3 MUST HAVE habits to learn a language

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Hey everyone, it's Hadar.
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Thank you so much for joining me.
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Today, we are going to talk about habits and language learning.
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Because essentially, when it comes to learning a language, we are talking
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about acquiring a new set of habits.
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Now, there are different types of habits when it comes to learning a
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language, and we're going to talk about the three of them today.
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Also, at the end of this video, I'm going to talk about how you can
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learn about all of this even more and practice it with me, so make sure
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you stay until the end of the video.
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If you're new to my channel, then welcome.
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My name is Hadar.
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I'm a non-native speaker of English, and I am here to help you speak English
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with clarity, confidence, and freedom.
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And if you want to find out more, you can come on over to my website
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at hadarshemesh.com because I have a lot of free resources
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waiting for you to get started.
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Let's first define habits.
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Habits are the things we repeatedly do every single day.
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Habits are automatic, so we don't really think about them.
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Habits are the actions that we take, and the thoughts that we think,
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and the decisions that we make.
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Whether we drink coffee in the morning, brush our teeth, go to the gym: all of
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these are habits that we accumulate.
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And the habits that we have ultimately either bring us closer to the
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person that we want to become, or farther away from that ideal or
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that identity that we want to have.
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Because there are good habits, and bad habits.
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So, we want to recognize what are the good habits that we have, when
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it comes to language learning.
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So for example, when you start practicing your English, if you
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open up your phone right away, it's probably not a good habit.
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But if after a conversation, if you forget a word, and you have this habit of going
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online and looking for the meaning of the word or the translation of the word that
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you were thinking about, that is probably a good habit that you want to keep.
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So there are three types of habits that I want to talk about in this
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context: Learning habits, Speaking habits, and Thinking habits.
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Let's start with Learning habits.
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It's pretty obvious that if you want to improve your English,
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and if you want to become fluent, you have to practice, right?
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It doesn't happen on its own.
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Now, the question is, how do you practice?
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What do you do to actually get this language into your
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head and mouth and body?
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Do you do it every day?
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Do you make sure that you include speaking practice?
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Do you practice effectively, right, and you don't just repeat the same mistakes?
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So the way you practice and the way you are committing yourself to doing
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the work and to showing up every single day - even if it's just 10 minutes a day,
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listening to English in an intentional, careful way - that is what's going to help
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you get the results that you're after.
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Now, I've created a lot of videos about effective practice, and
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I'm going to include all of them in the description below.
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Because I'm not going to talk about what to do, I'm just going to talk about the
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idea that in order for you to get fluent and to become more confident in English,
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you need to treat it like you would treat any other habit that you want to acquire.
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Which means being clear about what you want and being consistent.
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So it's not just about, "Oh, I have to learn English", but it's about how can I
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form a healthy habits where I learn and practice my English every single day.
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What am I doing that is preventing me from acquiring this habit, right?
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What am I doing that is distracting me from doing the work every single
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day; from creating this streak where I do it in a consistent
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way so that it becomes automatic.
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It's just something that I do.
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If you are a coffee drinker, you don't wake up in the morning and ask
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yourself, "Should I drink coffee today?"
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No, it's something that you do: you wake up in the morning
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and you drink coffee, right?
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It's automatic.
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You don't think of yourself as a person who brushes their teeth.
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It's just something that you do, it's part of your personality.
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Same thing with learning English.
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So, you want to build those healthy habits.
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And the way to do it is to do it everyday in a consistent way until
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you no longer need to ask yourself whether or not you're going to do it.
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Now, for it to make sense, it has to be effective.
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So, you want to have those small victories every single day.
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And that happens with efficient practice.
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And for that, I'm going to share more content in the description.
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Next stop is Speaking habits.
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Here we are really talking about the spoken language, right?
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Because when it comes to speaking habits, I like to think of our first
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language as a set of habits, right?
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The sounds that we use - habits; words - habits, we don't think about
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them, we retrieve them automatically, right; grammar structures.
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So, this is something that is already ingrained in us, we don't think about it.
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And this is why forming new habits: new sounds, grammar forms, new words,
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right - all of that should be treated as if we are forming new speaking habits.
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That means that we need to use them consistently.
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We need to be aware of them, right, so that they become spontaneous.
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And we need to use them effectively, to practice them effectively.
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So for example, if you want to learn a new sound, let's say the TH sound,
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and you don't have TH in your language.
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And your habit is to pronounce a T sound every time there is a TH.
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So you might say 'tank you', and 'tink', and 'toughtful', instead of
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"thank you", "think", and "thoughtful".
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To switch that sound from T to TH is actually switching or changing
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a habit, repetition is key here.
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Repetition, but not just like this mindless repetition, where you might
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be practicing something different and not what you want to achieve, but
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it has to be intentional practice.
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Or you practice and you know that you're actually changing something.
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It needs to be uncomfortable.
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When you are acquiring a new skill, and when you're learning
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something new and acquiring a new habit, it has to be intentional.
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And the sad thing is that we do so many things on
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autopilot - practice and speaking.
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So, I'm not saying that you need to be conscious of your speaking all the time
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when you speak English, but when you practice, you have to be intentional
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about what comes out of your mouth.
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And understanding that, for example, if we learn new words,
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repetition is really important.
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You can't perceive a word and then expect yourself to use it, if you haven't
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gotten into the habit of using that word.
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That's what I mean by Speaking habits.
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When it comes to Thinking habits, this is the way you think about your
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English, and the thoughts that come to your head every time you speak English.
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And again, I talk about it a lot, but when you understand that it's not spontaneous
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thoughts, and it's not just like how the brain works - or, you know, you are just
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reflecting on reality - but it's habits.
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Thoughts are habits, especially repetitive thoughts, especially the same thoughts
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that come up every time you want to speak, or you want to do something in English.
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So, understanding that, that it's only a habit and recognizing it
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ahead of time, breaking the pattern, avoiding it - that could significantly
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help you with your confidence.
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Because you won't have that negative inner critic in your head constantly putting
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you down, constantly telling you how it's going to be impossible for you to
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speak, or to succeed, or to sound good.
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Okay?
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Habits.
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Why we acquire those habits?
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Well, it's rooted in our past, and the things that we hear
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around us usually as we grow up.
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But it doesn't matter, because ultimately, it's just a pattern of thought,
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and that could be switched around.
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Let's go back to the coffee example.
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Let's say, you want to quit drinking coffee.
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So, in the morning you would wake up and your body would say, "Coffee!
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Give me some coffee!"
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And your brain would be like, "Mmm, I want to smell and taste and..."
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But when you are able to overcome that need, right, whether it's the physical
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need or the mental need, you can start shifting away from having that habit
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of drinking coffee every morning.
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Okay?
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Same thing with your thoughts.
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The thoughts come up because there was a trigger, right?
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You were about to speak English, someone looked at you in a weird way,
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and that triggered a thought, right?
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So, just like waking up in the morning and wanting that coffee - that's a habit.
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And you can say, "Okay, no coffee.
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I'm going to quit coffee."
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Right?
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Same thing here.
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Something triggers that negative thought.
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And you're like, "Nope, that's just a thought, that's just a habit.
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I'm not going to...
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I'm not going to listen to it."
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Then you can start building that mindset where things are possible for you.
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And that allows a lot more space for everything else: learning habits, because
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you'll be motivated, and you won't have that negative feeling, like "Why bother?
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Because you know, it's not going to work for me anyway."
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Right?
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And also, your speaking habits.
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Because you'll be more open to seeing things as they are, and
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to changing without judgment.
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Okay?
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So, let's wrap it up.
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When it comes to language learning, we have three different
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habits that we want to acquire.
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Learning habits - showing up every single day, practicing
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effectively, intentional practice.
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Speaking habits - understanding that when it comes to learning a
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language, it's all about habits, and repetition is really important.
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And number three, Thinking habits - making sure that the thoughts that
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you have around your English, English practice and English speaking, are
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thoughts that take you towards the person that you want to become and
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not pull you away from that person.
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Okay?
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Good.
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Now, if you want to find out how to build those strong, healthy learning habits,
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If you have any questions for me, please ask them in the comments, or send me a DM.
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I'm on Instagram at @hadar.accentsway.
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Have a beautiful, beautiful day.
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And I'll see you next week in the next video.
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Bye.
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