The 3 Listening Problems Of English Language Learners - And How To Solve Them

hi there I'm Drew Badger the world's

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really is a pleasure to join you again

really is a pleasure to join you again today I want to make a different kind of

today I want to make a different kind of

today I want to make a different kind of video so I'm just sitting back and

video so I'm just sitting back and

video so I'm just sitting back and recording this because I wanted to talk

recording this because I wanted to talk

recording this because I wanted to talk about something that's very common that

about something that's very common that

about something that's very common that you really won't hear most teachers

you really won't hear most teachers

you really won't hear most teachers speaking about and this is really

speaking about and this is really

speaking about and this is really understanding the psychology of

understanding the psychology of

understanding the psychology of listening and really thinking more about

listening and really thinking more about

listening and really thinking more about your brain and how we listen to things

your brain and how we listen to things

your brain and how we listen to things and why it can be difficult to

and why it can be difficult to

and why it can be difficult to understand people especially natives

understand people especially natives

understand people especially natives when they're speaking so you already

when they're speaking so you already

when they're speaking so you already know just from the language learning

know just from the language learning

know just from the language learning perspective it can be difficult to

perspective it can be difficult to

perspective it can be difficult to understand native speakers because they

understand native speakers because they

understand native speakers because they speak too quickly or because they use a

speak too quickly or because they use a

speak too quickly or because they use a lot of maybe difficult words or

lot of maybe difficult words or

lot of maybe difficult words or expressions or their accents can be

expressions or their accents can be

expressions or their accents can be quite difficult to understand but I

quite difficult to understand but I

quite difficult to understand but I wanted to talk about more the psychology

wanted to talk about more the psychology

wanted to talk about more the psychology here about helping you understand so you

here about helping you understand so you

here about helping you understand so you can understand people more effectively

can understand people more effectively

can understand people more effectively and you can really just feel more

and you can really just feel more

and you can really just feel more comfortable and confident in

comfortable and confident in

comfortable and confident in conversations so really this is about

conversations so really this is about

conversations so really this is about improving your listening but in a

improving your listening but in a

improving your listening but in a different way than just listening to

different way than just listening to

different way than just listening to more English so there are really three

more English so there are really three

more English so there are really three basic problems here when people write me

basic problems here when people write me

basic problems here when people write me and say I have trouble understanding

and say I have trouble understanding

and say I have trouble understanding native speakers or maybe I often go

native speakers or maybe I often go

native speakers or maybe I often go blank in conversations so people will be

blank in conversations so people will be

blank in conversations so people will be worrying about things and then they have

worrying about things and then they have

worrying about things and then they have trouble listening so they just have a

trouble listening so they just have a

trouble listening so they just have a problem that happens and so I wanted to

problem that happens and so I wanted to

problem that happens and so I wanted to talk about those kinds of things and why

talk about those kinds of things and why

talk about those kinds of things and why they happen and then explain a little

they happen and then explain a little

they happen and then explain a little bit about what you can do to solve these

bit about what you can do to solve these

bit about what you can do to solve these problems if these are things that you

problems if these are things that you

problems if these are things that you struggle with as well so you can become

struggle with as well so you can become

struggle with as well so you can become a better listener and have better

a better listener and have better

a better listener and have better conversations so there are a couple of

conversations so there are a couple of

conversations so there are a couple of things here really three main problems

things here really three main problems

things here really three main problems and it's important to understand what

and it's important to understand what

and it's important to understand what your specific problem is if you have

your specific problem is if you have

your specific problem is if you have trouble listening so the first one is

trouble listening so the first one is

trouble listening so the first one is actually being passively distracted and

actually being passively distracted and

actually being passively distracted and I'll talk a little bit more about that

I'll talk a little bit more about that

I'll talk a little bit more about that later but just being passively

later but just being passively

later but just being passively distracted just means everyday when we

distracted just means everyday when we

distracted just means everyday when we are listening to something or you know

are listening to something or you know

are listening to something or you know doing work or going to the gym or

doing work or going to the gym or

doing work or going to the gym or whatever our minds begin to drift and we

whatever our minds begin to drift and we

whatever our minds begin to drift and we naturally begin thinking about other

naturally begin thinking about other

naturally begin thinking about other things and it almost feels like we are

things and it almost feels like we are

things and it almost feels like we are like daydreaming or sleepwalking in a

like daydreaming or sleepwalking in a

like daydreaming or sleepwalking in a way

way

way so you're doing something like driving

so you're doing something like driving

so you're doing something like driving maybe you've maybe you've had this

maybe you've maybe you've had this

maybe you've maybe you've had this experience before when you're driving

experience before when you're driving

experience before when you're driving and then you realize oh you're driving

and then you realize oh you're driving

and then you realize oh you're driving but because you had just been thinking

but because you had just been thinking

but because you had just been thinking about you know what you're cooking for

about you know what you're cooking for

about you know what you're cooking for dinner or something else and you've

dinner or something else and you've

dinner or something else and you've driven maybe a few miles on the road

driven maybe a few miles on the road

driven maybe a few miles on the road without even realizing it so your body

without even realizing it so your body

without even realizing it so your body is naturally trying to drive and your

is naturally trying to drive and your

is naturally trying to drive and your mind is getting lots of information in

mind is getting lots of information in

mind is getting lots of information in but this is why you know people can fall

but this is why you know people can fall

but this is why you know people can fall asleep when they're driving or they get

asleep when they're driving or they get

asleep when they're driving or they get distracted very easily and this happens

distracted very easily and this happens

distracted very easily and this happens to all of us so this is the the being

to all of us so this is the the being

to all of us so this is the the being passively distracted by something again

passively distracted by something again

passively distracted by something again it's just a natural thing that you need

it's just a natural thing that you need

it's just a natural thing that you need to take time and I'll explain a little

to take time and I'll explain a little

to take time and I'll explain a little bit more about how to solve that problem

bit more about how to solve that problem

bit more about how to solve that problem or we never really can eliminate it

or we never really can eliminate it

or we never really can eliminate it completely but how you can make that

completely but how you can make that

completely but how you can make that better so you can have maybe better just

better so you can have maybe better just

better so you can have maybe better just times in conversations when you're

times in conversations when you're

times in conversations when you're listening to people and you're being

listening to people and you're being

listening to people and you're being able to focus more the second problem is

able to focus more the second problem is

able to focus more the second problem is being actively distracted by your own

being actively distracted by your own

being actively distracted by your own worrying about things so maybe you get

worrying about things so maybe you get

worrying about things so maybe you get into a conversation and you worry about

into a conversation and you worry about

into a conversation and you worry about being judged what will the other person

being judged what will the other person

being judged what will the other person think about me if I make a mistake am I

think about me if I make a mistake am I

think about me if I make a mistake am I using the right grammar am i making

using the right grammar am i making

using the right grammar am i making mistakes with my pronunciation there are

mistakes with my pronunciation there are

mistakes with my pronunciation there are lots of people in the same way that

lots of people in the same way that

lots of people in the same way that maybe before you give a speech or a

maybe before you give a speech or a

maybe before you give a speech or a presentation you worry we call this

presentation you worry we call this

presentation you worry we call this stage fright and you worry about you

stage fright and you worry about you

stage fright and you worry about you know what they're going to think or what

know what they're going to think or what

know what they're going to think or what will happen or what if you make a

will happen or what if you make a

will happen or what if you make a mistake so this is actively worrying so

mistake so this is actively worrying so

mistake so this is actively worrying so you're actively distracting yourself

you're actively distracting yourself

you're actively distracting yourself from the conversation and then the final

from the conversation and then the final

from the conversation and then the final problem is if you really just don't

problem is if you really just don't

problem is if you really just don't understand what people are saying and

understand what people are saying and

understand what people are saying and you might understand what I'm saying but

you might understand what I'm saying but

you might understand what I'm saying but maybe again for normal reasons as I

maybe again for normal reasons as I

maybe again for normal reasons as I explained earlier that you're often

explained earlier that you're often

explained earlier that you're often having trouble understanding people

having trouble understanding people

having trouble understanding people because of their pronunciation or the

because of their pronunciation or the

because of their pronunciation or the words they use or anything else that's

words they use or anything else that's

words they use or anything else that's really a problem with the language so

really a problem with the language so

really a problem with the language so the first step to better listening is

the first step to better listening is

the first step to better listening is thinking about which of these three

thinking about which of these three

thinking about which of these three things you're struggling with if you

things you're struggling with if you

things you're struggling with if you have trouble listening is it just

have trouble listening is it just

have trouble listening is it just because of the language or is it because

because of the language or is it because

because of the language or is it because you are actively distracting yourself or

you are actively distracting yourself or

you are actively distracting yourself or if you're just passively destroy

if you're just passively destroy

if you're just passively destroy and the quickest way to do that is to

and the quickest way to do that is to

and the quickest way to do that is to think about how you communicate with

think about how you communicate with

think about how you communicate with people in your native language so if

people in your native language so if

people in your native language so if you're a really good listener normally

you're a really good listener normally

you're a really good listener normally you don't actually you don't actively

you don't actually you don't actively

you don't actually you don't actively distract yourself when you're speaking

distract yourself when you're speaking

distract yourself when you're speaking with someone and you're good about not

with someone and you're good about not

with someone and you're good about not being passively distracted you're able

being passively distracted you're able

being passively distracted you're able to focus on a conversation and it

to focus on a conversation and it

to focus on a conversation and it doesn't seem like your mind is wandering

doesn't seem like your mind is wandering

doesn't seem like your mind is wandering someplace else then probably the problem

someplace else then probably the problem

someplace else then probably the problem that you have is really just

that you have is really just

that you have is really just understanding more native English

understanding more native English

understanding more native English speakers and practicing with that is the

speakers and practicing with that is the

speakers and practicing with that is the best way to do that so again learning

best way to do that so again learning

best way to do that so again learning with more native speech rather than

with more native speech rather than

with more native speech rather than things that are typically English

things that are typically English

things that are typically English lessons and these are the may be fake or

lessons and these are the may be fake or

lessons and these are the may be fake or scripted dialogues that you'll get or

scripted dialogues that you'll get or

scripted dialogues that you'll get or practicing with much more formal

practicing with much more formal

practicing with much more formal vocabulary so the thing that I focus on

vocabulary so the thing that I focus on

vocabulary so the thing that I focus on is conversational speech and giving you

is conversational speech and giving you

is conversational speech and giving you examples of native speech see that you

examples of native speech see that you

examples of native speech see that you practice with that and then you get more

practice with that and then you get more

practice with that and then you get more experience with that so reading excuse

experience with that so reading excuse

experience with that so reading excuse me listening becomes a lot easier to do

me listening becomes a lot easier to do

me listening becomes a lot easier to do so if you're first thinking about it in

so if you're first thinking about it in

so if you're first thinking about it in your native language it makes it a lot

your native language it makes it a lot

your native language it makes it a lot easier to understand what your problem

easier to understand what your problem

easier to understand what your problem is now for me I can understand Japanese

is now for me I can understand Japanese

is now for me I can understand Japanese quite well there are many words that I

quite well there are many words that I

quite well there are many words that I don't know but for everyday

don't know but for everyday

don't know but for everyday conversations I usually don't have much

conversations I usually don't have much

conversations I usually don't have much of a problem but I have a big problem

of a problem but I have a big problem

of a problem but I have a big problem with being passively distracted now part

with being passively distracted now part

with being passively distracted now part of this is a good thing my mind can

of this is a good thing my mind can

of this is a good thing my mind can wander and comes up with lots of good

wander and comes up with lots of good

wander and comes up with lots of good ideas or you know whatever about many

ideas or you know whatever about many

ideas or you know whatever about many things but I'll often find I get

things but I'll often find I get

things but I'll often find I get distracted in you know Japanese

distracted in you know Japanese

distracted in you know Japanese conversations or conversations in

conversations or conversations in

conversations or conversations in English so I know this isn't a problem

English so I know this isn't a problem

English so I know this isn't a problem about the language even though I should

about the language even though I should

about the language even though I should be learning more words and everyday I'm

be learning more words and everyday I'm

be learning more words and everyday I'm learning a little bit more Japanese but

learning a little bit more Japanese but

learning a little bit more Japanese but in general when I'm speaking with

in general when I'm speaking with

in general when I'm speaking with someone like my mind can wander so I

someone like my mind can wander so I

someone like my mind can wander so I have to remind myself to focus on that a

have to remind myself to focus on that a

have to remind myself to focus on that a perfect example is when I had a scratch

perfect example is when I had a scratch

perfect example is when I had a scratch in my ear maybe a week ago I went to the

in my ear maybe a week ago I went to the

in my ear maybe a week ago I went to the doctor and while I was sitting at the

doctor and while I was sitting at the

doctor and while I was sitting at the doctor's office and this is in Japan

doctor's office and this is in Japan

doctor's office and this is in Japan here near my home and the doctor was

here near my home and the doctor was

here near my home and the doctor was speaking with me and I had no problem

speaking with me and I had no problem

speaking with me and I had no problem with the conversation at all I felt very

with the conversation at all I felt very

with the conversation at all I felt very comfortable and was you know even some

comfortable and was you know even some

comfortable and was you know even some of the more technical words he was using

of the more technical words he was using

of the more technical words he was using I understood everything and I had a

I understood everything and I had a

I understood everything and I had a great conversation and my ear was just

great conversation and my ear was just

great conversation and my ear was just fine

fine

fine he looked at my ear and gave me some

he looked at my ear and gave me some

he looked at my ear and gave me some medicine and that was in but when I

medicine and that was in but when I

medicine and that was in but when I finished with that I walked back to the

finished with that I walked back to the

finished with that I walked back to the the reception desk so I had to check out

the reception desk so I had to check out

the reception desk so I had to check out after I was done with my appointment and

after I was done with my appointment and

after I was done with my appointment and pay for the service and my mind like I

pay for the service and my mind like I

pay for the service and my mind like I was standing there talking and listening

was standing there talking and listening

was standing there talking and listening but my mind was not actually there so I

but my mind was not actually there so I

but my mind was not actually there so I was I don't know maybe I began thinking

was I don't know maybe I began thinking

was I don't know maybe I began thinking about something else again this happens

about something else again this happens

about something else again this happens to everybody but it happens to me a lot

to everybody but it happens to me a lot

to everybody but it happens to me a lot so it's something I really have to focus

so it's something I really have to focus

so it's something I really have to focus on when I'm listening to someone or

on when I'm listening to someone or

on when I'm listening to someone or really trying to give a lot of attention

really trying to give a lot of attention

really trying to give a lot of attention to the person I'm speaking with so in

to the person I'm speaking with so in

to the person I'm speaking with so in that situation I was thinking about I

that situation I was thinking about I

that situation I was thinking about I don't really remember what it was but at

don't really remember what it was but at

don't really remember what it was but at the end I asked them oh where can I

the end I asked them oh where can I

the end I asked them oh where can I where's a closed pharmacy and I realized

where's a closed pharmacy and I realized

where's a closed pharmacy and I realized that they had just told me that so while

that they had just told me that so while

that they had just told me that so while we were standing there talking they told

we were standing there talking they told

we were standing there talking they told me that there was a pharmacy you know

me that there was a pharmacy you know

me that there was a pharmacy you know like two doors down and so I started

like two doors down and so I started

like two doors down and so I started laughing at myself because I had

laughing at myself because I had

laughing at myself because I had listened to that and it basically seemed

listened to that and it basically seemed

listened to that and it basically seemed like I was ignoring them so it wasn't

like I was ignoring them so it wasn't

like I was ignoring them so it wasn't that I had like a real listening problem

that I had like a real listening problem

that I had like a real listening problem with the language it was just more about

with the language it was just more about

with the language it was just more about me myself and again letting my mind and

me myself and again letting my mind and

me myself and again letting my mind and my conscious mind drift away so then

my conscious mind drift away so then

my conscious mind drift away so then again this just happens to people from

again this just happens to people from

again this just happens to people from time to time and it's just something

time to time and it's just something

time to time and it's just something that you need to practice on if this is

that you need to practice on if this is

that you need to practice on if this is a problem you have so my problem again

a problem you have so my problem again

a problem you have so my problem again thinking about that as a native speaker

thinking about that as a native speaker

thinking about that as a native speaker speaking English I'm not nervous when

speaking English I'm not nervous when

speaking English I'm not nervous when I'm speaking with people and I have no

I'm speaking with people and I have no

I'm speaking with people and I have no problem understanding other English

problem understanding other English

problem understanding other English speakers so my listening problem is

speakers so my listening problem is

speakers so my listening problem is again being passively distracted so I'm

again being passively distracted so I'm

again being passively distracted so I'm listening to people but I'm not paying

listening to people but I'm not paying

listening to people but I'm not paying attention and so other people will say

attention and so other people will say

attention and so other people will say oh what did I say or something and I'll

oh what did I say or something and I'll

oh what did I say or something and I'll you know get low scores on tests because

you know get low scores on tests because

you know get low scores on tests because I can't focus so it's really more about

I can't focus so it's really more about

I can't focus so it's really more about a problem of focusing on the now and

a problem of focusing on the now and

a problem of focusing on the now and remembering where you are to improve

remembering where you are to improve

remembering where you are to improve your listening that way so I just

your listening that way so I just

your listening that way so I just thought that was a really interesting

thought that was a really interesting

thought that was a really interesting example of that and I went out and went

example of that and I went out and went

example of that and I went out and went to the pharmacy there was two doors down

to the pharmacy there was two doors down

to the pharmacy there was two doors down and and again I apologize to those

and and again I apologize to those

and and again I apologize to those ladies but I had a great conversation

ladies but I had a great conversation

ladies but I had a great conversation with the pharmacist in Japanese also she

with the pharmacist in Japanese also she

with the pharmacist in Japanese also she was asking me

was asking me

was asking me about where I was from and I was talking

about where I was from and I was talking

about where I was from and I was talking with her about you know why she was in

with her about you know why she was in

with her about you know why she was in that business and just interesting

that business and just interesting

that business and just interesting things like that but I remember being

things like that but I remember being

things like that but I remember being focused in that conversation because I

focused in that conversation because I

focused in that conversation because I felt bad about not being focused in the

felt bad about not being focused in the

felt bad about not being focused in the conversation with the with the two

conversation with the with the two

conversation with the with the two ladies at the reception desk anyway so

ladies at the reception desk anyway so

ladies at the reception desk anyway so thinking about these listening problems

thinking about these listening problems

thinking about these listening problems just to go a little bit deeper into

just to go a little bit deeper into

just to go a little bit deeper into helping you improve your listening again

helping you improve your listening again

helping you improve your listening again the first thing is to just practice

the first thing is to just practice

the first thing is to just practice being mindful of your surroundings and

being mindful of your surroundings and

being mindful of your surroundings and again if that's a problem for you like

again if that's a problem for you like

again if that's a problem for you like it's a problem for me again everybody

it's a problem for me again everybody

it's a problem for me again everybody struggles with that to some degree so

struggles with that to some degree so

struggles with that to some degree so some people maybe are very good at

some people maybe are very good at

some people maybe are very good at focusing other people like me their mind

focusing other people like me their mind

focusing other people like me their mind can drift off very easily and you'll

can drift off very easily and you'll

can drift off very easily and you'll find you're thinking about something

find you're thinking about something

find you're thinking about something else that's not related to what you're

else that's not related to what you're

else that's not related to what you're talking about or what you're listening

talking about or what you're listening

talking about or what you're listening to so in that like the the best way to

to so in that like the the best way to

to so in that like the the best way to practice that is just to remind yourself

practice that is just to remind yourself

practice that is just to remind yourself to be a wink so if you think about your

to be a wink so if you think about your

to be a wink so if you think about your mind drifting away thinking about some

mind drifting away thinking about some

mind drifting away thinking about some other subject it's like you're being

other subject it's like you're being

other subject it's like you're being carried away like you're asleep some way

carried away like you're asleep some way

carried away like you're asleep some way so people never know that moment when

so people never know that moment when

so people never know that moment when they fall asleep it's like a process how

they fall asleep it's like a process how

they fall asleep it's like a process how you just kind of drift off to sleep so I

you just kind of drift off to sleep so I

you just kind of drift off to sleep so I think about it in the same way and ask

think about it in the same way and ask

think about it in the same way and ask myself am i awake right now so learning

myself am i awake right now so learning

myself am i awake right now so learning a little bit about meditation that

a little bit about meditation that

a little bit about meditation that seemed like a really good thing to apply

seemed like a really good thing to apply

seemed like a really good thing to apply to listening as well because for me

to listening as well because for me

to listening as well because for me meditation and this isn't even something

meditation and this isn't even something

meditation and this isn't even something I do a lot but just the idea of trying

I do a lot but just the idea of trying

I do a lot but just the idea of trying to be present so remembering this moment

to be present so remembering this moment

to be present so remembering this moment that's happening right now especially so

that's happening right now especially so

that's happening right now especially so I can show that to the other person I'm

I can show that to the other person I'm

I can show that to the other person I'm speaking with and that I'm really

speaking with and that I'm really

speaking with and that I'm really listening to them and paying attention

listening to them and paying attention

listening to them and paying attention to what they're saying so if you can

to what they're saying so if you can

to what they're saying so if you can begin with just asking am i awake and

begin with just asking am i awake and

begin with just asking am i awake and then when you're by yourself just

then when you're by yourself just

then when you're by yourself just listening to the world around you so

listening to the world around you so

listening to the world around you so right now you might have even had you

right now you might have even had you

right now you might have even had you know a thought come into your mind while

know a thought come into your mind while

know a thought come into your mind while we while you're listening to this and so

we while you're listening to this and so

we while you're listening to this and so reminding yourself come back listen and

reminding yourself come back listen and

reminding yourself come back listen and so just while you're by yourself

so just while you're by yourself

so just while you're by yourself listening to the sounds that happen

listening to the sounds that happen

listening to the sounds that happen around you it can be cars driving by or

around you it can be cars driving by or

around you it can be cars driving by or other people speaking or anything else

other people speaking or anything else

other people speaking or anything else that you might be listening to our

that you might be listening to our

that you might be listening to our brains really get lots of information

brains really get lots of information

brains really get lots of information and our brains also stop us from

and our brains also stop us from

and our brains also stop us from consciously receiving that because

consciously receiving that because

consciously receiving that because we received all the information that

we received all the information that

we received all the information that came into our our body like from our

came into our our body like from our

came into our our body like from our touch or smell or our ears or our eyes

touch or smell or our ears or our eyes

touch or smell or our ears or our eyes we would go crazy there would be just

we would go crazy there would be just

we would go crazy there would be just too much information coming to us so we

too much information coming to us so we

too much information coming to us so we have to let our minds process that

have to let our minds process that

have to let our minds process that information and just give us a small

information and just give us a small

information and just give us a small part of that but if we actively try to

part of that but if we actively try to

part of that but if we actively try to focus on right now and stay out of our

focus on right now and stay out of our

focus on right now and stay out of our own heads it makes it easier to

own heads it makes it easier to

own heads it makes it easier to understand that information so once you

understand that information so once you

understand that information so once you do that then you can start doing with

do that then you can start doing with

do that then you can start doing with more people in your native language so

more people in your native language so

more people in your native language so the other people you speak with and then

the other people you speak with and then

the other people you speak with and then finally you would do that practicing

finally you would do that practicing

finally you would do that practicing more with English again if that's more

more with English again if that's more

more with English again if that's more your problem the kind of every day being

your problem the kind of every day being

your problem the kind of every day being able to understand and have better

able to understand and have better

able to understand and have better conversations with people that kind of

conversations with people that kind of

conversations with people that kind of listening improvement is more about just

listening improvement is more about just

listening improvement is more about just learning the conversational speech that

learning the conversational speech that

learning the conversational speech that natives do or that natives use and then

natives do or that natives use and then

natives do or that natives use and then when you're learning with actual

when you're learning with actual

when you're learning with actual examples of conversational speech like

examples of conversational speech like

examples of conversational speech like real conversations that natives have

real conversations that natives have

real conversations that natives have that's the thing that will really

that's the thing that will really

that's the thing that will really improve your listening from the language

improve your listening from the language

improve your listening from the language skill standpoint so remember to relax

skill standpoint so remember to relax

skill standpoint so remember to relax and you know if you're also the kind of

and you know if you're also the kind of

and you know if you're also the kind of person maybe that third problem where

person maybe that third problem where

person maybe that third problem where you're actively distracting yourself

you're actively distracting yourself

you're actively distracting yourself really just remember to relax when

really just remember to relax when

really just remember to relax when you're in a conversation and kind of

you're in a conversation and kind of

you're in a conversation and kind of forgive you know try to forgive yourself

forgive you know try to forgive yourself

forgive you know try to forgive yourself that you don't need to be knowing

that you don't need to be knowing

that you don't need to be knowing everything or that you you don't have to

everything or that you you don't have to

everything or that you you don't have to know every word really just give the

know every word really just give the

know every word really just give the other person you're speaking with the

other person you're speaking with the

other person you're speaking with the greatest gift you can give them which is

greatest gift you can give them which is

greatest gift you can give them which is your focus so it doesn't matter if

your focus so it doesn't matter if

your focus so it doesn't matter if you're worried about your pronunciation

you're worried about your pronunciation

you're worried about your pronunciation or all these other things if you don't

or all these other things if you don't

or all these other things if you don't first understand what you're listening

first understand what you're listening

first understand what you're listening to so that's really important and so

to so that's really important and so

to so that's really important and so just focus on that so be focused on the

just focus on that so be focused on the

just focus on that so be focused on the moment right now when you're in a

moment right now when you're in a

moment right now when you're in a conversation with someone and just

conversation with someone and just

conversation with someone and just really listen to them and even after

really listen to them and even after

really listen to them and even after you've finished listening or you know

you've finished listening or you know

you've finished listening or you know whatever they're speaking something and

whatever they're speaking something and

whatever they're speaking something and you're thinking about what you want to

you're thinking about what you want to

you're thinking about what you want to say if you don't you know know a word or

say if you don't you know know a word or

say if you don't you know know a word or you didn't understand everything it's

you didn't understand everything it's

you didn't understand everything it's okay to ask that person oh what do you

okay to ask that person oh what do you

okay to ask that person oh what do you mean by that I do that all the time in

mean by that I do that all the time in

mean by that I do that all the time in Japanese and that's how I learn so I

Japanese and that's how I learn so I

Japanese and that's how I learn so I learn the same way a child does you know

learn the same way a child does you know

learn the same way a child does you know my daughter aria asks me questions about

my daughter aria asks me questions about

my daughter aria asks me questions about things what does this word mean and why

things what does this word mean and why

things what does this word mean and why do we say that so she asks me things

do we say that so she asks me things

do we say that so she asks me things like that and

like that and

like that and she improves well that's it for this

she improves well that's it for this

she improves well that's it for this video I hope you have enjoyed it I

video I hope you have enjoyed it I

video I hope you have enjoyed it I really just wanted to you know as I was

really just wanted to you know as I was

really just wanted to you know as I was thinking about that experience in the

thinking about that experience in the

thinking about that experience in the pharmacy I wanted to share that with you

pharmacy I wanted to share that with you

pharmacy I wanted to share that with you just because I know it's a common

just because I know it's a common

just because I know it's a common problem for myself but also for a lot of

problem for myself but also for a lot of

problem for myself but also for a lot of other people it really is a very

other people it really is a very

other people it really is a very difficult thing and that's why even

difficult thing and that's why even

difficult thing and that's why even people who practice meditation and who

people who practice meditation and who

people who practice meditation and who are very serious about it who are very

are very serious about it who are very

are very serious about it who are very mindful a lot of the time everyone's

mindful a lot of the time everyone's

mindful a lot of the time everyone's mind drifts off like that

mind drifts off like that

mind drifts off like that so whether your problem is that your

so whether your problem is that your

so whether your problem is that your mind drifts off or that you're actively

mind drifts off or that you're actively

mind drifts off or that you're actively talking to yourself and saying like oh

talking to yourself and saying like oh

talking to yourself and saying like oh no I'm worried about this remember to

no I'm worried about this remember to

no I'm worried about this remember to just relax really focus on the moment

just relax really focus on the moment

just relax really focus on the moment and continue to improve your your

and continue to improve your your

and continue to improve your your listening skills with the actual real

listening skills with the actual real

listening skills with the actual real language that native speakers use in

language that native speakers use in

language that native speakers use in conversations I hope that's been helpful

conversations I hope that's been helpful

conversations I hope that's been helpful and if you'd like to learn more about

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