Where Confidence Really Comes From - Advanced English Listening Practice - 68

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description to do that well the lesson that was such an

lesson that was such an

lesson that was such an important thing such an

important thing such an

important thing such an interesting lesson that I wanted

interesting lesson that I wanted

interesting lesson that I wanted to share with people this was a

to share with people this was a

to share with people this was a story about confidence and it

story about confidence and it

story about confidence and it was a story about how to think

was a story about how to think

was a story about how to think about confidence in a different

about confidence in a different

about confidence in a different way and I thought it was such an

way and I thought it was such an

way and I thought it was such an important thing again that I

important thing again that I

important thing again that I wanted you to hear that

wanted you to hear that

wanted you to hear that information to well this was a

information to well this was a

information to well this was a story it was maybe a few years

story it was maybe a few years

story it was maybe a few years ago so i was living in a

ago so i was living in a

ago so i was living in a different part of Japan kill to

different part of Japan kill to

different part of Japan kill to Japan at that time and i was out

Japan at that time and i was out

Japan at that time and i was out traveling it was like my wife

traveling it was like my wife

traveling it was like my wife and I and there was another

and I and there was another

and I and there was another couple and we went to the mall

couple and we went to the mall

couple and we went to the mall together and we were just

together and we were just

together and we were just standing looking at stuff you

standing looking at stuff you

standing looking at stuff you know it is spending a day

know it is spending a day

know it is spending a day together at the mall just doing

together at the mall just doing

together at the mall just doing something not in anything in

something not in anything in

something not in anything in particular we just had some time

particular we just had some time

particular we just had some time to kill so this is a great

to kill so this is a great

to kill so this is a great phrase where you don't really

phrase where you don't really

phrase where you don't really have anything in particular to

have anything in particular to

have anything in particular to do so you're kind of wasting

do so you're kind of wasting

do so you're kind of wasting time this is to have time to

time this is to have time to

time this is to have time to kill time to kill anyway so we

kill time to kill anyway so we

kill time to kill anyway so we were in the mall but when we got

were in the mall but when we got

were in the mall but when we got there we had to park and this

there we had to park and this

there we had to park and this parking lot was kind of tricky

parking lot was kind of tricky

parking lot was kind of tricky it was a really old parking lot

it was a really old parking lot

it was a really old parking lot and it was almost like a maze so

and it was almost like a maze so

and it was almost like a maze so you didn't really know where

you didn't really know where

you didn't really know where your car was things weren't

your car was things weren't

your car was things weren't clearly labeled and the levels

clearly labeled and the levels

clearly labeled and the levels weren't exactly lined up

weren't exactly lined up

weren't exactly lined up properly it was a really weird

properly it was a really weird

properly it was a really weird parking lot and so all of us we

parking lot and so all of us we

parking lot and so all of us we got out of the car and walked

got out of the car and walked

got out of the car and walked into the mall but none of us

into the mall but none of us

into the mall but none of us remembered where the car was so

remembered where the car was so

remembered where the car was so when we had to go back to the

when we had to go back to the

when we had to go back to the car we had to walk and we were

car we had to walk and we were

car we had to walk and we were looking and trying to figure out

looking and trying to figure out

looking and trying to figure out where the car was but nobody

where the car was but nobody

where the car was but nobody knew exactly where was so before

knew exactly where was so before

knew exactly where was so before we were going to leave the mall

we were going to leave the mall

we were going to leave the mall and go back into the parking lot

and go back into the parking lot

and go back into the parking lot we were standing in front of the

we were standing in front of the

we were standing in front of the door to the parking lot there's

door to the parking lot there's

door to the parking lot there's like a couple of different doors

like a couple of different doors

like a couple of different doors or elevators we didn't even

or elevators we didn't even

or elevators we didn't even remember what floor we were

remember what floor we were

remember what floor we were on and we were just standing

on and we were just standing

on and we were just standing there for about a minute trying

there for about a minute trying

there for about a minute trying to remember hey do you remember

to remember hey do you remember

to remember hey do you remember where we went or trying to

where we went or trying to

where we went or trying to remember something and then I

remember something and then I

remember something and then I just said I think it's this way

just said I think it's this way

just said I think it's this way let's go and then I just started

let's go and then I just started

let's go and then I just started walking I just picked the door

walking I just picked the door

walking I just picked the door and started walking into it and

and started walking into it and

and started walking into it and then I decided okay we're gonna

then I decided okay we're gonna

then I decided okay we're gonna walk this way and then everybody

walk this way and then everybody

walk this way and then everybody followed me now it was just a

followed me now it was just a

followed me now it was just a weird thing I was like okay I

weird thing I was like okay I

weird thing I was like okay I like it this way i was tired of

like it this way i was tired of

like it this way i was tired of talking about it we're not going

talking about it we're not going

talking about it we're not going to figure out anything just

to figure out anything just

to figure out anything just sitting here discussing the idea

sitting here discussing the idea

sitting here discussing the idea so we might as well get movie so

so we might as well get movie so

so we might as well get movie so I thought okay let's just start

I thought okay let's just start

I thought okay let's just start moving and I walk into that door

moving and I walk into that door

moving and I walk into that door and I start looking around that

and I start looking around that

and I start looking around that level but there was no car so he

level but there was no car so he

level but there was no car so he couldn't find the car and I said

couldn't find the car and I said

couldn't find the car and I said okay we're kind of stuck again

okay we're kind of stuck again

okay we're kind of stuck again we're standing around and I said

we're standing around and I said

we're standing around and I said wait I think it's this way and I

wait I think it's this way and I

wait I think it's this way and I just said that like without you

just said that like without you

just said that like without you know with a straight face

know with a straight face

know with a straight face so this idea of saying something

so this idea of saying something

so this idea of saying something with a straight face just means

with a straight face just means

with a straight face just means like this like like I'm not

like this like like I'm not

like this like like I'm not smiling I'm not laughing i'm not

smiling I'm not laughing i'm not

smiling I'm not laughing i'm not joking i'm saying it with a

joking i'm saying it with a

joking i'm saying it with a straight face so i was very

straight face so i was very

straight face so i was very serious i said i think it's this

serious i said i think it's this

serious i said i think it's this way so I walked to another

way so I walked to another

way so I walked to another section of the parking lot and

section of the parking lot and

section of the parking lot and it's still still the car we were

it's still still the car we were

it's still still the car we were looking for was not there

looking for was not there

looking for was not there so again I have failed for the

so again I have failed for the

so again I have failed for the second time to lead us to the

second time to lead us to the

second time to lead us to the car but then for a third time I

car but then for a third time I

car but then for a third time I said wait I think it's this way

said wait I think it's this way

said wait I think it's this way sighs still was trying to take

sighs still was trying to take

sighs still was trying to take us in a different direction and

us in a different direction and

us in a different direction and I didn't know exactly where the

I didn't know exactly where the

I didn't know exactly where the car was but luckily for me

car was but luckily for me

car was but luckily for me anyway we found the car on the

anyway we found the car on the

anyway we found the car on the third tribe now we're walking

third tribe now we're walking

third tribe now we're walking around the parking lot we

around the parking lot we

around the parking lot we finally found the car and people

finally found the car and people

finally found the car and people were very happy they're

were very happy they're

were very happy they're impressed that i was able to

impressed that i was able to

impressed that i was able to find the car but really I was

find the car but really I was

find the car but really I was just testing a bunch of

just testing a bunch of

just testing a bunch of different options trying to

different options trying to

different options trying to figure out what was there and

figure out what was there and

figure out what was there and when I was riding back so my

when I was riding back so my

when I was riding back so my friend and I mine are two wives

friend and I mine are two wives

friend and I mine are two wives you know we're sitting in the

you know we're sitting in the

you know we're sitting in the car so I was in the front seat

car so I was in the front seat

car so I was in the front seat the passenger seat and I was

the passenger seat and I was

the passenger seat and I was talking with him and he was

talking with him and he was

talking with him and he was amazing he was saying wow I

amazing he was saying wow I

amazing he was saying wow I can't believe you were so

can't believe you were so

can't believe you were so confident about knowing where

confident about knowing where

confident about knowing where the car was even though you know

the car was even though you know

the car was even though you know you would like maybe not known

you would like maybe not known

you would like maybe not known where it was and I honestly said

where it was and I honestly said

where it was and I honestly said I didn't really know but i

I didn't really know but i

I didn't really know but i thought you know like if we're

thought you know like if we're

thought you know like if we're gonna go like I actually thought

gonna go like I actually thought

gonna go like I actually thought it was over here and so I had

it was over here and so I had

it was over here and so I had confidence about that but I kind

confidence about that but I kind

confidence about that but I kind of thought about this process

of thought about this process

of thought about this process for a while and again this

for a while and again this

for a while and again this happened a few years ago but I

happened a few years ago but I

happened a few years ago but I was a few days ago I was going

was a few days ago I was going

was a few days ago I was going out on a video shoot and i

out on a video shoot and i

out on a video shoot and i thought when i was driving i was

thought when i was driving i was

thought when i was driving i was so I was riding in a bus to go

so I was riding in a bus to go

so I was riding in a bus to go to a different section of Japan

to a different section of Japan

to a different section of Japan as well and we pulled into the

as well and we pulled into the

as well and we pulled into the bus parking lot and there were

bus parking lot and there were

bus parking lot and there were lots of buses and this was just

lots of buses and this was just

lots of buses and this was just parking lot that reminded me of

parking lot that reminded me of

parking lot that reminded me of that story but I thought it was

that story but I thought it was

that story but I thought it was such an interesting thing

such an interesting thing

such an interesting thing because at the time the friend

because at the time the friend

because at the time the friend of mine was impressed by my

of mine was impressed by my

of mine was impressed by my boldness and my confidence but

boldness and my confidence but

boldness and my confidence but really i was thinking like okay

really i was thinking like okay

really i was thinking like okay I just want to figure out where

I just want to figure out where

I just want to figure out where it is where the car is and we're

it is where the car is and we're

it is where the car is and we're really not going to do anything

really not going to do anything

really not going to do anything just standing around talking

just standing around talking

just standing around talking we've got to move somewhere so

we've got to move somewhere so

we've got to move somewhere so even if we don't know where

even if we don't know where

even if we don't know where exactly to go we should begin

exactly to go we should begin

exactly to go we should begin moving such that we can by

moving such that we can by

moving such that we can by process of elimination and this

process of elimination and this

process of elimination and this is another great English

is another great English

is another great English expression by process of

expression by process of

expression by process of elimination so you eliminate the

elimination so you eliminate the

elimination so you eliminate the things that are not correct so

things that are not correct so

things that are not correct so that hopefully you find the one

that hopefully you find the one

that hopefully you find the one that is correct in the case of

that is correct in the case of

that is correct in the case of the parking lot maybe it's not

the parking lot maybe it's not

the parking lot maybe it's not floors one two and three but

floors one two and three but

floors one two and three but because you eliminated those

because you eliminated those

because you eliminated those floor for is where your car

floor for is where your car

floor for is where your car probably is that kind of thing

probably is that kind of thing

probably is that kind of thing so that's by process of

so that's by process of

so that's by process of elimination doing something by

elimination doing something by

elimination doing something by process of elimination but i

process of elimination but i

process of elimination but i assumed when I was thinking

assumed when I was thinking

assumed when I was thinking about it like i just said yeah

about it like i just said yeah

about it like i just said yeah just really thought the car was

just really thought the car was

just really thought the car was over here maybe I remembered

over here maybe I remembered

over here maybe I remembered something or I was trying to

something or I was trying to

something or I was trying to explain why i thought it

explain why i thought it

explain why i thought it happened but kind of years later

happened but kind of years later

happened but kind of years later and even thinking about it when

and even thinking about it when

and even thinking about it when I was pulling into that bus stop

I was pulling into that bus stop

I was pulling into that bus stop and the reason i was so excited

and the reason i was so excited

and the reason i was so excited to share this with newsletter

to share this with newsletter

to share this with newsletter subscribers and do you hear on

subscribers and do you hear on

subscribers and do you hear on youtube is that the process of

youtube is that the process of

youtube is that the process of confidence

confidence

confidence it really had nothing to do with

it really had nothing to do with

it really had nothing to do with trying to make a correct choice

trying to make a correct choice

trying to make a correct choice the process of confidence or the

the process of confidence or the

the process of confidence or the reason I was confident to make a

reason I was confident to make a

reason I was confident to make a decision even if it might have

decision even if it might have

decision even if it might have been incorrect and the same

been incorrect and the same

been incorrect and the same thing I do now even if I make a

thing I do now even if I make a

thing I do now even if I make a decision now that might not be

decision now that might not be

decision now that might not be correct

correct

correct the reason I have confidence

the reason I have confidence

the reason I have confidence about what I'm doing is because

about what I'm doing is because

about what I'm doing is because i can understand the process

i can understand the process

i can understand the process itself and know that the process

itself and know that the process

itself and know that the process is what's going to get me

is what's going to get me

is what's going to get me eventually to my goal so i might

eventually to my goal so i might

eventually to my goal so i might be wrong the first or the second

be wrong the first or the second

be wrong the first or the second or even third or even like many

or even third or even like many

or even third or even like many other times but if I continue to

other times but if I continue to

other times but if I continue to do it i believe in the process

do it i believe in the process

do it i believe in the process itself and i have confidence in

itself and i have confidence in

itself and i have confidence in the process rather than

the process rather than

the process rather than individual decision so when you

individual decision so when you

individual decision so when you ask people or you try to try to

ask people or you try to try to

ask people or you try to try to explain to people how to develop

explain to people how to develop

explain to people how to develop confidence

confidence

confidence one of the things i explain to

one of the things i explain to

one of the things i explain to people and after I understood

people and after I understood

people and after I understood this idea i started sharing this

this idea i started sharing this

this idea i started sharing this with more people and people

with more people and people

with more people and people really understood the idea that

really understood the idea that

really understood the idea that like oh you can be confident in

like oh you can be confident in

like oh you can be confident in general and then you can have

general and then you can have

general and then you can have the ability to make bold

the ability to make bold

the ability to make bold decisions or difficult decisions

decisions or difficult decisions

decisions or difficult decisions but but

but you might fail them knowing that

you might fail them knowing that

you might fail them knowing that the process itself is going to

the process itself is going to

the process itself is going to get you where you want to go in

get you where you want to go in

get you where you want to go in the end so the only reason that

the end so the only reason that

the end so the only reason that you would lose confidence is if

you would lose confidence is if

you would lose confidence is if you just decided to quit in the

you just decided to quit in the

you just decided to quit in the middle of the process now I

middle of the process now I

middle of the process now I would have lost all my

would have lost all my

would have lost all my confidence if after the second

confidence if after the second

confidence if after the second time I failed to find the card

time I failed to find the card

time I failed to find the card said well well I guess I'm just

said well well I guess I'm just

said well well I guess I'm just stupid i don't know where the

stupid i don't know where the

stupid i don't know where the car is but because if I continue

car is but because if I continue

car is but because if I continue to keep moving people around no

to keep moving people around no

to keep moving people around no it's this way

it's this way

it's this way no it's this way and hopefully

no it's this way and hopefully

no it's this way and hopefully we figure out some kind of thing

we figure out some kind of thing

we figure out some kind of thing at the end if we find the car

at the end if we find the car

at the end if we find the car then i win and that's kind of

then i win and that's kind of

then i win and that's kind of even though it's showing that me

even though it's showing that me

even though it's showing that me I'm I've made a mistake or I've

I'm I've made a mistake or I've

I'm I've made a mistake or I've made some made some errors along

made some made some errors along

made some made some errors along the way in the end I reach the

the way in the end I reach the

the way in the end I reach the car and so that's the thing i'd

car and so that's the thing i'd

car and so that's the thing i'd like to share with you today

like to share with you today

like to share with you today when you're thinking about

when you're thinking about

when you're thinking about getting fluent and being able to

getting fluent and being able to

getting fluent and being able to just have more confident

just have more confident

just have more confident conversations it's not about

conversations it's not about

conversations it's not about being able to use a particular

being able to use a particular

being able to use a particular word correctly at that time

word correctly at that time

word correctly at that time although that's a great thing if

although that's a great thing if

although that's a great thing if you can do it really the

you can do it really the

you can do it really the important thing is to understand

important thing is to understand

important thing is to understand the process of using a couple

the process of using a couple

the process of using a couple different things even now if i

different things even now if i

different things even now if i want to explain something in

want to explain something in

want to explain something in Japanese I may not know exactly

Japanese I may not know exactly

Japanese I may not know exactly how to say it right the way I

how to say it right the way I

how to say it right the way I want to say it or I may even

want to say it or I may even

want to say it or I may even have the same problem in English

have the same problem in English

have the same problem in English maybe there's a word I'm

maybe there's a word I'm

maybe there's a word I'm thinking of I can't quite I

thinking of I can't quite I

thinking of I can't quite I can't quite remember a

can't quite remember a

can't quite remember a particular word I want to use in

particular word I want to use in

particular word I want to use in a situation and it's more

a situation and it's more

a situation and it's more important for me to just think

important for me to just think

important for me to just think like okay I'm trying to express

like okay I'm trying to express

like okay I'm trying to express an idea and i will continue

an idea and i will continue

an idea and i will continue pushing it that thing i will

pushing it that thing i will

pushing it that thing i will continue trying until I get to

continue trying until I get to

continue trying until I get to the actual solution i want now

the actual solution i want now

the actual solution i want now that could be me using some

that could be me using some

that could be me using some language that i know some words

language that i know some words

language that i know some words or expressions or I could be

or expressions or I could be

or expressions or I could be trying to express something and

trying to express something and

trying to express something and then somebody else maybe finish

then somebody else maybe finish

then somebody else maybe finish my sentence or they helped me

my sentence or they helped me

my sentence or they helped me you know complete whatever it is

you know complete whatever it is

you know complete whatever it is I want to say by giving me a

I want to say by giving me a

I want to say by giving me a particular word or phrase so

particular word or phrase so

particular word or phrase so often even in your native

often even in your native

often even in your native language you know this maybe

language you know this maybe

language you know this maybe you're having a conversation

you're having a conversation

you're having a conversation with someone you're trying to

with someone you're trying to

with someone you're trying to think of a word and then the

think of a word and then the

think of a word and then the other person says it is AI yes

other person says it is AI yes

other person says it is AI yes that's the word I was thinking

that's the word I was thinking

that's the word I was thinking out so it's no different from

out so it's no different from

out so it's no different from your native language or when

your native language or when

your native language or when speaking in English but the

speaking in English but the

speaking in English but the point is to respect the process

point is to respect the process

point is to respect the process itself and the confidence is a

itself and the confidence is a

itself and the confidence is a process of continuing to try

process of continuing to try

process of continuing to try different things and that you

different things and that you

different things and that you should be confident in the

should be confident in the

should be confident in the process rather than trying to be

process rather than trying to be

process rather than trying to be confident in just using a

confident in just using a

confident in just using a particular work but if you are

particular work but if you are

particular work but if you are confident about the process

confident about the process

confident about the process itself that's going to help you

itself that's going to help you

itself that's going to help you really become more common

really become more common

really become more common what about using particular word

what about using particular word

what about using particular word so it's kind of a backwards way

so it's kind of a backwards way

so it's kind of a backwards way of thinking about confidence but

of thinking about confidence but

of thinking about confidence but it's a really important idea and

it's a really important idea and

it's a really important idea and i hope you begin thinking that

i hope you begin thinking that

i hope you begin thinking that way because really it's a

way because really it's a

way because really it's a fantastic way to build up the

fantastic way to build up the

fantastic way to build up the confidence whether you're trying

confidence whether you're trying

confidence whether you're trying to speak a second language or

to speak a second language or

to speak a second language or you want to find your car in a

you want to find your car in a

you want to find your car in a crazy parking lot or anything

crazy parking lot or anything

crazy parking lot or anything else

else

else well that's the end of this

well that's the end of this

well that's the end of this lesson I hope you have enjoyed

lesson I hope you have enjoyed

lesson I hope you have enjoyed it take confidence knowing that

it take confidence knowing that

it take confidence knowing that the system does work the only

the system does work the only

the system does work the only time again it doesn't work is if

time again it doesn't work is if

time again it doesn't work is if you choose to quit and if you

you choose to quit and if you

you choose to quit and if you don't quit you just keep

don't quit you just keep

don't quit you just keep continuing you'll figure out

continuing you'll figure out

continuing you'll figure out some way to do it eventually you

some way to do it eventually you

some way to do it eventually you will reach the place you want to

will reach the place you want to

will reach the place you want to go whether that's being able to

go whether that's being able to

go whether that's being able to express something the way you

express something the way you

express something the way you want to express it or to arrive

want to express it or to arrive

want to express it or to arrive at a particular destination

at a particular destination

at a particular destination well that's it for this lesson

well that's it for this lesson

well that's it for this lesson if you have enjoyed it to click

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