Practice English Conversation to Improve Speaking Skills (Family life) English Conversation Practice

well that I have to go now I left work  early to say hello and now I leave  

yeah right wait a minute why  did you really come here Thomas

I told you that I'm here because I just  wanted to say hello I need to go home now

you know my wife is pregnant so I need to go  to check if she's okay and have a good day

I don't believe you I know you very well  son I know you're scared and it's okay

you will become a father and that can  be something scary right that's okay

what are you talking about  I'm fine I'm not scared or

come here son take a seat please  we need to talk about that sit down

that I'm fine everything will be fine I  have a good job and we have a house so  

I'm your dad and I'm telling you to sit  down we need to talk so now sit down please

okay I have to admit it I'm scared I don't  know anything about how to raise a child

I don't feel I'm prepared for this challenge  it's the biggest thing I will have to face

okay okay relax son no bodies  really prepared to become a father

it's okay to feel scared because of that but  I'm here to help you whenever you need it

I don't know that what if I become the  worst that ever I don't think I can make it  

all right listen to me I'll give you  some tips on how to raise your child

racing kids is one of the toughest and most  fulfilling jobs in the world believe me

and also this is one for which you might  feel the least prepared it happened to me

one of the things you have to do when raising  your child is boost your child's self-esteem

kids start developing their sense  of self as babies and then they  

see themselves through their parents eyes  

you're a tone of voice your body language and  your every expression are absorbed by your kids

your words and actions as a parent affect their  developing self-esteem more than anything else

praising accomplishments however  small will make them feel out

lighting kits do things independently  will make them feel capable and strong

by contrast belittling comments or comparing  a child and favorably with another will make  

kids feel worthless and please avoid making  loaded statements or using Words As Weapons

comments like what a stupid thing to do or you  act more like a baby than your little brother

they can cause damage just as physical blows do  choose your words carefully and be compassionate  

let your kids know that everyone  makes mistakes and that you will  

still love them even when you don't love  their behavior have you ever stopped to  

think about how many times you react  negatively to your kids in a given day

you may find yourself criticizing far  more often than complimenting believe me

how good you feel about a boss who treated  you with that much negative guidance

even if it was well intentioned do  you understand what I'm trying to say

yes that I get it but I'm  still scared I don't know

I haven't finished yet the more effective  approach is to catch kids doing something right

or maybe another example I was watching you  play with your sister and you were very patient

these statements will do more to encourage good  behavior over the long run than repeated scullings  

make a point of finding something to  praise every day be generous with Rewards

your love hugs and compliments can work  wonders and are often reward enough

soon you will find you are growing more of  the behavior you would like to see seriously

don't you remember what it was like with you when  you were a child I always tried to motivate you

yes I remember that you always congratulated  

me for doing good things I  used to feel good with that

that's what you need to do now but also set  limits and be consistent with your discipline

discipline is necessary in every household  the goal of discipline is to help kids choose  

acceptable behaviors and learn self-control they  may test the limits you established for them

but they need those limits to grow  into responsible adults for example

establishing house rules helps kids understand  your expectations and develop self-control  

some rules might include now TB  until homework is done for example

or maybe no hitting name calling or heartful  teasing aloud that's another example

you might want to have a system in place  one warning followed by consequences

such as a timeout or loss of privilege it will  depend on you you will have to think about it  

a common mistake parents make is failure  to follow through with the consequences

you can't discipline kids for talking about  one day and ignore it the next be consistent  

also make time for your kids it's often hard for  parents and kids to get together for a family meal  

but there is probably nothing kids could like  more than having lunch with their parents

get up 10 minutes earlier in the morning  so you can eat breakfast with your child

or leave the dishes in the sink and take  a walk after dinner there are many ways

kids who aren't getting the attention they want  from their parents often act out or misbehave

because they are sure to be noticed that way  remember that please it's really important

also make communication a priority  that's something very important

you can't expect kids to do everything  simple because you as a parent say so

you know what they want and deserve  explanations as much as adults do

if we don't take time to explain kids will  begin to wonder about our values and motives

make your expectations clear if there is a  problem describe it express your feelings

and invite your child to work on a solution  with you be sure to include consequences

make suggestions and offer choices be  open to your child's suggestions as well  

negotiate kids who participate in decisions  are more motivated to carry them out

all those tips are really useful that  I do not what I would do without you

thank you and I have more tips to  give you but we don't have enough time

maybe I can come back another day I need  more tips to raise my child properly

and I'm sure many of our subscribers also  want to learn that they will comment so

I hope so but for now we have to leave  everything will be fine my son I hope you  

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