Practice English Conversation to Improve Speaking Skills (Family life) English Conversation Practice

well that I have to go now I left work  early to say hello and now I leave  

好吧，我现在必须走了 我早早下班打招呼 现在我离开

yeah right wait a minute why  did you really come here Thomas

是的 等一下 你为什么真的来这里 托马斯

I told you that I'm here because I just  wanted to say hello I need to go home now

我告诉过你我在这里是因为我只是想打个招呼 我需要回家现在

you know my wife is pregnant so I need to go  to check if she's okay and have a good day

你知道我妻子怀孕了，所以我需要去看看她是否还好，祝你今天过得愉快我

I don't believe you I know you very well  son I know you're scared and it's okay

不相信你我非常了解你儿子我知道你很害怕但没关系

you will become a father and that can  be something scary right that's okay

你会成为父亲而且可能是一些可怕的事情，没关系，

what are you talking about  I'm fine I'm not scared or

你在说什么，我很好，我不害怕，或者

come here son take a seat please  we need to talk about that sit down

过来，儿子，请坐，我们需要谈谈，坐下，

that I'm fine everything will be fine I  have a good job and we have a house so  

我很好，一切都会好起来的，我过得很好工作，我们有房子，所以

I'm your dad and I'm telling you to sit  down we need to talk so now sit down please

我是你爸爸，我要你坐下，我们需要谈谈，所以现在请坐下，好吧，

okay I have to admit it I'm scared I don't  know anything about how to raise a child

我不得不承认，我很害怕，我对如何抚养孩子一无所知一个孩子

I don't feel I'm prepared for this challenge  it's the biggest thing I will have to face

我觉得我没有为这个挑​​战做好准备 这是我必须面对的最重要

okay okay relax son no bodies  really prepared to become a father

的 事情

it's okay to feel scared because of that but  I'm here to help you whenever you need it

每当你需要它的时候

I don't know that what if I become the  worst that ever I don't think I can make it  

你我不知道如果我变得最糟糕我认为我不能让它

all right listen to me I'll give you  some tips on how to raise your child

好起来听我说我会给你一些关于如何抚养你的孩子

racing kids is one of the toughest and most  fulfilling jobs in the world believe me

赛车孩子的提示是一个相信我，这是世界上最艰巨、最有成就感的工作之一，

and also this is one for which you might  feel the least prepared it happened to me

而且这也是你可能觉得最没有准备的工作 这发生在我身上

one of the things you have to do when raising  your child is boost your child's self-esteem

抚养孩子时你必须做的事情之一就是提高孩子的自尊心

kids start developing their sense  of self as babies and then they  

孩子们开始发展他们作为婴儿的自我意识，然后他们

see themselves through their parents eyes  

通过父母的眼睛看到自己

you're a tone of voice your body language and  your every expression are absorbed by your kids

你是一种语调 你的肢体语言和你的每一个表情都会被你的孩子吸收

your words and actions as a parent affect their  developing self-esteem more than anything else

你作为父母的言行对他们发展自尊的影响超过任何其他任何

praising accomplishments however  small will make them feel out

赞美成就的事情，无论多么小都会让他们觉得自己独立

lighting kits do things independently  will make them feel capable and strong

做事会让他们觉得自己有能力和坚强

by contrast belittling comments or comparing  a child and favorably with another will make  

相比之下贬低评论或与孩子比较和赞扬会让

kids feel worthless and please avoid making  loaded statements or using Words As Weapons

孩子觉得自己一文不值，请避免发表含糊其词的陈述或使用 Words As武器

comments like what a stupid thing to do or you  act more like a baby than your little brother

评论，比如做一件多么愚蠢的事情，或者你表现得比你的小弟弟更像个婴儿，

they can cause damage just as physical blows do  choose your words carefully and be compassionate  

它们会造成伤害，就像身体上的打击一样，请谨慎选择你的措辞并富有同情心

let your kids know that everyone  makes mistakes and that you will  

让你的孩子知道每个人都会犯错，而你

still love them even when you don't love  their behavior have you ever stopped to  

仍然会爱即使您不喜欢他们的行为，您是否曾经停下来

think about how many times you react  negatively to your kids in a given day

想过

you may find yourself criticizing far  more often than complimenting believe me

在某一天您对孩子做出了多少次负面反应 ？

how good you feel about a boss who treated  you with that much negative guidance

我用那么多负面的指导对待你，

even if it was well intentioned do  you understand what I'm trying to say

即使这是出于好意，你明白我想说的

yes that I get it but I'm  still scared I don't know

吗，是的，我明白了，但我仍然害怕，我不知道

I haven't finished yet the more effective  approach is to catch kids doing something right

我还没有完成，更有效的方法是抓住孩子们做正确的事情

or maybe another example I was watching you  play with your sister and you were very patient

或者另一个例子我正在看你和你妹妹一起玩，你非常耐心

these statements will do more to encourage good  behavior over the long run than repeated scullings  

这些陈述从长远来看会更能鼓励良好的行为，而不是反复划船

make a point of finding something to  praise every day be generous with Rewards

让每天都找到值得表扬的东西是慷慨 奖励

your love hugs and compliments can work  wonders and are often reward enough

你的爱的拥抱和赞美可以创造奇迹，而且通常很快就会得到奖励

soon you will find you are growing more of  the behavior you would like to see seriously

你会发现你正在成长更多你希望认真看到的行为

don't you remember what it was like with you when  you were a child I always tried to motivate you

你不记得你小时候的样子吗？总是试图激励你

yes I remember that you always congratulated  

是的我记得你总是祝贺

me for doing good things I  used to feel good with that

我做了好事我过去感觉很好那是

that's what you need to do now but also set  limits and be consistent with your discipline

你现在需要做的但也要设定限制并遵守你的纪律

discipline is necessary in every household  the goal of discipline is to help kids choose  

纪律在每个家庭中都是必要的目标纪律是为了帮助孩子选择

acceptable behaviors and learn self-control they  may test the limits you established for them

可接受的行为并学习自我控制，他们可能会测试您为他们设定的限制，

but they need those limits to grow  into responsible adults for example

但他们需要这些限制才能成长为负责任的成年人，例如

establishing house rules helps kids understand  your expectations and develop self-control  

制定家庭规则可以帮助孩子理解您的期望并培养自我控制能力，

some rules might include now TB  until homework is done for example

有些规则可能现在包括结核病，直到家庭作业完成，例如

or maybe no hitting name calling or heartful  teasing aloud that's another example

，或者可能没有打骂名或大声发自内心的戏弄，这是另一个例子，

you might want to have a system in place  one warning followed by consequences

你可能希望有一个系统，一个警告，然后是后果

such as a timeout or loss of privilege it will  depend on you you will have to think about it  

例如超时或失去特权这将取决于你你将不得不考虑它

a common mistake parents make is failure  to follow through with the consequences

父母常犯的一个错误是没有遵守后果

you can't discipline kids for talking about  one day and ignore it the next be consistent  

你不能管教孩子一天谈论而在下一次忽略它是始终如一

also make time for your kids it's often hard for  parents and kids to get together for a family meal  

也为您的孩子腾出时间 父母和孩子通常很难聚在一起吃一顿家庭聚餐，

but there is probably nothing kids could like  more than having lunch with their parents

但孩子们可能最喜欢的莫过于与父母共进午餐

get up 10 minutes earlier in the morning  so you can eat breakfast with your child

早上早起 10 分钟，这样您就可以和他们一起吃早餐

or leave the dishes in the sink and take  a walk after dinner there are many ways

您 的孩子

kids who aren't getting the attention they want  from their parents often act out or misbehave

或将盘子放在水槽里，晚饭后

because they are sure to be noticed that way  remember that please it's really important

散步 真的很重要

also make communication a priority  that's something very important

也把沟通放在首位这是非常重要的事情

you can't expect kids to do everything  simple because you as a parent say so

你不能指望孩子们把每件事都做得很简单因为你作为父母说

you know what they want and deserve  explanations as much as adults do

你知道他们想要什么并且

if we don't take time to explain kids will  begin to wonder about our values and motives

如果我们不花时间解释的话你应该像成年人一样得到解释孩子们会开始怀疑我们的价值观和动机

make your expectations clear if there is a  problem describe it express your feelings

如果有问题，请明确您的期望 描述它 表达您的感受

and invite your child to work on a solution  with you be sure to include consequences

并邀请您的孩子与您一起制定解决方案 确保包括后果

make suggestions and offer choices be  open to your child's suggestions as well  

提出建议并提供选择 对您的孩子开放建议以及

negotiate kids who participate in decisions  are more motivated to carry them out

谈判 参与决策的孩子更有动力执行

all those tips are really useful that  I do not what I would do without you

这些建议 所有这些提示都非常有用，如果没有你，我不会做，

thank you and I have more tips to  give you but we don't have enough time

谢谢你，我有更多的提示可以给你，但我们没有足够的时间

maybe I can come back another day I need  more tips to raise my child properly

也许改天我可以回来我需要更多的技巧来正确地抚养我的孩子

and I'm sure many of our subscribers also  want to learn that they will comment so

而且我相信我们的许多订户也想知道他们会发表评论所以

I hope so but for now we have to leave  everything will be fine my son I hope you  

我希望如此但是现在我们必须离开一切都会好起来我的儿子我希望你

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