The 2 Cures For The Fear Of Speaking English

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is happening uh thanks so much for all classes  yeah it's my pleasure all right so today I want  

to talk about fear it should be a very simple  uh explanation but hopefully people understand  

why it happens or my markers all right so the  first thing to understand about fear so number  

one when you have uh fear of speaking so I help  a lot of people with this actually I created a  

whole program about about just dealing with this  one issue uh because it's such a big uh Alexander  

says I want to know your favorite football team  in this world cup uh yeah I don't I'm not paying  

attention to the World Cup I don't I I like soccer  or football but I'm not not really watching it I  

just see some highlights but I haven't seen any  full games this year I haven't really watched  

World Cup in a long time anyway uh back to fear  so uh I can help you with this video if you have  

uh fear of speaking English or you have any kind  of nervousness about speaking English or worry  

about speaking English but you can speak your  native language just fine so if you have problems  

communicating in your native language this is a  little bit of a different video so I help people  

this video specifically is for people who uh they  speak their native language just fine so they  

don't have problems uh communicating or asking  questions or getting questions from other people  

they just speak normally now a lot of people still  have trouble when they're in front of a large  

group so you might have you know that's kind of a  separate issue if you are nervous about speaking  

in front of a big group of people but I'm just  talking about actual everyday one-on-one or one  

in a small group conversation so if you have no  problem with that in your native language but you  

do have that problem in English then really we're  going to talk about that here in this video and  

so the reason really the number one the number one  reason for fear number one reason and people were  

telling me I need to I need to write more clearly  people are getting angry at my writing so let me  

make sure I write this clearly it takes a little  bit longer so the number one reason for fear

is doubt

all right so this is it this is really the number  one cause of fear you might have worries about  

pronunciation or your grammar or something like  that but really what this means is you have doubts  

about particular words and phrases or how to say  something so if you're in a conversation and you  

notice I I want to say a word but I forget that  word or I can't remember exactly how to express  

something it's because you have a doubt about a  particular thing hopefully this makes sense so  

it's a very simple issue and it's a very logical  issue as well all right so in regular everyday  

conversations people want to express themselves  and if you can't say what you want to say or you  

don't sound natural or you're worried about your  pronunciation of course you will feel nervous  

about speaking so number one doubt is the reason  for this and you also don't have to feel bad about  

that we all experience this when we're trying  to do something knew when we're not confident  

yet so doubt it's it's really just another way  of saying that you don't have confidence about a  

particular thing so it could be vocabulary grammar  pronunciation whatever that is but doubt is really  

the issue so in this video I want to briefly  talk about the two ways the two cures for this  

there are two things you can do so the first one  and this is something I talk about in a program I  

have called the Insight but this is basically  an idea about overcoming the fear to overcome

to overcome the fear hopefully this is uh  

are you some more Japanese it's nice to see some  Japanese Learners here or at least people in Japan  

so the first thing you can do if you have doubt  or you have worries about communication is you  

can overcome that fear so what do I mean by  overcome that fear let's imagine you have uh  

if we were to put this on a graph make this nice  and simple let's say you have like this much fear  

of speaking English we'll just say this is like  your your level of fear so you have this much  

fear and if you like let's say you're trying to  have a conversation with someone or you don't  

really it's not very important that you say  something if you don't if you don't go above  

this level with confidence then you're not going  to speak it sounds like kind of a strange way  

of explaining this but basically you need to have  more fear than confidence if you're going to speak  

and so you can do this again this is overcoming  the fear so overcoming means we rise above that  

we get to a higher level just like you overcome a  problem so the problem doesn't really go away you  

you kind of get beyond that thing you overcome  the fear so to overcome uh again you're you you  

really do this and I explain a lot more in detail  about this but it's really remembering the value  

that you can give to somebody in a conversation  so even if you don't communicate correctly or  

you're worried about your pronunciation if  you have really valuable advice to give to  

someone then you will overcome that fear okay  so if you're if your desire to help someone or  

you you feel what you you have to say is very  important even if you have worries about your  

pronunciation or grammar or vocabulary you will  speak okay so this is overcoming the fear does  

everyone get that point hopefully this makes sense  the point is really just to have more desire to to  

help somebody or to express something because you  feel that's valuable so if the value that you have  

is higher it's greater than the fear you have you  will overcome the fear and you will speak you will  

still probably make mistakes but the mistakes are  not so important so if I have some very important  

advice to give to some young person about life  or something and maybe my pronunciation isn't  

perfect the important thing is the advice I'm  giving them okay so less less so the important  

uh or the the fear of that so the advice I want  to give is more valuable or more important than  

any fear that they might have alright so this is  how you overcome fear now the second one is much  

more interesting it takes a little bit longer but  this is really like the path to fluency and having  

fantastic confidence so this is again overcoming  something so overcoming mean you have have greater

so to overcome means you have greater value  than fear so greater value to provide by  

speech whatever that is so even if you your  pronunciation is not very good if you feel like  

you have greater value to share then you will you  will speak so the other one is to destroy the fear  

all right so when you destroy the fear this  means you're actually eliminating the fear  

from your conversations okay now again this  takes a little bit longer uh but the the main  

idea is that if you don't have any fear then  obviously you'll be a much better speaker well

I can't read that hey Google

well you can you can learn if you if you practice  with me here so these videos are for people  

who already understand some English or actually  maybe a lot of English but they still can't speak  

fluently and one of the reasons is because people  have doubts so let's talk about that so destroying  

fear this is the other thing you can do so you can  overcome the fear meaning the fear is still there  

or you can destroy the fear and destroying the  fear comes as you understand English more and more  

so I'll give you an example from my my  daughters talk about destroying the fear  

so my younger daughters are or both of them  my older daughter and my younger daughter  

were watching a movie and they learned the word  space SP -a-c-e space uh and they didn't quite  

know what this word means so what what they  they were watching a movie and they learned  

this word but they didn't really understand  it so they begin by just hearing something

so you might hear a word or a phrase in a  conversation or in a movie and you don't  

quite understand that thing but you're you're  kind of beginning that let me I'll just put this  

down at the bottom this is a little bit easier  to understand so you begin by hearing something  

or maybe you see it if you're reading a book

so you begin by hearing or seeing some kind of  vocabulary and then if you if you only hear it  

one time you will not feel very confident about  that all right so you just hear something my  

daughters hear the word space in a movie and  they think uh I can kind of understand what  

that what that's about but not really so my older  daughter came into my room and she asked me what  

does space mean and I said oh where where  did you hear that where did you hear that  

so I don't want to just give her a definition I  actually want to help her understand something  

because the understanding is what leads to  confidence okay this is how we destroy fear  

so uh she said oh we were watching a movie about  some some dogs and they go up into into space  

uh if you're familiar this is uh this is a Paw  Paw Patrol movie if you know what that is if  

you have kids or you know people with kids you  might know what this is uh but she was watching  

that or they were watching this and then they had  trouble understanding it so they asked me and they  

said oh like they they go up into into space or  they were talking about space like that but they  

didn't quite understand it and I said Oh you mean  like outer space like if you you know this is like  

Earth or whatever and then you like the area  around it so if you're in a in like a rocket  

or something and you go up like up here now you  were in in space and then they said oh like ah  

now I get it okay now I get it so we move from  hearing and seeing something to understanding it

all right and as as we move from from just  hearing something to actually understanding it  

the confidence increases and the fear decreases  or the doubt decreases I I call it fear because  

this is a it's a just a of like a feeling we  we experience it's really the same thing as  

excitement uh but we're nervous about something  we're worried about something at the same time  

so once uh once they understood space  and they understood what this means  

then something clicked in their mind it's like  oh uh wait I think I remember like spaceship

from the movie and so they're they're  starting to make connections between  

different things and like ah like  a spaceship or like a space suit

and so as they get more examples of something  space pets yeah you could have that and they learn  

you know maybe some slightly different examples  so we have space like there's space in my hands  

so as we cover a few related examples this  is where they start really becoming more  

confident about using something so we go from  understanding something to getting naturally

varied review

and as they get naturally varied reviews so  they learn space so spaceship okay now this  

is like a ship like a craft or something out  in space or I might have space in my house  

to put something so I don't mean outer space  so this is like this area around the earth we  

call that outer space outer space or you will  hear it so it's o u like out like that but we  

have a kind of a D sound Outer Outer Space outer  space so it sounds like o u d e r powder powder  

the British pronunciation would be more like  outer out to space all right and so if you as  

soon as you get more and more of these examples  oh okay we've got spaceship space suit I've got  

I've got space where I've got like space in my  schedule so if you if you're learning even more

examples of something like if I have a calendar  here though so this day and this day this day oh  

no so this day I am busy and this day I am busy  but this time I am free so you can say I have  

space I have space I have space in my schedule I  have space in my schedule so this is just another  

way of saying I have time in my schedule all right  so notice as you get more and more examples as the  

examples increase the doubt goes down okay  so this is confidence over here and this is  

let's put a d for that does this make sense so  the the goal you can you can either very quickly  

uh overcome the fear that you have by remembering  some value maybe you want to even just just listen  

to someone and just be in a conversation because  you think it will help the person in some way you  

want to give some kind of value to that person  but the other way is is you getting more and  

more examples until you feel so confident  that you just automatically use something  

okay I'll give you another very quick example  we're already at 16 minutes I want to keep this  

short but this was another example where my  daughter my older daughter used the word uh  

secret passage the secret passage and so I said  oh where did you learn that so she was describing  

we put up a Christmas tree in our house and this  Christmas tree I'll draw kind of a picture General  

shape of the Christmas tree and there's a little  Christmas tree stand that's holding up the tree  

and this Christmas tree stand has some holes in  it like this and you can put something through  

that if you like and so what my daughters  have done is they you know they took some  

little animals or dolls or other things like  that and they put them around the bottom of  

the tree and she said look like there's a  secret passage where they can go through  

and I was amazed because I I didn't know  that she knows that vocabulary so Secret

secret passage secret passage and immediately I  said where did you learn that where did you learn  

secret passage because I didn't teach her that and  her mother didn't teach her that nobody taught her  

that but she got that from a different movie or TV  show or something like that and and what happened  

here is because she understood the vocabulary  so she knows secret and she learned passage from  

the from the TV show so she's watching and  she she described oh okay there's a castle  

there's like a secret a secret door in a  castle and the the characters were going  

through that secret door and they called it a  secret passage a secret passage so she used the  

vocabulary perfectly just from understanding it  so she was not practicing she was not walking  

around the house saying secret passage secret  passage trying to repeat that the secret for  

her was understanding the vocabulary okay and  so sometimes you can understand something very  

quickly with just one example so if I'm going to  teach you something in Japanese like I've given  

these examples before if we've got two markers  the only thing different if I say akka AO akka ow  

now you might not remember that word if I'm  again going to give you something again and  

again that's what's going to help you use it and  remember it but if I'm going to give you just a  

simple example like this you can understand what  I mean very quickly so most people have trouble  

understanding something and they often like  in the case of pronunciation they will hear a  

teacher explain something very slowly and clearly  like I'm speaking right now but they will have  

trouble expressing themselves in a conversation  or understanding natives because natives don't  

speak like that so the pronunciation is different  for different people but the interesting thing is  

again it's understanding something that really  lets you speak and when you understand something  

the doubt goes away you destroy the fear and  you can finally express yourself so the more  

you get examples of different things as you  learn that's what's really going to eliminate  

the fear it will make you feel very confident  about explaining something or just expressing  

yourself or being in a conversation with other  people I'll just give one last thing I know I  

said I wanted to keep this around 15 minutes I  think we started a little late but just on the  

topic of pronunciation I wanted to give a better  example of this so let's say I hear the word  

uh you can you can give me a word that you have  trouble pronouncing other some people tell me

the word water is difficult to pronounce so I  often hear that from people now you will hear a  

native speaker in a conversation will sound  a little bit different than I do and also  

depending on where you are so you might hear  a British speaker might say like water water  

but a British is going to be different in even  different parts of Britain will sound different  

than parts of the United States so this would be  more of like a D sound in American English water  

water water water water all right  so Comfort okay we've got another  

example let's see from Aisha  gives me the example of comfort

I think this was another example  word that I got from uh like maybe  

two videos ago so comfort you can  say Comfort Comfort Comfort comfort

Comfort Comfort if you're trying  to pronounce it clearly but in a  

conversation I might say like Comfort comfort  you comfortable or so here we have comfortable

so you might have comfortable or you might have  comfortable comfortable comfortable you will hear  

both of those and the point I'm trying to make  is that just like with the vocabulary as you get  

more examples of something that's what really  builds your confidence and eliminates the doubt  

and fear so you hear the word comfortable nice  and slow and clear from a teacher comfortable  

comfortable but in a real conversation you might  hear comfortable or comfortable you might hear  

both of those but as you get more examples  of this person says it like this this person  

says it like this this person this person each of  these people has a different way of speaking and  

so as you get these you feel much more confident  about the kind of range that you have over here

often yes you will hear often like often or often  you will hear it I I even say it with both using  

the T or not using the T but the point is not  to get one pronunciation because you get many uh  

examples of that from people and the more examples  you get that's how you become much more confident  

about speaking does that make sense so rather  than looking for one example of a vocabulary  

like a word or some grammar or looking for one  example of pronunciation you actually want to hear  

many different people saying things and that's  what eliminates the doubt and the fear all right  

all right let's go back uh so that's basically  it for the lesson if you have questions about  

anything I've just talked about let me know I'll  go back and see if there are any let's see any  

questions I have to work now but I will watch  this later I'm a big fan of you and your class  

all right see you later let's see all right

yeah I don't know who's I think there  are other people let's see let's meet  

again my teacher I'm here one more time  hello there Drew all right going back  

accomplished or performed yep so those are  other again words you might hear accomplished  

accomplished or you might see you might  hear accomplished a comp where the p is  

it's it's almost silent accomplished  accomplished accomplished accomplished

all right So reading about pronunciation a  tree and three tree and three rural please  

butter if you want to hear me personally just  say a bunch of things you should get Frederick

if you don't have the app already so  you can hear me pronounce all of these  

different things already in the app  as much as you like I can repeat it

oh I think do we do we meet are you Japanese

all right so hello uh everyone  I'm here for first time I hope  

you can improve my English with your  classes yes I'm happy to help you  

woman life for ah okay all right let's see  here all right so if we have no ah okay

so this is a young student that I was helping who  was interested in uh learning about YouTube so  

this is a young Brazilian student I actually told  this uh the story uh to some of my subscribers  

uh let's see can I speak iron so  Jose asks about iron iron iron

so I know it sounds like it should be Iran iron

so remember if you're in a conversation and you're  worried about you know you feel uh you feel doubt  

or you feel nervousness about something really  what you should do is either try to focus on the  

value you give and just for that conversation  maybe you're you know there's not much you can  

do for learning more in that conversation so  remember the value that you can give to other  

people but then in the long term as you continue  to learn remember to get more examples until you  

really feel confident about something because the  first time you hear it you will probably not feel  

very confident about using something you need  to hear something again and again in order to  

become a much more confident speaker all right  and it's it's really the the Erasure of Doubt  

so if you eliminate doubt as you do that you  will feel much more confident about speaking uh  

I says please pronounce entrepreneur entrepreneur  entrepreneur I earn yeah like yeah it sounds kind  

of like I heard thanks for the class can you  pronounce can can't and Khan can can't and con

so another one is people are asking me  now about pronunciation I wanted to give  

a few examples of pronunciation but the the  basic way does everybody know what this is

phonics

let me know if you know what phonics is  so phonics meaning like sound these are  

the pronunciation rules of English findings  and so this is what we teach in Frederick

so when you learn the difference  between words like a can  

and con when you compare them if you can listen to  both of these sounds you can hear the difference

and this is an ah

Khan Khan so to con someone meaning to like  to trick someone to con something and can can  

like a like a can or I can do something so when  you're listening for pronunciation it's important  

to compare the different and related sounds all  right so this is what we do in Frederick who who  

has this app if you have this app let me know uh  let's see if we have any other questions hi from  

Dominican Republic I need to practice to improve  my English nice to see you there Jose uh my issue  

when it comes to communication with others my  mind goes blank yeah so the the the the the reason  

like the doubt that people have or the particular  problems people have about like your mind going  

blank or you're forgetting words you can't think  of the the exact right thing to say is because  

of how people learn so most people are  teaching English they use your native language

so they use your native language and  then translate that into English so  

that's kind of the the first one  so we're going to use translations

and also we will be studying grammar rules

rather than what natives do which is understand  vocabulary in in the context of the situation  

so whatever is really happening like if I pick  something up I pick up a marker I'm picking up  

a marker my young daughters they don't know what  a verb is I say hey what is a verb they don't  

know but they know to pick something up okay so  it's really the way people learn and the biggest  

problem with this is that people don't get lots  and lots of different related examples this is  

this is really the biggest problem that people  have uh and it's it's not your fault as a learner  

this is just the way everybody teaches so instead  of doing kind of one example or one definition you  

should be learning the native way which is helping  helping yourself understand like a native Colgate  

so this begins we have instead of learning through  your native language you learn all in English

okay so you don't use any translations we're not  

using your native language you  learn everything all in English  

and we're not trying to study grammar rules we're  trying to understand grammar from situations

and then we want to get lots  and lots of examples many

many examples hopefully this is clear enough  for people so we have learning everything all  

in English then you're learning through situations  rather than trying to understand vocabulary from  

definitions or translations and then you're  getting lots and lots of examples so that  

you feel more confident as you're understanding  improves that's when you really feel confident  

about speaking and that's when you become a much  more fluent speaker all right we look like we had  

a bunch of comments that came in all right so  okay so your mind goes blank yeah hopefully I  

answered that so the reason like it's it's these  kinds of things these kinds of learning methods  

that cause your mind to go blank and to forget  words or to not know what other to not understand  

natives that kind of thing all right so why are  some letters silent in English uh it's just part  

of the history of the language and so some words  come from other languages and we might just like  

keep that that spelling but the pronunciation  would be different that's why we have it so  

there are a lot of funny rules in the language  but if you if you understand phonics and you  

learn it like a native then you will understand  it and be able to pronounce things correctly all  

right uh St Ulrich let's see thank you for what  uh for that you do to I follow you from France  

nice to see you there and I would like to know  when you are live every Wednesday or ah I don't  

have a schedule for this I probably should usually  I'm live around this time uh but I don't want to  

uh I don't want to make a commitment because  there might be some times I can't do it but  

lately I have been doing Monday and Thursday  Japan time so this is Thursday over here  

please pronounce world and word world word all  right look at that got a lot of a lot of Japanese  

at least Japanese names are these all people  do you like Japanese are these actual Japanese  

people I'm just surprised because I rarely get  uh Japanese speakers on the chat with me thank  

you for teaching I follow you from France  okay also from yeah you're also from France

may I have this app glad to hear it yes  so if you're using Frederick you can  

actually uh compare the different sounds  so you can hear things like it can or con  

and that will help you pronounce things  correctly all right Jose says excellent  

pronunciation very clear so very clear  I understand perfectly wow yes so I am  

I'm making my pronunciation easy to understand so  the point when you're when you're listening to me

uh my job is to in these videos just to  give you like a nice clear speech and this  

is just the the base of understanding like  we talked about before so you hear something

or you read something see it somewhere and this is  just the beginning of understanding for developing  

fluency so you might hear a word or see a word  but still not know what it means and still not  

feel confident using it so just like when I'm  pronouncing something clearly it's for you to  

understand but you still need many many more  examples for you to feel confident about using  

it I want to to make this as short as possible  so if I can give you a good simple explanation  

so you understand what the word means then it's  much faster but you still need many examples  

especially with pronunciation okay so you don't  want to have just one example of a teacher saying  

something especially a clear voice like mine  so I'm here to help you understand things but  

you still need lots of more examples to understand  all right let's see uh jamily says I have problems  

with my dictation you mean like you mean diction  or dictation I practice with a lot of you are  

talking about dictation okay writing words that  I want to learn but I forgot so instantly could  

you please give me some advice for memorizing  dictation I don't understand the exact issue it  

sounds it sounds like you're trying to memorize  things by repeating them and and this rarely  

works I've talked about this in other videos  I'll I'll take a moment and explain this now

so I think in the maybe the last video or  two videos ago I talked about the different  

ways of learning so if you hear something  one time you are probably going to forget  

that so it might be a new word you're in a  conversation you hear someone say something  

it might be an interesting word but maybe you  still forget that and the the second thing so  

this is number one just hearing something  one time number two you hear something or  

you try to write that thing you're trying  to repeat that same thing again and again

so you're taking the same thing it could be a word  or a phrase or a grammar Point some pronunciation  

whatever that thing is and you're you're just  trying to repeat that exact same thing but the the  

reason this this doesn't work so if you're trying  to write something again and you still can't  

remember it's because the brain hates this kind of  learning where you're trying to take something and  

repeat it over and over again this is helpful for  kind of learning something like if I have to learn  

like if I'm trying to learn to write you know some  Japanese characters or something like that it's  

like I want to remember like what's this what's  the stroke order for like for for woman like in in  

this character it's like okay like that and like  that and like that kind of like that so I have  

to practice that and remember what it is but when  you're learning a bunch of different vocabulary uh  

it's much better rather than repeating one thing  again and again you want to get a different mix  

of lots of related examples  so this is the third one  

and so the idea here is that you're building a  network in your mind of these different things  

and so number one and number two this is  about kind of learning so you learn a phrase

or word or a grammar point or something like  that and then you just try to repeat that  

again and again but instead of doing this  you're actually learning from situations

over here and this just means you you take an  idea like a greeting like I talked about in that  

video where you're giving a greeting like saying  hello to somebody uh and in this one you learn  

a phrase like hello and then you try repeating  that so I will write the word hello hello hello  

write it again and again but here we're just  talking about different greetings so to greet

ings so different greetings that you might  say in a conversation so you might hear hello  

but you also hear hey

what's up

what's up good afternoon good day you'll hear lots  of different examples so each of these things like  

this is hello this is hey this is high because  you're getting all these different examples  

from greetings and it's the it's the network that  that makes the the situation memorable so even if  

you forget the word hello you still remember the  word hey all right so rather than it there there  

are times when it's good to try to uh to learn  something and repeat that again and again like  

the example I gave for me learning Japanese like  written Japanese uh but the when you have a uh  

you're trying to build confidence and fluency you  actually need to build this network here so you  

don't want to just write something and repeat a  word like that you want to hear lots of different  

examples in different situations but it's it's  related to this so the the topic is greetings  

and what do you hear different people say when  they're greeting each other so if I'm out talking  

to different friends so I might go to a party and  I have my children with me I might say hello or  

hey or hi to different people but my children  watch that and they say oh they're not thinking  

consciously or logically about this but they're  they're recognizing in a in a situation where  

you greet somebody there are all these different  ways that you could speak and as you learn these  

different things that's what builds the network  that gives you the confidence for for speaking for  

understanding people and for building confidence  so rather than trying to take one thing and and  

remember it to write it over and over and over  again it's much better to get lots of different  

examples now you might like the first kind of  writing something is to help you understand  

that word like if you can't hear something in a  movie uh you you see some actors talking and you  

you need the the subtitles or the captions that's  okay just to recognize what's what's being said  

but then once you understand it you want to get  much more get many more examples of that thing  

hopefully that makes sense all right uh uh  all right so let's see uh Kyle Hopefully  

I'm pronouncing that correctly I know it's not  the best way to learn English but grammar rules  

helped me a lot I think it could take a long time  to learn without knowing some grammar okay let me  

let me answer this question for everybody to  make sure people understand what I'm saying

I'll write this in Big Big Red  Letters to make sure it's clear

you must learn grammar

you must learn grammar okay so I just so  everybody is clear about my my view about  

this you must learn grammar grammar is the  most important thing really because even  

if your pronunciation is not very good if your  grammar is bad that's really that's much worse  

as long as people can hear you all right so you  must learn grammar now here's the difference in  

what I do so there are two ways to learn grammar  way number one we're going to read textbooks

and we're going to try to memorize rules  okay this is what most people do we're  

going to give you a gap filling exercise or  I will say okay can you tell me what the past  

uh participle of a vocabulary or you know  whatever something like that so we're going  

to learn that kind of vocabulary all right so  this is what most students do because this is  

what most teachers do okay so you must  learn grammar and there are two ways of  

doing it so the first way is using textbooks  the second way is understanding situation

the grammar comes from in the same way a native  would learn this so this is we'll put an S here  

for student and an N here for natives so natives  are learning vocabulary this way I can talk to  

my children they know many many phrasal verbs  like pick up and put down and turn over and  

cut through and pull out but they don't know what  the word or the phrase phrasal verb means okay so  

there's no reason to learn this information  if you understand it from from situations  

now the important thing here is if you if you  learn this way so if you learn this way then  

you will have to think about rules when you speak  and that's why or what's really another reason why  

people struggle in conversations okay so if you  think about grammar rules when you learn you will  

think about grammar rules when you speak all right  if you think about I'm repeating this because it's  

so important if you think about grammar rules when  you learn you will think about grammar rules when  

you speak but if you understand situations you  speak fluently because there's nothing stopping  

you from communicating you understand something  I have a marker in my hand I have a marker and I  

show that to my children and they understand the  grammar I have a red marker I have a blue marker  

I have two markers and I'm just giving them a  few different examples of something like have  

and they're not thinking about like the  present and the past in a logical way like  

the way you might learn it in a textbook but  they understand and they get lots of examples  

so it just becomes a natural thing for them  so they can say I have a marker I have a blue  

Mark I have two markers and then they can also  learn related things like I have a black shirt  

I have two eyes I have green eyes this color  is called Hazel it's a it's a mix of brown and  

green Hazel so I have two eyes I have a nose  I have no time today so as they start learning  

all these examples they they really get a strong  understanding of something from the situations  

that they're learning in all right so the job  is not to just study textbooks because if you  

do this then you will think about those things  and this is when people worry like ah is it is  

it go here or or or that vocabulary or that this  is where a lot of people struggle because they're  

thinking about textbooks when they learn so  they think about textbooks when they speak  

all right if you're just watching movies and you  don't communicate it's it's fine to learn like  

this if you want to but if you want to speak and  the people most of the uh the people I help on my  

channel and in my programs it's people who want  to speak so this is how you do it all right so  

you must learn grammar and sometimes it's useful  to get an explanation about how something works  

because maybe the language is it's just different  like you can get a quick explanation but you don't  

want to just study textbooks all right you don't  want to try to memorize grammar rules so in in  

this way of learning you begin with a grammar  Point okay like let's do like the past simple

Today class we're going to learn about the past  simple and then I've I've started the the lesson  

with you thinking about a grammar structure  that you probably don't even know what past  

simple is in your native language you might  know that because you're studying English or  

because you had to learn this in a classroom but  if you ask native speakers they would most native  

speakers would probably not be able to tell you  an example of the past is simple and that means  

that you don't need to know that information  to speak fluently so native speakers all of  

them can use the past simple but they might not  know the phrase or the term like for for learning  

grammar past simple but what a native speaker  is doing is they're learning like yesterday

I ran so I asked my my kids I say what did you  do what did you do in school and so every day  

they get more examples of this and I'm I'm being  very conscious about how I teach them because  

they don't have a lot of time for learning  or using English they spend most of their  

time speaking Japanese but I can give them very  simple examples like yesterday what did you do  

what did you do so what did you do like yesterday  or what did you do what did you eat what did you  

play or where did you go and as they hear these  examples they're understanding the past simple  

without trying to get a lot of study about that  so I don't give them Gap filling exercises I  

don't give them flash cards or have them study any  textbooks at home but I do give them situations  

because that's how the mind wants to learn so  remember how you learn is how you speak how you  

learn is how you speak so yes it is helpful  to get some grammar explanation sometimes  

but really you should be able to get lessons if  they're good lessons they help you understand  

from the situation so if I see like even I've  given these examples before for Japanese where  

you have like I dropped something on my head or I  get hurt or something happens and I say eat hota

and then you understand what that means  even if you're not a Japanese speaker and  

so young children so Japanese children  learn like ah eat up they learn these  

different ways of saying ah that that hurt  or that's painful in English we might say  

ouch so I heard something ouch and so that's why  children learn that vocabulary because they look  

at the situation and what do people say in that  situation and the great thing about this is that  

it teaches you vocabulary grammar pronunciation  all of that is mixed as one thing so it's not like  

let's just learn some examples of the past simple  let's see when do people use the past simple  

so you begin with the situation not uh not  just like a grammar Point floating in space  

all right so grammar is important it's essential  you must learn grammar but if you learn it this  

way you will probably struggle to speak if you  learn it this way you will become a fluent speaker  

all right let's see if we  have any more uh let's see

all right we are 73 don't forget  the like the live people yes  

yes if you if you're enjoying this video please  click the like button and do share with others  

who might be interested in improving so I am an  uterus speaker Urdu speaker from Pakistan nice  

to see you there sizes translating from my native  language to English in my head before speaking is  

not going to work yes that's correct so it's  possible you can do it but that's why people  

struggle to speak so they are thinking first  what do I want to say and then they translate  

it in their head into English and then is  that grammar correct and they're thinking  

they get really confused and they're trying to  understand what the other person is saying at  

the same time it's a lot of trouble and it really  it's really tiring to be in that so when I first  

came to Japan that's how I was for trying to learn  Japanese I was trying to learn Japanese this way  

and that's why I struggled to speak and it was  really I remember I would come back from a party  

or something and it was this other Japanese  speakers there or even native Japanese and  

foreigners who could also speak English  and I remember just feeling very tired  

uh even just spending an hour because my  brain is working so hard trying to listen  

to other people and translate what I want  to say and figure things out so I'm not like  

that anymore thankfully but that's because  I stopped doing this and started doing this  

if you have any more questions about that  let me know I'm Pedro from Brazil living in  

Ottawa nice to see you please tell me uh should  I learn appropriate preparation abide by abide  

with it said because I was making mistakes  while using ah prepositions yeah again you're  

instead of thinking about prepositions you  think about when do people use something I  

know that it sounds like a small difference but  it's really very important so if I if I begin  

with something like I'm teaching my kids where  is where is the marker where is the marker now  

this is an interesting thing you will learn about  if you're learning the native way this is the way  

I teach where is the marker what would you say how  would you describe the situation anyone can just  

post a comment right now tell me where is the  marker how might I say this where's the marker  

I'll keep looking at questions while people  let's see here so if you have if you have  

an answer to that just tell me where is the  marker just put that in a comment we'll see  

if people can understand this example all right  thanks for the information says uh Abu Bakr nice  

to see you there it's my pleasure yeah senior  says sir I'm facing the biggest problem I can't  

speak Advanced sentences because I I can't speak  while Desiring timing how actually I speak exactly

so your your issue is going to be again because  

you're learning like this every issue  really comes from learning in this way  

so again it makes it much easier if you just  switch from doing this to doing this that's when  

you start becoming a confident speaker so you you  usually when you have basic sentences like I run  

and we're going to do past simple like I ran when  you have grammar points like this if you if you  

think about it a grammar point you can think  about it and translate for something simple  

but if you're having something longer you want to  express a longer more complicated idea you can't  

think like this it's it's just too difficult  for you to try to organize different sentences  

and clauses within a sentence or different  phrases that you're putting them together  

in different ways so I might say Iran and I can  think about what's the past tense and okay I ran  

but yesterday while I ran I was doing this and  that and I'm explaining a whole bunch of things  

that's where you get a long sentence it's much  more complicated okay so if you want to use longer  

more complicated interesting phrases you have  to build your understanding up over here so you  

have to learn these different things and you have  to know them really well the same way natives do  

and you do that by understanding situations not  by studying this all right so when you're first  

learning it's easy to translate because  things are very simple but you have to  

move to this way of learning if you want to  communicate longer more interesting senses  

all right let's see what we got here uh hopefully  that makes sense do you have videos where you  

explain phrasal verbs because in my personal  opinion results uh it results difficult to  

interpret many times yes uh so I haven't I have a  program called the visual guide to phrasal verbs

uh you can also learn more about this if you  click on the link in the description for fluent

for life so click on the link in the description  below this you can learn about the visual guide  

to phrasal verbs which covers all this and shows  it to you from situations so you learn phrasal  

verbs from situations rather than studying  a bunch of rules and I have a very simple  

three-step process that helps you understand  them like a native all right let's get back  

see if we have some more examples of this all  right how are you doing is 8 am in India I have  

a big problem in English I have to speak fairly  well but to translate is still difficult could  

you help me please yes so if you understand  like a native you will speak like a native if  

you think like a student you will speak like a  student it's really that simple all right so if  

you want to learn uh click on the link in the  description of this video to learn more about  

fluent for life even if you do not join the  program you will learn a lot about how to get  

fluent and it will make more more sense to you  the things that I'm explaining now it's really  

just the difference between understanding like  a student and understanding like a native all  

right so why uh different languages have different  tastes I don't know what you mean by that Bishop  

different tastes I stopped to translate just  listen all right so we got all right so people  

are are giving me some different examples  of this we got on your hand so on your hand

what else do we have here all  right it's on your hand or on  

the palm of your hand okay you have on the palm

so the palm of so this area right here this is  the the Palm so the front of my hand this area the  

palm of my hand the back of my hand and the palm  of my hand uh so it's on your hand on the palm of  

your hand the marker is on your hand on your hand  top of your hand there is the marker on your hand  

okay now just to give you some examples of this  listen carefully because I'm going to show you  

how this works from a situation so without trying  to explain about phrasal verbs or prepositions or  

anything about that just watch the marker is  you could say on my hand but really we usually  

say the marker is in my hand now even though  my hand is open right now the marker is still  

still in my hand my hand is open but you can say  it's on my hand but most people would probably say  

it's in my hand now if I have it like this then  we definitely say the marker is on my hand the  

marker is not in my hand up here it's on my hand  so on the back of my hand it's on my hand but yeah  

most people would say it's in my hand even if it's  not closed up okay so this is just one example of  

understanding this uh let's say I have a chair so  if I have a chair I try to draw this kind of yeah  

that's going to be a bad let me draw a better  example of this so here's a chair from the side

so you're looking at a person

sitting here in their their legs right  here so this person is in the chair  

because it's got kind of like side arms or  whatever but you can also say they're on a  

chair so natives can say we're talking  about someone being in a chair because  

they're kind of closed up or something is  going around them so they're in something  

but we're also talking about the flat area like  they're on something let me grab a chair here

foreign so this chair right here make sure I  don't break anything this chair has no arm rests  

so most people if they're sitting we would  say oh they're sitting on I'm going to break  

this over here they're sitting on a chair they're  sitting on a chair but if the chair has arm rests  

or something where it it's more like a box people  would think about sitting in it okay so the point  

is not to know like what does on or in mean it's  just for that situation natives are thinking about  

it slightly differently they probably won't give  you that kind of explanation the way I just did  

but this is how natives are thinking about it so  you could be on a chair or in a chair and both of  

those would be correct but it's just a slightly  different understanding of that so the marker or  

the the the Eraser is on my hand right now so  we don't say it's in my hand I can't close my  

hand backwards like this but right now the marker  might be in my hand so it might maybe my hand is  

not it's not closed up around the Eraser but it  could be and so even if there's a just a slight  

little little area around it almost like  a box and it becomes in my hand does that  

make sense so remember when you learn the the  textbook way you begin with a word like on or in  

but in the the native way you begin with  a situation so the situation is this  

okay this is a simple situation and  we've got like a marker or an eraser  

the Eraser is in my hand but you can also  say it's on my hand but again it's just a  

slight difference in what the meaning of that  is but they can both describe the same situation  

okay so if you learn as a native this is what  I teach in my programs and in my videos like  

this that's how you're actually going to become  speaker a great speaker uh let's see thank you  

for all your help says Jesus or Jesus and Jose  what days is online class so it's not I don't  

have uh regular scheduled live videos I have  them sometimes usually around this time uh this  

is Thursday morning in Japan and sometimes  on Instagram I will do videos as well but  

they are not scheduled and if you want the actual  lessons that didn't do all the actual training and  

teaching you things like that it's influent for  life which you can learn more about by clicking  

on the link in the description whenever I listen  uh the English jokes I always try to translate it  

doesn't make any sense uh it is a funny thing it  comes out after translating in a simple sentence  

yeah so learning grammar and humor or humor or  jokes that kind of thing it can be more difficult  

if you're if you're trying to think about  it logically and that takes some time to  

understand those things usually the first  kind of joke that people learn is a pun pun

so I notice my daughters are learning  these things in English and Japanese  

but puns are just it just means  a different way like night and

k-n-i-g-h-t night and night so it's it's two  different words that have a different meaning  

but they sound the same and so you can make  a joke about something like like I had a good  

night but it's like a like a night like fighting  with a sword kind of thing so it's not very funny  

but it's a good way to start understanding  the language so puns all right let's see

all right so please please explain

one thing uh I say please explain one thing  please how we could think in English while  

speaking others so that's what this is all right  so everything I'm explaining is how you can think  

in English so if you learn in English the same  way natives learn then you think in English too  

you understand like ah look yeah the marker is  the marker is on my hand it's on my hand it's on  

my hand it's on my arm it's on my head but I can  I can see how it's also in my hand okay so the  

more you learn from situations in English the more  you speak like a native all right it's very easy  

all right uh uh any other questions about that if  you catch something is in my hand yes so yes you  

can do something like that as well if I if I have  my hand closed around something then definitely  

it's in my hand in my hand say fish ball cat  Leandro says fish ball cat hopefully these aren't  

some secret codes or something like that all right  hopefully this makes sense for people but the the  

basic idea is that if you learn as a as a student  normally learns then it's going to be much more  

difficult for you to have real conversations and  use longer sentences and actually understand much  

more difficult English so at least the the kind  of fast speech and difficult accents of Natives  

and their native vocabulary as well but if you  understand like a native it just means you're  

learning from situations you're learning all in  English it's really just the opposite of what  

most people do so if you do that you will become a  fluent speaker all right so if you'd like to learn  

more about that you can click on the link for  fluent for life in the description but all of the  

the kinds of things like this video that I'm doing  it's really just trying to help people understand  

and answer any questions people might have but  it's it's a lot of the the same information about  

just learning like a native so I wanted to give  you many many examples each video I try to give  

a few new ones to help people understand but  if you learn like a native then you will speak  

like one does anyone have any questions about  that specifically all right so I know you can  

you can ask me to repeat certain phrases if you  just want to hear me pronounce words get Frederick

you can learn more about this app at  englishanyone.com also if you click  

on the link in the description about fluent for  life you can you should be able to find it on the  

on the same the the premium courses page on our  website will have more information about Frederick  

uh but this is listening to me pronounced words  and actually teach you pronunciation step by step  

the same way natives learn so if you want to  hear me pronounce words you can get that uh so  

sir which series uh should we want uh to watch  for fluency and learning yeah it doesn't there  

people people think about this like there's a  particular series for fluency and there isn't  

one it's just what are you interested in if you  like a particular thing then watch that show if  

you don't like that then don't watch that show and  for me the more important thing is to focus on a  

particular situation and understand that like a  native so my problem with TV shows is that you get  

one situation and then it's a completely different  situation next time so there might be some things  

like a greeting is in every episode but you  often don't get enough review with watching those  

shows to really become a fluent speaker so you'll  understand a lot you'll learn a lot of vocabulary  

but because you don't review that information  enough you won't become a great speaker  

all right uh can you explain please explain no  pun intended yeah so no pun intended means that  

you might say a word well what's a good a good pun  um like I can't think of a good a good example but  

it's it's just when you when you say one word  and then you don't actually mean that it's much  

better if you understand with an example I'm  just trying to think of one like a pun example  

um so we can use this one actually as a  pun I might say like uh like he is a good

night and then I might say like good night  after that like the the different meaning  

of night but then I say oh no pun intended like  I like I just accidentally used something that  

created a pun so it's better if you go to go to  Google and just type in no pun intended you'll  

get you'll get examples of this all right and yeah  difference between over and on over means it don't  

touch is that true yes so again Jose is asking  a question like if you understand the situation  

like the marker is over my hand  the marker is over my hand on over  

over on so when you see it like that and you  you actually get the real uh real example of  

something then you understand it like a native  so you're not thinking about the vocabulary  

you're thinking about the situation first  and then connecting that to the vocabulary  

all right so we've gone over an hour but it's  been a pleasure to consider reading helpful to  

improving speaking yes absolutely reading  is helpful as well so when I teach uh in  

fluent for life people do everything they do uh  some reading and writing as well to build their  

fluency you have to again approach things in  many different angles the same way natives do  

but if you want to become a fluent speaker that's  how you do it if you'd like to learn more about  

fluent for life or Frederick or anything else  you can visit us at englishanyone.com or just  

click on the link right in the description below  this video it's been a pleasure speaking with  

you and I'll see you whenever the next  video is have a fantastic day bye bye