MISTERDUNCAN is The English Addict - Live stream / Lesson / Chat - Wed 18th October 2023

It is a windy one today.

We have a very windy day.

You might say that it is blowing a gale outside.

We are back together, English at it for Wednesday.

We are here again.

And I hope you are feeling well

and in the mood

to do.

there you are.

Hi, everybody.

This is Mr.

Duncan in England.

Maybe you haven't seen me for a while.

I have received some very interesting messages from people saying.

Mr. Duncan, we can't believe that you are still on YouTube.

To be honest, I haven't been anywhere.

I haven't left YouTube.

I've been here constantly making new video lessons

and constantly being live.

Well, at least since 2006.

It was in July 2006 when I started doing my livestreams.

So even those I've been doing for a long time

without any real break, to be honest.

And this year, on the 31st of October,

it is my anniversary, 17 years.

One thing that I've noticed.

YouTube doesn't seem to like people

who have been on for many years.

They tend to forget about them or try to push them aside.

So you might say that I am one of those early YouTubers.

I started way back in 2006 when YouTube was still very young,

and here I am many years later and also many years

older,

still here doing it.

And it's nice to see you here today.

It is Wednesday, the 18th of October.

Already we are over halfway through October.

November is already on the horizon and we all know what that means.

That one thing that

some people are already mentioning, I'm not mentioning it just yet.

You know what I'm on about.

I know what I'm on about.

And we all know what is coming

towards the end of this year, a certain festival.

Hello to the live chat. I want to say hello.

First of all, hello to Joop.

Hello, Joop.

Nice to see you.

Here you are first on today's live chat.

Very nice.

Hello, Joop.

I think I've seen you here before. Definitely.

Beatriz is here as well.

A big hello to Beatriz.

It's so nice to see you here as well.

Beatriz, I believe you are staying in the mountains at the moment.

Very high up.

What is the weather like where you are?

We have a big storm coming over the next 24 hours.

The name of the storm is Storm Babette.

It is a very interesting name.

So quite often when we have bad storms, violent wind,

stormy conditions, we often give them names.

So the particular storm I'm talking about

that is now on its way towards us

and it will cause some localised sized damage.

Apparently Storm Babette is on her way

and apparently she's going to cause all sorts of chaos, as I understand.

So that is what is coming up here weather wise.

Otherwise I am here with you live today.

Between now and around about 3:00.

I will be with you live.

And of course, next week we are starting some special live streams

because we are heading towards the anniversary.

As I mentioned at the start of today's live stream.

So if you

want to join in next week, we have some special live streams

as we head towards the anniversary.

Well, for me, it's a big thing.

Maybe not for other people.

Maybe other people just don't care less about it.

If you couldn't care less.

We say that that person really has

no interest in a particular thing.

I couldn't care less about Mr.

Duncan's anniversary.

I couldn't care less.

That means I have no interest in that thing at all.

Hello. Also to Palmira.

We have Mazen.

We also have

Luis Menendez

is here today. Hello, Louis.

Nice to see you here as well.

We also have who else is here.

Hello, also to

Mustafa Abdallah.

Nice to see you here as well. Thank you for joining us.

Lots of people joining as I talk right now,

we are looking at self-image,

many words connected to the word self,

things that relate to you.

If you are a regular viewer,

you will know that I am very interested in this particular subject because, well,

between you and me,

apparently

I'm quite well known in certain parts of the Internet,

especially for people who are learning English.

But of course

there is a good side to that and also a bad side.

The good side is that I get

exposure here on the Internet.

I am able to show myself to you and share

some of my experiences of teaching English and hopefully also help

you learn the English language at the same time.

Also, there is a downside.

Quite often many people

have to reveal themselves when they are teaching,

performing, doing something where lots of other people might watch

you doing the thing that you are doing

and you might find, Well, from my point of view,

I would say that sometimes it is stressful

not because of the work, but because of this

the image that appears on the screen.

So you might say that for a person who is in the public eye or maybe is well known

or maybe has to perform in some way,

maybe the pressure for them to look good,

to have self-confidence, to project

a positive self-image is important

and it can lead to a lot of pressure

being being put on that particular person,

especially nowadays because it's so hard

to get attention.

It might seem easy, but it is very hard

these days to get attention on the Internet

because there are millions of people out there

doing very similar things.

So I think these days there is pressure,

different types of pressure on people

to perform well, but also to be appealing.

You have to appeal to your audience

and sometimes it is not easy to do that.

The self image

words and phrases connected to those things.

hello to Mika.

Hello Mika.

A very rare appearance on the live chat.

It's very nice to see you back with us again.

I do understand that where you are, it is late at night.

In fact, I think maybe it is coming up to

the next day where you are.

So thank you, Mika, for joining us.

I hope you are okay where you are today.

Giovani is here as well.

Very nice to see you again.

So we have a very nasty weather condition coming our way.

Lots of wind I suppose, at this time of year.

We do get storms,

especially as the warm air slowly drifts away

and we might have some cool air coming in as well.

So quite often the wind and the rain does

build up during this time.

It can happen.

Thank you very much for joining me today.

Very nice to see you right here.

Of course, every Sunday you can watch me live from 2 p.m.

UK time and Mr.

Steve who isn't here at the moment.

You may have noticed there is no

there is no Mr.

Steve in the studio. did you see that.

Did you see that on the back of my shirt?

I've never showed the back of my shirt before.

Would you like to have another look?

Okay.

Yes. The address of my

YouTube channel is on the back of my shirt.

I don't know why.

Because I'm the only person that sees it.

Of course, if there is anyone out there

who has an interest in maybe buying one of the shirts,

because at the moment there is well,

there aren't any for sale at the moment, but it's another enough people

express an interest in having one of these.

Maybe you could have your own English addict t shirts.

We will see what happens.

Thank you very much for joining me today.

Lots of people on the live chat. Sam is here.

Hello to Sam.

Sam, Rainbow, nice to see you here as well.

Lots of people joining in.

So today we are looking at a very interesting subject.

I find anything to do

with the way we think or the way we behave.

I, I find all of these things rather fascinating.

I will be honest with you.

So this is something

that I am interested in and I hope you are as well.

We are looking at

the image of the self.

When we talk about self,

we are often referring to one individual,

their own way of living or acting or behaving.

The self is the individual.

Quite often the things that go on appear

because everything that happens in your life,

everything that happens in your existence, all of the things you see

and perceive around you all happen up here.

And also buried up here is your self.

The ID,

your identity,

your way of life, the way of doing things

from an individual point of view, the image of the self.

So I suppose when we look at the image of the self,

we are looking at being self aware.

So I think this is an interesting phrase to be self aware,

if you are self aware, it means you are conscious,

you are aware that you are alive,

you are aware of everything around you,

but of course you can also be self aware of your own

actions, the way you behave,

the way you appear to other people.

Some people have no self awareness in that particular area.

So when we are talking about the way you behave or maybe the way people see you,

sometimes it is possible not to be aware of it.

You might know that you're alive,

but you might not be aware of how you appear to other people.

Maybe no one has ever said

Mr. Duncan.

I hope you don't mind me saying, but you are a little bit strange

sometimes, that sort of thing.

Fortunately for me, I am aware

of what some people think because they often tell me

sometimes in writing

and sometimes

to my face as well.

So that's very nice.

So you might find that being self aware covers many things.

We are of course the only animal as far as we know

on the planet that is self aware is actually conscious

that they are alive and doing things, moving around.

We are the only animal that can actually make sense

of the world around us

and I suppose to have perception of those things as well.

So I think it is true to say that humans

are the only creatures on the planet

to be completely self aware.

I sometimes have a nightmare.

This is a nightmare that I sometimes happen and I don't know about you,

but I sometimes have the nightmare where all animals, animals,

especially ones that we eat,

they become self aware.

Or maybe it is revealed that they were always self aware.

So they know everything that is happening around them.

So I always think I always have a feeling that maybe

if animals are self-aware

other than human beings, it wouldn't be a very nice situation.

I think so.

Hello to Pal Mirror.

We have the heating on. Yes, so do we.

Especially at night.

It is getting very cold at night.

Self aware a person

who is aware of their existence

or the way they appear to others.

Here's another one.

I was talking about the internet a few moments ago.

This is a great place.

If you want to show what you can do,

if you want to show your self and project

your image self-expression,

self-expression can come in many different

forms, many different shapes and sizes.

Your self-expression, all the things that you want to reveal about your self,

or maybe the things that you can do,

or maybe reveal a certain talent.

Or maybe what you are thinking or how you feel.

Maybe you want to express yourself through poetry

or writing a story,

or maybe painting a picture self expression.

So when we think about famous artists, people who have produced

or created wonderful paintings

that from their point of view

is self expression,

quite often an artist will take a little bit of themselves

or their feelings, and they use it to express themselves.

They use it to show how they feel.

So I think

self-expression is one of the most important parts

or maybe one of the most important attributes that a person can have.

And we all have our own way of showing how we feel

self-determining.

A person who is self-determining is a person

who has control over their destiny

or their path through life.

A self-determining person

is choosing the path to take in their life,

and also they might have control

over all the things around them as well.

Self-determining

is a person or a person who has

a path that they can create for themselves.

Self-Image, The self image.

I suppose it's very hard to talk about the self without talking about the image

that a person has of themselves.

So it is possible to have a self-image,

the image that you have when you think about how you appear to other people.

Some people

feel comfortable when they are on show

or maybe when they reveal themselves in some way to others.

Your self-image is the way you feel

or the way you see yourself

or the way you hope

others see you as well.

Self-Image

can be

many things

self esteem.

This is a big one.

This is a very big word

because self-esteem is how you see your self,

your own confidence, or maybe the way you feel about yourself generally,

your abilities, or maybe your inner

confidence, your self esteem.

So there are many people who have high esteem.

They feel very confident.

Maybe even to confident self esteem

can also be seen as being overcome evident.

Maybe you are too confident

so it can be used negatively as well.

Self esteem

your way of viewing yourself

the way you think

you are inside from your abilities.

Maybe the things you think you can do,

or maybe the things you believe you can't do.

A lot of people also have low self esteem.

You can be you can have no confidence, you know, self.

You can have very little confidence.

You might feel as if all of your abilities are useless or pointless.

You have low self esteem.

So both of those things can happen as well.

Often we link this particular thing

with the previous one, so self esteem is often

related to self worth.

Your self-worth is also a way of looking at your self,

but it is more about whether you feel

as if you are worthy of other

people around you, your self-worth

or I suppose you could say your self value.

Imagine a person

having value, maybe a certain amount of money, maybe a certain price.

Your self-worth can either be high, you can be valuable,

or your price might be low

and have no value whatsoever.

So a person's self worth

is how they feel about the world around them

and how the world around them values them as an individual.

All he is

here is something that a lot of people do in their life,

I think, and I'm going to be honest with you now, you know,

I like to be honest here on the live stream

sometimes I think I am a little bit self-destructive.

Sometimes I fear

success or some sort of pressure.

So I make sure that it doesn't happen.

Maybe I am sometimes a little self-destructive.

I think people can be.

I think we all have this ability, this thing inside us.

Maybe it is used as a way of keeping us safe.

It is a type of safety mechanism, self-destruction.

You may you may destroy something you are creating.

You might destroy your chances of having a certain career

because you you are afraid of following that path.

So it is possible to to self-destruct.

We might also think of bad habits as well.

We all have bad habits in our lives.

I have bad habits, and I'm sure you do.

But some of those habits can be destructive.

Certain types of habit might cause

you harm illness

or worse, for that matter.

So it is possible to self destruct,

sometimes accidentally, sometimes through habits

and sometimes on purpose.

And I think in the past, I think it is safe to say that I have in the past done things

to to destroy a thing that I was doing.

Or maybe if I was following a certain path,

maybe I become worried, afraid

or scared of the pressure or

or even the success as well.

It's very strange, isn't it?

Very strange.

Human beings are complex.

We are very complex

to self-destruct

and now

to have self confidence.

And I think of all the attributes.

And when we talk about attributes, we mean the parts of your character,

the things that make you what you are,

the features, the shape,

the way you behave.

They are all parts of you.

They are your attributes.

And I think one of the most important ones

is self confidence.

I know as a child I was not very confident.

I was very shy, quite introverted.

I did not like to show myself off

to other people in every single way, including the way I looked as well.

I was very self-conscious about the way I looked.

So self-confidence comes from a belief in yourself,

or maybe a reassurance of

your worth, or perhaps even

the opinions of other people.

And it is incredible how the words that other people use to

you can have a big effect on your self confidence.

Hello Mika.

Mika asks, Is imposter

syndrome related to those words?

I think that's a very good point.

And for those people who have a certain amount of success

or maybe they go down a certain route in their lives

where they fear

success or failure,

all of those things might cause you to have doubts about yourself,

especially if you are successful.

Imposter syndrome is a psychological disorder.

It is something that a person has when they believe the thing they are doing.

The success that they have is in some way undeserved.

Maybe they feel as if they are cheating other people.

Maybe they feel as if their success is not

deserved.

So it is an interesting one. Yes.

Thank you for mentioning that, Mika, because that was not on my list,

but I think it does relate to the way

you see yourself and the way you feel about yourself.

Self-confidence is not easy and I'm sure

because you are learning English as a second language,

you want to be confident, especially when speaking.

So one of the hardest parts of learning a language,

a second language is using it

verbally speaking.

It is a kind of performance.

I always think that speech or the act of speaking is like performing.

It's a bit like this, really, when you think about it.

As soon as my camera activates,

I have to make sure that everything I'm doing is okay,

not just the technology, but also myself as well.

I have to make sure that I'm working okay as well.

we have.

Pedro Belmont is here today.

Hello, Pedro.

Nice to see you. He

I think sometimes

the more success you have or maybe the more attractive

you are or the more attractive you feel to other people,

the more pressure there is to to keep it.

And we often hear of famous film

stars, famous celebrities

who in their young days were very famous.

They were always wanted out because they were young and beautiful.

But of course, as we all do, we all have to get older.

And so as they get older, their look, their appearance

may fade over time

and maybe their confidence will also go as well.

So I think it is possible for a person

who is successful or a person who has a certain

type of appeal, especially when we are talking

about physical appearance, physical attraction.

When that starts to disappear,

when it starts to fade away, it can cause

lots of different problems.

Geo Vani Revathi

I am an old I am almost a regular viewer.

I do like Mr. Duncan and Mr.

Steve as persons and teachers.

I would love to meet them one day.

Well, who knows?

We might have a chance to meet up again.

I know Mr.

Steve is very keen to meet up.

Maybe the next time we have a rendezvous, because we did have one this year.

We had a super time meeting up with some of our viewers

in Paris earlier this year.

So next year we might do it again.

I don't know where,

but we might do it again.

We will see what happens.

Here is something

that we all have to have from time to time,

because if we don't have it, we might get into trouble.

We might cause our self harm, we might get into a difficult

situation, self control, having control

all over your actions, your

impulses, your feeling,

your self control.

So it's a bit like driving a car.

I suppose if you are driving your car down the road, you are in control.

So with yourself from an individual point of view,

you are also in control of your own decisions, the things that you do,

self control.

We all have self control

for most of the time,

but it is of course possible to lose your self control,

especially when we are talking about things that give us pleasure.

For example, food.

I have to say I love eating, I love food,

I love sweet food, I love chocolate, I love cake,

I love anything

that is delicious and tasty.

So I think it is safe to say that I have

sometimes moments of weakness where I have no self-control

and for me, for most of the time

it is related to food.

I have very little self-control when it comes to food.

So your self-control is also

maybe your you're ability to stop yourself

from doing things that you know are bad for you

or may be harmful.

Here's another word.

Now, I think this is an interesting word

to be selfish.

Mr. Steve and myself, we often talk

about this particular subject selfishness,

the act of being selfish,

a person who is self-centred

thinks about themselves more than other people.

So maybe your own happiness, your own wealth,

your own comfort is the most important thing.

And then the needs of everyone else around you is not as important.

Selfish to be

selfish, I think, as we live in this day and age, Mr.

Steve and myself, we also think the same thing.

We agree that the world does seem to be more

selfish.

People seem to be more selfish than they used to be.

Everyone wants everything.

They don't want to wait for it.

They don't want to work for it.

They want it now.

So I think selfishness might be something

that is quite apparent these days,

especially in this materialistic world where everyone wants everything and they want it now.

They don't want to wait for it.

They want it straight away.

Joop says there are many things

that might cause you to lose your self-control.

Many vices.

yes, very interesting.

Vice Vice quite often

relates to something you shouldn't have or you shouldn't be doing

Maybe things that are seen as bad

or maybe bad for the individual.

Very interesting.

Sugar.

I think that is my weakness.

Yes, definitely.

So that is the one thing that I have no self-control over.

Sugar.

Sweet things, food, chocolate.

Alka Hall.

Well, I suppose if you are a person who likes to drink alcohol,

then maybe you can lose your self-control

and keep drinking until you fall over.

Women.

I have a feeling that Joop might actually be telling us

their own weaknesses.

I think so,

Pedro says.

I am not a selfish person. I am very gentle.

That is good to know.

Thanks for joining me today, by the way.

It's very nice to see you here.

So here are some serious words coming up now.

Very serious words, by the way, the opposite of selfish,

of course, is selfless.

A person who is selfless, a person who is generous,

kind, giving, thoughtful.

That is the opposite of being selfish.

Mr. Duncan, can you please pronounce that word for us?

The word is psychopath.

Have you ever met a psychopath?

A psychopath is a person

who has no control over their actions, their feelings.

They cannot

control their urges.

Maybe they have thoughts, feelings, ideas.

Maybe they feel as if they want to do something

and they have no control over that thing.

They have no control over it.

So quite often a psychopath is a person whose mind

has no barrier around it.

There is nothing stopping them from doing whatever they want, even though

I think it would be fair to say most people who are psychopaths

have a certain amount of control or else

it would be very easy to spot them.

Some people think that politicians

are psychopaths.

I'm not saying anything, but some people think that

because they seem to have no control over what they want.

They seem to be very selfish, very greedy.

They don't seem to deep down

care about other people's feelings.

A psychopath is a person

who has no control over their urges, their desires,

and there is nothing stopping them

from doing the things they want to do.

It's a very interesting word.

Quite often in psychology we see a psychopath

is a person who really

well, they are capable of doing things that other people wouldn't do

or would never dare do.

And then we have a word that is related

related to that sociopath.

A sociopath is a person once again,

who feels no remorse

or they have no understanding of other people's feelings.

So very similar to psychopath.

We often see psychopath and sociopath

as being linked together, very similar things.

One is more related to behaviour and self-control.

The other one is more about the way you behave

around other people or with other people.

Quite often sociopaths will not have many friends.

They will not be very sociable, they won't make friends very easily.

Maybe they often get into trouble.

Maybe they have a deep seated

hatred for all of the people.

In that case,

there must be a lot of sociopaths around.

I think so.

So we often link those words

to a person who has no self-control

or they have no feeling deep inside

for others, no empathy.

I like that word.

Empathy is a great word to have.

Empathy is to feel

here inside

you understand other people's emotions, their feelings.

Maybe you don't want to hurt another person with the things you say.

Empathy.

You have empathy.

Whereas

the sociopath or a psychopath

quite often has no empathy whatsoever.

We have two more words.

In fact, they are phrases.

You would describe them as phrases, I suppose self-protection.

Self-protection

once again deals with the way you see yourself,

the way you show your self to other people.

Self projection

can can come from the way you speak,

the way you behave, how confident you are,

and also what you wear as well.

So your clothing is a form of self projection.

It is how you put yourself out

into the world around you, your self projection.

So quite often

you can, you can try to put across your self

image in a certain way, your self projection,

and we all do it as soon as we go outside,

as soon as we are walking around amongst other people,

quite often we will have a certain sense of ourselves.

We will try to project out what we think other people want to see.

And of course this sometimes can also refer to conformity.

You are conforming to how the world around

you wants you to behave and wants you to appear.

Did I see Claudia here?

Claudia.

Claudia is here now.

I think Claudia is being very, very empathic.

She has a lot of empathy at the moment.

She's taking care of her father, and we always wish him well.

We all do.

It's nice to see you here again, Claudia.

Self projection is how you want to show your self

or how you think you are showing your self,

or how you want to show your self to the world.

Finally, we have an interesting phrase hold a mirror up

quite often if we want to show another person

the mistakes

or maybe the wrong ways of living,

we might hold a mirror up to that person figuratively.

So we are not actually holding a mirror in front of someone.

But we might be telling them about the things that they do

that might be upsetting other people.

You hold a mirror up to something,

maybe a part of society, maybe a certain type of behaviour.

Maybe one person wants to talk about a certain way of behaving.

You hold a mirror up to that thing.

You are trying to show the way

that particular thing affects other people.

You might say that today I am holding a mirror up to self-image.

I am showing it.

I am reflecting those things, the words that we use

and the way we can express ourselves as individuals.

You Hold a mirror up to something.

You are showing it, you are revealing it.

You hold a mirror up.

Of course, looking in the mirror is something we all do.

What is the first thing you do

when you look in the mirror?

I know the first thing I do.

The first thing I do When I look in the mirror,

I look at two parts of my face.

I look at my eyes

to see if they're clear,

especially first thing in the morning.

There's nothing worse than looking at your face first thing in the morning in the mirror.

It's not a pretty sight for any of us, to be honest.

And also my teeth as well.

I always have a little smile in the morning, so when I look in the mirror,

I look and I

give myself a little smile

like that.

Is that weird?

Is that weird? Is that strange?

Maybe, maybe not.

So that was today's subject today

when we were looking at the image of the self words

and phrases connected to that particular thing.

I will be going in a few moments

and I will be back with you on Sunday or next week.

We are starting some special live streams as we lead up

towards the big celebration at the end of the month.

Yes, it is the anniversary of my YouTube channel

at the end of October,

and I hope you will be joining me next week

and also the week after that as we head towards

that special day, the 31st of October,

way back in 2006 is when I started doing this.

It's true.

Thank you very much for your company.

I am going. I hope you've enjoyed today's live stream.

Mr. Steve is back with us on Sunday.

Don't forget next Sunday 2 p.m.

UK Time is when I'm back with you.

It's raining now, by the way.

The rain is coming down.

It's windy, it's raining and everything is looking

rather grey outside the window.

Thank you very much for your company.

See you on Sunday.

Take care of yourselves.

If you want to watch this again, you can later on.

It will be available with captions later on

and you can relive all of this again.

Look at all the words I used today.

And of course, until the next time we meet,

you know what's coming next.

Yes, you do. Take care.

Stay happy, stay safe, and I will see you soon.

And of course...

ta ta for now.