How to Use Your Voice in ENGLISH to Sound Powerful and Confident

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Accent's Way English with Hadar


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Hey everyone, thank you so much for joining me. My name is Hadar, and today we are going
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to talk about your voice in English. Yes, you heard me. Your voice.
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If you are a speaker of English as a second language or third language or fourth language,
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then you must have had this experience where you wanted to communicate in English, you
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wanted to speak up, but your voice was just not there for you. It was a little soft, it
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was too low, it was shaky, and you just didn't know what to do. And obviously, it has affected
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your confidence and prevented you from communicating powerfully and confidently.
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So, in this video, I'm going to give you a few exercises that you can do before you have
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to do a Zoom call or before you have a job interview or a public talk that you're a little
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nervous about, or just something you can do every day to free up your voice in English,
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but also in your native language. But before we go into the exercises, if you
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are new to my channel, then welcome, first of all, and second, I want you to know that
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this is the place for you to improve your communication skills and boost your confidence
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in English, because we are going to make you feel really good about how you communicate
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in English. So be sure to subscribe to my channel and also subscribe to get the notifications,
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so you know when I release a new video every single week.
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Okay. So the first thing you need to know about your voice in English is that when you
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hold tension in your body, it will affect your voice. Now, sometimes we hold tension
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just because it's a habit. Sometimes we hold tension because we're nervous when communicating,
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because there's this whole other aspect of communicating in English that creates tension.
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Like, "What if I can't find the right words? What if I get stuck? What are they going to
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think about my accent? I don't feel like myself in English because I can't really express
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myself?" And all of these thoughts that go through your head when you speak English,
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they affect your body and your voice because it creates tension and nervous energy, and
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the voice is highly affected by the nervous system.
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So if you feel that your voice is stuck and stifled and weak, it's probably first and
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foremost because of the tension that you hold in your body and your nervous system. The
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second thing I want you to know is that voice is frequencies and vibrations. And our voices
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resonate in different places in our body wherever there is space. Okay?
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So you can resonate your voice in your chest. You can resonate your voice in your nasal
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cavities in your head, right? This is where the voice resonates. So the bigger the resonance
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box is, the bigger your voice is. But sometimes the voice quality of your native
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language affects your voice quality in English. Because for some languages, you only resonate
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your voice in one place. Some languages resonate the voice mostly in the nose and head. Some
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languages, my language Hebrew resonates mostly in the throat and chest, so it's a lot more
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throaty and usually lower. Ideally, for English, you want your voice
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to be somewhere between your chest voice and your head voice. Because when you speak, you
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want to have that perfect ring - that's how my voice teacher used to call it when I was
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in acting school - that perfect ring that is a blend of the lower frequencies and the
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higher frequencies. So you don't want your voice to be stuck up
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here and you don't want also your voice to be all the way down here, and without a lot
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of breadth supporting it cause then you will fry your voice. This is called the vocal fry.
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So you want to find the perfect placement for your voice for it to come out naturally.
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And here's the thing, sometimes we do change our voices depending on the situation. So
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this vocal fry is something that often happens at the end of sentences or when you're really,
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really tired. But if you use the deliberately, first of
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all, they say it's not that healthy for your voice, but also your voice is not going to
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be as expressive. There are less emotion that you can carry over when your voice is down
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here, right? So, this is why you want to have the ability
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to control your voice, and then you can choose whatever you like most. But the most important
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thing. Is that you have the power to control it and the exercise that we're going to do
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in a second are going to help you identify the different places.
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The last reason why you may not be using your full vocal potential could be cultural. In
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some cultures it is considered to be rude, inappropriate, and unacceptable sometimes
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to speak at a higher volume. If you grew up hearing around you all of the
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time, "You gotta be quiet", "You speak too loudly, shut up", then of course, it's going
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to affect the voice that you have as an adult. So the first thing is to be aware of that,
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and to know that what you have heard from the surroundings does not mean that it is
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true and it is the right thing to do, especially when you need to communicate in English. And
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English is a language that is vocally expressive. You express a lot of emotions in English.
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And if you want to be a powerful communicator, and if you want for people to hear you, you
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got to have those tools to speak up and use your voice fully. So, it's not only a physical
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thing, it is also a mental thing. So you want to cut those ties with those ideas that have
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led to your fear of using your full voice. And the way I see it, it's not a matter of
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being angry at it or resentful or frustrated, it is how it is. There are some beautiful
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things about your culture that serve you so well, but some things may not serve you that
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well. So as an adult, it's okay to say, "I want
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to take this, but I don't want to take that anymore because this has been limiting for
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me as my adult self, and I don't want to use that anymore". And with the exercises I'm
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going to share in the video, you will be able to find different expressions for your voice.
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The first thing we're going to do is to start with a facial warmup. So you want to identify
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if you have some stress in your jaw, so maybe around here. And maybe move your jaw with
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your hand, slide your fingers down so your jaw dropped. And then you can also release
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a sound - 'aaahhh'. Now try to make the sound come out of your gut, of your belly, of your
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chest - 'aaahhh', don't lock it and massage your jaw.
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The next thing you want to do is to release that tension. So I want you to take your hands
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and grab your chin like that. And first of all, see if you can move your chin freely.
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If what happens is this - your hands are moving, but your jaw is not moving at all, which is
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usually the case, than you, first of all, want to be aware of it, right, and relax a
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bit more. And see how you can let go of the control of your jaw. So you want to be very
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aware of what's going on there. And then you want to release air. And as you
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release air, you want to move the jaw really fast, like this. Let's do it again. So I'm
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going to do it from here. Look, take a deep breath, and release air. So again, if this
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is what's happening - you are just moving your hands and your elbows, then your jaw
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is still locked and you want to relax it. It will really help you with all those open
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vowel sounds like 'aa' and 'ei' and 'ow', where you have to open and move your jaw
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smoothly. But also it will help you with not holding tension that affects your vocal quality.
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And now I want you to add voice to it like we did at the beginning when we massaged the
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jaw. You hear that funny voice that comes out? Yeah, you can laugh, it's okay.
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Now I want you to relax everything and release everything with <Lip trill>. Now, you want
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to go up and down to explore the entire range of your voice. <Lip trill>
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Now you may feel tickles like I'm feeling right now. You can do the same with a tongue
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trill - <rrr> - like an R in some languages. <R trill>
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And now you want to exaggerate chewing a big piece of bubble gum. Exaggerate it, like you're
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overdoing it. Like you're a three-year-old and you just got a big piece of bubblegum,
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and it's hard for you to break it down. And you can hum. And then close your lips and
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keep on chewing. Good. The next thing you want to do is to loosen
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up your body and to feel a bit more powerful and in control. Because if you hold tension,
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it will show up in your voice, but also in your confidence. Because when you feel that
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you've all fired up, of course it's going to affect the way you communicate in a second
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language. So, what I want you to do now is to dance.
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Yes! Dancing is so incredibly powerful. So stand up, we're going to do it together. I'm
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going to play my favorite song, but you are going to play your favorite song when it's
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time. A song that kinda like gets you all grooving and enjoying it. Are you ready? Let's
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do this. Yes, yes, even you that you're sitting right
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now watching me? Now I want you to stand up and tell everyone in the house to go to the
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kitchen or something and dance with me. Are you ready? Let's do this.
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That felt good. Let's move on. After you got done with your dancing and you
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had a glass of water, I want you to explore your voice. What does that mean? You want
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to find the different places of resonance in your body.
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So first of all, start with just releasing sound. Good. Now do it again, and as you do
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it, just tap on your chest. Try to kind of like release that voice that
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is locked in here. And when you do it, hold your palms like this and, thankfully, I don't
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have a neck mic. And try to release it and to bring the voice to all those weird places
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that you never thought your voice should resonate in.
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And go a little lower. So if your voice is going to be here <high voice> - I mean, it's
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still okay, but it's not going to find that natural place of resonance, which is in the
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chest. The chest likes lower tones, lower frequencies, like to resonate in a larger
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space in the chest. So let's do it again. Good.
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Now you want to do the same thing with your voice, cause some people tend to go too low
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and kind of like their voices locked here. So for those of you who feel that this is
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where your voice is, I want you to bring it up here. And kind of like tap on the nasal
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cavities here. Maybe go to the nose and deliberately create
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sound in the nose. Just to identify how you can control your voice and move it between
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different places in your body. So nose. You can kind of like hold it and feel the vibrations
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here. And then move it to your cheeks. And maybe feel it in your throat. And bring it
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to your chest. And also tap on all your organs just to wake it up, wake up your body. It's
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good. Okay. Roll your shoulders back. And now we're
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going to work on expanding your chest to allow more space here. So kinda like roll your shoulders
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back and expand your chest. Good. And you can release sound as well. And give yourself
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permission to feel that, to make a sound. Okay, good. The next thing we're going to
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do is to explore the versatility of your voice. So I want you to take one sentence and use
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it in all of the different voices that you have. I want you to experiment with it. And
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really don't judge yourself, and don't do it around people that might ridicule you because
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this is not helpful. And anyway you want to give them a piece of
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your mind if they make fun of you. Because they are the ones sitting and watching other
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people doing the work. And you are doing the work. Just saying.
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So let's take this one phrase, one simple phrase. Let's try "What do you want?" And
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say it in your normal voice - "What do you want?" And then I want you to explore it with
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different emotions, different attitudes, and different placements in your body. "What do
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you want?" "What do you want?" "What do you want?" "What do you want?" "What do you want?"
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So try different voices too. "What do you want?" "What do you want?" "What do you want?"
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"What do you want?" "What do you want?" "What do you want?" Okay. So you are exploring and
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showing yourself that you do have different voices. And if this is hard for you, you got
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to practice it because your voice is capable of having this variety.
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And if you feel that you only have one voice is just because you haven't explored it yet.
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But if you are a human, you should have a very, very wide range of sounds that you can
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create. Because we all have the same spaces in our bodies, and we also have the same muscle
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here, the vocal chords that create the voice. Another thing you could do is to take a piece
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of text. It could be an email you just received, or it could be a story or an article or a
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transcript of a TED talk. And you want to say it as if you were telling it to a little
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child, and make it very animated and exaggerated just for you to explore the different placements
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of your voice. For example. "It pains me to offend you, but
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amidst your concern for the defects of your nearest relations, and your displeasure at
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this representation of them, let it give you consolation to consider that, to have conducted
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yourself so as to avoid any share of the like censure, is praise no less generally bestowed
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on you..." You see where I'm going. So you want to exaggerate it as if you are
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a really, really bad narrator, and you're reading this book with overly pathos. But
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again, when you exaggerate something and you find versatility, you find variety, and then
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it's a lot easier to tone it down. When I teach pronunciation, I always say it's
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okay to exaggerate. When you go into speaking, you tone it down anyway. So you might as well
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practice it in an exaggerated fashion. So when you tone it down, it probably would still
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be a little less than what you should express, but at least it's closer.
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Now, one of the first thing you should also think about is your breath. Your voice is
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connected to your breath. And if your breath is short, if you're not breathing deeply,
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then it's going to affect your voice. So I want you to now breathe into your belly.
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Put your palm on your belly and breathe into your palm. A lot of times we just breathe
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into the chest and then our breath is very limited. There's a lot more space in the chest.
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I know you might think it's different, but when you breathe through your belly, you drop
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the diaphragm and more air enters your body. So you want to breathe, it's like yoga breathing.
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You want to breathe into your belly, and when you release the sound, you want to release
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it on your breath. And when you run out of breath, you got to take another breath, and
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then to speak on your breath. I'm probably going to make a different video
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about breath, but I just wanted to mention that. So that if you feel that your breath
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is a little shallow, you want to work on that, especially, it also calms you down when you
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breathe in and when you fill up your body with oxygen. Of course, it's going to. Help
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your nerves to calm down. Ahhh, okay, good. If you feel that it's hard for you to connect
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with your core and with your lower voice, and you feel that your voice is really soft
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or stuck up here. Or maybe it is down below, but it's stifled like you feel it doesn't
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resonate, you don't have that ring, ring of a voice that is fully expressed. You don't
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hear the voice bounced back to you from the walls of your home, then another great tactic
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is to laugh and to speak. What does that mean? When you laugh, it's
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primal, right? You're activating your core muscles. Let's try it out, it's a lot of fun.
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Let's try to force ourselves to laugh. <Laughing> It's real. So, and it's contagious, I know.
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So when you do that, you feel that your voice is expressed a little differently when you
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speak. So you want to force yourself to laugh and then say something. 'That is so true.
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So funny. You are so stupid'. And then you want to speak and say something.
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'I am so awesome'. Right? And you say it as you're connected with your deep voice. And
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it usually happens spontaneously when you laugh. Ah, okay. That was fun.
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The last thing you want to talk about is the power speech. Now, hear me out all the way
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to the end because if there is one thing I want you to take from this video, it is this.
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Because I have done this with my students for the past two years and the results are
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pretty incredible. This exercise will help you feel more confident,
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free, and powerful in English. And here's how it works. Choose a monologue from a TV
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show or a movie that is very powerful. That the person is like really upset or excited
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or angry, and they speak out their mind. And you want to take that part and memorize it.
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And it's very important. Don't skip that part and don't just read it from the page. I mean,
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that's also great, but that freedom that you have to use the words freely without having
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to analyze it as you read it, having to focus on the letters, having to focus on, "Wait,
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what comes next?" Or, unlike speaking freely, where you have
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to kind of like retrieve the words, and 'how do I put it?', nd then there's all this judgment.
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When you memorize a text, it really helps you to feel super expressive and that the
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words flow out easily. And I know that because as an actress I had to memorize many different
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speeches, and I know it had an immense impact on my English and my fluency. Okay?
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So memorize a really powerful speech. And we're going to put a link to a bunch of different
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scripts that you can choose from. And just go ahead and do it, we did all the work for
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you. So you can select one and memorize that speech. And then every single day, or before
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an important meeting, I want you to stand in front of the mirror and do it full out
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- with all the anger and passion and fear, or whatever is happening to that character.
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I want you to try and embody it and, you know, choose something that will feel fierce to
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you, that will make you get out of your own skin. Okay? That would, that it's not something
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that you usually do. I have had students telling me that they've
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discovered a voice that they've never knew that they even had. Because these are not
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your words, and this is not a real situation, you give yourself a lot more permission to
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speak up. And this is why I want you to do. And this is something that I have done myself.
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Because when I was in school, I played lady Macbeth. And lady Macbeth is a very powerful
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character. And there is one thing in particular when she kind of grabs her husband and she's
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like going full out at him. And I used to take that one monologue and
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do it again and again and at home, as I was like alone, and with myself when I wanted
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to feel a little better about myself. Or when I would be really, really angry and I didn't
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know how to express my emotions. So I would go into that monologue and say
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it, and I felt like I'm expressing my emotions through the words of a different characters.
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These are words that I would never say. And also I had to do it in a Scottish accent,
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which was kind of crazy in and of itself, but that was my experience. And I felt that
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it like, after that I felt, "Okay, I'm ready to take on the world! How about you?" Okay?
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So this is what I want you to feel. So pick your favorite fierce monologue, a powerful
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speech, memorize it and do it full out. "You can't handle the truth". To wrap it up, I'm
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going to do that part of the monologue for you. Just so you see that if I can do it,
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you can do it too. And remember, do it in front of the mirror and use your imagination.
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"What beast was't then, That made you break this enterprise to me? When you durst do it,
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then you were a man; And, to be more than what you were, you would be so much more the man.
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Nor time nor place did then adhere, you would make both!"
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"They have made themselves! And that their fitness now does unmake you. I have given
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suck, and know how tender 'tis to love the babe that milks me. I would, while it was
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smiling in my face, have plucked my nipple from his boneless gums and dashed the brains out!
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Had I so sworn as you have done to this".
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Okay, so this is my power speech. I hope you
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enjoyed it. And I hope these exercises helped you understand how you can own your voice
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in English, and in your native language as well.
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If you like this video, click "Like" and share it with your friends so they can speak up
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as well. Don't forget that in the description below, there is a list of powerful speeches
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that you can use. And if you want to tell me what you think,
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what you felt, and if you want to share with me what speech you chose - come on over and
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send me a DM on Instagram. You can find me at @hadar.accentsway. I would love to hear
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what you think. Okay. That's it. Thank you so much for watching.
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And remember, the most important thing is that you speak up - with an accent, with mistakes,
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with getting stuck. Because what matters is what you have to say. Okay? Take good care
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of yourself, stay healthy, stay safe, and I'll see you next week in the next video.
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Bye.
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