The Dos And Don'ts Of English Conversation That You Must Know

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Hey in today's English lesson, I'm going to teach you the dos and
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don'ts of English conversations.
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Are you ready?
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Well, then I'm teacher.
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Tiffani let's jump right in.
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So let's start with the dos.
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The first do is show interest and be curious as an English learner.
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Your goal is to speak English fluently, like a native English.
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So during English conversations, you need to show interest and be curious.
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You see, by showing interest, the person will want to continue
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having a conversation with you.
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Remember English conversation is not just about the words you use are the
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expressions, you know, instead it's about truly mastering the conversation
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skills that native English speakers.
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Again, showing interest and being curious, the person will feel like,
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Hey, you're actually interested.
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I want to continue this conversation.
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The other thing you need to remember related to this do is that showing
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interest reveals that you care about what the other person is saying.
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When you're having a conversation.
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Remember, you're not talking to a brick.
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You're talking to another individual.
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And when you show that you're interested and curious, they will feel like you care
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about them and about what they're saying, which will enhance the conversation.
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The other thing is being curious means that you can ask questions
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related to what the person is saying.
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I tell this to my students all the time conversation, English
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conversation is like a tennis match.
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Back and forth, back and forth.
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Respond, ask a question, respond, ask a question, respond, ask a question.
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It shows that you're interested and it shows that you're curious.
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The other thing is curiosity also results in you forming your
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own ideas or opinions about the.
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So as you're speaking to the individual, ask them questions, let
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them know that you're interested in what they're talking about.
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And as they respond, you'll also start forming your own ideas,
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which will keep the conversation.
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Flowing again, we're talking about mastering English conversation.
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Now the second thing you must do, you must balance give and take.
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Remember I said that I teach my students English conversation is
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like a tennis match back and forth.
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Give and take, give and take.
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So it is important to listen during a convers.
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But it is also important for you to give your opinion as well.
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You don't want to be in the conversation the entire time, just, ah, Mmm.
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Oh, you want to also give your opinion.
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It's about balancing giving and taking, listening and speaking.
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There has to be a balance.
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Another thing you must remember again, related to this due is that
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you have to try to balance the amount of time that both of you listen and.
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This will result in a smooth conversation.
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You don't want to listen for five minutes and only speak for 30 seconds.
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You want there to be a balance.
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Both of you are listening, and both of you are also giving
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your own opinions or ideas.
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There needs to be a balance of give and take during the conversation.
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Again, we're talking about speaking English like a native English.
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Next.
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If the person asks you a question, try to think of another question.
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You can ask them as well.
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You give your answer and then you say, Hey, what about you?
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How do you feel about.dot?
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You always end your response.
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End your time by asking the other individual a question you
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want them to know that you are also curious about what they.
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These are skills you must develop in order to have natural and
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real English conversations.
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It's also important for you to pay attention to the
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person you are talking to.
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This is so you can recognize when they want to speak.
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People will give you clues by their body language or their facial
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expressions letting you know, Hey, they like to respond or Hey, they have
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a thought or idea about this topic.
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You have to balance, give and take.
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Don't talk too much.
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And also don't listen the entire time.
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Balance give and take.
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So do balance, give and take.
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The next thing you must do is have something interesting to say.
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You wanna make sure that you can add to the conversation.
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So if you say something interesting about the topic you're discuss.
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The person listening to, you will probably ask for more details.
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So you have to have your thoughts organized about the topic.
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When you say something interesting, the person is naturally going
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to ask you more questions.
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Hey, really?
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That's what you think.
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What about.dot do they're going to want more details?
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So think of something interesting to say about the topic.
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Another thing to remember related to this.
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Is the more interesting a conversation is the longer the conversation will be.
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Your goal is to speak English like a native English speaker.
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Your goal is to have a natural English conversation that flows smoothly.
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Well, when you say something interesting, it makes the conversation more interesting
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and it will go on and on and on.
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So remember, have something interesting to.
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In order for a conversation to flow.
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Well, you must be thinking of what you can add to the conversation.
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This goes back to the second, do balancing, give and take.
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What can you add to the conversation to make it interesting.
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And also remember, remember that in order to be interesting, the information
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must connect to the listener in some.
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You're not just thinking about the topic from your own perspective.
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You want to make sure you're thinking about the person
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you're speaking with as well.
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Hey, how does this connect to this individual?
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This is how you really keep the conversation going and keep it
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flowing like a native English speaker.
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So doing these things will help you really master English convers.
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Now, even though there are three important things to do, there are also three
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important things that you must not do.
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The first is don't dominate.
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You see, the first thing to remember is to never dominate the conversation.
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It is important to make sure there is a balance between you
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and the person you are speaking.
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This is so important.
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You need to make sure both of you are contributing to the conversation.
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So don't dominate here.
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Dominating actually shows that you don't care about the other person's opinion.
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And when someone is in a conversation with another individual, that really is
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not making them feel important or making them feel that their important ideas are.
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They're not going to want to continue the conversation.
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So pay attention.
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It's not just about the words and expressions you use.
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You must master these techniques.
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So don't dominate.
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The other thing to remember related to this is people don't want to
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have conversations with people who dominate the conversation.
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It's not fun.
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It's not interesting.
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So don't dominate the conversation, pay attention to the person
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you're speaking with and remember.
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Dominating the conversation.
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It also shows that your listening skills are not good when you just talk,
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talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, and you dominate the conversation.
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It actually reveals that your listening skills are not where they
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need to be, because if your listing skills were good, you'd want to hear
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what the other person has to say.
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So remember, don't dominate when you are having a conversation with.
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The next thing to remember is don't talk more than you listen.
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The second thing to remember is that listening skills are an important
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part of effective communication.
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In other words, listening attentively will actually help you
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to master English conversation.
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You've probably never heard this before.
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Listening can actually help you speak better.
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You see, here's the thing listening attentively will help you understand
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people better when you understand people you'll know how to organize your
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thoughts to connect to that person.
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Which will make the conversations more interesting.
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The other thing you have to remember, again, not talking more than you
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listen, as you listen, you actually improve your English ability because
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you are taking in new information.
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Your brain is processing new information.
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Then you're developing your thoughts or ideas in response to what you just heard.
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And then you're responding.
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This will help you speak English better.
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So don't talk more than you listen.
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And remember if you listen.
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Well, the other person will also want to listen to you.
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It's a give and.
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When they see, wow, you you're paying attention to me.
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I also want to listen to you and they'll let you speak and also express your ideas
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and the conversation will flow better.
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So don't talk more than you listen.
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Another don't that you must remember.
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Don't I interrupt.
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The third thing to remember is to never interrupt.
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This is because interrupting someone or suddenly stopping them
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is rude and can stop a conversation.
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You don't want to interrupt individuals.
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This is not something you want to do during a conversation.
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People don't want to talk to someone who constantly interrupts them, stops them
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in the middle of their thought or in the middle of them expressing their idea.
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Don't interrupt people.
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Interrupting someone shows that you are not listening to them.
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So you need to be patient again, we're talking about having conversations
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like a native English speaker, and also it hinders the flow of conversation
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because it shows that you think your words are more important and that
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will stop a conversation from moving.
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So remember the three dos and the three dots and you'll start
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mastering English conversation like a native English speaker.
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I really hope you enjoy today's lesson.
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Don't forget that if you want to join me and so many other individuals
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and speak English like a native go to English fluency plan.com.
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We'll see you there.
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And as always remember to speak English.
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You still there you know what time it is?
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It's story read time.
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A, I said it's story.
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Read time.
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All right.
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So in today's lesson, I explained the dues and don'ts for English conversations.
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I want to tell you about something that happened to me that dealt
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with English conversations.
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So this happened, woo.
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At least nine years ago, I was in South Korea and I had went
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to lunch with one of my friends.
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She was also a missionary English teacher and we went to this really good Indian
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restaurant, the food, absolutely amazing.
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So we had our food and we were just sitting there talking
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and eating at the same.
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And a topic came up and we started giving our ideas or opinions on the topic.
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Now my friend was giving her opinion and then I gave mine.
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But after I gave my opinion, I could see that my friend's
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breathing started to change.
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She was breathing harder and I could see that her facial
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expression was changing as well.
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And she started speaking at a faster pace and I could sense that she was
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a little bit irritated and upset.
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Now as I was watching her and listening to her, I started speaking to myself and also
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praying God what's going on right now.
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My friend looks upset.
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I'm not sure why she's upset.
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And I was listening to what she was saying, but also paying
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attention to her body language.
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Now, remember I said, the important thing you must do is to listen
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when you are having a conversation.
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And during that time, as I was trying to figure out why she was getting upset, God
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reminded me of a Bible verse that I had.
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The Bible verse says a soft answer, turns away wrath.
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Basically when you respond softly, when someone is getting upset
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and you respond calmly, that will help the person calm down as well.
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But you have to recognize what's happening.
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So my friend was getting a little bit hyped.
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She was getting upset and it was my turn to speak.
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She stopped.
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And now again, it was my turn.
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and I responded, I was very calm.
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I said, you know, I, I didn't realize that what I said affected you in that way.
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And I'm sorry for that.
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And I do think that this.dot dot and I continued having the conversation,
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but my voice stayed here very calm.
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And immediately my friend went from here to.
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Immediately she calmed down and I realized that communication is
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not just about the words you use.
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It's also about how you speak your tone of voice, your facial expressions, your
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body language, because I was seeing so much happen as I listened to her words,
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her body language was telling me so much.
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So when you're in a conversation, make sure you listen, attentively,
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pay attention to the person as they're speaking so that when you respond, your
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response matches what they said to you.
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Either to calm them down, to encourage them, to make them happy.
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Your response can have a big effect on the individual you're speaking to or.
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So never forget conversation is not just about the words you use.
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It's about paying attention to the other person and responding
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to what they have said.
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Now.
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I hope the story encouraged you.
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If you ever get into a little bit of a disagreement with your friend,
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remember speak calmly, softly and slowly, and your friend will calm down.
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Hope you enjoyed this story.
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I'll talk to you in the next lesson.
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