I wanted. And, um, moving here already felt
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like giving up on my dream. Because my dream was to become a successful actress in New York.
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And then I moved here, and no one cared about
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me and what I've done. And no one cared about the school that I went to, and, uh, and my
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experience in theaters in the US. And I felt lost. I felt that no one wants me. I started
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thinking really bad things about myself. I was struggling with communicating. I barely
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spoke up, I was so embarrassed around other people. I felt ashamed. Um, I felt like I
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had nothing interesting to say. Like I was just like a shell of a person.
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And really, I felt lost because I felt that I gave up on my passion. So I definitely
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felt like I was a failure. I did not know that it was all leading me
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to do what I'm doing right now. Right. I did not know that, um, acting and working with
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texts and, uh, acquiring a new accent is something that is like, I needed all of that to be doing
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what I'm doing right now. But at that point, between those two careers,
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or different lifetimes, then I felt, uh, I, I definitely felt that I was a failure and
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it was really hard to come out of it. I went to therapy. Um, I went to a homeopath, I tried
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a whole bunch of things. I was depressed. So it was, it was really, really hard.
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It was really, really hard. I felt like, you know, my dream is gone. And, um, I think that
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through that, like, you know, when I got the job and I felt needed, that helped me a bit.
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And then I started teaching privately because I just needed the extra cash.
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So I was like, "Okay, what can I do? Okay, I'll teach accent". It wasn't like my lifelong
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dream. I didn't think about the fact that this is what I'm going to end up doing. Right.
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And, um, I discovered, I rediscovered my passion. And I was able to say, "Okay, I'm allowing
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it to come in. I'm accepting this change and I'm surrendering to it, and let's see where
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this takes me". And I'm very happy for having done that.
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Hanza is asking, "How can you describe life in one or two words?"
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A gift.
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Marilyn is asking, "Where do you see yourself 10 years from today, both professionally and
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personally?" So, I have big dreams and I have big plans. I want to create this worldwide
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community of non-native speakers from around the world that meet every year, and create
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events and empower each other. Uh, and we will have meetups around the world in different
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places. Um, and a community for each other with each other.
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I'm also working on a training program for teachers who are non-native speakers of English.
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Um, so they'll get some tools on how to teach pronunciation and how to feel confident and
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proud of who they are, understanding their advantages. And also, um, some tricks and
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tips on how to empower your students and, um, really help them achieve fluency.
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And since I'm super passionate about online marketing and being an online entrepreneur,
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I also want to support English-preneurs, uh, English teachers that want to develop their
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own community and their own online business cause I know it's possible.
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And I think that if you are passionate about it, you can definitely do it. And I've been
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doing some business coaching to friends and people that I know, cause like I always have
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something to say. So I definitely see myself combining the business part and the everything
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that I've learned doing what I do, um, with teaching English
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and supporting my community of teachers.
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So, Jefferson asked me, if some of my family
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members are also entrepreneurs. And the answer is 'yes'. I grew up with a dad who was a hard
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worker, a hardworking entrepreneur. He was a designer and he built a shoe factory. Like,
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at some point, it was like a big empire here in Israel. And, uh, he designs beautiful shoes.
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Of course, I only walk with sneakers and I don't take, uh, I don't wear any of his shoes.
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I mean, maybe like I have a pair, but that's just me. So, um, he has this beautiful shoe
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factory. And actually, my sister is a designer there, and my brother in law, and my mom - they're
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all in the family business except for me. I do English stuff.
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So yes, I did grow up in house of entrepreneurs, of people who, and I think this is why growing
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up I always felt like I could never work for someone else. Like, I need to be my own boss.
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I need to have my own schedule. Um, I don't want to have someone telling me what to do.
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I have done it and I'm an excellent employee. But at some point I felt like I'm investing
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all of my energy into someone else's business and that was just not okay with me.
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Paula De Jesus is asking, a shout out to Paula - community member and a student of mine -
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I love you, Paula. "What would you say to people who want to achieve another career after years
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of working on his or her own profession? People who now, after getting older, want to pursue
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another career, but they're afraid of what others would think and about possible failure?"
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Ah, don't get me started on this one. First of all, I don't believe that there is such
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thing as starting too late. I was just listening to a podcast of a woman who has been an executive
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producer in the Oprah show, and at the age of 50 she decided to quit. And she reinvented
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herself and she started a totally different business.
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And she started a podcast, and she started like, like this incredibly successful business
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influencing, you know, hundreds of thousands of people around the world. Um, and she was
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just talking about like, there was no such thing as being too old to reinvent yourself.
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I reinvented myself at the age of 30, doing something that I had no... will, or I had
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no intention of doing. I did not want to be a teacher, if you were asking me at the age
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of, you know, 24. So I think that if you're passionate about something, this is something
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that you should definitely pursue. This is something that you should like, people
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will always have something to say, right? But if you care so much about what other people
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think, then you are putting their opinions in front of your needs and your potential
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and your possibilities. Right? Because once you do something that you're
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passionate about, the universe will help you bring it to fruition. The universe will help
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you succeed. I truly believe in it. I have seen it happen with me. So I, I think that
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not doing it is you are doing injustice to you and the people that you can help doing
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what you love doing. Right? And, um. And again, like it doesn't matter
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what people have to say because at the end of the day, you will have to face the consequences.
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And regretting about something that you haven't done is the worst feeling in the world.
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And at some point it will be too late. You will be too tired, you will be too caught
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up, you'll have too much on your plate. Uh, so I, I really think that there is no such
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thing as being too old, and you can always start fresh and start something.
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And you can start a business and it can skyrocket within 18 months, really. And then you'd be
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like, "stupid me, why haven't I done it earlier?" So, my recommendation
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is if you're passionate about something, do it.
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Because we live in a different age and in different era.
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And what our parents think, and what people around us think -
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it is based on something that used to be relevant like 30-40 years ago. Right?
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Life today is fast-growing, changing, very very active,
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and you can reach a lot of people within a matter of, of hours, right?
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If you have the right intention, and if you provide value.
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So, do what you love, give it a try.
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Start doing it as a side hustle, or start doing it as you're doing something else
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and allow it to grow. But do it!
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Okay. This was long. Thank you so much for watching and being here with me and listening to me in
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my living room. I feel like I'm just like, I've just invited all of you to my living
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room and I'm just like talking, telling you stories. Where's my glass of wine?
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Anyway. Um, so, thank you so much for being here with me for asking all these beautiful
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questions. You really touched me, like wanting to learn more about me and about what I've
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done, and for all the rest of the questions that I haven't gotten to answer. I promise
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I will. Maybe on social media, on Instagram, or in another video.
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I love you all. Thank you for being here with me.
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Bye.
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