How to Speak English Fluently and Confidently: Overcome Your Fear of Speaking (AJ #9)

Hello. This is Jack from ToFluency.com and welcome to Episode 9 of Ask Jack, the free

series where I answer your questions about learning English and the English language.

Now, normally I answer 3 questions in an episode but today I’m just going to answer one and

here is the question. Dhansri from India asks, "I’m scared when

I speak English. What should I do?" Thank you for your question Dhansri and for

everyone else who sent in this or a similar question. The first thing I want to say about

this is that if the fear of speaking English is stopping you from speaking, then you need

to do something about this. This is because in order to progress, in order to reach the

level you want to reach you’re going to need to practice speaking. So, for the rest

of the video, I’m going to talk about how you can overcome this fear.

Firstly, it’s wise to think about whether you have a fear of speaking English or whether

you have a fear of speaking in general. For example, when I’m with friends I’m very

comfortable and obviously I’m a native speaker and when I speak English with my friends I

feel completely relaxed in these situations. But, sometimes when I’m giving a presentation

or I’m speaking to people I don’t know or in front of large crowds and sometimes

when I’m tired too, I’m a little bit more shy and sometimes there are things that I

want to say in these situations, but I don’t just because it’s a different type of situation.

So, think about situations in your native language where you’re scared of speaking

or you’re shy about speaking and doing this will help you bring awareness to your situation

and know whether it’s a specific English problem or if it’s more a general speaking

problem and this confidence about speaking in certain situations.

Now, I know that a lot of learners are embarrassed about their level, that they are embarrassed

about making mistakes. The thing to know here is that native speakers, native English speakers

are used to hearing non-native speakers talk all the time, we’re used to hearing different

accents and learners making mistakes. This is because we, English is obviously the language

that the world wants to learn and because of that we’re in situations when we travel

where people are speaking English. It’s the international business language. It’s

the international language of travel and other things too. So, we’re constantly hearing

people make mistakes in English and we’re used to this. We’re used to talking to non-native

speakers. And, therefore, when we hear a mistake it doesn’t sound strange. It just seems

normal to us. And, as long as you can get your point across and as long as you, you

know, speak to someone and you can actually have that person understand what you’re

saying, in the general scheme of things it doesn’t really matter if you make mistakes.

Now, obviously, we want to limit the mistakes we make but don’t let that put you off speaking.

A good way to build your confidence with speaking is to start with someone on a one-to-one basis,

someone that you feel really comfortable with. This might be a teacher. It might be a friend

or a language exchange partner but finding someone that you feel comfortable with and

speaking in this one-to-one basis is going to give you the practice you need. But, additionally,

it’s going to help you build your confidence. It’s going to help you just get used to

speaking English so that when you’re in different situations, it won’t feel that

strange when you’re actually using your English. So, find someone first who you can

work with on a one-to-one basis and this will help you build your confidence.

If you have had bad experiences in the past, for example, if someone has laughed at you

or if someone has made fun of your level then this can stop you from speaking because it

obviously doesn’t do anything good for your confidence. Now, in the future, if you find

yourself in this situation, okay, there are 2 things, I think you can do. The first one

is, if they’re just laughing at a mistake that you made and it’s funny because of

the context then ask them why it’s funny because you’re going to learn from that

mistake and maybe you can laugh with this person too. But, if you have a situation where

someone is being mean, someone is laughing at you in a mean way or making fun of your

level then this person isn’t worth talking to. This person isn’t worth your time. So,

simply go away from the conversation and find someone else to talk to.

The last thing I want to say about this topic is that as you improve your level, you’re

going to gain the confidence to speak because having a high level means that you can express

yourself. It means that you can handle different situations and this is going to give you confidence.

So, obviously, work on your English, improve your English and do the things that are going

to make a difference and focus on this process, you know, focus on the actual learning part

of English and the ‘what you do on a day to day basis’. And, just to go back to what

I said before, speak with someone who is going to give you confidence. Then, you can take

things from there. What I want you to do now is, firstly, in

the comments section let me know if you are scared when you speak in English. Are you

shy when you speak in English? Share your experiences. And, the second thing is if you

have overcome this fear or if you are confident about speaking in English, share your tips,

share your experiences in the comments section below. I really want to hear from you about

this. So, thank you for watching and I’ll see you next time.