Say Goodbye To Traditional BUSINESS ENGLISH Vocabulary Lists! With Lindsay From @All Ears English

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Accent's Way English with Hadar


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Hey everyone, it's Hadar.
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Thank you so much for joining me.
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Have you ever felt like you don't know exactly how to use your English at work?
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I mean, you know how to communicate, but sometimes you have questions
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like, "What words should I use?
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Should I use that phrase?
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I mean, I've learned it, but no one seems to use it".
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Or maybe you don't know if you need to sound a bit more formal or less formal.
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And how can you improve your professional English without losing your authenticity?
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Well, today's episode is all about that because today we
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have with us Lindsay McMahon.
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Lindsay is the podcast host of the All Ears English podcast, a very successful
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and fun podcast to learn English with.
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And she's also an ESL entrepreneur, recently focusing
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on teaching business English.
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And today she's going to talk to us about the problem with traditional
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business English training.
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And she's going to share with us some tips on how to really put into practice what
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you really need in the professional world.
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Lindsay also interviewed me on her YouTube channel called "All Ears
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English", where I talked about my Pronunciation Teaching Framework.
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So make sure to check it out right after this video.
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You can also find this interview on my podcast - The InFluency
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podcast, which you can subscribe to on your favorite platform.
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Okay.
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I can't wait to bring Lindsay in, so let's not wait any longer.
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Hi, Lindsay.
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How are you doing?
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Hi, Hadar.
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I'm excited to be here.
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Thanks for having me on your show.
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I'm so happy to have you here, Lindsay from All Ears English,
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and an ESL entrepreneur.
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Can you tell the audience a little bit about you and what you do, and
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all the amazing stuff that you do?
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Oh my gosh.
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Yes.
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So All Ears English is a channel to podcast primarily, where we teach
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English as a second language, and we teach it with a kind of perspective
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of connection, not perfection.
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How can we learn English?
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Leave our perfectionism behind and in any given moment, how can we
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always focus a hundred percent on the most important thing, which is
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forming that human connection between you and the other person, right?
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I love that so much.
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The first time I listened to your podcast, and then I heard that like,
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'connection not perfection' and I was like, "That's what I'm talking about!
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I love this so much!"
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And then, "Do you have like 150 million downloads?"
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Yeah.
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You know, we launched in 2013, and I think we just struck a chord.
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I think people were looking for something like this back then, and it's just
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continued to stay strong since then.
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Our listeners keep coming back.
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We publish four days a week, and you know, the thing is we enjoy podcasting.
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And I think our listeners know that.
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And so it's just a big, it's just, it feels like edutainment
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in a way, kind of edutainment.
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We're having fun and we're learning at the same time.
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And I also think that your message resonates with a lot of
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people and it's not what is very common in the industry, right?
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Like that idea of "don't judge yourself so harshly".
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Perfectionism is overrated.
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You don't need to be, you don't have to have perfect English, you just have
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to speak up and to connect with people.
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Which I love, I absolutely love, and I 100% agree with it.
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Thank you, Hadar.
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Thank you.
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And you're here today to share with us this philosophy, and also to talk
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about how we show up as people in English, in our, in our personal lives,
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but also in our professional lives.
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And how do we use English, you know, how to navigate between, you know,
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using English in your personal life with friends, colleagues if you
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speak English as a second language.
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But also, is it very different than when you're at the office?
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Do you need to use different vocabulary?
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Do you need to start using all these fancy idioms, phrasal verbs, or...
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So I'd love to hear how you see it, and also share with
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us your wonderful philosophy.
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Yeah.
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You know, when we first started about, started thinking about focusing
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on business English, our students asked us, "Would you create business
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English material?", I thought, "I don't know if we can, because I don't
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know if 'connection not perfection' carries over into the business world".
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I wasn't quite sure.
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And then we thought about it a little bit more, and lately, my cohost Michelle
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and I were talking about this on the show the other day, I think that there's
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kind of a movement around the world for us to be more true to ourselves
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and to stop compartmentalizing who we are - to stop having our work selves, our
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home selves, our family selves, right?
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We want to be integrated, as people.
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We want to bring our whole selves to work.
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So we want to be able to be ourselves at work.
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What do you think about that?
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Yeah.
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I love that.
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And they think that, especially when speaking, that's totally
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true for anyone and everyone.
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Right?
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But when it comes to speaking English as a second language,
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when we are not ourselves, anyway, we don't feel like ourselves.
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Right?
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So when we feel like we need to put on this other suit, then we feel even
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less authentic and, you know, and then we don't communicate authentically.
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Exactly.
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And the thing is we talk about this a lot on the show.
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If we can't be ourselves, if we don't give the world at least a
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hint of ourselves, there's nothing for people to fall in love with.
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I mean that non romantically, but in terms of building even professional connections,
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there's nothing for people to grab onto.
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They can't see you, they can't, they can't like you, they can't do business with you.
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Right?
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And so I think it's the moment, it's 2020, it's time for us to start
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bringing our whole selves to work.
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And so that's kind of where our philosophy was based out of, where it comes from.
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It's this idea of really bringing, you know, it's not formal English, it's not
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just formal English - there's semiformal, there's formal, there's informal.
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And as English learners, our students have to move between all of them.
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We have to be able to constantly move between these different ways of speaking.
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Yeah.
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Right.
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And it's not different English.
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Right? And it's not like a different field.
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It's just like understanding the situation and bringing your best self,
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or like understanding how to use that language in a way that serves you best.
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Right?
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And in a way that is appropriate and you feel comfortable.
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How do you the whole, you know, home-office merge, we talked
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about a little bit before.
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So what you're saying now really resonates with me because there is no
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more, you know, office space, and...
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I know, I know.
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Like I said, Michelle and I yesterday, when we were recording, she asked me that.
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She said, "Lindsay, do you think the office is dead?"
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And I think maybe it's the beginning of the end of going into
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the office in the way we know it.
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Again, the commute, going to the large building in Midtown Manhattan,
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where the rent is so high, and we're coming, we're bringing our work selves.
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I think maybe we're at the beginning of an emergence of something new.
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Where again, people have a more integrated life.
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Maybe more people are working from home at times, they can walk the dog in
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the middle of the day, deal with their family, whatever they need to do, so
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they make work WORK along with life.
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And I think along with that, it becomes a little more human.
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I think there's a move, a movement to make work more human, which ties
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in really nicely with what we're trying to do, right, in the ESL world
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- which is make it more approachable.
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Again, language belongs to everyone - whether you're at work or whether you're,
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you know, on the street, just trying to speak in English - it belongs to everyone.
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So let's make it that way.
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Right? Absolutely.
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Yeah.
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I love it.
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And thank you for saying that.
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It's so important.
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And sometimes people forget that.
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So it's important to remind.
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And also people who don't speak, who weren't in born into English, they
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don't feel like English belongs to them.
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And it's important to say "It's yours too, no matter how you use it, it's okay."
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Definitely.
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Definitely.
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Yeah.
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So tell me a little bit about how you work when teaching
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and coaching business English.
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What is your, you know, methods and philosophy?
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Yeah.
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So some of the things that we put into, we have put into the curriculum that
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we've built in the business English world is first of all, we started,
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again, so getting away from this idea of the other problem in ESL is
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that a lot of ESL courses are based on lists, that are online, right?
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Just a lot of...
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Burn the lists, my friends, burn...
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<both laughing>
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And our team thoroughly believes that.
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So we thought, "Oh my God, how are we going to do this because we also
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don't work in the corporate world?"
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And we thought, "Oh my gosh, we don't have this experience in the corporate world."
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I'm an entrepreneur.
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My team, we work from home, we worked in ESL, linguistics, a nonprofit,
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but not in the corporate world.
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And that felt like the gold standard for us.
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And so we thought, what's a way around this?
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So that we don't have to go and take those lists online and teach our students things
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that we don't even know are actually used.
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So we decided to send out a survey to more than a hundred of our friends,
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our family members who work, not just in the 9-to-5 corporate world.
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But in the tech space, in the medical field, the nonprofit
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field, all these different areas.
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Cause we didn't want to just limit it to, you know, again,
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like your Midtown Manhattan corporation, a Wall Street banker.
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And so then we took, that was the base of our curriculum, then, at that point.
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You know, we asked them, "What questions do you get asked in interviews?
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What are the acronyms you use in meetings?
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Give us the actual stuff you use every day."
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And then we felt really solid to start with that foundation from that point.
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That's amazing.
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So it was like, like real life English used in professional
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circumstances, situations.
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I love that.
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And, was it what you had expected, or were you surprised to see some
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of the things that people are using?
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Some of the things I was surprised, some of the things I knew,
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others I didn't know at all.
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And some of the things were very technical, you know, things like ROI, KPI.
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And then there's, you know, work from home - an acronym that's very common - WFH.
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But these are all things, of course, there was such a variety, of course,
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of fields that people were in.
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So there were things that were surprising, but we went with it
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because we said, "This is real.
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This is what people are actually experiencing in the real world.
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So we're going to put it in the curriculum."
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Yeah.
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Amazing.
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And of course, we're going to link to everything in the show notes.
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So if you want to find out more about how to get access to all that good stuff,
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you can go and visit the description.
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But for people who are saying, "Okay, so, I shouldn't be looking for lists online",
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right, business English vocabulary?
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No.
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What can they do if they don't have access to those interviews and surveys?
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Like what can do they do to, to really get real world professional English?
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Yeah.
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I think as much as you can expose yourself to, again, that real material:
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for example, watch a TED talk.
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I think that could be a good example of not just listening
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for the overall comprehension.
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What are the words they're using in these TED talks?
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Pick them out, write them down, bring it in from real material.
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Again, because I think the truth is most ESL teachers don't have
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that corporate experience, the vast majority, I think don't.
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And so we need to find that gap and then just figure out
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another way kind of around that.
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Because once we have the vocabulary and the material, at that point.
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And then just talk to people who are active in the working world.
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You know what I mean?
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I mean, finding people, ask them questions: "Hey, what
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was your interview like?
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What questions did they ask you?
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What do you, how are you preparing for the next step in the interview?"
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Use the world as your resource.
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That's what I would say.
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Yeah.
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Maybe even using websites like Glassdoor or other websites that
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provide you with some typical interview questions, and it's not like an idea.
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Right?
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And I love what you're doing because basically what you're saying is that,
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you know, I think that the way this has been taught up until now has not been
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very, it's not like the most effective training that people have gotten.
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Yeah.
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I mean, we interviewed students before we made the course.
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And that was honestly what they told us.
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They said that they felt like what they were learning was kind of old school.
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I love that expression "old school", for your listeners
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here - old school, outdated.
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Outdated, right?
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Another word.
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And just kind of like out of reach, you know what I mean?
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Coming back to the human, like let's bring our whole selves to work.
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It might make students feel like that's not accessible to me.
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Cause this is what perfect corporate people use, right?
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And I'm not that.
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And so how can I do that?
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It might make people shut down.
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But if we can take that human approach, then we can take the vocabulary and
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just hit the ground running with it, in a sense, if that's make sense, yeah.
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Yeah.
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And you know, I always say when I, you know, teach people how to improve their
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vocabulary, then yes - burn the lists.
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But also, you know, focus on the 20%.
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You don't have to go and learn all the words out there.
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And what you're doing is like you're saying, I'm only giving you the 20%
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- the things that people actually use.
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Because if you focus on that, that will expand your, the vocabulary that
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you'll actually need to use, you know.
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And these are things that maybe you know, what you don't use.
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So, you know, like focus on those things.
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And I think also looking for, interviews, you know, YouTube
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videos with interviews, or just like lectures in the field, TED talks.
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Or just like, you know, panels, a lot of times there are all
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these conferences, I'm thinking.
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And then the video is uploaded with, you know, 1000 views - only
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the people of the company watch it.
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So this is a great resource to just listen through it and then collect
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words and be like, "I'm gonna use that."
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Exactly.
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It's kinda like, the students that I've seen, who have been
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successful over the years, are kind of like language detectives, right?
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They go one level deeper, they don't just wait for a teacher to
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feed them the list or the textbook, or give them the assignment.
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They go one level deeper.
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They go and find those resources and they know how to use that resource,
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not necessarily in a conventional way.
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Right, absolutely.
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We have to...
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like, I think it's so important to be active learners, right?
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Like to know what's right for you, if something's not working for you to be
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able to, you know, say "No, that's it", don't waste time on doing things that
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don't serve you, that don't help you.
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Exactly.
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The other piece that I've noticed that students struggle with in the business
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- I don't know if you've noticed this, Hadar - that students sometimes struggle
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with moving between, and I mentioned this earlier, between being more formal.
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Cause there are times to be formal, right?
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Maybe in the middle of a job interview we want to be a little buttoned up, right?
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Before and after and during the interview, I have noticed that
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students can struggle moving between these different ways of speaking.
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Have you seen that with your students?
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Absolutely.
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I think there are many layers to that.
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It's like, "How to use formal language, when do I use it?"
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Also cultural differences, right?
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What's formal in my culture is not very formal or seems very direct
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in American culture, for example.
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So I think, absolutely, I see it all the time.
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So what do you say to that?
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So, yeah, I mean, I think we need to, it's a matter of building that flexibility.
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So, there is the vocab, like there is formal, informal, semi-formal vocab,
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but it's also kind of a mindset.
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And again, it comes back to being human, letting them see your whole self.
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We don't want to put that block up, and it's sort of a self-protective
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thing: " I have to be formal all the time so they won't see who I really am."
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Once we get over that, then we know we can, there's a moment to relax with
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your colleague and say, "Hey, did you go mountain biking over the weekend?
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You said you were going to go hiking.
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How was that?
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How'd it go?"
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Being able to do that, I think would bring students over a major hurdle, that I see
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as a challenge that a lot of people have.
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Yeah.
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Absolutely.
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And also, going back to 'connection not perfection', you know, the whole idea of
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small talk, people dread so much, right?
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Like, "No, focus on connection, really care about the other person.
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Really ask them how they're doing."
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Maybe not something too personal, but, you know, but that's it.
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And when it comes down to that, like conversation is a
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lot more easy and effortless.
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Exactly And think there are certain things that we can do to prepare for
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those scenarios that might make us freeze.
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Right?
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For example, in what we're working on, we actually put together an entire
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lesson on games that you often are forced to play in corporations, right?
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Corporate games, like team building games.
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Team building games.
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I don't know if these are common in Israel, but in the
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US they are really common.
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Things like trust or just sharing games.
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And we kind of showed our listeners what the rules are and how you might go about.
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So then when they're in that situation, they can actually build the relationships
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what they're there to build.
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That's the point.
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Instead of being so stressed out about getting it right.
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Right?
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And also, when you show up in something that is already familiar, you perform a
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lot better and you're less judgmental.
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Right?
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Cause the unfamiliar is what's scary.
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Completely.
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It's like you've rehearsed this game already.
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Because you've learned the rules, you prepared what you might say.
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And now let's go in and actually do what you're supposed to do,
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which is meet people at your company and get to know them.
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So, yeah.
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And I think it's the same with like using the words and using
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that slightly more formal, polite language, right, indirect maybe.
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So I think all of these things, like the idea of doing it again
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and again and again, and again.
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And then when you're required to do it in real life, it's no longer scary and
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you have the skillset and the tools to do it, you know, with confidence.
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Yeah.
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So we put in that little extra step, we rehearse what we'll expect to hear
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before we walk into a meeting, right?
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We kind of, we call it opening your brain box over on our side of things, opening
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your brain box and saying, "I'm going into a meeting about a merger that's happening
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with my company and this other company.
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Okay.
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What words do I expect to hear?
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What might I be asked?"
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And by just taking that little step of opening your brain box and
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being prepared you prime your mind from a linguistics perspective to
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actually be ready to respond, or it's like you've already rehearsed.
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And then you're going in and you're much less likely to come up blank when
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someone, when the whole room is looking at you, because we know that's kind of
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the pain point for a lot of our students.
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Right?
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Absolutely.
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So let's say someone knows that, like, let's say next week
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they're about to play that game.
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How do you suggest that they, what, can they do to prepare for it?
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So, definitely if they know that there's some kind of a team building game or
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afternoon coming up, I would recommend, first of all, finding out what the
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games are that are going to be played.
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Know the game.
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Right?
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And then if you're working with any teacher or in a course, just go
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and research the game on your own.
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Talk through the rules, maybe talk through it with a friend or a family member.
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So that you explain the rules to them, to make sure you know it.
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Because when we can explain something, that shows that we understand it well
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cause I think that could be a big hurdle - is really understanding the rules.
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Cause sometimes I even struggle sometimes with card games.
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Like a brand new card game, I'll sit down and be like, "Here's the rules, here's
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10 things that you got to remember".
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All of a sudden, I'm like, "Oh my gosh, I don't know the rules".
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You know, it can be a challenge.
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And so doing that, understanding the game, and then maybe having a few
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ideas of things you might say - it's not a major project, it's just 10, 15,
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20 minutes you could spend preparing.
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That could make all the difference in how much you benefit from that afternoon.
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Cause that's the point.
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Yeah, exactly.
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And enjoy it, right?
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And don't just survive, right?
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And actually have fun!
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Yeah.
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Let's move past like the survival mind, right, the fight-or-flight mind when it
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comes to learning English, and let's make it a little bit more about connection and
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being human, and building relationships.
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So, yeah.
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That's fantastic.
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What would you recommend now that like most of connection and
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communication is over Zoom, right?
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And I just had a conversation with one of my students who felt
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really, you know, anyway, it's a challenge to show up in English
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authentically, right, like herself.
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And she said that she was in a Zoom meeting with, you know, like they
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already, there was like a group of people.
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They already had their own lingo and connection, and she felt like she
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didn't know how to participate in the conversation and how to show up properly.
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So do you have any tips for Zoom calls in general, but in particular
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for people who struggle anyway with English and they also need to show
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up on zoom, which is more demanding?
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Yeah.
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I mean, so we have talked about Zoom a little bit in
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the last few months, for sure.
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Video calls, zoom calls, phone calls.
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I think at least in American culture, we have this idea - and I'm not sure if
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this is true in Israel as well - we have this idea that we have to get in on the
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scene and start speaking right away.
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We have to immediately be involved in a dynamic conversation.
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We kind of have that expectation because the value is on 'speak,
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speak, speak', not on 'listen'.
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Other cultures actually value listening a lot more, which I kind of respect.
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As I get older, I respect that more.
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So I'd say step back, don't put the pressure on yourself to
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immediately jump in and start dominating, or even participating
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in the conversation right away.
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Step back, listen, get to know these people that are on the call.
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And then once you know the vibe, the culture of the group, then
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gradually get yourself in there.
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But I'd say don't put so much pressure on yourself to immediately get in there.
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Yeah.
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Right.
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I think it's important.
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And I think people understand that a Zoom call is a little different and
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it's, you know, I feel that people are less judgmental about you participating
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or not, when it's a Zoom call.
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Cause they don't know what you're doing, and usually the situation,
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especially if your video is off and like you're just listening.
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And I think...
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Go ahead, Hadar, go ahead.
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Sorry.
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No, and I think that, one of the things that I told her, I was just like, "If
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you don't feel comfortable barging in or speaking, especially if there's
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already like this dynamic between them, and you feel like, "I don't know how to
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show up", I said, "Well, you have the chat box, you can interact with them
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there, and people can come back to it.
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And it gives you the time and space to write a few things, but yeah.
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Absolutely.
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I mean, the other thing that came to mind is share like little things about
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yourself so that they have something to ask you about next time, so they can kind
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of help pull you into their conversation.
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So maybe you're finishing up that call, maybe you've just said a few
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things on the call, you're finishing up and, you know, people are sharing
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what they're doing over the weekend.
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Share that.
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So then the next time you all meet, they can say something and then you're going
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to gradually build your confidence.
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So kind of let them know you so they can help you come into the conversation.
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It's not all on you to get in there.
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Does that make sense?
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That makes total sense.
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I love it.
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It's such a great advice because people feel like, you know, people don't
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want to hear me talk about myself, but actually it's really important.
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Cause not only that it builds confidence, it builds trust.
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Right?
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So people get to know you and also you give them something to work with.
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So they want to speak to you, but they're like, "I don't know what to talk to them
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about", so they know something, yeah.
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Yeah.
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If you think about how a lot of people might feel, if someone new comes into
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a group, and they don't know you, they may feel awkward too, as you said.
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They might feel like, "I don't want to say the wrong thing, I don't
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know anything about this person".
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Give them something to work with, give them a little material.
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Yeah.
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Right.
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And there's nothing wrong about talking about yourself.
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If it's like, especially at the end, you're giving them some information.
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It's a good thing.
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Yeah. You have to, you have to.
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Yeah, for sure.
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I love it.
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Anything else you'd like to share with us?
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Any final tips about how to show up in the professional world, or
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anything else you'd like to add?
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Yeah.
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I mean, I've just been really interested in kind of this new
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economy, how things are changing.
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So I think along with the typical business English skills for our audience, I
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would suggest focusing on things like time management, how can we set goals
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in a smart way - those are all part of your career in English, too, right?
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Growing your career, making more money, becoming more successful out in the
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global work world is: how do I set goals, how do I understand my true genius?
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I believe that we all have this inner genius.
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We all have something inside of us that's really special.
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How do we bring that out and know what it is?
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So think about those things too.
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Don't just get stuck in vocabulary and, you know, grammar.
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There's so much more that could build up your career.
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Yeah.
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Right.
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And when you know your 'why' and your bigger mission, then the
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mistakes are like they're mindless.
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They're not, it's not that big of a deal.
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Yeah.
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And it gives you the motivation to keep going, right?
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Like to keep on learning and investing in yourself.
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Exactly.
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So making sure, again, we know the 'why', I love Simon Sinek, I love his work,
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you know, he coined the whole start with 'why' idea, but a lot of people have
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tagged on to that: the zone of genius, the StrengthsFinder, all these things - make
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sure you know what you're doing, try to be working in or around that area.
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I know it's a privilege to be able to do that and not everyone can drop
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their job and find a new job and work in their zone of genius, but try to
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move towards it, however you can.
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And your right, Hadar, once you do that, the vocabulary and pronunciation
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mistakes feel so much less relevant and everything gets put into perspective.
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Yeah. Right, exactly.
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Yeah, so good.
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Okay.
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And this would be a good time to say that you also have a YouTube channel.
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And we had an interview there as well, right?
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Yes, yes.
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So you should go and check it out.
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Do you want to share with them where they can find it?
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Yes.
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So, I think the best way would be to go to the Google search bar in YouTube
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and just type in 'All Ears English'.
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We are putting up some of our old podcast episodes.
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We are reappearing on YouTube, but after not really being on there
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much over the last four years or so.
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But we're back, putting old podcast episodes up and putting current
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episodes up about once a week.
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So, guys, go over and check it out, for sure.
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Check it out.
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Check the interview we had, and don't forget to subscribe.
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And that's it.
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Anything else you want to share?
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No, I'm just excited about the way the working world is going.
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And I want to empower your audience to jump on this wave, be human at work,
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focus on connection, not perfection.
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And thanks for having me, Hadar.
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This has been fun.
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Thank you so much.
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And all the links are going to be in the description: about your courses, and
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about your channels, and the podcast.
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Lindsay, thank you so much.
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It's been wonderful to have you here.
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Absolutely.
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Thank you, Hadar.
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Talk to you soon.
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Thanks a lot.
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Alright, bye.
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Bye.
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Okay, that's it.
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Thank you so much for joining us for this conversation.
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Let me know in the comments below what you think, if you have any questions for us.
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And Lindsay and I would be happy to answer you.
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Don't forget to go and check out our interview on her channel - 'All
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Ears English' on YouTube.
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And don't forget to subscribe to my podcast on iTunes,
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Spotify, Google podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
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Thank you so much for being here.
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Have a beautiful day and I'll see you next week in the next video.
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Bye.
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