Advanced English Listening - What REALLY Stops You From Speaking English Fluently?

hi there I'm Drew Badger the world's

hi there I'm Drew Badger the world's number one English Fluency Guide and it

number one English Fluency Guide and it

number one English Fluency Guide and it is a pleasure to see you back in the

is a pleasure to see you back in the

is a pleasure to see you back in the studio again this is our final lesson on

studio again this is our final lesson on

studio again this is our final lesson on YouTube for 2018 but it's a good one

YouTube for 2018 but it's a good one

YouTube for 2018 but it's a good one first of all excuse me I want to

first of all excuse me I want to

first of all excuse me I want to apologize to learners because I had some

apologize to learners because I had some

apologize to learners because I had some technical difficulties if you try

technical difficulties if you try

technical difficulties if you try joining me or you even were at the live

joining me or you even were at the live

joining me or you even were at the live lesson I had a couple of days ago we

lesson I had a couple of days ago we

lesson I had a couple of days ago we started out and then I just lost my

started out and then I just lost my

started out and then I just lost my connection so I was going to be there

connection so I was going to be there

connection so I was going to be there for and how we're at least talking with

for and how we're at least talking with

for and how we're at least talking with students answering questions but because

students answering questions but because

students answering questions but because the video didn't work out

the video didn't work out

the video didn't work out I lost the lost the video and the audio

I lost the lost the video and the audio

I lost the lost the video and the audio so all I did was just I was typing

so all I did was just I was typing

so all I did was just I was typing answering questions for over an hour so

answering questions for over an hour so

answering questions for over an hour so hopefully I answered a lot of good

hopefully I answered a lot of good

hopefully I answered a lot of good questions and actually I got a lot of

questions and actually I got a lot of

questions and actually I got a lot of good questions that I wanted to talk

good questions that I wanted to talk

good questions that I wanted to talk about for this lesson

about for this lesson

about for this lesson ending a year is always a really

ending a year is always a really

ending a year is always a really important time we get to reflect this

important time we get to reflect this

important time we get to reflect this just means to think back over the

just means to think back over the

just means to think back over the previous year and what we liked what we

previous year and what we liked what we

previous year and what we liked what we didn't like what we can improve upon and

didn't like what we can improve upon and

didn't like what we can improve upon and so I want to talk about something very

so I want to talk about something very

so I want to talk about something very important in this video I'm always

important in this video I'm always

important in this video I'm always talking about fluency and really the way

talking about fluency and really the way

talking about fluency and really the way to do this for me personally as a

to do this for me personally as a

to do this for me personally as a teacher for someone who became a fluent

teacher for someone who became a fluent

teacher for someone who became a fluent speaker of a second language who helps

speaker of a second language who helps

speaker of a second language who helps people learn now I want to talk about

people learn now I want to talk about

people learn now I want to talk about the beliefs you have because I spent a

the beliefs you have because I spent a

the beliefs you have because I spent a lot of time talking about those things

lot of time talking about those things

lot of time talking about those things excuse me chatting about those things

excuse me chatting about those things

excuse me chatting about those things with learners personally when I had that

with learners personally when I had that

with learners personally when I had that that kind of live lesson so even though

that kind of live lesson so even though

that kind of live lesson so even though I didn't have video and audio I got to

I didn't have video and audio I got to

I didn't have video and audio I got to speak with quite a few people and answer

speak with quite a few people and answer

speak with quite a few people and answer a lot of great questions but what I kept

a lot of great questions but what I kept

a lot of great questions but what I kept hearing is I can't get fluent because of

hearing is I can't get fluent because of

hearing is I can't get fluent because of this so everybody had some kind of

this so everybody had some kind of

this so everybody had some kind of reason I say well what if you try this

reason I say well what if you try this

reason I say well what if you try this and they think well I've got this other

and they think well I've got this other

and they think well I've got this other thing over here so I want to talk about

thing over here so I want to talk about

thing over here so I want to talk about just a few of the beliefs we have and

just a few of the beliefs we have and

just a few of the beliefs we have and really what you need to do to take your

really what you need to do to take your

really what you need to do to take your English to the next level and not just

English to the next level and not just

English to the next level and not just your English but anything else you might

your English but anything else you might

your English but anything else you might want to improve so any skill or just

want to improve so any skill or just

want to improve so any skill or just your life in general it's really the

your life in general it's really the

your life in general it's really the beliefs at the very foundation of

beliefs at the very foundation of

beliefs at the very foundation of who you are as a person or what you

who you are as a person or what you

who you are as a person or what you think you can do because if you think

think you can do because if you think

think you can do because if you think something is impossible then it doesn't

something is impossible then it doesn't

something is impossible then it doesn't matter what kind of lessons you buy or

matter what kind of lessons you buy or

matter what kind of lessons you buy or however you learn you're not going to

however you learn you're not going to

however you learn you're not going to get good results with those so that's

get good results with those so that's

get good results with those so that's why thinking about beliefs so I drew

why thinking about beliefs so I drew

why thinking about beliefs so I drew this very simple picture here hopefully

this very simple picture here hopefully

this very simple picture here hopefully you can see it but we have this is a

you can see it but we have this is a

you can see it but we have this is a regular person over here and the goal is

regular person over here and the goal is

regular person over here and the goal is to become this person over here now in

to become this person over here now in

to become this person over here now in my case it's helping people become more

my case it's helping people become more

my case it's helping people become more confident speakers but for you know

confident speakers but for you know

confident speakers but for you know whatever it might be you know making a

whatever it might be you know making a

whatever it might be you know making a new friend or getting into the right

new friend or getting into the right

new friend or getting into the right college or you know whatever that thing

college or you know whatever that thing

college or you know whatever that thing happens to be we all have goals but

happens to be we all have goals but

happens to be we all have goals but beginning before we do any of the like

beginning before we do any of the like

beginning before we do any of the like the steps that we use in order to get

the steps that we use in order to get

the steps that we use in order to get those things we have to think about the

those things we have to think about the

those things we have to think about the way we believe and so when I was talking

way we believe and so when I was talking

way we believe and so when I was talking with people a few days ago I heard a

with people a few days ago I heard a

with people a few days ago I heard a couple of things we were talking about

couple of things we were talking about

couple of things we were talking about practicing so practicing was a big one

practicing so practicing was a big one

practicing so practicing was a big one and also just talking about how people

and also just talking about how people

and also just talking about how people learn how to speak especially can you do

learn how to speak especially can you do

learn how to speak especially can you do that

that

that by yourself and it's actually really

by yourself and it's actually really

by yourself and it's actually really easy to do but I want to talk about more

easy to do but I want to talk about more

easy to do but I want to talk about more practicing because this was a big

practicing because this was a big

practicing because this was a big problem for people and especially if you

problem for people and especially if you

problem for people and especially if you out there if you are a learner and

out there if you are a learner and

out there if you are a learner and you're watching this and you think well

you're watching this and you think well

you're watching this and you think well if only I could practice or if only I

if only I could practice or if only I

if only I could practice or if only I lived around native English speakers I

lived around native English speakers I

lived around native English speakers I would become fluent so whatever your if

would become fluent so whatever your if

would become fluent so whatever your if only thing we'll just write that up here

only thing we'll just write that up here

only thing we'll just write that up here if only so this is what you believe

if only so this is what you believe

if only so this is what you believe again this is a belief you have and if a

again this is a belief you have and if a

again this is a belief you have and if a belief is stopping you from achieving

belief is stopping you from achieving

belief is stopping you from achieving something then that's a negative belief

something then that's a negative belief

something then that's a negative belief so that's again a thing that would stop

so that's again a thing that would stop

so that's again a thing that would stop you from getting from one place to the

you from getting from one place to the

you from getting from one place to the other and that's going to take you

other and that's going to take you

other and that's going to take you around a path like this so a negative

around a path like this so a negative

around a path like this so a negative belief is going to send you up here and

belief is going to send you up here and

belief is going to send you up here and around and maybe not even get you to

around and maybe not even get you to

around and maybe not even get you to your goal if it gets you anywhere but

your goal if it gets you anywhere but

your goal if it gets you anywhere but it's going to waste your time or stop

it's going to waste your time or stop

it's going to waste your time or stop you from making any progress at all

you from making any progress at all

you from making any progress at all maybe you just believe well I don't live

maybe you just believe well I don't live

maybe you just believe well I don't live in a native english-speaking country so

in a native english-speaking country so

in a native english-speaking country so how can I get fluent it's just

how can I get fluent it's just

how can I get fluent it's just impossible so I spoke with quite a few

impossible so I spoke with quite a few

impossible so I spoke with quite a few people like that and not just in that

people like that and not just in that

people like that and not just in that particular lesson but a lot of times

particular lesson but a lot of times

particular lesson but a lot of times like

like

like lots of emails from people that say if

lots of emails from people that say if

lots of emails from people that say if only if only I lived in a country with

only if only I lived in a country with

only if only I lived in a country with native English speakers or if I knew

native English speakers or if I knew

native English speakers or if I knew some English speakers or something like

some English speakers or something like

some English speakers or something like that I would finally get fluent now if

that I would finally get fluent now if

that I would finally get fluent now if you knew native English speakers or you

you knew native English speakers or you

you knew native English speakers or you could practice speaking with people then

could practice speaking with people then

could practice speaking with people then wouldn't you become a fluent speaker so

wouldn't you become a fluent speaker so

wouldn't you become a fluent speaker so most people would say yes to that but a

most people would say yes to that but a

most people would say yes to that but a lot of people either they don't know how

lot of people either they don't know how

lot of people either they don't know how or they just think it's not possible and

or they just think it's not possible and

or they just think it's not possible and so lots of things again will we'll

so lots of things again will we'll

so lots of things again will we'll really just focus on this this idea of

really just focus on this this idea of

really just focus on this this idea of practicing just to give you an idea of

practicing just to give you an idea of

practicing just to give you an idea of what's possible because I want you to

what's possible because I want you to

what's possible because I want you to start thinking in the beliefs that

start thinking in the beliefs that

start thinking in the beliefs that actually get you directly where you want

actually get you directly where you want

actually get you directly where you want to go you still have to do the work but

to go you still have to do the work but

to go you still have to do the work but it's a lot easier if you believe you can

it's a lot easier if you believe you can

it's a lot easier if you believe you can does that make sense so if you don't

does that make sense so if you don't

does that make sense so if you don't believe you can do something where you

believe you can do something where you

believe you can do something where you think think something is impossible you

think think something is impossible you

think think something is impossible you might try to learn grammar or do all

might try to learn grammar or do all

might try to learn grammar or do all sorts of other things but you're not

sorts of other things but you're not

sorts of other things but you're not going to reach your goal so the first

going to reach your goal so the first

going to reach your goal so the first thing just practicing so some people

thing just practicing so some people

thing just practicing so some people said I don't have anyone to practice

said I don't have anyone to practice

said I don't have anyone to practice speaking with now I want to show you how

speaking with now I want to show you how

speaking with now I want to show you how to reverse that belief to show you that

to reverse that belief to show you that

to reverse that belief to show you that it's not true because right now you are

it's not true because right now you are

it's not true because right now you are watching this video on YouTube and

watching this video on YouTube and

watching this video on YouTube and instead of watching this video you could

instead of watching this video you could

instead of watching this video you could actually type in something you're

actually type in something you're

actually type in something you're interested in maybe you care about cats

interested in maybe you care about cats

interested in maybe you care about cats or like maybe making birdhouses or

or like maybe making birdhouses or

or like maybe making birdhouses or building cars or you know whatever

building cars or you know whatever

building cars or you know whatever makeup tutorials excuse me

makeup tutorials excuse me

makeup tutorials excuse me but whatever you happen to be interested

but whatever you happen to be interested

but whatever you happen to be interested in you can find information about that

in you can find information about that

in you can find information about that right here on YouTube and instead of

right here on YouTube and instead of

right here on YouTube and instead of watching a language learning video like

watching a language learning video like

watching a language learning video like this and then going down below in the

this and then going down below in the

this and then going down below in the comments and asking hey who was wanting

comments and asking hey who was wanting

comments and asking hey who was wanting to practice speaking with me what you

to practice speaking with me what you

to practice speaking with me what you should do is go to a different video I'm

should do is go to a different video I'm

should do is go to a different video I'm actually like telling you not to watch

actually like telling you not to watch

actually like telling you not to watch this video right now but it's important

this video right now but it's important

this video right now but it's important if you want to make that step so on this

if you want to make that step so on this

if you want to make that step so on this platform right here on YouTube right now

platform right here on YouTube right now

platform right here on YouTube right now there are millions and millions really

there are millions and millions really

there are millions and millions really billions of people probably watching

billions of people probably watching

billions of people probably watching videos and all of these people you know

videos and all of these people you know

videos and all of these people you know they speak many different languages but

they speak many different languages but

they speak many different languages but there are many English speakers and many

there are many English speakers and many

there are many English speakers and many native English speakers that are

native English speakers that are

native English speakers that are watching videos and all you have to do

watching videos and all you have to do

watching videos and all you have to do is go to a video that may be showing

is go to a video that may be showing

is go to a video that may be showing some content in English so if you're

some content in English so if you're

some content in English so if you're searching for something in

searching for something in

searching for something in lish then you're going to find results

lish then you're going to find results

lish then you're going to find results in English and you're going to find

in English and you're going to find

in English and you're going to find videos made by english-speaking people

videos made by english-speaking people

videos made by english-speaking people who you can communicate with and that's

who you can communicate with and that's

who you can communicate with and that's just one example of something where

just one example of something where

just one example of something where we're gonna change a belief you have

we're gonna change a belief you have

we're gonna change a belief you have about how you learn that if you're

about how you learn that if you're

about how you learn that if you're thinking I can't get fluent because I

thinking I can't get fluent because I

thinking I can't get fluent because I don't live around native English

don't live around native English

don't live around native English speakers the goal is not really to live

speakers the goal is not really to live

speakers the goal is not really to live in an english-speaking country because

in an english-speaking country because

in an english-speaking country because many people live in english-speaking

many people live in english-speaking

many people live in english-speaking countries and still don't get fluent so

countries and still don't get fluent so

countries and still don't get fluent so that's why it's another reason why I

that's why it's another reason why I

that's why it's another reason why I like this only if only idea here for not

like this only if only idea here for not

like this only if only idea here for not having anyone to practice speaking with

having anyone to practice speaking with

having anyone to practice speaking with is also not true so again the point is

is also not true so again the point is

is also not true so again the point is just to think about an idea like this

just to think about an idea like this

just to think about an idea like this and think is it really true that I can't

and think is it really true that I can't

and think is it really true that I can't meet people to practice speaking with

meet people to practice speaking with

meet people to practice speaking with because I don't live in an

because I don't live in an

because I don't live in an english-speaking country so the obvious

english-speaking country so the obvious

english-speaking country so the obvious examples are obviously meeting people

examples are obviously meeting people

examples are obviously meeting people online just like a platform like this

online just like a platform like this

online just like a platform like this but really connecting with people

but really connecting with people

but really connecting with people wherever you happen to be now I live in

wherever you happen to be now I live in

wherever you happen to be now I live in Japan and learning Japanese is actually

Japan and learning Japanese is actually

Japan and learning Japanese is actually much more difficult for me where it was

much more difficult for me where it was

much more difficult for me where it was certainly when I lived back in America

certainly when I lived back in America

certainly when I lived back in America because I spent many many years actually

because I spent many many years actually

because I spent many many years actually living back in America after I had

living back in America after I had

living back in America after I had already learned a little bit of Japanese

already learned a little bit of Japanese

already learned a little bit of Japanese so I came to Japan and I was discovering

so I came to Japan and I was discovering

so I came to Japan and I was discovering how to learn but really just as I as I

how to learn but really just as I as I

how to learn but really just as I as I was getting excited to learn I had to go

was getting excited to learn I had to go

was getting excited to learn I had to go back to the United States so when I went

back to the United States so when I went

back to the United States so when I went back home I had to think okay I'm not in

back home I had to think okay I'm not in

back home I had to think okay I'm not in Japan anymore but how can I find

Japan anymore but how can I find

Japan anymore but how can I find Japanese people to practice speaking

Japanese people to practice speaking

Japanese people to practice speaking with whether it's online or in the real

with whether it's online or in the real

with whether it's online or in the real world now I didn't think okay I mean

world now I didn't think okay I mean

world now I didn't think okay I mean America right now so I can't practice my

America right now so I can't practice my

America right now so I can't practice my Japanese I thought how can I so I had

Japanese I thought how can I so I had

Japanese I thought how can I so I had the belief that like oh I probably can

the belief that like oh I probably can

the belief that like oh I probably can find someone there must be a Japanese

find someone there must be a Japanese

find someone there must be a Japanese person either physically around me or

person either physically around me or

person either physically around me or online that I can meet and I actually

online that I can meet and I actually

online that I can meet and I actually met both it when it was really not very

met both it when it was really not very

met both it when it was really not very difficult but I used back in I was

difficult but I used back in I was

difficult but I used back in I was living in Seattle and I lived

living in Seattle and I lived

living in Seattle and I lived let's see not very far from actually

let's see not very far from actually

let's see not very far from actually quite a few Japanese speakers and I

quite a few Japanese speakers and I

quite a few Japanese speakers and I didn't know anybody when I was moving to

didn't know anybody when I was moving to

didn't know anybody when I was moving to Seattle actually I just moved there

Seattle actually I just moved there

Seattle actually I just moved there after I came back from Japan because I

after I came back from Japan because I

after I came back from Japan because I wanted to see what it was like in that

wanted to see what it was like in that

wanted to see what it was like in that city but I didn't know anyone so I

city but I didn't know anyone so I

city but I didn't know anyone so I didn't really know even

didn't really know even

didn't really know even English speakers there as well so I had

English speakers there as well so I had

English speakers there as well so I had to make friends but one way I wanted to

to make friends but one way I wanted to

to make friends but one way I wanted to practice my Japanese was I got a job at

practice my Japanese was I got a job at

practice my Japanese was I got a job at a Japanese restaurant so I started I was

a Japanese restaurant so I started I was

a Japanese restaurant so I started I was a manager and a server at a sushi

a manager and a server at a sushi

a manager and a server at a sushi restaurant in Seattle so I actually did

restaurant in Seattle so I actually did

restaurant in Seattle so I actually did that for a while as a way just to stay

that for a while as a way just to stay

that for a while as a way just to stay connected with Japanese and you know

connected with Japanese and you know

connected with Japanese and you know many of the customers were just regular

many of the customers were just regular

many of the customers were just regular people from America who didn't speak any

people from America who didn't speak any

people from America who didn't speak any Japanese but sometimes we would have

Japanese but sometimes we would have

Japanese but sometimes we would have staff or not staff but customers who

staff or not staff but customers who

staff or not staff but customers who would come in to the restaurant

would come in to the restaurant

would come in to the restaurant and so I would get to practice my

and so I would get to practice my

and so I would get to practice my Japanese with them but again the idea

Japanese with them but again the idea

Japanese with them but again the idea here is not for me to think about

here is not for me to think about

here is not for me to think about speaking practice directly it's for me

speaking practice directly it's for me

speaking practice directly it's for me to think about how can i connect with

to think about how can i connect with

to think about how can i connect with something with something I'm interested

something with something I'm interested

something with something I'm interested in so in that way I'm interested in

in so in that way I'm interested in

in so in that way I'm interested in Japanese food and maybe some Japanese

Japanese food and maybe some Japanese

Japanese food and maybe some Japanese speakers you know they're eating

speakers you know they're eating

speakers you know they're eating Japanese food also so I can have a good

Japanese food also so I can have a good

Japanese food also so I can have a good reason to meet and talk with those

reason to meet and talk with those

reason to meet and talk with those people but if I just walk up to Japanese

people but if I just walk up to Japanese

people but if I just walk up to Japanese people and say hey will you practice

people and say hey will you practice

people and say hey will you practice speaking with me then they're not really

speaking with me then they're not really

speaking with me then they're not really going to listen they're going to say

going to listen they're going to say

going to listen they're going to say well maybe I can help you some people

well maybe I can help you some people

well maybe I can help you some people might help especially if they want to

might help especially if they want to

might help especially if they want to maybe practice their English but it's

maybe practice their English but it's

maybe practice their English but it's really more difficult you know just like

really more difficult you know just like

really more difficult you know just like if I walk up to someone and say hey you

if I walk up to someone and say hey you

if I walk up to someone and say hey you you speak a little bit of French don't

you speak a little bit of French don't

you speak a little bit of French don't you speak some French for me right now

you speak some French for me right now

you speak some French for me right now and most people say well I can but what

and most people say well I can but what

and most people say well I can but what do you want me to say so that's a bad

do you want me to say so that's a bad

do you want me to say so that's a bad way to begin a conversation but again

way to begin a conversation but again

way to begin a conversation but again the whole point is like how can you how

the whole point is like how can you how

the whole point is like how can you how can you move as quickly as possible from

can you move as quickly as possible from

can you move as quickly as possible from where you are now to where you want to

where you are now to where you want to

where you are now to where you want to be and it begins with the beliefs that

be and it begins with the beliefs that

be and it begins with the beliefs that you have so as one example like I talked

you have so as one example like I talked

you have so as one example like I talked with some other people related to this

with some other people related to this

with some other people related to this idea of practicing and they said well

idea of practicing and they said well

idea of practicing and they said well native speakers don't want to speak with

native speakers don't want to speak with

native speakers don't want to speak with me so this is another belief they have

me so this is another belief they have

me so this is another belief they have native speakers don't want to speak with

native speakers don't want to speak with

native speakers don't want to speak with me and so when I was asking more

me and so when I was asking more

me and so when I was asking more questions well why do you think that why

questions well why do you think that why

questions well why do you think that why do you believe that and so one person

do you believe that and so one person

do you believe that and so one person said well I tried speaking with a native

said well I tried speaking with a native

said well I tried speaking with a native speaker and you know they didn't want to

speaker and you know they didn't want to

speaker and you know they didn't want to talk with me or they ignored me or

talk with me or they ignored me or

talk with me or they ignored me or something like that

something like that

something like that and when I asked okay how were you

and when I asked okay how were you

and when I asked okay how were you actually trying to speak with them again

actually trying to speak with them again

actually trying to speak with them again they were just trying to ask for

they were just trying to ask for

they were just trying to ask for speaking practice instead of trying to

speaking practice instead of trying to

speaking practice instead of trying to connect with with some kind of interest

connect with with some kind of interest

connect with with some kind of interest that they shared with that person so

that they shared with that person so

that they shared with that person so when you are kind of like if you think

when you are kind of like if you think

when you are kind of like if you think about maybe practicing with someone you

about maybe practicing with someone you

about maybe practicing with someone you have an idea of a native speaker up here

have an idea of a native speaker up here

have an idea of a native speaker up here is like wow this person is up here and

is like wow this person is up here and

is like wow this person is up here and I'm just like down here as like a

I'm just like down here as like a

I'm just like down here as like a learner and you know it's like a kid and

learner and you know it's like a kid and

learner and you know it's like a kid and an adult okay you see this

an adult okay you see this

an adult okay you see this hopefully yes it looks like it's right

hopefully yes it looks like it's right

hopefully yes it looks like it's right at the bottom here but you have this

at the bottom here but you have this

at the bottom here but you have this idea you're you're looking up to that

idea you're you're looking up to that

idea you're you're looking up to that person saying wow that person is a

person saying wow that person is a

person saying wow that person is a native speaker but why there's no reason

native speaker but why there's no reason

native speaker but why there's no reason to look up to a person like that just

to look up to a person like that just

to look up to a person like that just because they naturally speak a different

because they naturally speak a different

because they naturally speak a different language it's a nice thing that they can

language it's a nice thing that they can

language it's a nice thing that they can do that but you you put them we call

do that but you you put them we call

do that but you you put them we call this to put someone on a pedestal so

this to put someone on a pedestal so

this to put someone on a pedestal so I'll draw a pedestal like here a

I'll draw a pedestal like here a

I'll draw a pedestal like here a pedestal it's like those like columns

pedestal it's like those like columns

pedestal it's like those like columns that you see on this is a really bad

that you see on this is a really bad

that you see on this is a really bad picture actually but so this is like a

picture actually but so this is like a

picture actually but so this is like a pedestal so you put something like a

pedestal so you put something like a

pedestal so you put something like a nice you know vase or something up here

nice you know vase or something up here

nice you know vase or something up here a trophy or something something special

a trophy or something something special

a trophy or something something special that you put on top of this to make it

that you put on top of this to make it

that you put on top of this to make it you know you're you're saying wow this

you know you're you're saying wow this

you know you're you're saying wow this is like an amazing thing a special thing

is like an amazing thing a special thing

is like an amazing thing a special thing so when you put a native speaker up on a

so when you put a native speaker up on a

so when you put a native speaker up on a pedestal like that it changes the way

pedestal like that it changes the way

pedestal like that it changes the way you look at that person now with me I

you look at that person now with me I

you look at that person now with me I don't look at Japanese people and think

don't look at Japanese people and think

don't look at Japanese people and think oh wow it's a native Japanese speaker

oh wow it's a native Japanese speaker

oh wow it's a native Japanese speaker and like I need to look up to that

and like I need to look up to that

and like I need to look up to that person I respect them just the same as I

person I respect them just the same as I

person I respect them just the same as I respect everyone else but I'm looking at

respect everyone else but I'm looking at

respect everyone else but I'm looking at them as an equal so they're looking at

them as an equal so they're looking at

them as an equal so they're looking at me as an equal and I'm thinking okay

me as an equal and I'm thinking okay

me as an equal and I'm thinking okay what can I do that's connected with

what can I do that's connected with

what can I do that's connected with something they're interested in so I

something they're interested in so I

something they're interested in so I came to Japan to study gardening and I

came to Japan to study gardening and I

came to Japan to study gardening and I connected with other Japanese people who

connected with other Japanese people who

connected with other Japanese people who were also interested in gardening it's

were also interested in gardening it's

were also interested in gardening it's pretty obvious so I didn't say to anyone

pretty obvious so I didn't say to anyone

pretty obvious so I didn't say to anyone hey can you practice speaking with me

hey can you practice speaking with me

hey can you practice speaking with me because that's begging you're asking

because that's begging you're asking

because that's begging you're asking someone and you're looking up to them

someone and you're looking up to them

someone and you're looking up to them saying will you give me something please

saying will you give me something please

saying will you give me something please give me give me so you don't think about

give me give me so you don't think about

give me give me so you don't think about it like that so you try to connect with

it like that so you try to connect with

it like that so you try to connect with them so when I explain that to the

them so when I explain that to the

them so when I explain that to the person just saying it's not about you

person just saying it's not about you

person just saying it's not about you that native speakers don't want to

that native speakers don't want to

that native speakers don't want to practice with you it's about the

practice with you it's about the

practice with you it's about the approach that you have so it's the way

approach that you have so it's the way

approach that you have so it's the way that you try to connect with native

that you try to connect with native

that you try to connect with native speakers that lets you connect and speak

speakers that lets you connect and speak

speakers that lets you connect and speak with them or the

with them or the

with them or the try to reject you so again we have these

try to reject you so again we have these

try to reject you so again we have these different ideas number one you can't

different ideas number one you can't

different ideas number one you can't practice with natives or you can't

practice with natives or you can't

practice with natives or you can't improve your fluency because you have no

improve your fluency because you have no

improve your fluency because you have no one to practice with well there are

one to practice with well there are

one to practice with well there are native speakers everywhere and remember

native speakers everywhere and remember

native speakers everywhere and remember I'm here in Japan or when I was back in

I'm here in Japan or when I was back in

I'm here in Japan or when I was back in America I'm trying to learn Japanese and

America I'm trying to learn Japanese and

America I'm trying to learn Japanese and there are many more English speakers

there are many more English speakers

there are many more English speakers around the world than Japanese speakers

around the world than Japanese speakers

around the world than Japanese speakers it's much more difficult for me to find

it's much more difficult for me to find

it's much more difficult for me to find somebody like that but I did with native

somebody like that but I did with native

somebody like that but I did with native English speakers or even just really

English speakers or even just really

English speakers or even just really good English speakers who were from

good English speakers who were from

good English speakers who were from different countries are all over the

different countries are all over the

different countries are all over the place they're everywhere English is the

place they're everywhere English is the

place they're everywhere English is the easiest language to learn when you want

easiest language to learn when you want

easiest language to learn when you want to connect with people who speak the

to connect with people who speak the

to connect with people who speak the language a final thing I'll talk about

language a final thing I'll talk about

language a final thing I'll talk about about practicing here another limiting

about practicing here another limiting

about practicing here another limiting belief people had is that my English is

belief people had is that my English is

belief people had is that my English is not good enough to practice with a

not good enough to practice with a

not good enough to practice with a native English speaker so even if there

native English speaker so even if there

native English speaker so even if there is a native speaker even if there is a

is a native speaker even if there is a

is a native speaker even if there is a native speaker I'm too shy because I

native speaker I'm too shy because I

native speaker I'm too shy because I don't have anything to give to that

don't have anything to give to that

don't have anything to give to that native English speaker so people think

native English speaker so people think

native English speaker so people think why would a native speaker want to speak

why would a native speaker want to speak

why would a native speaker want to speak with me now number one you've got again

with me now number one you've got again

with me now number one you've got again the idea that you are connecting with

the idea that you are connecting with

the idea that you are connecting with someone because of something you're

someone because of something you're

someone because of something you're interested in so you're not thinking

interested in so you're not thinking

interested in so you're not thinking about why would the native speaker want

about why would the native speaker want

about why would the native speaker want to practice with me I don't have

to practice with me I don't have

to practice with me I don't have anything to give to that person first I

anything to give to that person first I

anything to give to that person first I mean you should hopefully be speaking

mean you should hopefully be speaking

mean you should hopefully be speaking with them about something you're

with them about something you're

with them about something you're interested in but the most important

interested in but the most important

interested in but the most important idea something I hope can change your

idea something I hope can change your

idea something I hope can change your beliefs right now about practicing if

beliefs right now about practicing if

beliefs right now about practicing if you believe this as well so if you

you believe this as well so if you

you believe this as well so if you believe that natives don't want to speak

believe that natives don't want to speak

believe that natives don't want to speak with you or you don't have any value to

with you or you don't have any value to

with you or you don't have any value to give to a native speaker I want you to

give to a native speaker I want you to

give to a native speaker I want you to remember this it's really important just

remember this it's really important just

remember this it's really important just to listen and that's really the most

to listen and that's really the most

to listen and that's really the most important thing you can give to someone

important thing you can give to someone

important thing you can give to someone so I can sit and listen to someone else

so I can sit and listen to someone else

so I can sit and listen to someone else speak even for 20 minutes or an hour and

speak even for 20 minutes or an hour and

speak even for 20 minutes or an hour and just say yeah I agree I understand what

just say yeah I agree I understand what

just say yeah I agree I understand what you're saying and just listen to them

you're saying and just listen to them

you're saying and just listen to them speak because most people are not really

speak because most people are not really

speak because most people are not really good listeners you can kind of hear what

good listeners you can kind of hear what

good listeners you can kind of hear what people are saying but we're often

people are saying but we're often

people are saying but we're often thinking you know myself included I need

thinking you know myself included I need

thinking you know myself included I need you know more practice listening to

you know more practice listening to

you know more practice listening to other people but really listening means

other people but really listening means

other people but really listening means you're allowing them to speak you're not

you're allowing them to speak you're not

you're allowing them to speak you're not just thinking about what you want to say

just thinking about what you want to say

just thinking about what you want to say and so as a learner you can really relax

and so as a learner you can really relax

and so as a learner you can really relax okay I don't really know very much

okay I don't really know very much

okay I don't really know very much but I can listen to that person speak

but I can listen to that person speak

but I can listen to that person speak and that's how you get into a

and that's how you get into a

and that's how you get into a conversation with someone so that is

conversation with someone so that is

conversation with someone so that is valuable you can give value to a native

valuable you can give value to a native

valuable you can give value to a native English speaker when you're practicing

English speaker when you're practicing

English speaker when you're practicing with them even if you don't know very

with them even if you don't know very

with them even if you don't know very much English so often you know people

much English so often you know people

much English so often you know people listening to my videos they know quite a

listening to my videos they know quite a

listening to my videos they know quite a bit but they're just not very confident

bit but they're just not very confident

bit but they're just not very confident yet but it's the beliefs that they have

yet but it's the beliefs that they have

yet but it's the beliefs that they have about what they can't do that stop them

about what they can't do that stop them

about what they can't do that stop them from speaking so the people watching

from speaking so the people watching

from speaking so the people watching this video right now maybe that's you

this video right now maybe that's you

this video right now maybe that's you out there you know a lot of English and

out there you know a lot of English and

out there you know a lot of English and I know that because you can understand

I know that because you can understand

I know that because you can understand what I'm saying right now but you just

what I'm saying right now but you just

what I'm saying right now but you just can't speak because you have beliefs

can't speak because you have beliefs

can't speak because you have beliefs that stop you from speaking that stop

that stop you from speaking that stop

that stop you from speaking that stop you from building confidence that stop

you from building confidence that stop

you from building confidence that stop you from getting fluent so think about

you from getting fluent so think about

you from getting fluent so think about those things again we were just talking

those things again we were just talking

those things again we were just talking about practicing today but number one

about practicing today but number one

about practicing today but number one there are lots of native speakers around

there are lots of native speakers around

there are lots of native speakers around to practice with you both online and in

to practice with you both online and in

to practice with you both online and in person number two you can meet these

person number two you can meet these

person number two you can meet these people it's really easy to do that but

people it's really easy to do that but

people it's really easy to do that but it just depends on your approach how you

it just depends on your approach how you

it just depends on your approach how you do that remember to connect with these

do that remember to connect with these

do that remember to connect with these people online or in person with things

people online or in person with things

people online or in person with things you're interested in don't ask them to

you're interested in don't ask them to

you're interested in don't ask them to practice with you and the final thing is

practice with you and the final thing is

practice with you and the final thing is that you do have value to give these

that you do have value to give these

that you do have value to give these people their again like don't put a

people their again like don't put a

people their again like don't put a native speaker up here on a pedestal

native speaker up here on a pedestal

native speaker up here on a pedestal just respect that person and say

just respect that person and say

just respect that person and say hopefully you know I can give some value

hopefully you know I can give some value

hopefully you know I can give some value to that person just even by listening to

to that person just even by listening to

to that person just even by listening to them but you begin by trying to have

them but you begin by trying to have

them but you begin by trying to have some kind of shared interest and that's

some kind of shared interest and that's

some kind of shared interest and that's what's going to help you become a much

what's going to help you become a much

what's going to help you become a much more confident speaker so at the end of

more confident speaker so at the end of

more confident speaker so at the end of 2018 here really think about the beliefs

2018 here really think about the beliefs

2018 here really think about the beliefs you have and what's stopping you what

you have and what's stopping you what

you have and what's stopping you what are you saying if only about and then

are you saying if only about and then

are you saying if only about and then try to reverse that try to try to show

try to reverse that try to try to show

try to reverse that try to try to show why it's not true and that's going to

why it's not true and that's going to

why it's not true and that's going to help you become a much more confident

help you become a much more confident

help you become a much more confident speaker well if you enjoyed this video

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me know if there are any beliefs you

me know if there are any beliefs you have about learning that are stopping

have about learning that are stopping

have about learning that are stopping you and maybe I can try to reverse those

you and maybe I can try to reverse those

you and maybe I can try to reverse those as well but if you really just think

as well but if you really just think

as well but if you really just think about is it really true that you know

about is it really true that you know

about is it really true that you know maybe I can't practice with natives

maybe I can't practice with natives

maybe I can't practice with natives because I don't live in an

because I don't live in an

because I don't live in an english-speaking country you just try to

english-speaking country you just try to

english-speaking country you just try to think about people who do live in

think about people who do live in

think about people who do live in english-speaking countries like all of

english-speaking countries like all of

english-speaking countries like all of the non-native speakers in the United

the non-native speakers in the United

the non-native speakers in the United States who can't

States who can't

States who can't speak don't think about that like I'm

speak don't think about that like I'm

speak don't think about that like I'm you know here like living in like Peru

you know here like living in like Peru

you know here like living in like Peru or something and I'm a I'm not an

or something and I'm a I'm not an

or something and I'm a I'm not an English speaker and like I can't become

English speaker and like I can't become

English speaker and like I can't become fluent because I don't live in the

fluent because I don't live in the

fluent because I don't live in the United States but I guarantee you there

United States but I guarantee you there

United States but I guarantee you there are people from Peru living in the

are people from Peru living in the

are people from Peru living in the United States that don't speak English

United States that don't speak English

United States that don't speak English very well so it's not where you live

very well so it's not where you live

very well so it's not where you live it's how you think remember that so do

it's how you think remember that so do

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