How to Speak English With Confidence: 5 Simple Steps

we are born as confident humans as we grow our  environment and people affect us but confidence  

isn't something we lose it's Infinite Energy  within us that we can access anytime anywhere in  

this video we're going to find out how and What's  blocking it action and overthinking my first point  

is simple and super important take action you  already know many ways you can practice English  

but if you still haven't tried any of them and  keep analyzing what might fit you best you are  

losing your time for example you found someone  you can talk to online it's been 2 months and you  

still haven't scheduled a time then you forget  about it and find another resource same thing  

instead of taking the first step and see what  happens you just put it off and think next week  

or maybe next month and then you just finally  lose interest guys I completely understand that  

you might feel overwhelmed busy forgetful but to  be be honest the most common reason why many of us  

don't do something is because we overthink it and  definitely one of the characteristics of the most  

successful people I have ever met and interviewed  through the podcast or anything else is just that  

they have this bias towards action they spend a  lot less time overthinking doing the thing and  

a lot more time actually doing the thing and  one of the lessons that I've really learned  

over the last six years of growing this YouTube  channel is that action is really the foundation  

and overthinking can be sprinkled on top of it  now guys as long as you're watching this video  

I want you to think about what action you want  to take today if you've been wanting to practice  

speaking more but don't know where to start yet  I highly recommend starting to build a system a  

customized plan for yourself where you don't  need to think about what to do every single  

day I recently made a video on how to do it so  you can check it out later another action you  

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hours of study the way that I usually use speakly  is I open the app and I start by reviewing all the  

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skills then I might listen to one song to  practice my listening skills even more and do  

something one kind of like take a little break  and then practice in a life situation I really  

like these life situations because they make me  practice the language on the go like I don't have  

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what we think are we confident comes from a Latin  word fedale which means to trust therefore having  

self-confidence is having trust in one's self  every unpleasant experience nasty comment from  

a mean person a failed test your own inner critic  shake your confidence but remember deep within  

you there is something unshakable your faith in  yourself at the beginning of my YouTube career  

in 2020 I was getting a lot of nasty comments  from people saying that I would never make it  

on YouTube that my videos were weird you know  the way I was setting up my lights or the way  

I was setting up my camera the way I was talking  was weird at the very beginning I felt extremely  

sad because I was receiving all of those comments  but then what helped me shake off that feeling is  

adopting the growth mindset and learning more  about Kaizen which is a Japanese philosophy  

of continuous Improvement so I'm continuously  improving my videos I cannot be perfect from the  

very beginning I can never be perfect because I  will be always improving Michael Singer highlights  

a very interesting Concept in his book what  you're thinking is not you because you're the  

one who is listening this basically means that you  can detach from your thoughts and start observing  

them like these are your thoughts and this is you  you're just observing them because this way you  

gain more control over your mind have you ever  heard of the fixed and growth mindsets before  

the fixed mindset sees failures as disasters  and I'm not going to lie I used to be that  

person before sometimes I feel like H like I want  to get sad but then I remember that I'm trying to  

work on my growth mindset and the growth mindset  sees all the failures as opportunities when you  

first start learning a foreign language it's like  filling your basket with candy imagine you have  

a huge BAS it and you have to fill it all up with  candy and originally it's absolutely empty and it  

feels extremely overwhelming because you put one  candy in there and it still looks pretty empty you  

put two candies there three five even 10 but you  know it's still pretty empty in the beginning it  

may feel overwhelming but as you keep going your  knowledge base expands and you have something to  

work with to experiment to make mistakes and learn  from them confidence can be trained confidence is  

a skill so practice it create your own frequency  dictionary of all the words you know you will  

need and will use the most and to be honest from  person to person this dictionary is going to be a  

little bit different I'm obsessed with nutrition  and recently I purchased a course from ecornell  

about plantbased nutrition so obviously I'm going  to learn a lot of new vocabulary that is connected  

to nutrition and I already know quite a lot and  for me it's important because it's my life and  

I don't even want to know if the word I'm going  to learn is Advanced or you know beginner level  

or intermediate level because it's my life and  for me it's relevant maybe you're interested in  

engineering and a lot of people are going to  say oh my God why you learning all of these  

words they're so Advanced but if engineering  is your life then don't listen to anyone and  

learn all of these words the most efficient way to  find all of these words that you often use is to  

start journaling in your target language this way  you'll be able to see what aspects of life you're  

most involved in and what words and phrases you  need to talk about them you may also find your  

highfrequency vocabulary and videos of people  who have a similar lifestyle to yours so I'm  

interested in nutrition that's why I often watch  Vlogs of people who share what they eat in a day  

maybe of like real nutritionists sharing their  diets and giving tips again if you're interesed  

in engineering Maybe you can watch a vlog of  an engineering student let's say if you're  

interested in medicine start watching videos of  medical students on YouTube it will make you more  

confident when you start speaking because it will  strengthen your core vocabulary your stories will  

flow uninterrupted by your mind it's a great  feeling you enter this creative flow so to  

speak it's going to be more about the message and  less about the language you can also think of your  

childhood experiences to remind yourself that conf  confidence can be learned as a 5-year-old learning  

to ride a bike first you use training wheels  step by step you're learning to use handlebars  

and brakes take turns and ride straight then  you learn to balance without training wheels  

you fall you get up you change something and  eventually you have enough experience to ride  

a bike without any problems but don't forget that  no matter how much experience you have you might  

still fall from the bike and feel stuck when you  speak a language that is not your native language  

allow yourself to be human forgive yourself and  move on your charisma is your confidence when  

you speak with someone they want to get to know  your personality they want to have a good laugh  

they want to have a good time they want to share  what made their day amazing this is the core of  

communication notice that when people can laugh  at themselves be vulnerable and down to earth we  

find them attractive there's so many non-native  comedian Ians who build their careers on being  

themselves being awkward using incorrect English  and making mistakes for example this funny guy  

from Finland I came across on Instagram I know  my my English is far from being perfect like I  

don't speak perfect English by far but recently  I realized that there are some people who speak  

way worse English than me like way worse  I heard that there's an actual campaign a  

huge campaign that's been going on now to teach  people uh to teach people that um uh no means

no he makes jokes about cultural difficulties  that a non-native speaker might have he speaks  

with a strong accent and he loves it Charisma is  leaning into your perceived flaws so Charisma has  

absolutely nothing to do with what you look  like what you're wearing how much money you  

have how much success you have none of that  Charisma has everything to do with how well  

well you lean into your perceived flaws the most  charismatic people on the planet are the ones who  

are leaning into their perceived flaws on this  channel I often share my embarrassing language  

learning stories I openly talk about my journey  challenge myself and get out of my comfort zone  

maybe that's why you love watching my videos  but then when I think about it just 3 years  

ago I'd never spoken to a camera I also had  to find the courage and identify what you my  

audience wanted to hear from me think of Charisma  as your personal tattoo and talking about tattoos  

I have quite a few myself you got that tattoo  when you were born when you fear something like  

speaking a foreign language it's as if someone  is trying to erase it it's painful you don't want  

to continue you want to stop and give up this is  what happens to all of us in every aspect of Our  

Lives fear paralyzes us so what do we do don't  ignore your fears you need to be really honest  

with yourself and explore your limiting beliefs  your dark thoughts and fears in one of her books  

bernee Brown says num the dark and you num the  light to gain confidence you need to see what's  

standing in the way and what might happen if you  ignore it if you're really serious about that try  

fear setting exercise by Tim fairies that made  successful people continue to be successful Yes  

you heard that right success as well as language  learning is an ongoing process that you need to  

keep up the exercise is pretty simple but it will  take some time and ideally should be repeated it's  

a type of self assessment which you guys know I  really love to do take a piece of paper and draw  

three columns Define prevent and repair let's  take an example in Define you write the worst  

case scenario as a non-native English speaker I  won't get through the interview to get that job  

and prevent your red SP specific actions that  could reduce the possibility of that situation  

from happening practice interview responses in  English to build fluency and confidence explore  

how the company can benefit from a cultural  background in repair you write what you're  

going to do in case the worst happens your  steps to get back on track reach out to the  

next company or consider applying for a different  job position the average applicant applies to 27  

companies before landing an inter interview finish  the exercise with two more columns the benefits of  

taking action this company values diversity and  different perspectives so my cultural background  

might be an advantage by overcoming this fear I  will prove to myself that I can do it the cost  

of an action missing out on potential highly  paid job opportunities allowing fear to hinder  

personal growth and advancement so guys instead  of switching to another video of relying on your  

memory please schedule some time time in your  planner and do at least one exercise I mentioned  

in this video commit to it if you want to you  can also write in the comments what exercise  

you chose then what happened to you and then how  doing this exercise actually helped you I'll be  

very excited to read all of your comments and  see you grow thank you so much for being here  

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