English Conversation on Friendship | English Speaking Practice | Havisha | @EnglishBoostingPower

who have done like that

okay why you do not want to give the

name

why me they will come and fight with me

then

why should i do that you want me

you want me invite a fight

okay

you can you tell me

good evening

good evening how are you

i'm good how about you i'm also good

thank you for asking so how was your day

today my day was great how about yours

man it also was fine what did you do

today i played i enjoyed but there's a

bit of dark side in my day what was that

i slept i slept yesterday and i just

slept late and i woke up that now the

whole day was i was feeling drowsy

but

i did not even have a nap what time did

you sleep what time did you get up i

think i slept 11 or 12 o'clock and i got

up

10 or

9 o'clock so you slept how many hours

some 10 hours huh oh my god

so that was the day you were feeling

drowsy all day

yeah so at what time did you sleep when

you got up today um 11 o'clock i slept

and then i woke up around

6 30. oh i think

uh

the sleeping timing of you and me are

just similar

like two peas in a pod

we have similar things

so

do you want to talk on some other topic

or your

what

it's see the ball is in your court it's

your wish

so shall we talk about

friends

friendship

okay

so do you have any friends

oh yes i have but i don't have a big

friend circle how about you

i'm also having small circle of friends

actually when i was there in college or

school that time i was having a big

circle of friends but now

since uh i'm got married and i got a job

and then after that the touch with

friends lost

so okay so is there any friend is there

any true friend in the college also he

was with you and now also he's not yeah

yeah you see we don't meet very oftenly

and we don't talk over a phone also that

much

but okay we are in touch i can say

because you're also married i'm also

very easy also having kids i also have

kids so we are busy with our family on

what does he refer to the name

name yeah his name is pawan

pavwan yeah

what about you you tell me do you have

any friends best friends ah yes i have a

best friend

who is very

nice i can say nicer yeah so you can

share things with with

her him

ah

i can share

things with

her

okay tell me first of all why do we need

a friendships

yes i have we need friends because

friends are well pushers and we

we may find hesitation while sharing

things with our parents but we may we

will never find hesitation and

hesitation sharing things with our best

friends and without the fear of being

judged

how about you sir what is your opinion

about this yeah same thing when you say

that's right when i was small so i used

to talk many things with my friends that

i could not talk

could not spoken to my parents uh anyone

think any an example

do you tell me what was the thing that

you shared with your friends

i

i don't think this thing could have come

to me because i don't have a big friend

circle in school too so i generally

share everything which i can it is the

opposite for me the things i cannot

share with my friends i should have

their parents because to

the bitter truth about me is that i have

friends but i'm not

in touch with them you don't trust them

that's what you're saying no uh yes i

don't trust because

the human mind doesn't stay in a

particular place statistically

flickering because first i had a good

friend but later now she's not my friend

much but but now she uh there's not that

friendship there is friendship but not

that much friendship she's in another

i think i can say so i'm not

i don't trust people very easily so

i can say i don't have any true truthful

friend can you tell what are the

qualities of a good friend or best

friend

a good friend should be good should be

uh trustable he should be

uh he should be a person should share

the things with the best friend without

the fear of being judged the best friend

should help in the times of need in this

world there are friends who are fair

weather friends but a true friend should

not be a fair brother friend he should

go

you should be with the friend in thick

and thin ways

yeah you are right so you have to be

very careful with

fair weather friends they can change

they will behave like your friends but

they won't be friends okay

and you're right that

friends is like

always

shares with or supports us always in

like a

thick container in the conditions of the

container right okay so

sir

is there any situation with you which

you could not as you said many such

situations happen to you so can you say

that

one or three one or two of the

situations which you could not say to uh

your parents but you could say to your

friends

like i i can remember an incident

incident sense

i fought with a person okay i

i mean badly if i i fought with him and

then that thing that i could not

stop

did you have a

mental fight or a

did you fight with your words that

really fight with hands and you said

mental fight what was that

mental fight means

speaking and fighting speaking of the

word fight verbal fight you can say

about the fight or physical fight

against him did you have a verbal fight

or a physical fight and i actually i was

coming from my school and then i was

waiting and what happened somebody

turned to my shoulder and then i when i

turned it the person was standing with

me

okay then we argued and then he paused

it like this the moment he pointed me i

brought my hand like this so the his

punch hit here and then when i brought

it and i pushed him back so he fell down

again that so it happened like that okay

so

that's what happened then many elders

came and they separated us then next day

what happened he brought his friends

okay or his friend so his brother i

don't know who was there so i knew that

he would bring something so i also told

my friends that i may need you

okay something happened yesterday and

today

something's going to happen again

so then i mean entire day next day i did

nothing happened when i was coming from

school uh i was

i mean i instead of taking the the

regular path i didn't go that way i knew

that if i go if i take that path those

people will be standing there so i

didn't take that path so what i do i

took some of the path when i went other

path then what happened those guys came

turned off that side also

okay i was alone

i was alone and no one was there to help

me

so even though i didn't get scared and

um he just uh man

so there were some four or five people

were there four or five uh boys over

there i could say they must be bullies

right

bullies uh they would actually uh the

person who the woman of the boy which

with whom i fought no

they were there

i can say brothers or brothers friends

they were there they were quite quite

older than me

so i could not fight with them

so

i didn't say anything they were they

surrounded me and they said many things

to me could never ever do that where

like that they threatened me i didn't

say anything because i was not in good

condition i can say not in an advantage

position because if i fight with them

they all will fight they'll beat me so i

kept quiet

and i listened them whatever they want

to say

then they relieved me

they didn't beat me actually

uh then because they say no they saw him

i was alone and i could not do anything

if i had taken an eminem dude back then

they could have done something

so that's what these type of incidents i

didn't share with my parents

so these incidents i shared with my

friends

okay

and why did you share not with your

parents

what they could have done with this they

could have scolded me or i can say um

they could have disrespected me and like

now i that time i was going along

to school okay

and um if i had shared those things with

them then that means it will be a burden

for my parents they will drop me and

they'll pick me up from the school so

that will be timeless for them so i

thought why to share those things now

and nothing happened nothing matter

happened no

correct

yeah if i share with them they will put

more restrictions

on me

they won't allow me to play

with them and you know one of the best

part of the friendship best friends

but at this time your friends were not

with you so that day they were not there

but you know but they were supported to

me they they said yes because i did not

take that path i took other path

okay

but they were there with me for an

entire day of the school

but after the school they went to their

own path because our route is different

i stay some other ways they stay some

other way so that's what it happened and

see best part of that that okay the same

person with whom i fought he was my

classmate okay

but after a few days we became friends

again

so the best part of that friendship or

best friend i can say we fight and again

we come back and we forget the fights

what happened

okay so

yeah

in your

you have your best friend is pawan right

yeah uh so in what he was best friendly

mike cole is actually changes in his

school

the friends will be different then when

you go to college you'll find some new

friends

so in school when you are

some three years old can you remember

what was your last three years i don't

remember i remember

sixth standard and then seventh eighth

after onwards okay tell me when your

sixth standard who was your best friend

six standard

my best friend he was my neighbor

actually

he used to play

he was not my age he was not my uh not

hello to me he was younger to me okay

you see younger see a friendship doesn't

matter age doesn't matter for friendship

right you can be a friend with anybody

uh how many years old was your friend he

was when i was six standard he was i

think in third standard

where i was staying now so

people were not there my

kids don't we're not there much to have

friends so okay

that's all right we have to we have to

the limited resources so i was having

those type of those is

group

kids so i was having friends with them

consider them okay but i think you tell

me what about you

but i don't think the how uh i don't

think making friends with small children

and playing their games they want to

play it's a bit

boring isn't it no it's not boring they

will say one thing that you play

according to them or you make them play

according to us

so what way would you choose

so both way sometimes they will play the

opportunity

how to play with them according to their

way and sometimes they have to play with

my way okay what was their favorite game

my favorite gay chess chess indoor game

chase and outdoor game cricket what

about you you tell me what about your

friends how many friends do you have you

tell me an incident happens so that you

shared with them but could not share

with your parents ah there's no such

incident i shared with my friends but

not my parents

first of all there's no first interested

in my whole life till now till date

i can say you still have time enough

time i think

yes bye so i don't think i used but you

know the friendship

teaches you

loyalty

it is give loyalty and take loyalty in

italy

yeah so

but sometimes it's really good

to have friends that too also true

friends good friends but in this world i

don't think i have a true friend i had

in my classmate but

but

but

after av

but after but now i don't stay with

friends more in my school but but in my

neighbor's places i have many friends

but not

true friend but not true friends true

friends

i mean that they're not um

like they'll help in this and all we

just play for the further i just play

for the sake of running

because my father says you should do

tricks of friendly or sick of playing

for the sake of running i can play with

my siblings they mean a lot to me i

don't need to play with any other anyone

else

but for the sake of running afterward on

the boring treadmill

i'm boring treadmills i cannot just

effort i cannot bear to run there for a

long time which is 20 minutes but the

same 20 minutes mean a one minute to me

if i run in the park because my mind

will not be diverted to my running

portion how am i running i'm feeling

tired or not a bit tired or almost dead

it will be on the game we are playing so

it will be easy to run so how long do

you play in the game

one or two one and one and a half hours

but not continuous running run run run

but sometimes we don't play run only

much see in the game you are running

intermittently

okay in treadmill you have to run

continuously so what is the difference

difference is this you'll burn more

calories in treadmill if you run

continuously if you are running like

what what game do you play

ice and water

and there are three

best runners in our my game who run so

fast that also i'm telling you know they

will run or you will run intermittently

you won't get sweat

ah i get a lot of sweat while going in

the park rather than in the treadmill

the treadmill i walk on the sixth speed

also you are playing the game only just

for running yeah see running here you

can run 20 minutes and you can finish

your job

and on

on playing time you have to spend your

time one or two hours

then where is the time more time just

a play

see do you know what playing is a very

good see playing teaches many things

what it us a discipline okay and sharing

okay yeah but i don't think playing

teaches me discipline because in my game

there's a lot of cheating but with me

only

because i have because there are three

boys almost at of my age are older to me

or in not much

one or two months older to me but i

can't but the three boys are run very

fast

and what was your question i just forgot

what teaches you ah yeah i remember i

just got it but in that game

the it's just like a girl boy game and

belong to the girls team where there is

no one who runs fast but in the first

term there are three people who run fast

so the

thing that they will not do they will

um

do

cheating when we have to catch they will

do lots and lots of pauses but when we

have to but when they have to catch us

we won't do it we won't do many pauses i

in fact i avoid poison puzzles so you'll

be in different one team and they will

be in different game right uh it's not

real but it is it is not in the game but

it is the reality the girls will be

different the boys will be different so

you will be there in the girls team

right yeah as i'm a girl so you you are

having one team so what does it teach

you it teaches you cooperation

okay

unity

so play is important visha see when

you're there in team you'll learn

something

and then when you're there for quite a

long time in a team

and the girls who are their team members

they will be close to you and then

eventually you'll become friend

yeah but the girls team has more younger

but yes the youngerness doesn't matter

as you told there's a person who is

faster and just like me

in the

brain or mental skill she is almost like

me but not much

who's that um

does she study my sister's class who's

in

in certain standards yes second standard

yes you got right

so what is her name

uh her name is samriddhi she

she's a very nice and i can say she's

also a bit

cunning like me so you are coming closer

yeah there's a car in between uh that's

the little boy will go from here and the

small children who are just don't know

they will go from here but i will go

from here somebody will go from here and

catch him from here

and then you are learning something and

you're becoming i mean coming close to

them and you are becoming friends right

so it's good

but you know see where see

running on treadmill also good thing

but in running in treadmill don't is it

isn't it boring

so how do you know i see other than

playing what physical activity do you do

oh my god what about yoga exercise i do

yoga

how much time do you spend for that uh

some 10 20 30 minutes

20 20 10 20 30 minutes yeah but it's

sometimes yeah 10 20 30 minutes

approximately can you explain 10 20 30

minutes how

is possible i never counted that one day

10 then second 20 and 30.

you should turn in 20 30.

it's like this that

i don't have fixed time because i have

my yoga portion is very a bit little bit

but when i'm too lazy i take that little

bit which must be taking five minutes it

will take five hours

so

it's bad i have long volume kapalbhati

10 10 minutes so it will become 20 so if

i do yoga fast fast fast it will be 10

10 plus 20 30 but not continuously

because i'll do the 10 minute part

later and the 20 minute part later so

how long you have been doing yoga

10 30 or 40 minutes no no i'm not

talking about everyday how long do you

how much do you do what i'm telling you

since when you have been doing this yoga

uh that would be a better question to

ask to my father i guess it happened one

year six months i don't know how to

calculate i don't know maybe one or two

years ago two years so do you learn

something like you did you finally

change in yourself

after doing yoga after a long time

before yoga you've been doing yoga so

you were

one person and then after this many

years you can say or months you can say

did you find any change in yourself

because of

yoga yeah i go for a burden and myself

and

i found

as a joke i found burden because i have

to do much and also i don't think i'm

not much prompt to cold and cough

now

okay that's the physical part and

mentally also if you do yoga it's a

biting breathing exercise and it gives a

little bit more calm but i don't change

peace but i don't do the peaceful way

while doing normal i watch tv

okay that means you are doing the sake

you're doing the sake of doing right

finishing time finishing all your day

yeah that means you're not sincere

see when you do yoga which is with

seriousness and sincere

you will have advantages

like

like you will feel change in yourself

have you experienced it yes of course

i continuously did around three months

four months

i felt a change in myself

i was more calm

and

i mean you'll be a different person at

all how did you become yeah but i think

you we also can can you give me example

of a good

bond friends

in the past

and as you you're my men is fond of

reading

spiritual books

yes okay you tell me in history or

whatever you read from that you just

give me

two or three examples of

good friendship

in spiritual books anywhere in real life

also kingdom

any movie you can say i don't watch

movies first of all i don't watch movies

and uh

till i don't have okay

that uh spiritual stories okay i

remember

i remember a spiritual story as well as

a story of a good friendship of a good

friendship in a spiritual as well as

when i was second standard i

heard a story now tell me so which one

should i tell you first do you prefer to

anyone

and even the and my second standard i

heard there was a

tortoise and

and a

tortoise yeah

and

and another friend i think it was a

rabbit perhaps they were they were

friends yeah

they were friends so once the cheetah

attacked them it was about to eat it was

just

it was just crack

the rabbit ran away but the because of

the slow secret of the taught us the

tortoise couldn't read the cheetah

caught him and it imminently went into

its shell the cheetah was not leaving

him scratching the shell but

all his efforts went in vain

so

so the rabbit thought of an idea he came

to the cheetah and said if you throw

this tartus in the water it will its

shell will melt and you can eat him

so foolishly the cheetah threw the

turtles in the water and

it ran away okay

then

no where is the friendship coming to

picture here yeah here

the friendship coming in the picture is

that the rabbit helped taught us in the

difficult

situation okay he cheated a cheetah

he was not a friend of cheetah but in

fact he was a friend of a

tortoise

yeah yeah you and this is not about

spirituality okay bring order give me

some examples from the spiritual your

ms

not myths it's not a myth

and

i have heard

that

in a story where there was a person

called krishna and another person called

sudama they had a very good friendship

from beginning of their

from beginning a childhood once when

krishna went very far sudama still

remembered him and then they came and

krishna also didn't forget him

krishna didn't forget him

see when his dhamma and sudama was in

trouble so he came to krishna for him

krishna helped him

but you tell me when krishna was his

friends of why did krishna not go to him

to help yeah he was busy

was in trouble so he came

to meet

why didn't krishna go

to him and

i

i mean it was always all problems

he did not what was that friendship

this is the first time when some adult

is asking a child a question you have to

tell me you you want to give the example

of like there are good friends so

krishna okay sudama went to krishna

because he was a friend

uh because it must be it must be because

krishna was very busy with the

his wife

was busy with his wife because he was

heavy so many vibes how many hours he

was doing sixteen thousand one hundred

and eight oh my god

nowadays we cannot handle my wife and he

was having so many wives so he was busy

with his wives so that's why he couldn't

go right yeah

okay so any other example you give me

okay this is a

krishna leela i can say

krishna and arjun also was friends yeah

i also knew that that

i was thinking

seeing that also they were so close you

can say when you see one part of one

advantage or you can say quality of good

friend is that he will take you in the

right path

yeah he will

make you away from uh evil right yes so

that's what krishna did with

him i didn't say that i don't want to

fight

but then krishna

gave him lesson which is also known as

bhagavad-gita and then

and he

uh

cleared his all doubts and fog in front

of his eyes and then he was clear from

his i mean clear

his mind that what he should do

yes

that's what this is one uh second

example any other example

see i'm giving okay you give one example

second one i give krishna now third one

this one this is

example could be

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um

ah let me think it's uh

the third example of friendship

could be

i can't remember

i'll remember a story about friendship

i don't remember any other you tell me

from ramana park you can say ramayana

not only in mahabharata

okay let me think from ramayan

i also remember rama's friends with a

person

who was helping when him when he was in

the forest

okay tell me the name

name i don't remember

something starting from you i guess see

uh in when he was in forest

uh he got friendship with

sugriva

see in friendship also one other

thing is that he

you help him and in reciprocal he also

will help us

okay so like helping each other

okay supporting and encouraging each

other

so when he when he got around met yes

so he promised that i'll help you you

help me yeah so green was a friend of

hanuman right

he was not a friend of mine

i

you were working under him

but why

what why sugury was a king

but bali

took his kingdom that is

one part

okay so what see i'm giving this good

friendship example between ram and

sugriva see ram told that i'll help you

help me so like that they became friends

isn't it

then

when sugri went i mean rambo and told

that you go and fight with bali i'll

protect you i'll kill bali but then

first fight he could not kill and sugri

came and complained what it is what type

of friend you are

and i went because you told me so i went

and i fought with him and you told that

you'll kill him you didn't kill him huh

then he explained him

why he could not kill him because he did

not distinguish between bali and

secretary you didn't know who's bali

who's

monkeys

so that's why he could not kill but then

what happened then again second time he

went and then he killed so that means he

did it he

he

helped him and now it was part of his

help

to ram

so he also helped so they were close

friends

they helped each other so in friends

also

we help each other

we learn helping each other

isn't it the last question i want to

i want to ask you other than but when is

there any other fair weather friend you

have

fair feather fancy fair weather fans

um i mean

we don't know now who will be fair

weather and so that way i can say in

college or any in your life there will

be many people

they will treat they will behave like a

friend but they won't be friends

like that have you come across any such

person who has just

uh who has not helped you in a difficult

situation but you helped him in a

difficult situation yeah there are many

people like that i don't want to give a

name

okay there are people that there are

people who have done like that

okay why i do not want to give the name

why they mean they will come and fight

with me then

why should i do that you want me yeah

you want me to invite a fight

okay

you can kill me

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