Do native speakers think we're STUPID when we're making GRAMMAR or PRONUNCIATION mistakes?

so what do you think when people make pronunciation or grammar mistakes even when native speakers

make them this is something that a lot of non-native speakers are are curious to know

about because often times as i said and i experience that sometimes people um feel stupid

when they make mistakes it is what it is yeah and that's a feeling that we tend to have

more so when we learn a language as an adult as well because we're already like have this

standard of how we know we communicate in our native language and we want it to just

happen flawlessly the first time in in our non-native language but that's not a realistic

goal so pronunciation and grammar mistakes are going to happen like no matter how advanced

you get there will always be like a moment where you just say a word differently and

you're like oh why did why did it come out like that or you say a grammar or something

and you're like oh why did why why did that happen or we might not even realize the mistake

and that's okay so the first thing i i sort of um when people ask me this question i rebound

the question to them first and i think okay if we're speaking in your native language

what are you going to think about me if we're having this conversation in your language

and i make a pronunciation or grammar mistake what would you tell me and they're like i

wouldn't care right like like if i know what you're saying it doesn't matter and i'm like

exactly so it's a mistake just like any other um if your response to that question is you

would think someone is stupid or unintelligent or whatever then you should probably re-analyze

how you perceive people in language that would be my first um your first blockage in perceiving

yourself better in your non-native language um but people make typos when they're writing

all the time or people misspeak um i make grammar mistakes when i speak all the time

like of because you you change an idea or how you want to say something and instead

of putting an adjective you put a noun or you say a verb a different way and no one

cares and you just keep going so when you do that in your non-native language it's fine

too um and if we fear making mistakes and we allow that sense of perfectionism because

we can get really trapped in that sense of perfectionism as non-native speakers we won't

ever move forward you're never going to find areas or ways of improving or or experiences

where you can learn and grow because one pronunciation and grammar mistakes are major and and they

actually um impede us from understanding the the message that you're trying to share that

can cause confusion but in that the worst case scenario is someone would say they're

confused about what you're saying or they would ask you to clarify so you'd realize

your error you would clarify and you'd move on and it wouldn't be like a big deal like

that's the worst case scenario right which when you think about it you're like okay that's

not really that bad they just ask and i respond and we move on with the conversation so as

long as we choose to learn from our mistakes and you know remember them you have them mean

something like if you keep making the same mistake over and over it's because you're

not learning from it you're not really analyzing those situations um but if you're learning

from them there's no need to fear those experiences because they're actually opportunities to

find where you can improve and focus on for moving forward so they're like little blessings

in disguise in my opinion making mistakes because they show us where we can keep improving

our own communication style right this is the question that concerns most people

who are learning languages is making mistakes okay do native speakers think we're stupid

when we're making grammar or pronunciation mistakes oh no no there's a huge difference

between being actually stupid and just not knowing something that's an inexperienced

i guess is the word no no no of course not uh it is interesting to think though an adult

who's 30 years old or 40 is limited by the language he knows so when it comes to explaining

concepts his his language is simple almost like perhaps a child in a native in a native

speech but no of course that's not being stupid right so do it as much as you can and every

time you do that you'll find from that you learn something new a new word a new phrase

and it'll play it'll come up well two days later you need it again then again that's

how it snowballs really yeah that's true