This Really Helped Me Become Fluent

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Accent's Way English with Hadar


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Do you know this thing where you're about to speak or while you're speaking
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English, you have all those negative, repetitive thoughts coming up.
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Things like, "You made a mistake."
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"Oh, you're going to sound stupid."
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"Don't say that, that doesn't make any sense."
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"You sound funny."
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"You mispronounced it."
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"You made another grammar mistake."
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"They're gonna think you're stupid."
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So on and so forth.
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And let's agree that these thoughts are not serving you, right?
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Because you already know they're counterproductive and they are
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ruining your confidence showing up and speaking in English.
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So what I'm going to do in this video, I'm going to teach you something
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really simple that is going to help you deal with those negative, repetitive
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thoughts and help you speak with more confidence and fluency in English.
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But before we begin, if you are new here, then welcome to my kingdom.
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My name is Hadar, and I'm a speech and fluency coach, and I'm here to
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help you feel confident, speak clearly and have the freedom in English that
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you have in your native language.
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So if you'll find this video valuable, then consider subscribing.
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And when you do, click on the bell to get notifications, just to make sure that you
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don't miss out on the important videos.
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So let's go into what you need to do when you start driving yourself
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crazy with all those negative thoughts that are not serving you.
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Before I'm going to tell you what you need to do when you start these negative
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thoughts, I want you to remember that these negative thoughts are your fears,
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insecurities and beliefs that you have about yourself, coming up to the surface
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as you start speaking in English.
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If this is something that you have ideas about, or you've been told before
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that you don't sound clear, or you have an accent, or you'll never be able to
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learn English - that develops negative beliefs, beliefs that prevent you
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from fulfilling your full potential.
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And as a result, you start believing these things, and these beliefs are
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manifested in those repetitive thoughts.
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Or on the contrary - you start having these repetitive thoughts
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and ultimately forming a belief.
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A belief is not reality.
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So that means that these are just thoughts, and as such, they
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don't represent our true reality.
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Even if you feel that you're stupid, it doesn't mean that you're stupid
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when you're speaking English.
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Even if you feel that your accent is thick, it does not mean that other people
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feel that too, or that you are unclear, or your belief about having a thick accent
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may not be the belief that everyone holds.
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So, remember that these are just thoughts.
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And as such, because you are the thinker of your thoughts,
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these thoughts can be changed.
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And the way we're going to change them is through pattern interrupt.
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Pattern interrupt is something that we do to break a certain pattern that we have.
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In this case - these negative repetitive thoughts.
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We are human beings.
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And as human beings, we are creatures of patterns.
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It allows us to live life in a more automatic way.
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Like, you know, brushing your teeth or driving to work.
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When you drive to work, you're not like thinking about where you're going to take
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the next turn; or you're not thinking about navigating the car between the
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cars, you're doing it on autopilot.
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Right?
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And then, for example, let's say something happens, like there is a
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traffic jam that is unexpected, or all of a sudden, they block the road
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- that creates a pattern interrupt.
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And you all of a sudden start becoming more conscious of your
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reality and you start thinking differently than you normally would.
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Same thing with brushing your teeth.
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Let's say, every day you go in the morning to the bathroom, you
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brush your teeth and that's it.
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And one morning, you go to the bathroom and then you reach out to grab your
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toothbrush and you can't find it.
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And it's nowhere to be found.
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Right?
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All of a sudden, you'll start thinking about the fact that
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you need to brush your teeth.
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Automatically, usually, you don't think about it - it's something
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that happens automatically.
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But once the pattern has been interrupted, then you start thinking
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about what it is that you're doing.
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So, your pattern right now is to start having those negative thoughts
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and the negative self-talk every time you're about to speak English,
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every time you think about English or every time you are speaking English.
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And that is a pattern.
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So just like with the previous examples, we want to break that pattern.
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And how do we do that?
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With two simple words.
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"Stop it".
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That's it.
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"Oh, my God, Hadar, you sound so bad.
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Your English is awful.
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You sound like a fraud..."
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"Stop it!"
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"You keep making mistakes, even though..."
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"Stop it!"
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"And people are gonna make fun of..."
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"Stop it."
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"They're gonna think I'm stupid."
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"STOP IT!"
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"But..."
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"Okay."
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As you can see, those negative thoughts are your pattern.
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And simply saying, "Oh, stop it!"
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will help you to interrupt that pattern.
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The pattern feels safe and familiar, but we got to step out of what's familiar if
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we want to create change in our lives.
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So a change in pattern creates change in the results that we see in our lives.
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And remember, you're not creating those thoughts every time you start
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speaking English, it's your pattern.
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And the pattern interrupt - simply saying "stop it" - will help you think
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for yourself; and recognize that this is not serving, you don't have to
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continue with that and you can change it.
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Because you are the thinker of your thoughts.
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And you can truly see different results if you change how you think.
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That's it.
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So, simply "stop it".
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Thank you so much for being here.
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I am truly honored and grateful to serve you.
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And remember, speak up because mistakes is the only way to learn.
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Have a beautiful day, and I'll see you in the next video.
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Bye.
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