5 Easy Ways to Sound More Confident with Assertive Language in English

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์•„๋ž˜ ์˜๋ฌธ์ž๋ง‰์„ ๋”๋ธ”ํด๋ฆญํ•˜์‹œ๋ฉด ์˜์ƒ์ด ์žฌ์ƒ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋ฒˆ์—ญ๋œ ์ž๋ง‰์€ ๊ธฐ๊ณ„ ๋ฒˆ์—ญ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

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Hey, it's Anne Marie with Speak Confident
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์•ˆ๋…•ํ•˜์„ธ์š”, Speak Confident English์˜ Anne Marie์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
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English and welcome to the very first Confident English lesson of 2019!
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2019๋…„ ์ฒซ Confident English ์ˆ˜์—…์— ์˜ค์‹  ๊ฒƒ์„ ํ™˜์˜ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค!
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To help you get started on the right track with your English at the beginning
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of the year when I know you have a lot of motivation and energy-maybe you've
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๋™๊ธฐ ๋ถ€์—ฌ์™€ ์—๋„ˆ์ง€๊ฐ€ ๋„˜์น˜๋Š” ์—ฐ์ดˆ์— ์˜์–ด๋ฅผ ์˜ฌ๋ฐ”๋ฅธ ๋ฐฉํ–ฅ์œผ๋กœ ์‹œ์ž‘ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋„๋ก ๋•๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด ์˜ฌํ•ด ์˜์–ด๋ฅผ
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committed to really changing your English this year-we're going to talk
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์ •๋ง๋กœ ๋ฐ”๊พธ๊ฒ ๋‹ค๊ณ  ์•ฝ์†ํ–ˆ์„ ์ˆ˜๋„ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
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about how to be assertive in English and here's why it's such a fantastic skill
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์˜์–ด๋กœ ์ฃผ์žฅํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•๊ณผ ์˜์–ด๋ฅผ ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์™œ ๊ทธ๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ํ™˜์ƒ์ ์ธ ๊ธฐ์ˆ ์ธ์ง€ ์—ฌ๊ธฐ์— ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
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for you to have an English. Did you know that when you are
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assertive, it can help you to manage stress and
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์ฃผ์žฅ์ด ๊ฐ•ํ•  ๋•Œ ์ŠคํŠธ๋ ˆ์Šค์™€
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negative emotions, deal with uncomfortable situations and
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๋ถ€์ •์ ์ธ ๊ฐ์ •์„ ๊ด€๋ฆฌํ•˜๊ณ  ๋ถˆํŽธํ•œ ์ƒํ™ฉ๊ณผ
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conversations and effectively communicate or express yourself?
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๋Œ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ์ฒ˜๋ฆฌํ•˜๊ณ  ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์œผ๋กœ ์˜์‚ฌ ์†Œํ†ตํ•˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ์ž์‹ ์„ ํ‘œํ˜„ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ ๋„์›€์ด ๋  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ์‚ฌ์‹ค์„ ์•Œ๊ณ  ๊ณ„์…จ๋‚˜์š”?
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Plus, if you feel overwhelmed and you have too
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๋˜ํ•œ ๋ˆ„๊ตฐ๊ฐ€์—๊ฒŒ ๊ฑฐ์ ˆํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ •๋ง ์•ˆํƒ€๊นŒ์›Œ ๋ถ€๋‹ด๊ฐ์ด ์žˆ๊ณ  ์ฑ…์ž„์ด ๋„ˆ๋ฌด
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many responsibilities because you feel really bad saying no to someone,
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๋งŽ๋‹ค๋ฉด
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you're not sure how to say no in English politely or you're just nervous about
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์˜์–ด๋กœ ์ •์ค‘ํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๊ฑฐ์ ˆํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์„ ์ž˜ ๋ชจ๋ฅด ๊ฑฐ๋‚˜
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how to ask for what you really want, again,
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์›ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ์š”์ฒญํ•ด์•ผ ํ• ์ง€ ๋ถˆ์•ˆํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‹ค์‹œ ๋งํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ,
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being assertive in English will help you do all of that.
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์˜์–ด๋กœ ์ž๊ธฐ์ฃผ์žฅ์„ ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€ ๋‹น์‹ ์ด ๊ทธ ๋ชจ๋“  ๊ฒƒ์„ ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ ๋„์›€์ด ๋  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค .
01:22
And that sounds pretty amazing. Now,
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ๊ฝค ๋†€๋ž๊ฒŒ ๋“ค๋ฆฝ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ž,
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the truth is, being assertive isn't easy for everyone.
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์ง„์‹ค์€ ๋ชจ๋“  ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์—๊ฒŒ ์ž๊ธฐ์ฃผ์žฅ์„ ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์‰ฝ์ง€ ์•Š๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
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Some people are naturally more assertive than others.
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์–ด๋–ค ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์€ ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค๋ณด๋‹ค ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ๋” ๋‹จํ˜ธํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
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Some of us like me, have a harder time being assertive.
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์ €์™€ ๊ฐ™์€ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ ์ค‘ ์ผ๋ถ€๋Š” ์ฃผ์žฅํ•˜๊ธฐ๊ฐ€ ๋” ์–ด๋ ต์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
01:37
Again. We might feel bad about asking for what
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๋‹ค์‹œ. ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ์›ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์š”๊ตฌํ•˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๋ˆ„๊ตฐ๊ฐ€์—๊ฒŒ ๊ฑฐ์ ˆํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ๊ธฐ๋ถ„์ด ๋‚˜์  ์ˆ˜๋„ ์žˆ๊ณ 
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we want, saying no to someone or we just feel
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really uncomfortable when there's a stressful discussion or someone
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์ŠคํŠธ๋ ˆ์Šค๊ฐ€ ๋งŽ์€ ํ† ๋ก ์ด ์žˆ๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๋ˆ„๊ตฐ๊ฐ€๊ฐ€
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disagrees with us, but the good news is being assertive is
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ์—๊ฒŒ ๋™์˜ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์„ ๋•Œ ์ •๋ง ๋ถˆํŽธํ•จ์„ ๋Š๋‚„ ์ˆ˜๋„ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์ข‹์€ ์†Œ์‹์€
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a skill that you can learn and it gets easier as you practice.
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๋‹จํ˜ธํ•˜๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‹น์‹ ์ด ์—ฐ์Šต์œผ๋กœ.
01:58
That's exactly what we're going to focus on in today's lesson.
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์ด๊ฒƒ์ด ๋ฐ”๋กœ ์˜ค๋Š˜ ์ˆ˜์—…์—์„œ ์ง‘์ค‘์ ์œผ๋กœ ๋‹ค๋ฃฐ ๋‚ด์šฉ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
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To get started, we're going to talk about what it means
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์‹œ์ž‘ํ•˜๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด ์ ๊ทน์ ์ด๋ผ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ๋ฌด์—‡์„ ์˜๋ฏธํ•˜๋Š”์ง€์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐํ•œ
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to be assertive and then I'll share with you five strategies that you can use to
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๋‹ค์Œ
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communicate in a polite but assertive way and do it with confidence.
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์ •์ค‘ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ๋‹จํ˜ธํ•œ ๋ฐฉ์‹์œผ๋กœ ์˜์‚ฌ์†Œํ†ตํ•˜๊ณ  ์ž์‹ ๊ฐ์„ ๊ฐ€์ง€๊ณ  ์˜์‚ฌ์†Œํ†ตํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” 5๊ฐ€์ง€ ์ „๋žต์„ ๊ณต์œ ํ•˜๊ฒ ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
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When you use these strategies, they will help you in situations like
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์ด๋Ÿฌํ•œ ์ „๋žต์„ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜๋ฉด ๋Šฆ์€ ์‹œ๊ฐ„์— ํšŒ์˜๋ฅผ ์›ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ณ ๊ฐ์—๊ฒŒ ๊ฑฐ์ ˆํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ๊ณผ ๊ฐ™์€ ์ƒํ™ฉ์—์„œ ๋„์›€์ด ๋  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
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saying no to a client that wants to have a late meeting,
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which means you'd miss a concert at your child's school or it will help you to
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์ฆ‰, ์ž๋…€์˜ ํ•™๊ต์—์„œ ์—ด๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์ฝ˜์„œํŠธ๋ฅผ ๋†“์น˜๊ฒŒ ๋˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜
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ask for what you really need or want from a colleague at work,
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์ •๋ง ํ•„์š”ํ•œ ๊ฒƒ์„ ์š”์ฒญํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ ๋„์›€์ด ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋˜๋Š” ์ง์žฅ ๋™๋ฃŒ์—๊ฒŒ
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without feeling bad about it. You'll be able to manage stress at work
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๋‚˜์œ ๊ฐ์ •์„ ๋Š๋ผ์ง€ ์•Š๊ณ  ์›ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋ช…ํ™•ํ•œ ๊ฒฝ๊ณ„๋ฅผ ๋งŒ๋“ค์–ด ์ง์žฅ์—์„œ ์ŠคํŠธ๋ ˆ์Šค๋ฅผ ๊ด€๋ฆฌ
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and say no to additional responsibilities by creating clear
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ํ•˜๊ณ  ์ถ”๊ฐ€ ์ฑ…์ž„์„ ๊ฑฐ๋ถ€ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์œผ๋ฉฐ,
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boundaries and finally, it will help you to deal with negative
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๋งˆ์ง€๋ง‰์œผ๋กœ
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situations where someone disagrees with you or there's a lot of tension in the
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๋ˆ„๊ตฐ๊ฐ€๊ฐ€ ๋‹น์‹ ์˜ ์˜๊ฒฌ์— ๋™์˜ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๋Œ€ํ™”์— ๋งŽ์€ ๊ธด์žฅ์ด ์žˆ๋Š” ๋ถ€์ •์ ์ธ ์ƒํ™ฉ์„ ์ฒ˜๋ฆฌ
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conversation and still express yourself effectively at each step in this lesson
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ํ•˜๊ณ  ์—ฌ์ „ํžˆ ์ž์‹ ์„ ํ‘œํ˜„ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ ๋„์›€์ด ๋  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„๊ณผ ๊ณต์œ ํ•˜๋Š” ์ „๋žต์„ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜์—ฌ ์ด ์ˆ˜์—…์˜ ๊ฐ ๋‹จ๊ณ„์—์„œ ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์œผ๋กœ
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with the strategies I share with you. I'll also provide examples and the
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language that native speakers use so that you can use it as well.
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์›์–ด๋ฏผ์ด ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜๋Š” ์–ธ์–ด๋ฅผ ์ œ๊ณตํ•˜์—ฌ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„๋„ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋„๋ก ํ•˜๊ฒ ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
03:05
So what does it mean to be assertive? Being assertive is the ability to
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๊ทธ๋ ‡๋‹ค๋ฉด ๋‹จํ˜ธํ•˜๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€ ๋ฌด์—‡์„ ์˜๋ฏธํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๊นŒ? ๋‹จํ˜ธํ•˜๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€ ๊ฒฉ๋ ฌํ•˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ์–ด๋ ค์šด ์ƒํ™ฉ์—์„œ๋„
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communicate in a confident and calm way, even intense or difficult situations.
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์ž์‹ ๊ฐ ์žˆ๊ณ  ์ฐจ๋ถ„ํ•œ ๋ฐฉ์‹์œผ๋กœ ์˜์‚ฌ์†Œํ†ตํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ๋Šฅ๋ ฅ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค .
03:18
When someone else might be pushy or rude or aggressive at work,
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๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ด ์ง์žฅ์—์„œ ๊ฐ•์••์ ์ด๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๋ฌด๋ก€ํ•˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๊ณต๊ฒฉ์ ์ผ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋‹ค๋ฉด
03:23
it means you're able to respond in a respectful,
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๊ณต๊ฒฉ์„ฑ์ด๋‚˜
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calm way without any aggression, without negative emotion and without
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๋ถ€์ •์ ์ธ ๊ฐ์ • ์—†์ด,
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having to apologize. And finally it means being able to say
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์‚ฌ๊ณผํ•  ํ•„์š” ์—†์ด ์ •์ค‘ํ•˜๊ณ  ์ฐจ๋ถ„ํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋Œ€์‘ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Œ์„ ์˜๋ฏธํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๋งˆ์ง€๋ง‰์œผ๋กœ
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no, to speak directly and clearly about what
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you want or what your limits are without sounding angry or aggressive and again,
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ํ™”๋ฅผ ๋‚ด๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๊ณต๊ฒฉ์ ์œผ๋กœ ๋“ค๋ฆฌ์ง€ ์•Š๊ณ 
03:47
without feeling badly or having to apologize.
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๊ธฐ๋ถ„ ๋‚˜๋น ํ•˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ์‚ฌ๊ณผํ•  ํ•„์š” ์—†์ด ์ž์‹ ์ด ์›ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด๋‚˜ ์ž์‹ ์˜ ํ•œ๊ณ„๊ฐ€ ๋ฌด์—‡์ธ์ง€์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์ง์ ‘์ ์ด๊ณ  ๋ช…ํ™•ํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋งํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Œ์„ ์˜๋ฏธํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค .
03:51
All of that is essential for clear, confident communication.
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์ด ๋ชจ๋“  ๊ฒƒ์€ ๋ช…ํ™•ํ•˜๊ณ  ์ž์‹ ๊ฐ ์žˆ๋Š” ์ปค๋ฎค๋‹ˆ์ผ€์ด์…˜์— ํ•„์ˆ˜์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
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In previous Confident English lessons. I've talked a lot about being polite and
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์ด์ „ ์ž์‹ ๊ฐ ์žˆ๋Š” ์˜์–ด ์ˆ˜์—…์—์„œ. ์ €๋Š” ์˜ˆ์˜ ๋ฐ”๋ฅด๊ณ 
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being diplomatic, how to use modals to soften language and
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์™ธ๊ต์ ์ด์–ด์•ผ ํ•œ๋‹ค๋Š” ์ , ์กฐ๋™์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜์—ฌ ์–ธ์–ด๋ฅผ ๋ถ€๋“œ๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ๋งŽ์ด ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
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that is an essential skill to have. Native English speakers love being
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diplomatic and using softer language. But the truth is sometimes we have to be
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์™ธ๊ต์ ์ด๊ณ  ๋ถ€๋“œ๋Ÿฌ์šด ์–ธ์–ด๋ฅผ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์ข‹์•„ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์ง„์‹ค์€ ๋•Œ๋•Œ๋กœ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š”
04:16
more direct and clear, but we still want to be polite,
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๋” ์ง์ ‘์ ์ด๊ณ  ๋ช…ํ™•ํ•ด์•ผ ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์—ฌ์ „ํžˆ ์˜ˆ์˜ ๋ฐ”๋ฅด๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ์›ํ•˜๊ธฐ
04:20
so let's look at five strategies that will help you do that in English.
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๋•Œ๋ฌธ์— ์˜์–ด๋กœ ๊ทธ๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ ๋„์›€์ด ๋˜๋Š” 5๊ฐ€์ง€ ์ „๋žต์„ ์‚ดํŽด๋ณด๊ฒ ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜์–ด๋ฅผ
04:24
Strategy number one for how to be more assertive in English is to use
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๋” ์ ๊ทน์ ์œผ๋กœ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์˜ ์ฒซ ๋ฒˆ์งธ ์ „๋žต์€ I
04:29
statements that start with 'I' such as I want,
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want,
04:33
I believe, or I need,
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I believe ๋˜๋Š” I need์™€ ๊ฐ™์ด 'I'๋กœ ์‹œ์ž‘ํ•˜๋Š” ์ง„์ˆ ์„ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:35
for example, this sentence:
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์˜ˆ๋ฅผ ๋“ค์–ด ๋‹ค์Œ ๋ฌธ์žฅ:
04:37
I need that report by 5:00 PM or I'm certain that I'm the best
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I need that report by 5:00 PM ๋˜๋Š” I ๋‚ด๊ฐ€
04:43
choice for this position. The second strategy is to avoid words
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์ด ์ž๋ฆฌ์— ๊ฐ€์žฅ ์ ํ•ฉํ•œ ์„ ํƒ์ด๋ผ๊ณ  ํ™•์‹ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‘ ๋ฒˆ์งธ ์ „๋žต์€ ๋‹น์‹ ์ด ๋งํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์˜
04:48
that undervalue or remove importance from what you're saying.
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์ค‘์š”์„ฑ์„ ๊ณผ์†Œํ‰๊ฐ€ํ•˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ์ œ๊ฑฐํ•˜๋Š” ๋‹จ์–ด๋ฅผ ํ”ผํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค . ํ”ผํ•ด์•ผ ํ• 
04:53
Let me show you what I mean about words to avoid.
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๋‹จ์–ด์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ์˜๋ฏธํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ”๋ฅผ ๋ณด์—ฌ ๋“œ๋ฆฌ๊ฒ ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค . ์ค‘์š”ํ•œ ์ผ์—
04:58
If I need to talk to a colleague about something important,
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๋Œ€ํ•ด ๋™๋ฃŒ์™€ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐํ•ด์•ผ ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒฝ์šฐ
05:02
I could send an email or say something like,
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์ด๋ฉ”์ผ์„ ๋ณด๋‚ด๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ "
05:05
I just want to talk to you about. Or I could remove the word just and be
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I just want to talk to you about"๊ณผ ๊ฐ™์ด ๋งํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋˜๋Š” just๋ผ๋Š” ๋‹จ์–ด๋ฅผ ์ œ๊ฑฐํ•˜๊ณ 
05:12
more assertive by saying something like, I need to talk to you today.
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์˜ค๋Š˜ ๋‹น์‹ ๊ณผ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐํ•ด์•ผ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:17
When would be a good time? Using the word just undervalues or
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์–ธ์ œ๊ฐ€ ์ข‹์„๊นŒ์š”? ๋‹จ์–ด๋ฅผ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด
05:22
undermines what we're saying? It tells people that what we want to say
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ๋งํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ๊ณผ์†Œํ‰๊ฐ€ํ•˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ํ›ผ์†ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๊นŒ? ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ๋งํ•˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ์€ ๊ฒƒ์ด
05:26
isn't really important, so when we remove it,
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๋ณ„๋กœ ์ค‘์š”ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ ์•Œ๋ ค์ฃผ๋ฏ€๋กœ ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์„ ์ œ๊ฑฐํ•˜๋ฉด
05:30
our language is much clearer. It's more direct and more assertive.
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ์–ธ์–ด๊ฐ€ ํ›จ์”ฌ ๋” ๋ช…ํ™•ํ•ด์ง‘๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋” ์ง์ ‘์ ์ด๊ณ  ๋‹จํ˜ธํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:35
Here's another example. Let's imagine that a friend of mine
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์—ฌ๊ธฐ ๋˜ ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์˜ˆ๊ฐ€ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‚ด ์นœ๊ตฌ๊ฐ€
05:38
borrowed a suitcase from me about a year ago and I really want it back because
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์•ฝ 1๋…„ ์ „์— ๋‚˜์—๊ฒŒ ๊ฐ€๋ฐฉ์„ ๋นŒ๋ ธ๋Š”๋ฐ ๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ํœด๊ฐ€๋ฅผ ๊ฐ€๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์— ๊ผญ ๋Œ๋ ค๋ฐ›๊ณ  ์‹ถ๋‹ค๊ณ  ์ƒ์ƒํ•ด ๋ด…์‹œ๋‹ค
05:43
I'm going on vacation. So I could again send an email or say
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. ๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ๋‹ค์‹œ ์ด๋ฉ”์ผ์„ ๋ณด๋‚ด๊ฑฐ๋‚˜
05:48
something like, I'm so sorry to bother you,
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, ๊ท€์ฐฎ๊ฒŒ ํ•ด์„œ ๋ฏธ์•ˆ
05:50
but could I have my suitcase back? That is a super polite way to ask for
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์ œ ์—ฌํ–‰๊ฐ€๋ฐฉ์„ ๋Œ๋ ค๋ฐ›์„ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์„๊นŒ์š”? ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ์›ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์š”๊ตฌํ•˜๋Š” ๋งค์šฐ ์ •์ค‘ํ•œ ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์ด์ง€๋งŒ
05:56
something we want, but it's also passive and indirect.
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์ˆ˜๋™์ ์ด๊ณ  ๊ฐ„์ ‘์ ์ด๊ธฐ๋„ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
06:00
Using the word sorry in that way again removes the importance of what we're
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๊ทธ๋Ÿฐ ์‹์œผ๋กœ ์ฃ„์†กํ•˜๋‹ค๋Š” ๋‹จ์–ด๋ฅผ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜๋ฉด ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ๋งํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์˜ ์ค‘์š”์„ฑ์ด ๋‹ค์‹œ ์‚ฌ๋ผ์ง‘๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
06:06
saying. If we want to be more effective,
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. ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ์›ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์ข€ ๋” ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ด๊ณ  ์ง์ ‘์ ์œผ๋กœ ํ‘œํ˜„ํ•˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ๋‹ค๋ฉด
06:10
more direct about what we want, we need to remove the word sorry,
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์ฃ„์†กํ•˜๋‹ค๋Š” ๋ง์„ ์—†์• ๊ณ 
06:14
and instead we could say something like: I need that suitcase back.
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๋Œ€์‹  ๋‹ค์Œ๊ณผ ๊ฐ™์ด ๋งํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. I need that suitcase back.
06:19
When can I pick it up? It's still polite,
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์–ธ์ œ ๋ฐ›์„ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋‚˜์š”? ์—ฌ์ „ํžˆ ๊ณต์†
06:22
but it's very direct and focused. In English,
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ๋งค์šฐ ์ง์ ‘์ ์ด๊ณ  ์ง‘์ค‘์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜์–ด์—๋Š”
06:27
we have several words that we can easily remove to make our language more
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์‰ฝ๊ฒŒ ์ œ๊ฑฐํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ๋ช‡ ๊ฐ€์ง€ ๋‹จ์–ด๊ฐ€ ์žˆ์–ด ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ์–ธ์–ด๋ฅผ ๋”
06:32
assertive and sound more confident. In the online lesson,
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๋…๋‹จ์ ์ด๊ณ  ๋” ์ž์‹ ๊ฐ ์žˆ๊ฒŒ ๋งŒ๋“ค ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜จ๋ผ์ธ ์ˆ˜์—…์—์„œ ํ”ผํ•ด์•ผ ํ• 
06:36
I've given you more examples of words that you can avoid and what you should
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๋‹จ์–ด์™€ ๋Œ€์‹  ๋งํ•ด์•ผ ํ•  ๋‹จ์–ด์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ๋” ๋งŽ์€ ์˜ˆ๋ฅผ ๋“ค์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
06:40
say instead. Strategy number three might surprise
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. ์„ธ ๋ฒˆ์งธ ์ „๋žต์€ ๋‹น์‹ ์„ ๋†€๋ผ๊ฒŒ ํ•  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
06:44
you. Avoid modal verbs such as could,
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. could,
06:48
should, might and would.
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should, might ๋ฐ would์™€ ๊ฐ™์€ ์กฐ๋™์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ํ”ผํ•˜์‹ญ์‹œ์˜ค.
06:51
Now, I'll be honest,
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์ž, ์†”์งํžˆ ๋งํ•ด์„œ
06:53
I love modal verbs. Native speakers use them all the time.
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์กฐ๋™์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ์ข‹์•„ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์›์–ด๋ฏผ์€ ํ•ญ์ƒ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
06:58
They help us soften the language, be more diplomatic and they're certainly
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๊ทธ๊ฒƒ๋“ค์€ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ์–ธ์–ด๋ฅผ ๋ถ€๋“œ๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ํ•˜๊ณ , ๋” ์™ธ๊ต์ ์ด๋ฉฐ ํ™•์‹คํžˆ ์˜ˆ์˜ ๋ฐ”๋ฅด๋„๋ก ๋„์™€์ค๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
07:02
polite, but when we need to be assertive,
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. ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ๋‹จํ˜ธํ•ด์•ผ ํ•  ๋•Œ,
07:06
when we need to be direct and clear about what we need or what we want,
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ํ•„์š”๋กœ ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ๊ณผ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ์›ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์ง์ ‘์ ์ด๊ณ  ๋ช…ํ™•ํ•ด์•ผ ํ•  ๋•Œ,
07:11
it's better to avoid those modal verbs.
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๊ทธ๋Ÿฌํ•œ ์กฐ๋™์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ํ”ผํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ข‹์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:16
Instead, we can use a word like will or simply
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๋Œ€์‹  will๊ณผ ๊ฐ™์€ ๋‹จ์–ด๋ฅผ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๋‹จ์ˆœํžˆ
07:20
use words such as I need, I want and here's an example.
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I need, I want์™€ ๊ฐ™์€ ๋‹จ์–ด๋ฅผ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์—ฌ๊ธฐ์— ์˜ˆ๊ฐ€ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:25
Instead of asking someone, would it be possible for you to get that
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๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์—๊ฒŒ ๋ฌผ์–ด๋ณด๋Š” ๋Œ€์‹ 
07:30
report to me by the end of the day? You could say:
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์˜ค๋Š˜์ด ๋๋‚  ๋•Œ๊นŒ์ง€ ๊ทธ ๋ณด๊ณ ์„œ๋ฅผ ๋‚˜์—๊ฒŒ ๋ฐ›์„ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๊นŒ? ๋‹น์‹ ์€ ๋งํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค:
07:35
will you get that report to me by the end of the day or when will you get that
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๋‹น์‹ ์€ ๊ทธ ๋ณด๊ณ ์„œ๋ฅผ ํ•˜๋ฃจ๊ฐ€ ๋๋‚  ๋•Œ๊นŒ์ง€ ๋‚˜์—๊ฒŒ ๋ฐ›์„ ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๊นŒ, ์•„๋‹ˆ๋ฉด ๊ทธ
07:40
report to me? Just that little change is much more
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๋ณด๊ณ ์„œ๋ฅผ ๋‚˜์—๊ฒŒ ์–ธ์ œ ๋ฐ›์„ ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๊นŒ? ๋‹น์‹ ์—๊ฒŒ ๋งค์šฐ ์ค‘์š”ํ•˜๊ณ  ์ •๋ง๋กœ ํ•„์š”ํ•˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ์›ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ผ ๋•Œ ๊ทธ ์ž‘์€ ๋ณ€ํ™”๊ฐ€ ํ›จ์”ฌ ๋”
07:44
direct and efficient when it's something that's very important to you and that
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์ง์ ‘์ ์ด๊ณ  ํšจ์œจ์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
07:48
you really need or want. Strategy number four is use statements
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. ๋„ค ๋ฒˆ์งธ ์ „๋žต์€
07:54
with when and I feel to explain how someone else's decisions or actions
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๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์˜ ๊ฒฐ์ •์ด๋‚˜ ํ–‰๋™์ด
08:01
affect you. Maybe there's a negative situation going
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๋‹น์‹ ์—๊ฒŒ ์–ด๋–ค ์˜ํ–ฅ์„ ๋ฏธ์น˜๋Š”์ง€ ์„ค๋ช…ํ•˜๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด when๊ณผ I feel์„ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฌธ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ง์žฅ์—์„œ ๋ถ€์ •์ ์ธ ์ƒํ™ฉ์ด ๋ฒŒ์–ด์ง€๊ณ  ์žˆ์„์ง€๋„ ๋ชจ๋ฆ…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
08:05
on at work. A colleague is always late or someone
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. ๋™๋ฃŒ๋Š” ํ•ญ์ƒ ๋Šฆ๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๋ˆ„๊ตฐ๊ฐ€๊ฐ€
08:08
always interrupts you when you're speaking and you want that to stop.
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ํ•ญ์ƒ ๋‹น์‹ ์ด ๋งํ•  ๋•Œ ๋ฐฉํ•ดํ•˜๊ณ  ๋ฉˆ์ถ”๊ณ  ์‹ถ์„ ๋•Œ.
08:13
The best way to express that is to use when with I feel.
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๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์„ ํ‘œํ˜„ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฐ€์žฅ ์ข‹์€ ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์€ when with I feel์„ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
08:18
Here's an example, when you interrupt me in business
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์˜ˆ๋ฅผ ๋“ค์–ด, ๋‹น์‹ ์ด ๋น„์ฆˆ๋‹ˆ์Šค ํšŒ์˜์—์„œ ๋‚˜๋ฅผ ๋ฐฉํ•ดํ•˜๋ฉด
08:22
meetings, I feel disrespected and that my opinion
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๋‚˜๋Š” ๋ฌด๋ก€ํ•˜๋‹ค๊ณ  ๋Š๋ผ๊ณ  ๋‚ด ์˜๊ฒฌ์€
08:25
doesn't matter, or when you come late to work several
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์ค‘์š”ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š๋‹ค๊ณ  ๋Š๋ผ๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๋‹น์‹ ์ด ๋ฉฐ์น  ์—ฐ์†์œผ๋กœ ์ผ์— ์ง€๊ฐํ•˜๋ฉด
08:30
days in a row, I feel that you're not taking your job
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๋‹น์‹ ์ด ๋‹น์‹ ์˜ ์ผ์„ ์ง„์ง€ํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋ฐ›์•„๋“ค์ด์ง€ ์•Š๋Š”๋‹ค๊ณ  ๋Š๋‚๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
08:34
seriously. Using those when plus I feel statements
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. when plus I feel ๋ฌธ์„ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜๋ฉด
08:39
removes the negativity.
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๋ถ€์ •์„ฑ์ด ์ œ๊ฑฐ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
08:41
It removes any anger or frustration from what you're saying,
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๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ๋‹น์‹ ์ด ๋งํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์—์„œ ๋ถ„๋…ธ๋‚˜ ์ขŒ์ ˆ์„ ์ œ๊ฑฐ
08:45
but you're very clear and still polite about the situation and what needs to
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ๋‹น์‹ ์€ ์ƒํ™ฉ๊ณผ ๋ณ€ํ™”๊ฐ€ ํ•„์š”ํ•œ ๊ฒƒ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ๋งค์šฐ ๋ช…ํ™•ํ•˜๊ณ  ์—ฌ์ „ํžˆ ์ •์ค‘ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
08:50
change. Strategy number five is to create clear
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. ๋‹ค์„ฏ ๋ฒˆ์งธ ์ „๋žต์€ ๋ช…ํ™•ํ•œ ๊ฒฝ๊ณ„๋ฅผ ๋งŒ๋“œ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
08:55
boundaries. What that means is to be direct about
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. ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์ด ์˜๋ฏธํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ”๋Š”
08:59
what you can or can't do or what you will or won't do,
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๋‹น์‹ ์ด ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ๊ณผ ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์—†๋Š” ๊ฒƒ ๋˜๋Š” ๋‹น์‹ ์ด ํ•  ๊ฒƒ์ธ์ง€ ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์„ ๊ฒƒ์ธ์ง€์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์ง์ ‘์ ์œผ๋กœ ๋งํ•˜๊ณ  ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด
09:04
and it means you don't have to apologize for it.
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์‚ฌ๊ณผํ•  ํ•„์š”๊ฐ€ ์—†๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์˜๋ฏธํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค .
09:07
Here's an example. I can meet with you Wednesday morning,
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์—ฌ๊ธฐ์— ์˜ˆ๊ฐ€ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ˆ˜์š”์ผ ์•„์นจ์— ๋งŒ๋‚  ์ˆ˜
09:11
but Thursday won't work this week. In that statement,
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์žˆ์ง€๋งŒ ์ด๋ฒˆ ์ฃผ ๋ชฉ์š”์ผ์€ ์ผํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ ๋ฌธ์žฅ์—์„œ
09:15
it's very clear about what I'm able to do and what I'm not able to do.
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๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ๊ณผ ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์—†๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ๋งค์šฐ ๋ถ„๋ช…ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
09:19
I don't apologize and I don't give unnecessary details.
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๋‚˜๋Š” ์‚ฌ๊ณผํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์œผ๋ฉฐ ๋ถˆํ•„์š”ํ•œ ์„ธ๋ถ€ ์‚ฌํ•ญ์„ ์ œ๊ณตํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
09:24
It's polite and it's very clear about what's possible.
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์˜ˆ์˜ ๋ฐ”๋ฅด๊ณ  ๊ฐ€๋Šฅํ•œ ์ผ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ๋งค์šฐ ๋ช…ํ™•ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค .
09:29
This strategy is particularly helpful when you're working with someone who
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์ด ์ „๋žต์€ ๊ฐ•์••์ ์ด๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๋ฌด๋ก€ํ•˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๊ณต๊ฒฉ์ ์ผ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๊ณผ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ์ผํ•  ๋•Œ
09:34
might be pushy, rude or aggressive,
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09:38
and you need to say no or set some clear limits.
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๊ฑฐ์ ˆํ•˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๋ช…ํ™•ํ•œ ํ•œ๊ณ„๋ฅผ ์„ค์ •ํ•ด์•ผ ํ•  ๋•Œ ํŠนํžˆ ์œ ์šฉํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
09:41
This is the best way to do it.
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์ด๊ฒƒ์ด ๊ฐ€์žฅ ์ข‹์€ ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
09:43
So now that we have those five strategies,
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์ด์ œ ๋‹ค์„ฏ ๊ฐ€์ง€ ์ „๋žต์ด ์žˆ์œผ๋ฏ€๋กœ
09:46
let's put them all together in three clear examples.
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์„ธ ๊ฐ€์ง€ ๋ช…ํ™•ํ•œ ์˜ˆ์— ๋ชจ๋‘ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ๋„ฃ์–ด ๋ณด๊ฒ ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค .
09:51
In situation number one, I could say to a friend,
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1๋ฒˆ ์ƒํ™ฉ์—์„œ ์นœ๊ตฌ์—๊ฒŒ ์ด๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ๋งํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
09:55
I'm so sorry to bother you, but I think I might need my suitcase
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๊ท€์ฐฎ๊ฒŒ ํ•ด์„œ ์ •๋ง ๋ฏธ์•ˆ ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ๋‹ค์Œ ์ฃผ์— ํœด๊ฐ€๋ฅผ ๊ฐ€๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์— ์ž‘๋…„์— ๋นŒ๋ ค์ค€ ์—ฌํ–‰๊ฐ€๋ฐฉ์„ ๋Œ๋ ค๋ฐ›์•„์•ผ ํ•  ๊ฒƒ ๊ฐ™์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
09:59
back that I loaned you last year because I'm going on vacation next week.
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.
10:05
Yes, that's a polite way to request my
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์˜ˆ, ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ์ œ ๊ฐ€๋ฐฉ์„ ๋Œ๋ ค๋‹ฌ๋ผ๊ณ  ์ •์ค‘ํ•˜๊ฒŒ ์š”์ฒญํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
10:08
suitcase back, but it's also really passive and
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. ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ๋˜ํ•œ ์ •๋ง ์ˆ˜๋™์ ์ด๊ณ 
10:11
indirect and I'm using that word sorry, which removes the importance of what I'm
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๊ฐ„์ ‘์ ์ด๋ฉฐ ์ œ๊ฐ€ ๋งํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์˜ ์ค‘์š”์„ฑ์„ ์ œ๊ฑฐํ•˜๋Š” ์ฃ„์†กํ•˜๋‹ค๋Š” ๋‹จ์–ด๋ฅผ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
10:16
saying. In fact,
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. ์‚ฌ์‹ค
10:18
the word sorry should only be used when we're really apologizing for something,
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์ฃ„์†กํ•˜๋‹ค๋Š” ๋ง์€ ์ •๋ง ์ฃ„์†กํ•  ๋•Œ๋งŒ ์จ์•ผ ํ•˜๋Š”๋ฐ
10:24
but the problem is in this situation, the friend has had my suitcase for more
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๋ฌธ์ œ๋Š” ์ด ์ƒํ™ฉ์—์„œ ๊ทธ ์นœ๊ตฌ๊ฐ€ ์ œ ๊ฐ€๋ฐฉ์„
10:30
than a year. I've already asked for it three times,
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1๋…„ ๋„˜๊ฒŒ ๊ฐ€์ง€๊ณ  ์žˆ์—ˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๋ฏธ ์„ธ ๋ฒˆ ์š”์ฒญํ–ˆ์œผ๋‹ˆ
10:33
so now I need to be direct and clear. A better way to do that is to say,
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์ด์ œ๋Š” ์ง์ ‘์ ์ด๊ณ  ๋ช…ํ™•ํ•˜๊ฒŒ ํ•ด์•ผ ํ•œ๋‹ค. ๋” ์ข‹์€ ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์€
10:40
I'll be on vacation next week and I need my suitcase back.
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๋‹ค์Œ ์ฃผ์— ํœด๊ฐ€๋ฅผ ๊ฐ€๋Š”๋ฐ ๊ฐ€๋ฐฉ์„ ๋Œ๋ ค๋ฐ›์•„์•ผ ํ•œ๋‹ค๊ณ  ๋งํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:44
When can I pick it up? That example is much clearer.
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์–ธ์ œ ๋ฐ›์„ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋‚˜์š”? ๊ทธ ์˜ˆ๋Š” ํ›จ์”ฌ ๋” ๋ช…ํ™•ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:49
It's more assertive, but it's still polite.
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๋” ๋‹จํ˜ธ ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์—ฌ์ „ํžˆ ์ •์ค‘ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:53
In situation number two, you would like a day off to attend a
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๋‘ ๋ฒˆ์งธ ์ƒํ™ฉ์—์„œ ๊ท€ํ•˜๋Š” ์—…๋ฌด๋ฅผ ์œ„ํ•œ ๊ต์œก์— ์ฐธ์„ํ•˜๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด ํ•˜๋ฃจ๋ฅผ ์‰ฌ๊ณ  ์‹ถ๊ณ 
10:56
training for work and you've asked your boss about this several times,
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์ด์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์ƒ์‚ฌ์—๊ฒŒ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ ๋ฒˆ ๋ฌผ์—ˆ์ง€๋งŒ
11:02
but you haven't heard anything and this is the last week that you can register
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์•„๋ฌด ์†Œ์‹๋„ ๋“ฃ์ง€ ๋ชปํ–ˆ๊ณ  ์ด๋ฒˆ ์ฃผ๊ฐ€ ์ด ๊ต์œก์— ๋“ฑ๋กํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ๋งˆ์ง€๋ง‰ ์ฃผ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
11:07
for this training so you could say something to your boss like:
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๋‹น์‹ ์€ ๋‹น์‹ ์˜ ์ƒ์‚ฌ์—๊ฒŒ ๋‹ค์Œ๊ณผ ๊ฐ™์ด ๋งํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค:
11:11
I guess what I'm saying is I was hoping I might be able to go to this training
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๋‚ด ๋ง์€ ๊ธˆ์š”์ผ์— ์ด ๊ต์œก์— ๊ฐˆ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ๋ฐ”๋ž์ง€๋งŒ
11:16
on Friday, but I would need the day off.
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์‰ฌ๋Š” ๋‚ ์ด ํ•„์š”ํ•˜๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
11:19
Again, perfectly polite,
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๋‹ค์‹œ ๋งํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ, ์™„๋ฒฝํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๊ณต์†
11:22
but in this example, we want to be more direct and assertive.
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์ด ์˜ˆ์—์„œ๋Š” ๋” ์ง์ ‘์ ์ด๊ณ  ๋‹จํ˜ธํ•˜๊ฒŒ ํ‘œํ˜„ํ•˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
11:26
You want to ask for exactly what you want and show how important it is.
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์›ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์ •ํ™•ํžˆ ์š”์ฒญ ํ•˜๊ณ  ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์ด ์–ผ๋งˆ๋‚˜ ์ค‘์š”ํ•œ์ง€ ๋ณด์—ฌ์ฃผ๊ณ  ์‹ถ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
11:31
So we're going to avoid some of those modals and we're going to use much more
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๋”ฐ๋ผ์„œ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์ด๋Ÿฌํ•œ ๋ชจ๋‹ฌ ์ค‘ ์ผ๋ถ€๋ฅผ ํ”ผํ•˜๊ณ  ํ›จ์”ฌ ๋”
11:36
direct language. So instead we could say,
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์ง์ ‘์ ์ธ ์–ธ์–ด๋ฅผ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ๋Œ€์‹  ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š”
11:39
I want the day off on Friday to attend this work related training that will
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11:43
help me to be a better team leader.
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๋” ๋‚˜์€ ํŒ€ ๋ฆฌ๋”๊ฐ€ ๋˜๋Š” ๋ฐ ๋„์›€์ด ๋  ์ด ์—…๋ฌด ๊ด€๋ จ ๊ต์œก์— ์ฐธ์„ํ•˜๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด ๊ธˆ์š”์ผ ์‰ฌ๋Š” ๋‚ ์„ ์›ํ•œ๋‹ค๊ณ  ๋งํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
11:46
I have to register by Friday this week, when would be a good time for you and I
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์ด๋ฒˆ ์ฃผ ๊ธˆ์š”์ผ๊นŒ์ง€ ๋“ฑ๋กํ•ด์•ผ ํ•˜๋Š”๋ฐ, ์–ธ์ œ์ฏค
11:52
to talk about it? Perfectly polite and it's very clear
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์–˜๊ธฐํ•˜๋ฉด ์ข‹์„๊นŒ์š”? ์™„๋ฒฝํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๊ณต์†ํ•˜๋ฉฐ
11:56
about what you need and how important it is.
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ํ•„์š”ํ•œ ๊ฒƒ๊ณผ ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์ด ์–ผ๋งˆ๋‚˜ ์ค‘์š”ํ•œ์ง€์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ๋งค์šฐ ๋ช…ํ™•ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค .
11:59
And finally, number three,
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๋งˆ์ง€๋ง‰์œผ๋กœ ์„ธ ๋ฒˆ์งธ๋กœ,
12:01
we're focused on a situation where there might be some aggression or frustration
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12:06
because a colleague has asked you to work late because of a mistake they made
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๋™๋ฃŒ๊ฐ€ ์ž์‹ ์ด ์ €์ง€๋ฅธ ์‹ค์ˆ˜๋กœ ๋Šฆ๊ฒŒ๊นŒ์ง€ ์ผํ•˜๋ผ๊ณ  ์š”์ฒญํ•˜์—ฌ
12:12
so you could respond to your colleague by saying something like,
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๋™๋ฃŒ์—๊ฒŒ ๋‹ค์Œ๊ณผ ๊ฐ™์ด ์‘๋‹ตํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋„๋ก ๊ณต๊ฒฉ์ ์ด๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ์ขŒ์ ˆ๊ฐ์„ ๋Š๋‚„ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ์ƒํ™ฉ์— ์ดˆ์ ์„ ๋งž์ถฅ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ”„๋กœ์ ํŠธ๊ฐ€ ๋Šฆ์–ด์ง€๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด
12:16
I can't believe you're asking me to stay and work with you when it's your fault
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๋‹น์‹ ์˜ ์ž˜๋ชป์ธ๋ฐ ๋‹น์‹ ์ด ๋‚˜์—๊ฒŒ ๋จธ๋ฌผ๋ฉด์„œ ๋‹น์‹ ๊ณผ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ์ผํ•  ๊ฒƒ์„ ์š”๊ตฌํ•˜๊ณ  ์žˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ๋ฏฟ์ง€ ๋งˆ์‹ญ์‹œ์˜ค
12:21
the project is late. Now I'm going to miss my daughter's
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. ์ด์ œ ํ•™๊ต์—์„œ ๋”ธ์˜ ์ฝ˜์„œํŠธ๊ฐ€ ๊ทธ๋ฆฌ์šธ ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
12:23
concert at school! Yes,
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! ์˜ˆ,
12:25
you could say that. But honestly,
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๊ทธ๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ๋งํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋Ÿฌ๋‚˜ ์†”์งํžˆ
12:28
being aggressive is never a good idea. It doesn't help anyone and it doesn't
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๊ณต๊ฒฉ์ ์ธ ๊ฒƒ์€ ๊ฒฐ์ฝ” ์ข‹์€ ์ƒ๊ฐ์ด ์•„๋‹™๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋ˆ„๊ตฌ์—๊ฒŒ๋„ ๋„์›€์ด ๋˜์ง€ ์•Š์œผ๋ฉฐ
12:34
solve any problems. It just makes everyone feel angrier.
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์–ด๋–ค ๋ฌธ์ œ๋„ ํ•ด๊ฒฐํ•˜์ง€ ๋ชปํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋ชจ๋‘๋ฅผ ๋” ํ™”๋‚˜๊ฒŒ ๋งŒ๋“ค ๋ฟ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
12:37
So instead we can use these strategies of how to be more assertive and to set
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๋”ฐ๋ผ์„œ ๋Œ€์‹  ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์ด๋Ÿฌํ•œ ์ „๋žต์„ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜์—ฌ ๋ณด๋‹ค ๋‹จํ˜ธํ•ด์ง€๊ณ 
12:44
clear boundaries or say no without apologizing or feeling bad about it.
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๋ช…ํ™•ํ•œ ๊ฒฝ๊ณ„๋ฅผ ์„ค์ •ํ•˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ์‚ฌ๊ณผํ•˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๊ธฐ๋ถ„ ๋‚˜์˜๊ฒŒ ๋งํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š๊ณ  ๊ฑฐ์ ˆํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
12:50
So instead of that more aggressive reaction,
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๋”ฐ๋ผ์„œ ๋” ๊ณต๊ฒฉ์ ์ธ ๋ฐ˜์‘ ๋Œ€์‹ ์—
12:53
you could simply say something like, I can help you for 30 minutes and then I
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๊ฐ„๋‹จํžˆ " 30๋ถ„ ๋™์•ˆ ๋„์™€๋“œ๋ฆด ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ 
12:57
have to go because my daughter has a concert at school.
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์ œ ๋”ธ์ด ํ•™๊ต์—์„œ ์ฝ˜์„œํŠธ๊ฐ€ ์žˆ๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์— ๊ฐ€์•ผ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค ."
13:01
Clear, simple,
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๋ช…ํ™•ํ•˜๊ณ  ๋‹จ์ˆœํ•˜๋ฉฐ
13:03
still polite, and there's no aggression or anger.
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์—ฌ์ „ํžˆ ๊ณต์†ํ•˜๋ฉฐ ๊ณต๊ฒฉ์„ฑ์ด๋‚˜ ๋ถ„๋…ธ๊ฐ€ ์—†์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
13:07
And now you have five useful strategies that you can use to be more assertive in
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์ด์ œ ๋‹น์‹ ์€ ์‚ฌ๊ณผํ•˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๊ธฐ๋ถ„ ๋‚˜๋น ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š๊ณ  ํ•„์š”ํ•  ๋•Œ ๊ฑฐ์ ˆํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋„๋ก ์˜์–ด๋กœ ๋” ๋‹จํ˜ธํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋งํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” 5๊ฐ€์ง€ ์œ ์šฉํ•œ ์ „๋žต์„ ๊ฐ–๊ฒŒ ๋˜์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
13:12
English so that you can say no when you need to,
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13:15
without apologizing or feeling bad. You can manage stressful and difficult
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. ์ŠคํŠธ๋ ˆ์Šค๊ฐ€ ๋งŽ๊ณ  ์–ด๋ ค์šด
13:21
conversations more easily and you can express what's important to you or what
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๋Œ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ๋” ์‰ฝ๊ฒŒ ๊ด€๋ฆฌํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๊ณ  ๋‚˜์—๊ฒŒ ์ค‘์š”ํ•œ ๊ฒƒ์ด๋‚˜
13:27
you really want. As always,
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์ง„์ • ์›ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ํ‘œํ˜„ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์–ธ์ œ๋‚˜ ๊ทธ๋ ‡๋“ฏ์ด ์˜ค๋Š˜ ์ด ์ˆ˜์—…์—์„œ ๋ฐฐ์šด ๋‚ด์šฉ์„ ์ฆ‰์‹œ ์—ฐ์Šตํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋„๋ก
13:29
I do have some challenge questions for you so that you can immediately practice
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๋ช‡ ๊ฐ€์ง€ ๋„์ „์ ์ธ ์งˆ๋ฌธ์ด ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
13:34
what you've learned in this lesson today.
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.
13:36
But before I share those questions, if you found this lesson useful to you,
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์ด๋Ÿฌํ•œ ์งˆ๋ฌธ์„ ๋‚˜๋ˆ„๊ธฐ ์ „์— ์ด ๊ฐ•์˜๊ฐ€ ์œ ์šฉํ•˜๋‹ค๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ•œ๋‹ค๋ฉด
13:41
I would love to know, and there are three helpful ways that
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์•Œ๊ณ  ์‹ถ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ์„ธ ๊ฐ€์ง€ ์œ ์šฉํ•œ ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์ด ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
13:45
you can do that.
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. YouTube
13:46
You can give this video a thumbs up on Youtube and subscribe to this channel so
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์—์„œ ์ด ๋น„๋””์˜ค๋ฅผ ์—„์ง€์ฒ™ ํ•˜๊ณ  ์ด ์ฑ„๋„์„ ๊ตฌ๋…ํ•˜๋ฉด
13:51
you never miss a lesson. Share it with friends and colleagues on
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์ˆ˜์—…์„ ์ ˆ๋Œ€ ๋†“์น˜์ง€ ์•Š์„ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. Facebook ์—์„œ ์นœ๊ตฌ ๋ฐ ๋™๋ฃŒ์™€ ๊ณต์œ 
13:54
Facebook and share your comments and answers to my questions in the comments
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ํ•˜๊ณ  ๋น„๋””์˜ค ์•„๋ž˜ ๋Œ“๊ธ€ ์„น์…˜์—์„œ ๋‚ด ์งˆ๋ฌธ์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ์˜๊ฒฌ๊ณผ ๋‹ต๋ณ€์„ ๊ณต์œ ํ•˜์‹ญ์‹œ์˜ค
14:00
section below the video. So here's your turn to practice.
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. ์ด์ œ ์—ฐ์Šตํ•  ์ฐจ๋ก€์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
14:04
I've got two situations for you and I want you to respond using these
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๋‚˜๋Š” ๋‹น์‹ ์—๊ฒŒ ๋‘ ๊ฐ€์ง€ ์ƒํ™ฉ์ด ์žˆ๊ณ  ๋‚˜๋Š” ๋‹น์‹ ์ด ์˜์–ด๋กœ ๋‹จํ˜ธํ•œ ๋ฐฉ์‹์œผ๋กœ ์ด๋Ÿฌํ•œ ์ „๋žต์„ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜์—ฌ ์‘๋‹ตํ•˜๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ๋ฐ”๋ž๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
14:09
strategies in an assertive way in English,
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14:13
in situation number one, you've been doing extra work and working
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์ฒซ ๋ฒˆ์งธ ์ƒํ™ฉ์—์„œ ๋‹น์‹ ์€ ์กฐ์งํ™”๋˜์ง€ ์•Š์€ ๋™๋ฃŒ๋ฅผ ๋•๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด ์ถ”๊ฐ€ ์ž‘์—…์„ ํ•˜๊ณ 
14:18
longer hours for a month to help a disorganized colleague,
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ํ•œ ๋‹ฌ ๋™์•ˆ ๋” ๋งŽ์€ ์‹œ๊ฐ„์„ ์ผํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
14:23
and now it's really time to stop doing that extra work.
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์ด์ œ ๊ทธ ์ถ”๊ฐ€ ์ž‘์—…์„ ์ค‘๋‹จํ•ด์•ผ ํ•  ๋•Œ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
14:27
You need to focus on your own projects and your own deadlines.
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์ž์‹ ์˜ ํ”„๋กœ์ ํŠธ์™€ ๋งˆ๊ฐ์ผ์— ์ง‘์ค‘ํ•ด์•ผ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค .
14:31
So you need to tell your colleague in an assertive way that you're no longer able
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๋”ฐ๋ผ์„œ ๋™๋ฃŒ์—๊ฒŒ ๋” ์ด์ƒ
14:35
to help and work those extra hours. How could you use some of the strategies
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๋„์›€์„ ์ฃผ๊ณ  ์ถ”๊ฐ€ ์‹œ๊ฐ„์„ ์ผํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์—†๋‹ค๊ณ  ๋‹จํ˜ธํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋งํ•ด์•ผ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜ค๋Š˜ ๋ฐฐ์šด ๋ช‡ ๊ฐ€์ง€ ์ „๋žต์„ ๋ช…ํ™•ํ•˜๋ฉด์„œ๋„ ์ •์ค‘ํ•˜๊ฒŒ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜๋ ค๋ฉด ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ํ•ด์•ผ ํ• ๊นŒ์š”?
14:41
that you've learned today to do that in a clear but still polite way.
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14:46
And then in situation number two, you let one of your borrow a book of
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๋‘ ๋ฒˆ์งธ ์ƒํ™ฉ์—์„œ ๋‹น์‹ ์€ 12๊ฐœ์›” ์ „์— ํ•œ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์—๊ฒŒ ๋‹น์‹ ์˜ ์ฑ…์„ ๋นŒ๋ ค ์ฃผ์—ˆ๊ณ 
14:52
yours 12 months ago and you really want this book back.
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๋‹น์‹ ์€ ์ •๋ง๋กœ ์ด ์ฑ…์„ ๋Œ๋ ค๋ฐ›๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ์›ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
14:56
In fact, you've asked for it several times over
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์‚ฌ์‹ค, ๋‹น์‹ ์€ ์ž‘๋…„์— ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ ๋ฒˆ ์š”์ฒญํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
15:00
the last year. Now it's time to be more assertive and
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. ์ด์ œ ๊ทธ ์ฑ…์„ ๋˜์ฐพ๊ณ  ์‹ถ๋‹ค๋Š” ์˜์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ์ข€ ๋” ๋‹จํ˜ธํ•˜๊ณ  ๋ช…ํ™•ํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋ฐํž ๋•Œ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
15:04
clear about your want to get that book back.
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.
15:08
So again, how can you use these strategies to help
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๋‹ค์‹œ ๋งํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ, ์ด๋Ÿฌํ•œ ์ „๋žต์„ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜์—ฌ ์ด๋ฅผ ์ˆ˜ํ–‰ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ๋„์›€์ด ๋  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๊นŒ
15:11
you do that? The best way for you to share with me,
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? Confident English ์ปค๋ฎค๋‹ˆํ‹ฐ์—์„œ ์ €์™€ ๊ณต์œ ํ•˜๊ณ ,
15:14
get feedback and learn from others in the Confident English community is to
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ํ”ผ๋“œ๋ฐฑ์„ ๋ฐ›๊ณ , ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค๋กœ๋ถ€ํ„ฐ ๋ฐฐ์šธ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฐ€์žฅ ์ข‹์€ ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์€ ์ˆ˜์—…์ด ๋๋‚  ๋•Œ
15:19
include your answers in the comments section at the end of the lesson,
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์ฝ”๋ฉ˜ํŠธ ์„น์…˜์— ๋‹ต๋ณ€์„ ํฌํ•จํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
15:22
and with that, thank you so much for joining me today.
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. ๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์˜ค๋Š˜ ์ €์™€ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ํ•ด์ฃผ์…”์„œ ๊ฐ์‚ฌํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
15:26
I know that this week's lesson was a little bit longer than usual,
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์ด๋ฒˆ ์ฃผ ์ˆ˜์—…์ด ํ‰์†Œ๋ณด๋‹ค ์กฐ๊ธˆ ๊ธธ์—ˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฑด ์•Œ์ง€๋งŒ ์˜์–ด
15:30
but I believe that being assertive in English is an essential skill for clear,
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๋กœ ์ž๊ธฐ์ฃผ์žฅ์„ ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€ ๋ช…ํ™•ํ•˜๊ณ  ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ธ ์˜์‚ฌ์†Œํ†ต์„ ์œ„ํ•œ ํ•„์ˆ˜ ๊ธฐ์ˆ ์ด๋ผ๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐ
15:36
effective communication, and I want you to be able to do that in
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ํ•˜๊ณ  ์˜์–ด๋กœ ๊ทธ๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ๋ฐ”๋ž๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
15:39
English. Again,
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. ๋‹ค์‹œ ๋งํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ,
15:40
being assertive isn't easy for everyone. It doesn't come naturally,
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๋‹จํ˜ธํ•œ ํƒœ๋„๋ฅผ ์ทจํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€ ๋ชจ๋“  ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์—๊ฒŒ ์‰ฌ์šด ์ผ์ด ์•„๋‹™๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ์˜ค์ง€๋Š” ์•Š์ง€๋งŒ
15:46
but it's a skill that you can learn and these strategies will help you do that.
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๋ฐฐ์šธ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ธฐ์ˆ ์ด๋ฉฐ ์ด๋Ÿฌํ•œ ์ „๋žต์ด ๊ทธ๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ ๋„์›€์ด ๋  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
15:51
Have a fantastic week and I look forward to seeing you next time for your
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ํ™˜์ƒ์ ์ธ ํ•œ ์ฃผ๋ฅผ ๋ณด๋‚ด์‹œ๊ณ 
15:56
Confident English lesson.
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์ž์‹ ๊ฐ ์žˆ๋Š” ์˜์–ด ์ˆ˜์—…์„ ์œ„ํ•ด ๋‹ค์Œ ์‹œ๊ฐ„์— ๋ต™๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ๊ธฐ๋Œ€ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
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