Learn Relationship Words & Phrases / English Addict 46 / Sunday 1st March 2020 / with Mr Duncan

here we go again oh my goodness look at the view outside can I just say that

I'm falling in love with today I am really really feeling very happy today

because the view outside isn't too bad welcome to another super duper

livestream yes it is English addict live from the birthplace

of the English language which just happens to be England

it's starting to look like spring time outside my window and I hope where you

are as well hi everybody this is mr. Duncan in England how are you today are

you okay I hope so are you feeling happy well are

you happy I hope so here we are again welcome to another English addict I am

here three times a week you can catch me live on YouTube Sunday Wednesday Friday

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are more than welcome to do so as well if you like this come on and click the

like button you know you want to thank you very much for joining me today I'm

really pleased to see you here because today is a special day today it's the

first of March and of course on the first of every day there is a very

strange tradition on the first day of every month do you know what it is well

quite often people will say something very unusual they will say white rabbits

white rabbits or just white rabbits why I don't know why they do it maybe there

is some information that I can show you that will explain why we do this well oh

look at that there it is as if by magic so why do we say white rabbits white

rabbits on the 1st of every month well apparently a reference to white

rabbits white rabbits is found in the notes and queries book which is a

British periodical where experts share knowledge on folklore literature and

history and this particular article was published in 1909 and apparently the

entry read my two daughters are in the habit of

saying rabbits on the first day of each month the word must be spoken aloud and

the first word said in the month so when you wake up in the morning it has to be

the first thing you say you have to wake up open your eyes and say white rabbits

white rabbits apparently some people believe that it brings look for that

month and other children I find use the same formula so there I

am quoting from that thing that was published way back in 1909 so that is

the reason why we say white rabbits white rabbits on the first of every

month apparently it is supposed to bring good look well I hope you are having

good look today because it's still the weekend don't worry we haven't left the

weekend yet it's the 1st of March the first day of a new month it also feels

very much like spring is in the air and not only that it's Sunday

you do oh yes the weekend is still here don't worry it is still the weekend for

those who are worried that the weekend has already gone don't worry everything

is all right you can relax it is still the weekend

however it is the first of March and well I always think at this time of year

my thoughts and my mind wanders it goes off into a very special place and that

special place is springtime

what is it about the season of spring that makes me want to dance and sing is

it the color bursting out with glee or the first buzz buzz of the bumble bee

the daffodils waving their colors as they sway what a joy to be out on a

springtime day the nights become shorter and the day's grow long the birds begin

calling their mating song spring is to me a time to give birth a time to

replenish the air and the earth so taking a deep breath and I'm sure you'll

agree that spring is a glorious season to see

I really couldn't resist showing that

hmm it now feels as if spring is in the air as soon as March arrives when March

comes I always feel that spring is very close by I always think that it's not

far away because normally during March everything starts to look nice we have

the daffodils outside and the view at the moment is rather nice as well it's

sunny even though this morning we had a little bit of snow and rain and at the

moment we have a lot of wind as well so lots of things going on weather-wise

however at the moment outside it is rather nice at the moment windy cold but

at least the sun is shining so we can be thankful for that and also in the

distance as you saw at the very beginning of today's livestream Oh can

you see the blossom on the trees there is some cherry blossom and also in the

distance you can see lots of sheep grazing in the fields yes a lot of

people ask mr. Duncan where do you live we want to know where you live I live in

the countryside in a in a beautiful place called Much Wenlock in Shropshire

however at the moment it is very wet and soggy around here because we've had so

much rain in fact certain parts of the area in which I live are under water at

the moment they've been flooded and even the national news here in the UK have

been talking about some of the serious flooding that has taken place in this

area we are talking about relations today and relationships so the way in

which people interact there are many different ways in which people can join

together can communicate some people get together on a regular basis some people

create a very strong bond with each other so there are

many ways of describing relationships there are many different types of

relationship when you think about it so there are many types of relationship

talking which yesterday I went to see my mother thank you very much to those who

have sent kind wishes my mother is not too well at the moment she is being

cared for she was in hospital a few weeks ago but now she's out of hospital

but she is being cared for at a care home however before anyone says mr.

Duncan how could you put your mother into a care home she is there on a

temporary basis hopefully within the next few days she will be going back

home however she will need some extra care and attention now my mother next

year next year my mother will be 80 so she's not a young lady she is getting on

slightly so she needs she needs a little bit more care and attention so for those

asking about my mum I went to see her yesterday she is doing well thank you

very much we had a lovely chat in fact I was with her for ages I didn't get back

home until late last night so I was with my mum yesterday and I had to sit there

and watch my mum eating so my mum had all this lovely food to eat including

custard one of my favourite meals I love custard very much however my mum

also had bananas in her custard and as you know I don't like bananas so I sat

with my mum last night we had a lovely conversation she is looking and feeling

much better so I was really pleased to see her and she was very pleased to see

me as well but then again you can't blame her really thank you very much for

joining me today we should mention the live chat I

haven't mentioned you yet don't worry I haven't forgotten about you

to the live chat hello Chris Chris Morales hello to you a big hi and guess

what you are first on today's live chat

I'm just wondering now if there are any people out there who have clicked on

this because they have they have nothing better to do on a Sunday and they're

thinking what the hell is this who the hell is this guy I have no idea who it

is well my name is mr. Duncan and I teach English on YouTube and I've been

doing this since well since YouTube was just a little baby so I've been doing

this for almost 14 years and of course this year YouTube is 15 so I've been on

YouTube for almost as long as YouTube has existed can you believe it Thank You

Chris you are first on the live chat hello Martha

in Poland how are you today nice to see you here V tests in Lithuania also

huafei Jimmy hello to Jimmy in Hong Kong hello Olga Luis Luis Mendez I I have

noticed in the news that in France they have restricted the number of people

that can gather in a public place because of you know what yes so this is

some news that I picked up this morning when I was flicking through the internet

I noticed in France they have now restricted the number of people that can

gather together in a public place I think it's 50 so no more than 50 people

which is very interesting as of course there is a lot of public anger at the

moment in France as well hello Olga hello Cecilia Kristina rhs also Julie G

Julie nice to see you here it feels as if I haven't seen you for a long time or

is that amar is that my imagination running away

Hanne cry hello Hank Rai nice to see you here today

also grace chin Connell Wow so many people are here already it's nice to see

that you've decided to drop by isn't it lovely when someone drops by they come

round to see you they make a sudden appearance they

suddenly appear in the your door or at your window it's nice when someone drops

by or maybe they drop in to say hello someone will drop in I like it

I like it very much also we have we have Maria Oh Maria I'm saying hello to Maria

hello Maria nice to see you here today v VN hello vvn I don't recognise your

name is it your first time maybe you are watching very far away from where I am

so I'm in England but where are you knew when hyung says hi mr. Duncan I know

where you are I think you're watching in Vietnam hello Vietnam and hello to

everyone watching at the moment there Hiroko also Wong knew win also rose sir

Isabella so many people are here already we have a lot of things to talk about

today we also have back he is back today and around about eight minutes we will

have the one the only the irreplaceable the unique mr. Steve will be with us so

last week we had fake mr. Steve last week we had fake mr. Steve however this

week we have the real mr. Steve coming up in a few moments also we have

relaxing videos I think I can't speak English fluently well if you

are learning something you can't be good at it straight away it takes a long time

so learning anything takes time if you are learning English or maybe you are

learning to play a musical instrument or perhaps you are learning to drive a car

so anything you are learning always takes time so at the beginning or whilst

you are learning you might feel as if you are not improving however you will

be so it all takes time sometimes when you are learning something you need a

little bit of patience you also need some motivation and that's

why I'm here you see so the reason why I do this is to give you some motivation

and also it gives you a chance to listen to English being spoken live so

everything you are watching now is live it isn't recorded it is live on a Sunday

afternoon at well it's just coming up to 25 press 2 on a Sunday here in the UK

hello - blues bird hello also Belarusian hello Belarusian watching an Argentine I

am going to show a special video that Belarusian sent in a few moments and I

do appreciate anyone sending anything in if you have a question or a comment or

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hmm oh that's better I was just having a delicious drink of water I did so much

talking yesterday I was talking to my mother all afternoon yesterday for many

many many moments of time and I think I may have warned my voice out don't worry

it isn't coronavirus I am feeling completely alright for those who are

concerned about coronavirus well a lot of people are I suppose the best advice

I can give is to wash your hands on a regular basis if you've been near the

people for a long period of time you might want to wash your hands especially

if you've been in contact with other people so that is my coronavirus advice

wash your hands I suppose that's the best piece of advice I know a lot of

people have their own way of dealing with the threat of catching coronavirus

or covet 19 as many people are calling it now however I suppose washing your

hands and maybe sanitizing your hands is the best play to bit the best way of

stopping yourself from catching well anything really when you think about it

anything at all anything wash your hands after the toilet or

after you've had a little cough or a sneeze or if you've been near someone

and maybe you've shaken their hand now I'm thinking this is something that

is coming personally from me I'm not a very big fan of holding people or

shaking hands with people I don't like too much contact with strangers isn't

that strange is that a strange thing to say maybe but

I'm not a big fan of doing that so sometimes I can be a little

uncomfortable or it feels uncomfortable when I have to hug someone maybe someone

I don't know so I'm thinking we should have something new a new thing that we

can do instead of shaking hands or hugging

maybe we can we can take an example from Japan maybe we can just bow to each

other when we meet so you don't have to have contact you don't have to share any

physical contact you can just go up to someone and say oh hello mm-hmm

you can have a little bow in fact this is what we used to do here in England in

the days of chivalry and politeness gentleman would bow or they would take

their hat off when they met a lady so if they went into the street and they met a

lady they would also always take their hat off or maybe they would give the

lady a little bow so what do you think do you think we should we should stop

shaking hands when we meet someone maybe we can do something else instead

an alternative thing instead of hugging or shaking hands maybe we can just say

hi hello or maybe bow to show respect hello to covey yes large groups of

people are not aloud together now I would imagine this

is happening in many places now not only France but I would imagine it's

happening in many places here in the UK some schools not all but some schools

have actually decided to close their doors and also certain places where

people go for medical treatment have also been closed so here in the UK we

are starting to feel a little worried a little concerned but not too much I

still haven't seen anyone wearing face masks so I haven't seen any people

wearing face masks however yesterday when I was out with Steve I was carrying

this with me so this is my hand sanitizing solution so what I do is I

open the bottle I open the bottle and I put a little bit of this on my hand

there it is you can see and then and then all I will do is just put them put

the hand sanitizer onto my hands and then slowly it will dry now this

particular substance has alcohol in it and also it will sterilize your hands

however it's probably best not to use it too often because it can damage your

skin so that is what I do if I'm in a public place if I've been near other

people especially if I if I've been using door handles or if I've been very

close to other people I will quite often put some hand

sanitizer on my hands to make sure that there aren't any horrible germs just in

case I put my fingers in my mouth or in my eyes which is something I don't do

very often you'll be pleased to hear hello to the live chat yes hand wash yes

hand wash or hand sanitizer to sanitize is to make clean so maybe

something that you need to be sterilized maybe in a hospital so you sanitize

something you clean it until it is completely or almost completely clean

free of germs Tomic how could you see anyone with face

masks on when you live in the middle of nowhere says Tomic well I do go into

town I do exist in other places as well so yesterday I was out and about with

other people but I haven't seen anyone yet

with face masks however you are right because I do live in the countryside so

I suppose you might say that I'm in a very safe place because I'm very far

away from the big towns and cities however mr. Steve's job so when mr.

Steve does his work he has to go out and about and meet lots of people and that

includes places where sick people are or people who are feeling unwell so I

suppose my risk is catching something from mr. Steve because of the type of

job that he does so that's my only risk I suppose

hello Pedro Oh Pedro Belmont is here today but I have a feeling he won't be

here for long this virus is quite strange and Pedro is blaming the Chinese

can I just say a couple of things at the moment as far as people are concerned

that the virus started in China however there are some things that are being

said that aren't true for example the virus did not originate from bats they

now think it was another type of animal an animal that looks very similar to an

armadillo and it happens to be something that some Chinese people enjoy eating so

they are not saying that the corona of iris originated in bat soup I think

that's something that started on the Internet

hello Kristina I always wash my hands but my hands are turning dry this is the

problem if you wash your hands too often or if you clean your hands too many

times you might actually damage the skin Cecelia says we have now two people who

have tested positive for corona virus in Brazil sorry to hear that we had we've

had one fatality and also in the USA they've had one fatality one person

sadly has died from corona virus it is still the early stages in many countries

however I think the best advice is prevention is better than cure

talking of medical things just before mr. Steve joins us I would like to do

something very special now I had a lovely video that was sent

to me from Belarus eeeh so I'm going to play you the whole video it's around 6

minutes however in the video Belarusian is talking all about taking

care of your teeth and the different types of problems you can have with your

teeth so enjoy this just to show you how much I love hearing from you here is a

great video sent in by Belarusian and coming up next it's mr. Steve enjoy hi

there today I want to teach you a little bit of Dentistry yes I think learning is

very important

this tooth has two holes here one hole and here another this this type of who

age is very very much but this one is silent doesn't age because it is covered

with the gum look at this

this is germs and what you have eaten

this is the animal here the two have no animal this type of holes is where there

is a few animal or no animal imagine here there is another tooth the whole

will be covered by the gum and the other tooth look at this

this is an incisor a frontal tooth here is the side in contact with them with

the tongue here is the side in contact with the lips and this side and this

other side is in contact with the other teeth look how big is this side this

side is not very big but this side is very big this is a molar this side is in

contact with the cheek this side is in contact with the tongue this side is in

contact with the other molar and this side is in contact with the other molar

how big is this side and here an inferior it's the same this side is

bigger than this one then you should clean this where all the germs are doing

a hole the germs are as humans they eat and they let off all sorts of material

this material is acid that's why the calcium

in the teeth is removed so when you brush your teeth make sure you put the

brush in this position trying to remove this that is under the gum and use

dental floss when you use dental floss the flow should be under the gum

can you see it sometimes you need floss but sometimes the space between one

tooth and the other is bigger why because these germs are in contact with

the tooth and in contact with the gum and when the gum is covered with these

germs they born that is inside the gum is swollen the gum is swollen and there

and the bone doesn't it is not a how to say it's not in good health so you

should need this these brushes are very good if the space between one tooth and

the other is bigger well that's all from me for today have a nice day Tata for

now mmm thank you very much Belarus yeah for

your lovely video

thank you thank you thank you very much to Belarus ear for your very nice video

telling us all about how to take care of our teeth the one word I might want to

mention I want to mention one word ache ache so if something is aching it means

you have a constant pain that won't go away something is aching I have I have

tooth ache my tooth is aching many people have problems with their teeth

there are many different problems especially when you get older you might

find that your teeth start to become loose or maybe they spread apart

sometimes you can have large gaps between your teeth and food can get

inside and that is one of the reasons why you can get bad breath or as I said

the other day halitosis have you ever been near a person who has bad breath I

have and no I'm not talking about mr. steve-o however I am going to talk about

mr. Steve now because he is about to appear on the livestream however as we

all know Steve is a shy boy he isn't a person who is very outgoing he is a bit

of a hermit if the truth were known so I have to tempt him and today I'm going to

tempt him with some lovely cheese nibbles

look at those Oh some little cheese biscuits so that's what I'm going to use

to tempt mr. Steve into the studio however the big question is will I be

successful will I be successful in getting Steve to come in here well there

is only one way to find out and that is to do it so here we go some lovely

little cheese nibbles

there they are look some cheese nibbles some little snacks made of cheese now

I'm going to leave these here on the screen and we will see if we can

tempt mr. Steve into the studio so everyone be quiet mr. Steve is very

timid he's very easily scared away so I will

leave these here and we will see if we can get mr. Steve to come into the

studio

cheesy we've caught him again everyone we've got him the greatest spotted mr.

Steve mr. Duncan sorry don't choke mmm nice cheesy snacks here drink some water

have thank you oh please don't choke on my show oh they need a lot of saliva yes

they're very dry biscuits hello everybody they're very dry biscuits and

they need a lot of saliva yes you have you have to get a lot of fluid in your

mouth just as you need a lot to have clean teeth I've watched a Belarus's

very interesting video about the molars wasn't it good we've got plenty of

molars in the garden you know and of course the thing about Belarusian is she

is a dentist yes an expert in her field well that was that was very interesting

did you you you ignored my joke mr. dunk and I said we've got lots of molars in

the garden yes when you say molars but you do you mean moles moles I'm playing

moles garlic and animals that burrow furry little creatures that do burrow

into the ground and come up in your garden and make a mound of Earth they're

disabled yes they can't see very well no they have they have very poor eyesight

of course they can't wear glasses you see mr. Duncan this this really smells

awful this is my protection from coronavirus

so this is how I'm protecting myself by what I do is I take all of my clothes

off and I smear this all over my body you not a pretty sight it is not I think

you're overusing that mr. Duncan over you why I think you're overusing it okay

because when we were out yesterday I was let's say criticizing you maybe a little

you overuse of the hand sanitizer I just have to make sure that my hands are

clean so I don't become ill if I become ill then then you won't be able to enjoy

bye my lovely English lessons and then I might give it to mr. Steve as well so he

might get it and of course he is elderly so Steve is in one of the risk groups he

ought to punch in the face mr. Duncan ooh and a slap on the bottom as well if

you don't know you don't actually as long as you can wash your hands yes with

soap and water that is has been proven or proven okay be as effective as

anything else in getting rid of bacteria off yeah because the reason they want

you to wash your hands is because you they don't want you to touch your face

hmm because if you touch your fate or rub your eyes like I just did

accidentally then that's how the virus can get in and then it goes down your

tear ducts down the back of you well we don't actually know yet how this is

transmitted hmm not entirely we are assuming it's like a common cold so so

air droplets when you sneeze but we don't actually know for certain yes so a

lot of people assume or think at the moment that it's transmitted through

people sneezing so if someone sneeze and it sneezes near you however washing your

hands I think washing your hands is a really good way of preventing well most

things when you think about it well that's what the surgeons do in a

hospital before they operate hmm but you have to something that people apparently

I was I was reading about a good technique hmm about washing your hands

because most people just sort of do that no you can't see me you can see on the

screen it's on the screen now playing most people forget to wash the tips of

their fingers and apparently yes and that is the bit that probably you

contact a lot of contaminated surfaces with particularly buttons of your

shopping buttons on keyboards and and if your

typing in your PIN number okay then the tips of your fingers often get neglected

when you're when you're washing it is amazing where those fingers can get and

where they sometimes end up mmm and if anyone knows that it's mr. Steve thank

you but yes people forget to do to rub the tops of their fingers yeah so as

long as you don't rub your eyes and put your fingers in your mouth

nobody knows that's it then you probably be alright or anywhere else but yes but

mr. Duncan's maybe without using it every five minutes I was not now Stu you

in this restaurant and your what your it's when you leave a contaminated air

its door handles you've mentioned this I heard you talking about that that's it I

do what happens particularly toilets yes okay

what well are you putting your hands down the toilets no I'm talking about

handles Oh as you go in and out at the toilet as you're going out okay I

wondered what you were going to tell me then I always cover the handle with a

bit of tissue I wasn't sure if that's weird my elbow I thought maybe that's

how you wouldn't block a toilet maybe you put your hand down now and just

squish everything yep that's blocking it think it's animals in the wild I mean

they eat anything don't they do their immune systems must be really tough

because they can they can eat dirt they can eat half-dead animals do it well

they can their immune systems must be very very strong how many animals and

how many sorts of bacteria how many animals live on dirt apparently

crocodiles have immensely strong immune systems yes and they're trying to find

out why they can resist virtually anything hmm they've got really tough

strong immune systems I think one of the strongest known

immune systems on the planet well those look at crocodilians those looki

krookodile probably alligators as well I don't know yes see you later alligator

see you in a while mr. crocodile so what are you talking about today well I all I

could hear was blah blah blah coronavirus

blah blah blah hand wash and I saw like it here okay because it

is very topical isn't it mr. Duncan well a lot of people on the live chat are

talking about the corona virus because let's face it it is in the news at the

moment many people talking about it we are okay here because we live in the

countryside far away as long as we don't get too close to the the animals budak

Center says don't eat your nails yes or we say here don't chew your nails or

bite or bite your nails now that is a bad habit which I have always had he has

I've always had a very bad like a nervous habit hmm and you can imagine

what's under your fingernails mmm the dirt the bacteria notes it's got to be a

prime way of getting contracting infections

I mean during the day you might get get an itchy bottom and you put your hand

down there and you have a good scratch but then you don't wash your hand

afterwards and then you've got all that yeah all that stuff under your

fingernails yes Belarus you there you go you go to

you go to a hospital somewhere and then they give you a pen to sign some papers

where's that pen how many people with contaminated fingers of handle that hand

what about money money exactly yes money so we handle money all the time so you

might go to a shop and they give you change and so they put the change in

your hand but maybe they've just had a lot of coughing or sneezing so they've

given you them that the change and maybe that's one of the ways that not

coronavirus but maybes other types of germs can be transmitted thank you Eric

who likes my t-shirt it's all right oh you would call this so what would you

call this type of t-shirt it's a rugby to top that's another name for it sports

shirt no there's another name it's like a it's like um it's a tee shirt with a

collar isn't it there's a name for my Cartman what it is no no it'll come to

me but thank you I'm sure it will come to Steve Anna says washing your hands

with soap yes because the soap actually kills a lot of the viruses off hmm they

don't like the soap and with all the water you're actually washing them away

see when you use a hand sand Taizo you don't actually get rid of the

virus is there still on your hand so you're hoping it's going to kill off the

the bugs but if you but you vote by putting that on you're not actually

getting rid of them they're still there mm-hmm I mean they might some of them

might be dead or you might have got all of them but if you use soap and water

you're literally washing them away so that's probably the best way which is

why that's what surgeons use in a hospital what about setting your hands

on fire would that kill them that would work you could set your hands on fire so

you could put your hands in a flame or put petrol on your hands and light it

and so your hands would burst into flames however you might have to go to a

hospital for something completely different so

don't try that at home please for those who who are actually

taking that is actual advice it isn't use a cigarette lighter yes a flame you

know sterilize your hands that way rubber gloves rubber gloves rubber

gloves yeah but you've got to take them off yes but you could wear them you

could do it then your hands get all your hands go all moist and they go wrinkly

don't they if you add rubber great doesn't matter that's the least of your

problems it's fact I was hearing reading today

that hand sanitizers if you use too much of it it actually breaks down the

defensive barrier in your skin because the alcohols very harsh to your skin in

your skin actually has has protective layers that stop bacteria getting in we

talked about this earlier on the live chat yes so if you if you wash your

hands too often you can actually damage the skin and cause problems well other

types of problems you might your skin might start to break and you might have

sores and cuts well I was out in the garden today you were lovely - shall we

have a look at Steve in the garden earlier so I did actually do secretly

filming me were yeah was secretly filming mr. Steve so here he is here is

mr. Steve in the garden earlier today you can see how windy it is we still

have storm ha-hey storm right there let me put it

on the screen storm Jorge is still battering the UK

and with Steve braving the elements outside

look at that you put up the ladder this morning you were doing a little bit of

pruning well can you see I'm getting rid of that's a bit of a weed it's it's

called Ivy ivy your mother's name it is my mother's

name my mother's name is ivy poison ivy and there is a plant that looks like

that that's called ivy and it creeps along the ground

and then it goes up the branches of trees and as you can see what I'm doing

is I'm clearing it away because can you see the bushes at the back by the fence

well they have lovely red leaves on in the in the summer and just to the left

of my head you can see that that ivy has grown all up into the bushes mm-hmm and

I don't want that because what the ivy will kill off the bush yes and then and

I don't like it it's it's like a weed it gets everywhere so what's interesting is

in your garden you have certain plants that will cause damage to other plants

it might even attack them it's a bit of a I think it's a I don't think it's a

parasite ivy now it might be but it it cruel it creeps up the branches of other

trees and if you leave it that the it becomes a great big huge amount of

biomass and you can pull the pull the tree down in a wind because there's so

much weight of the ivy in the in the tree we can see this around where we

live there are lots of vines growing up some of the trees around here in one or

two of the trees have actually died because of the vines they strangle the

tree and take all of its light source away and it's horrible so some of these

poor trees around where we live have actually been killed by the creeping ivy

or vines so that's what I was doing and I a my hands ache because this is the

first time I've done some probably serious gardening for a couple of months

so because of the weather's been so bad and so I'm aching a little bit tired

today well yes Irene has some bad news we had we had some sad

news last week for from Noemi whose cat had died and yesterday

Irene's dog now this is the dog that was playing in the video that we showed a

few weeks ago so do you remember the little dog playing in the garden I do

and with the ball in the crow so there was a bird yes do you remember I do I

might be able to find it although I don't think you want me to show it at

the moment I'm sure Irene I'm sorry to hear that your little dog died yesterday

I'm really sorry to hear that I know a lot of people get very attached to their

pets don't know Steve well I get attached to the neighbors pets hmm

because I go around to see them and I will be later where are you from a

couple of people have asked yeah polo t-shirt thank you yes polo shirt Thank

You Tomic so quite often when a person is playing polo they will wear a polo

shirt this is what we called a pair I couldn't think then so thank you for

that well people have noticed are asking where we are we're in the where in

England that's where we are England we're in England England the

birthplace of the English language I thought you'd get that in mr. Duncan

very low shirt yes thanks for that yes that's it you see Cory says I'm used to

touching people a lot when I meet them and it may be I mean we were watching a

program the other day that we may have to sort of stop doing this shaking hands

yeah well I think we should we should all take an example from Japan where we

all just bow where we meet each other instead of touching or hugging cuz I

don't like it anyway I don't like touching people who I don't know they're

the hands of bean don't know where they've been

their whole body it could have been anywhere somebody shook my hands the

other day actually interestingly enough this is so how paranoid I can get I was

in a work meeting and when we meet each other quite often we shake hands

even though I know all my colleagues quite well but I had when I arrived I

had been to the toilet oh Jenny interesting and this particular

person was in there as well okay and I saw them washing their hands not

particularly well okay and then just going out just putting their hand on the

handle to go out of the toilet area and I thought mmm interesting and then later

on when we went out he said oh well oh nice to meet you and he shook my hand

and so and I knew his hand had been on a contaminated door handle so what did I

do I went to him washed it wash your hands

yes because I was just thinking all the time what what has he transferred onto

my hands I wasn't thinking of coronavirus because we haven't really

got it here yet well serious way so I was just thinking of all the bacteria

that are on the door handle of that term I mean they should all open

automatically really toilet doors shouldn't they yes there's nothing worse

than going I hate going to the toilet anyway if I'm in a public place or if I

remember when I worked at Wolverhampton Science Park I used to hate using the

toilets in the building especially if I wanted a poopoo because if you wanted to

poop I can't do it I can't poo poo in a place where I'm not familiar with so I

always like to have my poo poop at home I can't do it anywhere else well

Christina says I'm not sure where you are Christina Jackson says they don't

know this far as we don't know anything about it maybe it's not in your country

yet and I hope it doesn't oh I think Christina is talking generally with that

there is a lot we don't know about yes so we don't know much about it at the

moment we are still yes yes we are still investigating the virus still trying to

find out what it is where it came from that there are some people that believe

it came from back soup which isn't true by the way

well it certainly came from an animal an animal market in Wuhan China

an animal market pedra says I've got a beautiful figure I don't know what's

wrong with me I think Pedro fancies you something lots of people do watch is

Pedro but uh you know it's lovely stuff to come on here and get compliments

because I never get them normally it doesn't happen thank you very much for

all your lovely compliment doesn't happen very often if I had pictures of

you I could I could reciprocate SAS Supra Kate okay good

reciprocate returned in fate of the favor or return in a similar way yes

going back sassy says what about people touching fruit and vegetables in the

small markets yes there are many moments of time during your day where you are

touching things that other people have handled or had their hands on so yes I

agree with you I think so well on fruit when you buy fruit it always says wash

the fruit hmm but I've got friends I've had this discussion with them and they

never wash fruit mmm they never wash it they just eat it just apple straight out

the packet and they just eat it but you probably should wash it because you

don't know who's handled that Apple or there could be particularly grapes

grapes are sprayed with pesticides apples probably sprayed as well and you

don't know what insects are crawled on them or if they've it could be feces on

there from somewhere you don't know so yes you should wash fruit because

don't know what's on the outside of the skin okey-dokey

four minutes coming up to four minutes past three by the way we are talking

about relationships hopefully at some point today so we are talking about

relationships words and connected with relationships but first of all I thought

it would be an interesting question if I can find it of course because I've got a

bath I've got 50 million about 50 million we're going to be here for a

long time with this 50 minute so we're talking about relationship words and

phrases relationship words and phrases do you like that July

my little song there alright so I I wonder is there a way is there a secret

Steve is there a secret to having a good relationship is there a secret can you

share some what something what are the secrets to having a good successful

relationship so so maybe we can throw the question out there so if you are if

you are in a relationship you are about a romantic relationship or friends or

you're on about relationship with a partner well we're gonna talk about that

in a minute but just generally generally any relationship if you know someone and

you have some sort of relationship with them and there are many different types

of relationship we'll be talking about that in a moment but what are the

secrets to having a good or successful relationship what do you think Oh could

you even call them secrets just call them rules or or just ways of making

relationships work guys lying yes guidelines yes so you can say

guidelines so the things that you might need to observe if you are in a

relationship it can be a friend or maybe someone you were close with or even

family I think the hardest relationship to control is family relationship I

think so okay yeah I think so I think they are the hardest because the reason

is because you can choose your friends you can choose your lover but you can't

choose your family your family is your family you are linked you are related

through your bloodline so you have no choice with family relationships you

have to you have to live with them yes and very rare that people cut off family

members they've got to do something pretty awful I mean you could cut out a

friend or you quite easily if they behaved badly towards you or upset you

in some way to do that to a family member is

difficult because biologically we want to be always close to our family because

that is that's where our genetic pool is so look we are we are programmed always

to protect the family and be with the family because they are passing on our

genes yes etc etc so there is a genetic link so

genetic links her biological lot with family members I think which we wouldn't

do with her with friends well the fact that the family relationship the family

bond is one that can't be broken when you think about it because it's there

it's there it's going around your body in your DNA you have is there you can't

you can't escape it you can't take it away as it were however it doesn't

always mean that family relationships are successful you can have moments of

time where the the relationship will break down let me just I'm trying to get

to the actual question answers to our yes I agree mr. Duncan family

relationships are the hardest I just had some lovely answers to my question

Oh Cristina says every relationship has its secrets

I suppose so so that might be a thing there is a bad part of a relationship I

don't think I don't think you necessarily always have to tell the

people closest to you everything I don't think you necessarily have to tell them

everything I certainly don't what am i secret actually I find it very difficult

to keep secrets Steven could know Steve isn't the worst person the worst person

to keep secrets he can't he really can't do it the secret to a good relationship

is washing your hands oh no I think thats related to coronavirus mind you

that if you do wash your hands in a relationship and you catch something

you're not gonna ya pass it on yes or maybe if you break up with some

you break up a relationship we can say that you wash your hands off them oh so

that's actually a phrase we assets we use in English so if you wash your hands

of someone it means you you have nothing to do with them you get rid of them out

of your life interesting you wash yes because it's yeah yeah exactly

interesting Abdul gab power off hmm vali can I probably pronounced that

incorrectly says that love is the secret yes yes I suppose so you have to be

attracted to someone however unless it's your family member of course whatever

that love is whether it's the love between yourself and a family member or

between a partner friends can love each other there are different lots of

different types of love if you have a a bond yeah that you respect them okay

and I think talking's very important yes so let's have a quick look show you some

of the words Steve here we go here we go on the screen Steve yes over there

communication I think communication is important in a relationship

yes but why because problems develop between people and or you might have

things in your mind that you you're thinking about and I think you can build

up resentments and all sorts of problems if you don't talk about what's on your

mind yes and if you talk about what's on your mind then we're not counselors are

we go well no well I'm not saying we are I'm just saying that these are things

that are are good things to have is a healthy relationship so I think and this

is what I think personally as well one of the worst things in a relationship

that can occur is when you stop talking to each other if there is no

communication and that is one of the main causes of breakdowns in

relationships in romantic relationships or marriages so communication is very

important we love talking to each other don't we so we often spend hours

chatting away about stuff things we have in common things we enjoy talking about

things we have done during the day so yeah it's quite often we'll have a lot

of chats and of course here is understanding Oh understanding your

partner's needs maybe understanding their feelings yes maybe understanding

the things that they don't like or maybe the reason why they don't like something

and then we have the third one respect RESP ect that is what you don't give me

give me some respect respect compromise you'll compromise so first of all

respect if you respect someone it means you give them your time you listen to

them you you give them a moment where you are giving them all the attention so

maybe they want to tell you something maybe there's something they want to

tell you and so respect can be many parts of a relationship everyone's

different we've all got different opinions different ideas about life

everything so when you say you respect somebody you even though their opinion

might be different to yours then you're saying yes I accept what you're saying I

don't agree with it but I respect it and I understand and then that helps a

relationship of course one of the lucky things between us two is the fact that

we both agree on the UK leaving Europe so we actually share the same opinion

don't we there so that's quite lucky we do and now we have all I think this one

is very important as well Steve compromise compromise go on compromise

compromise number four so compromise when we talk about compromising in a

relationship maybe sometimes there is a disagreement between those in the

relationship however however quite often they will have to

agree to disagree so sometimes you have to compromise maybe you are about to do

some renovation in your house we are planning to do that maybe this year

aren't we decoration yeah bit of redecorating so maybe you are doing

something you want to change the appearance of the house

however Steve wants blue curtains and I want red curtains so what do we do

we both want different things well sometimes you have to make a compromise

maybe in certain rooms we will have blue curtains for mr. Steve and in other

windows in other rooms we might have some red curtains oh we might find some

curtains that have got blue and red in them yes or we might buy two sets of

curtains and put red ones up for six months of the year and big ones up for

the other six months so there is a good example of compromise yes and are people

that don't compromise are very quite often very poor in relationships but

most if they want everything you can't have everything your own way in a

relationship can you mr. Duncan because it's just not going to work and if you

insist on that you're gonna cause resentment yes within the relationship

if one person always gets their own way then eventually even if you love that

person you will build up resentments against them and then the relationship

will probably end hmm and finally and this is as far as I'm concerned Steve

this is the most important one honesty honesty honesty is the best policy in

relationships in everything yes so especially relationships you have to try

and agree and sometimes you have to try and be honest if there is something that

is on your mind it is always best to tell your partner or the other person in

the relationship even though it might hurt them sometimes you have to be cruel

to be kind so it can happen so those are some of the things that I think are

important and I think a lot of people that are agreeing with that who if you

have a wife and cheat on her and or vice versa the other way around

both ways you you don't love her anymore why not be honest and ask divorce yes so

you might ask a person Lumis you might want to separate you might want to go

your separate ways split you might split you might go your

separate ways stomach says it's my way or the highway

oh I see that's that's a good expression Tomic so basically what you're saying

you're saying I want it to happen this way if you don't like it yeah get in

your car and drive off so you do you do what I say or you get out

so people who apply that motto in their life quite commonly end up being on

their own I've got a friend who's like that I'm just wondering Tomic do you

have a wife or girlfriend well you see some relationships then every

relationship is different so in some relationships one partner is always

dominant and the other part the other partner is quite happy to go along with

whatever the other partner says because some people don't want to make decisions

they don't so some people just want to be told what to do then that's what

happens in relationship and in different cultures sometimes you get that as well

that's all everything's we're not we're not saying what's right or wrong we're

just expressing the highway I love that quite often in a relationship I think

there is always a dominant person so there is always one person who is

slightly more dominant than the other one I think so I think that's how you

have that yin and yang so it's a kind of balance so the harmony comes from one

person being slightly more dominant and the other one being

less dominant however it doesn't mean they're there ruling the relationship or

telling people what to do sometimes people in relationships one person has

more power than the other one and that could be ours I was listening the other

day about people who have relationships with with people who are much younger

than themselves so if there's a big age difference

between you often the younger person has a lot of power hmm because they know

that they've got the looks and they're young and so they can often use that

power in ways that maybe are not particularly ethical to get what they

want Adam the relationship they might want money or some some new fleshy

expensive clothes and they will use that as power to get what they want in the

relationship sometimes one partner has a lot more money than the other and they

will use that as power to get what they want off the other person there all

sorts of games that people play with each other

do you have an experience of that Steve no just people thinks I've heard you

know people friends who get involved in difficult relationships that's good so

we are talking about let's try and get to this list because we have about

500,000 words to look at Cristina said there's a good one no every

relationships are different it depends on what you're looking for yes and what

you're prepared to put up with yet well the thing is if you are now I don't want

to sound shallow but if you are if you are attractive if you are good-looking

yes no we're not talking about you if you are attractive and young or young

and attractive I think it's easier to find someone now I know that sounds

awful and shallow but I think use you definitely have more choice if you are

young and maybe you are not good-looking you still have more chance I think there

are still more chances however if you are older and attractive there is still

a chance that you can find someone however if you are older and mature

active then suddenly it is I guess but you see it depends what if if you are

not physically attracted I mean I don't underst you know I've never had that

problem

but you might have other attributes which make you attractive you might have

a lovely personality or you might have a bubbly personality or you might have

you've got to look for what's attractive in you I think and make the most of it

it's hard it's hard there's somebody out there for everyone and I think I do

believe that so we're looking for years but okay Steve we've got to get these

words on because I spent all morning sorting this out go on then

so we have relationship words and phrases so let's have a look at some

general words so you can have an association an association a connection

with someone so maybe a person who you know in a certain way maybe through your

job you can have an association with someone or maybe a group of people that

share something in common can also be described as an association you can have

an association with another person or a group of people and then we have

connection sorry can I just go back to that mr. dinner I was gonna say yes so I

says yes that means you just you just know somebody yes you're not friends no

you're not lovers you you are you just have a connection with them for whatever

reason yeah it could be a business-related couldn't it okay and

and it could be a business associate an associate a business associate is

somebody that you know that you deal with with regard to purchasing or

something like that yes yeah an associate somebody that's just you know

them connection you have a connection with someone so I don't want to I'm not

gonna stay on these words too long Steve because we do have quite a few as you

will see the moments plain invested in properly a connection is very similar to

Association so you have something that you have maybe in common with someone

maybe you work in the same company or in the same office you have a connect

so there is something that makes you and the other person have some connection

something they have in common it might be an interest yes you have a

connection with a person because you both like fishing mm-hmm for example hmm

doesn't mean your friends know or it can mean something deeper than that I've got

a connect uncle we've got a connection if you say to somebody you're talking

about somebody else and you say oh we've got we've got a connection we have hmm

so that that just means you've got an a try so it can be and some kind of

attraction mmm that is sort of unspoken yeah nobody's spoken about you've got a

connection and so somehow you are on a level that you can't talk about you are

attracted to that person or you just have the same opinions or something like

that but there's a connection like an invisible thread between the two of you

yes Union yes another one so quite often we think of things that are permanently

joined together so when we think about Union quite often it is something that

is a permanent relationship or something that is joined together on a permanent

basis so marriage I suppose is described as a type of Union or maybe you both

make vowels in another way to stay together forever so Union is an

interesting word marriage Union yes that's what I just said I literally just

said that absolutely I was reading I was reading satury nose interesting comment

about women who have younger men like as having a relationship with and Saturday

now points out that they called Cougars I really wondered what you were going to

say to get is a woman who has a boy toy we would say Tori boy yes well a cougar

is a woman who is maybe in her 30s late 30s or 40s or older

is hungry for a young man hungry for some young flesh satury know are you a

cougar is the question what

maybe it's experience from experience yes okay here's another one Steve tie

yeah he's have a tie like this you mean so not this particular time oh so this

is the now on tie there it is so a tie is something you wear around

your neck as clothing but also something that is joined together to things that

are joined together so you can use it as a verb you tie things together or the

tie is describing the noun which is the actual joining so the relationship is

the tie to things that you have in common that join you together is a tie

so you have a tie something that joins you together yes it could be a hobby it

could be something else so you can be I think in some cultures as well they

literally do tie use bits of string and touch other together in the wedding

ceremony yeah what permanently but they're always tied together yes if you

have a tie it means you're connected in some way but also other some cultures

I've heard as well it can be a bit more Netherlands by that I mean it can be

quite bad somebody can like put a spell on you what it's called a tie way where

you where you deliberately it's an association that you put into planter to

somebody's mind that they're somehow tied to you and they can control you in

that way so some cultures do that they say well I've put a tie on you and that

means that they can somehow controlled you but of course you don't believe it's

only it's a bit like the voodoo doll okay it's a bit like a voodoo doll where

people stick pins in an effigy or a likeness of yourself and it's supposed

to make you ill okay but of course what they've discovered is

it only works if you know somebody's doing it and then you build this up in

your mind you know and it's just scientific by the way no it's not

scientific ISM it is just it just shows how your mind sometimes can can main

things happen yes that aren't really true how your mind you know you believe

what you believe is clear true okay how your mind can be manipulated yes by

suggestion for me that wouldn't be very satisfying I would rather stick pins in

the real person so if I find the person I would rather just stick real pins into

the real person I go to prison for that

can we have another word Steve Tomic wants to meet a cougar okay and Belarus

you says good luck look at that bond Steve hello yes James Bond bond there is

a bond a tie a connection something you have in common we're rushing through

these now because we are really running out of time

link so again linked to things that are joined together maybe you have a fence

so maybe there is a fence in your garden made of links a chain-link things that

are joined together so again a marriage might be described as a link you link

one person to another they are joined together in marriage also we have

attached as well we will often use this if we are trying to find out if someone

has a girlfriend or boyfriend are you attached in any way do you have a

boyfriend or girlfriend are you attached so that means are you in a relationship

it doesn't have to be marriage it can be just a romance so are you attached you

have to use that to try and find out it's a sort of a a non offensive way of

trying to find out if somebody's in a relationship you can say if you saw two

people tour mm-hmm and they seem to be sort of

flirting a bit with each other Lord or they were talking and you just wanted to

know whether they were in a relationship or not

instead of saying oh were you two going out together hmm

you might just which is a bit direct okay you might just say are you too

attached hmm it's a sort of a gentle way of trying to find out but the two people

are in a relationship or not commonality commonality so the thing again you have

something that you share that is similar so maybe you have an interest in the

same football team or maybe the the same type of movie maybe you both enjoy

watching science fiction movies or maybe you both enjoy singing or maybe you both

enjoy gardening you have something that connects you a thing that you have in

common that connects you together you have a commonality you have something in

common in common something in common so you have a thing that connects you and

Justine has just come up with one I don't know whether you've got it here

eleazar eleazar well that isn't really him that isn't

really a relationship that's that's more a meeting liaison know you could have a

liaison with somebody that means you have maybe yes you'd have a liaison you

have a nursing oh yes I suppose in a looser sense but liaison is always

you're going to meet you're going to have a liaison means a meeting so maybe

two people meet together join together romantically okay then if you if you use

the word liaison in here if you say I'm having a liaison with somebody it

normally means a romantic relationship or maybe some some regular you know what

friends with benefits something like that friends with benefit maybe mm-hmm

maybe so casual relationships I've just realized I've got low Connell says it's

our culture when we get married is to tie somebody's head tie the head yes so

that they have probably literally would be a bit of

string I don't know what you tie their heads together some people do that okay

I don't want to say to that let's just move that in the middle so mr. Steve

isn't blocked off so casual relationships can be described as I

suppose you could say that you are friends look at that rub my eye that's

how easily it's done okay I can put my hand on the door handle and then I could

have done that and in goes a bacteria or a virus unconsciously all right mr.

Duncan sorry I interrupted you there that's why I use this you see you should

have had some of this on your hand now but I've only been in the garden I

haven't leaned it out to in public places today so casual relationships

people that you know not too well or maybe a person that you know generally

in life friends you can have friends people around you you you get to share

your life with people who you might see every day or sometimes your friends why

anyone would want a friend I have no idea why why would you want a friend but

sometimes sometimes if you're in a romantic relationship with somebody you

often describe that person as your friend as well your best friend okay so

you can be in a romantic relationship and but you can also be very good

friends you say you often hear people say that my husband is my best friend

because and that's like a perfect relationship they're not gonna it yes I

suppose but I'm not really going to be your enemy I love it no but your friends

are if you have a friend and that the quality that relationship is different

to that of a romantic relationship so if you combine the two his friends confide

in each other don't they and us and talk about things which you might not talk

about with your partner that's it but if you say your friend your partner is your

best friend it means that you've got the best of both world you you're talking

openly communicating with each other sharing all your thoughts yes in the

same ways you might do because often in romantic relationships you keep a lot

back from your partner because you might feel insecure

you don't want to lose them whereas if you have a if your partner is also a

very good friend it means that you've got a perfect relationship really hmm

okay acquaintances acquaintances acquaintances people you meet in life

maybe you don't get very close to them but they are people you know maybe

someone you know in your village or town that you see every day you just say oh

hi there hi Rob hi Bob I feel hello all right you're right yeah not to burn

that's it just someone you know but not very well

an acquaintance and as you said earlier associates associates so a person who

you know or a group of people who you know that in your workplace may be well

going back to acquaintance is quite often people in your place of work you

would describe as acquaintances you know them you see them every day you speak to

them but they're not friends they're just people you talk to and and as you

say give just exchanged pleasantries yes okay you the weather's nice isn't it and

that's about as far as it goes you might talk about business with them as well

you might in fact talk to them an awful lot mmm because you have to because

you're forced together with work or in that if your members of a church you

might be forced to talk to people forced because when you when you move from

acquaintances status to friends status that means you're much closer your

understanding your respecting each other you're compromising your doing all the

things that a good relationship would do okay we all have lots of acquaintances

don't weaken lots of people we know we speak to everyday but we wouldn't say

that they wouldn't wouldn't in write them round to the house for a meal we

wouldn't go out with them for a drink in the evening or go out with a meal with

them whereas you would do that with a friend okay contacts contacts now this

is an interesting one because this is kind of one that you could relate in to

modern technology so a lot of people these days no of the people but they've

never met them and I suppose a good example would be this this yes this is a

good example of contacts so people that you know people that you can get in

touch with or maybe chat to however you don't really know them that well they

are just your contacts people you can get in touch with or maybe a person you

can chat to over a long distance but it doesn't mean that you know them

personally and I think this is a good one this is very very up-to-date this

word I think this is a word that is used a lot nowadays more than friends I would

dare to say so a lot of people now have more friends or contacts that they know

through virtual reality or through the internet than they do in their own

personal lives face to face I think that would be fair to say yes so you see that

to somebody of my age the word contact would mean just somebody that I know hmm

somebody who I have probably spoken to on the phone

I might have their telephone number in my saved into my phone they could be

business contacts people that I contact to try and sell something to for example

in my line of work you wouldn't describe they could be an associate a contact of

an associate but a contact wouldn't be a friend necessarily I don't know

but I think that word is you say the meaning has changed a bit yes well it's

kind of it's kind of changed as people's behavior has changed so we often think

of contacts as just being people that are on your friends list so the people

you can get in touch with or maybe you have the occasional chat or maybe you

don't do anything else but but put a like on their comments on Facebook

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oh I see what yeah it's gone now was it worth it I don't Allied what

about Ally or allied hmm yes that's a good one Jimmy and Ally tends to be a

person who is supporting your side or your argument a person who will be with

you during a rough period of time or maybe during a battle so a person who

will help you to fight to fight or to to be in on your side or in your corner of

course yes if you're doing if you're doing something at work and you want to

maybe a project or something like that and you want to promote this idea to

your boss whose project is it is it bills probably bills somebody at work

you you've got a project idea and you want to sell this to your boss and you

but you want somebody to support you you want an ally somebody who will who

support what you're saying it could be somebody high up in the organization

that has a bit of influence an ally so in the war for example in the Second

World War we were at war obviously and our allies were jeroboam America we were

allies the UK and don't guns are laughing about they were our allies

people that we had were supporting each other too tired mister I'm getting time

I think we've just discovered that Steve is a Nazi yes you know al allies so in

times of war it's somebody that is helping you to win that war okay you

just never know what's coming next so we're moving on to a different ID mr.

dink working hard the heart and Steve there was a favor

put a sock in it for a moment bless Steve bless him we've got another

hundred and twenty thousand words to look at in the next twenty minutes

I don't think we're going to do it somehow twenty minutes to four o'clock

we will be going in twenty minutes I might go before then familial familial

familial so when we talk about familial relationships yeah we are talking about

family members so members of your family and they do tend to be blood relatives

however that isn't always the case is it so husband and wife are relatives they

are kind of they have a relationship but they are not well as far as we can tell

they are not blood relatives unless of course you live in the United li unless

you live in the United States in which case that sort of thing is done quite

often in especially in the south a controversial mr. Duncan now it's not

controversial nothing wrong with that allegedly so family members family

members we can say relatives your relative yes your relations or of course

when we talk about one of your parents maybe your mother or father your parent

so there might be one parent or two parents so when you think nowadays there

are a lot of single parents who have a child without getting married or maybe

the husband has run away so you can have one parent or two parents and also

Guardian which is a person who has legal custody legal custody it's not easy to

say that legal custody of a child so they are in charge of a child

they have guardianship they are a guardian and I said I suppose you could

you also use custodian as well a person who has custody

study of a child and there we have your siblings now Steve how many siblings do

you have I have one I how many do you have I have two two siblings so the word

sibling means having the same parents so you both share that common thing you are

siblings you are in a family brothers sisters yes that's what I was about to

say brother brothers we really do need to rehearse this brothers and sisters

brothers and sisters living together in peace and harmony if only that was the

way as we all know in families quite often brothers and sisters will not get

along they will often fight and squabble I think so brothers and sisters mother

and father yes and quite often when you get older

you will still hold grudges from when you were children and have arguments can

reoccur come in the same arguments and and buttons that people know how to push

that annoy you always there but I think hopefully you get old you get more

mature and and you stop it's nice to have good relationships with your family

because it's just important you want to stay in touch with your family unless

they're completely horrible people in which case you might might not want it

that's your parrot I mean I mean your parents might be axe murderers or serial

killers in which case you probably don't want to stay in touch with them husband

and wife husband and wife of course nowadays we live in the 21st century of

2020 Ness husband and wife husband and husband of course husband and husband

and sheep or wife and wife or wife and wife and armadillo

who knows old-fashioned expression really you

don't hear it very often now husband and wife

really now I don't think what do you normally say them partners people use

the word partners a lot now but you'll see if people don't get married well

that's well they won't be husband and wife then will they yeah that's why I'm

saying you don't hear that expression as oh it's now because people don't choose

to get married hmm as often as they used to that's true in the past so you would

tend to say my partner and I rather than my husband or my wife I don't know what

these statistics are now for people getting married what percentage of

people who are in relationships get married I think that's dropping off

becoming smaller and smaller because it's expensive to get married it is in

many ways and you might have to pay with your soul a lot of people's do like to

get married because it does create a strong bond and if you're religious then

definitely you probably would get married yes but a lot of people aren't

these days so they don't see the necessity to actually hmm go through a

marriage ceremony especially when you think of all the trouble that people go

to yeah to get married and then a couple of years later they get divorced I know

we talked about this a few weeks ago oh here's an interesting we know Xander

Anantara role here mm-hmm we've had cougar now we've got one-night stand

with an escort I have to be careful here we might get censured by YouTube do you

think so I think so they might come around and and and pull my plug out it

sounds very painful you don't know where the plug then you would exchange hands

in that type of relationship okay let's not go down that road it's a type of

relation to one-night stand well a one-night stand isn't really a

relationship you know that oh yeah yes I know but it's kind of the opposite yes

it's kind of not a relation think you would say one-night stand with an escort

no one-night stand is yes if you if you have

let's say a meeting with an escort probably you're paying for that you

wouldn't describe it as a one-night stand you would probably say one-night

stand with somebody who you've just met at a

nightclub and you just got together for the evening for whatever purpose that

may be so there we go what's mr. Duncan doing with me what a nightmare

one's enough - well that's just what a nightmare Sean says I've just noticed

that I've got I've got a nice cheekbone oh thank you very much

just one compliment son you've really got one nice cheekbone you have a nice

cheap busy other one besson missing maybe I ought to enhance it with a bit

of blusher yeah okay thank you very much sure so have we got one right here

have we got our one-night stand out the way is it gone I mean you know okay sure

is is saying that I have nice cheekbones maybe you know we hope to get together

10 minutes 10 minutes we've got we've got we've got 80,000 words to get

through kinship says Jimmy calm raid okay yes good spouse spouse is an

old-fashioned word very old-fashioned old-fashioned but let's you know keep

going mr. Duncan I've got a bit of a bit of dust at my nose from the gardening

this is so professional spouse a person you are attached to through marriage

vows so your spouse can be your husband or your wife it's a very old-fashioned

word yes spouse spouse it's it it it sounds a bit old and thirsty yes you

would never I don't think anyone would use that word now unless they were sort

of over 50 or 60 years of age this is nice you would never introduce somebody

now as this is my spouse unless you were old I think you would have done I don't

know whether he would have done 30 years ago 30 what about 27 years ago

wife I don't know it's a very old-fashioned word but maybe in some

parts of the world they still use it mmm spouse it's a great old word oh here

we go we are both very lucky aren't we Steve you and I why why are we both

lucky because our mothers are both alive yes we are very lucky to have both of

our mothers still with us in this lovely wonderful thing this lovely plane of

existence that we call life so I went to see my mum yesterday Steve took me there

and my mum is feeling much better she looked great and hopefully hopefully my

fingers are crossed that she will be going back home with some extra care you

soon you usually call your mum mummy I do I've heard you say mummy yes

so it's mum is a shortened version of mummy

yes mu M My yes whether I'm trying out let's just look at what's on the screen

at the moment so mum so when we say mum it is for me I've just said that mummy

now uh yes I I call my mum or my mother mummy like a child the child usually

calls his mother mum I don't know why I just love my mummy I love my mummy I

like saying hello mummy if I call my mummy on the telephone I will say hello

mummy bye mummy but you don't know that's unusual you would normally

shorten the word to mum once you get to the age of about 14 okay I would say oh

you AB you a breast fed until you were five well I've since discovered that

wasn't true I don't know why you would think it was true I I was under the

impression that I think that must be the most the most hilarious thing I've ever

heard you say you had a discussion with a friend we were talking about oh we

can't have we can't have the whole situation Steve we really we have 9

minutes and we have about 75,000 were to say and use so mum or mum

yes mom in American English Steve mom mom yes hi ma'am Gary do something else

mom so mom is American English they will offer say Oh mom mom mom can you give me

ten dollars mom I want to go to the flicks is that

what they say the what afflicts flicks flicks your whether they use that word

in America it's that it's I'm still I'm still thinking of the 1950s

you see Jimmy's coming up with all sorts of words soulmate yes a soulmate is the

first single word it is it's a it's a person who I'm losing control of this

program not for the best a soulmate is a person yes you have a

very deep bond or relationship with so mum mother mummy and of course sadly

your father is not around anymore mine is my dad is still my father is still

alive just about he's hanging on just about would you call your dad daddy I

I've never called my dad daddy because he would probably punch my lights out

and say that that was a very childish word to you yes dad is short for the

word daddy yes so dad father you could say father as

well so your dad father or in American English they might say pop-pop yes

you can also shorten that the word daddy - dad and then shorten it to da I've

heard that really hello da they just even dropped the D never heard that well

it's strange because we're watching a program at the moment call this country

very funny program as we like and the the the daughter calls their father da

yes okay that's told you mr. Duke so it's a colloquialism I don't know maybe

it's maybe people shortness okay even further

Oh Dee how about D we got seven minutes you know good people okay but yes there

is a TV show or watching at the moment said there is a TV I think they could

have to do some people that make comments often surprises with their

funny words okay and there's another one from atomic a sugar daddy yes a sugar

daddy is is that you are you are you my sugar daddy there's only four years

between us so that's yes a sugar daddy is somebody who is much older in the

relationship probably old enough to be the old enough to be the father of the

person that they in a relationship with and so and the sugar is referring to

money yeah this isn't necessary an older person though isn't it no no a sugar

daddy is just anyone usually oh yes but someone who takes care of another person

financially in a relationship so they give you money they they give the person

money and in return the other person gives them company and other benefits

but usually usually it's an older person like a 90 year old man and an 18 year

old girl is that what you mean that would be sugar granddaddy I think yes

usually say for example myself 21 years of age I had a partner who was in their

fifties and they looked after me financially in return for bedroom

activities company or whatever are you would my friends would say all is that

she sugar daddy isn't it and I may or may not deny it but yes so thank you for

that Tomic okay we are we are going so off track today with this lovely satury

knows gold satury knows coming out with all the way that the interesting for a

swingers club now we've had cougar okay Steve yeah we've got swingers club okay

there are lots of people who are not interested in this part of the

conversation well that's right I always have a guide

you talk about things that you would talk about in the classroom so I don't

think anyone in the classroom is going to talk about extramarital affairs or

sugar daddies what's a sugar what's the other way

around what if a young man has a woman taking care of him so what is she is she

a sugar mummy is that the COO I'll be back to the Cougar no I think a cougar

is just a woman who is hungry for four young men to-to right man maybe she will

give them gifts I feel very awkward about this subject oh she might give

lots of gifts and money to that young person you have five minute I think the

implication probably is okay Steve yes Mike yes that's an interesting point so

very quickly razor says that you don't necessarily have to you can call other

people your mum if it's not your biological mother so for example I I

cans I could call your mother hello mum couldn't yes but those do that she's not

biologically mine but there's a relationship in place that's right yes

she would be like my mother because you're connected by your relationship

with someone else that's it so you wouldn't just walk up

to a stranger in the street and say hello mum now well that's it that my

son-in-law calls me mum says Reiser mmm that's it that's it that's fine because

there was always term of endearment being but there is also a relationship

involved in that yes family you could call the the mother

of your partner mum hmm because it's it would be an affectionate term to call

them rather than by their name here's another one that is often given to

people who aren't even related to you now when I was little I had lots of

aunties who weren't related so we we just used to call them Auntie because

they were familiar people too that's just not using the word mom isn't it

some similar thing they don't have to be actually related to know again it's a

person like we used to have neighbors who live nearby and they had no

connection with the whatsoever in no way no sure I'm very

sure of that do you think back maybe I'm almost I'm 85% sure so Artie is a

parent's sister so the sister of your mother or father is an auntie however

you might often find the the term auntie used to people who want even members of

your family there might just be people who are familiar with you so I used to

have a few auntie's who weren't related but they just lived near to where I yes

it's just an affectionate term for somebody who's it's probably the similar

age to your to your parent and they could be an auntie but they're very

either they're they're they're almost probably the relationship between your

mother and that friend is very close almost like there were sisters so your

mother describes that describes them as an auntie I've got this two and a half

minutes uncle yes now this one this one also has a very shady side to it as well

in some it in some situations which I will not be going into uncle we all have

uncles of course an uncle is a parent's brother so your mother's brother or your

father's brother is your uncle actually that was quite easy and then we have

cousin cousin the child of a parents brother or sister so this gets very

complicated now you can see it's starting to get complicated so your

cousin if you have a cousin it is the child of a parents brother or sister and

we'll leave it at that nice so nice is actually a gender specific and it

relates to the daughter of a sister or brother I always get these mixture these

are awful I now wish we were running out of time

nice nice is the daughter of a sister or

brother and then we have nephew who is the son of a sister or brother so your

brother or sisters son is your nephew

grandparents oh yes sadly on both of our sides unfortunately

our grandparents are now up there they're on the roof repairing the TV

erial grandparents I made myself laugh then I made myself laugh grandfather the

male parent of your mother or father so the grandfather is the male parent of

your mother or father or of course you can just say grandad that's a more

affectionate around dad grandpa grandad you wouldn't say hello grandfather that

would be too formal and trying to sing a song you hadn't got much time well I

have now granddad granddad we love you that's what we all think

very nice we're running out of time mister dunne coming out it's four

o'clock yes it's four o'clock who cares who cares I do because I'm tired and

hungry grandfather you can also say grandpa

there we go Christina says yes my neighbor

bori calls me auntie that's it because you're like the same age as your same

age as that boy's mother but you're not related so yeah auntie yeah yes it is a

term of endearment yes it doesn't sound like it but it is grandmother

grandmother the female parent of your mother or family or father nanny you can

call a nanny as well my nanny which if isn't that a female goat I think it is a

female goat is also called nanny or of course nan your grandmother another song

another song she comes to my house she smells like the Laughing tree have we

had an T or armed have we had that one mr. Jenkin we have thought we had mother

says what about oh it's just getting Steve nephew what about nephew we had

that yes Justin yeah good step parent it gets really complicated now Steve we

really do need to concentrate so your step parent is a non blood

relative with parental control so maybe you have a step mother or a step father

yes so if your if your father remarried mm-hmm and had a new wife a new one

would be the stepmother so biologically your father is your biological relative

but your mother has gone somewhere else and you have a new mother or you could

have a new or they could have got divorced couldn't

known died sadly died man yes more than likely divorced

more than likely divorced and of course that causes all sorts of problems

doesn't it it does children yes stepparents we often think of the evil

stepmother mother-in-law father and I'm sure that's coming yes way there Steve

I'm having enough enough trouble keeping track of all these words Oh Steve now is

it true that your mother used to say to you that you were adopted

that you were found on the doorstep by the milkman is it true no it isn't true

so it isn't true that Steve was adopted I've been tested he wasn't found on the

doorstep by the milkman definitely not so adopted a child taken in to a family

and treated as a son or daughter with most of the legal rights of a blood

relative so if you adopt a child you take them in and you treat them as if

they were your own blood relative so for whatever reason their biological parents

decided that they didn't want to keep them and they gave them up for adoption

yet probably at an agency and it's a very good way quite often people who

don't you can't have children of their own for whatever reason will adopt a

child and we all know that it's very important that children grow up with

parents so they can have a stable upbringing and then all the rights and

wrongs properly of growing up so yes adoption mmm-hmm so if you adopt a child

you take them into your family as if they are your Tomic Tomic own what about

a MILF says okay look Steve Steve P but after all okay you know when I lose my

youtube partnership and I have have no means of supporting myself you

will have to become my sugar daddy I hope you realize that

oh here we go Oh Steve where do I start with this one

well I think I'll leave you at this point mr. difficut I'll go and put the

kettle on okay no basically that please don't

leave me don't leave me a surrogate mother so this is something that happens

a lot nowadays so we had adoption now a lot of a lot of famous people adopt

children don't know I think Madonna has adopted some children I think also I

want to say Angelina Jolie I think she has adopted children with Brad Pitt

adopted or surrogate no adopted okay no and yes I'll take that off adopted and

now surrogate mother this is very complex and this is something that does

happen a lot I think it happens more in the states in the United States than

here a woman who bears a woman who bears a child on behalf of another woman

either from her own egg fertilized by the other woman's partner or from the

implantation in her uterus of a fertilized egg from

the other woman so that is a surrogate mother right often money would exchange

hands well yes so you would if for example a woman couldn't bear a child of

her own but wanted a child then you could ask somebody or pay somebody else

to to actually carry that child for you yes I would imagine that there was there

is always some some form of payment I would imagine money is is often

confused or involved oh here we go Steve this is this is more up our road here we

go okay a lover partner so we are talking about a romantic or sexual

relations ship without marriage so you have a

lover you take in a lover you live with someone without getting married many

years ago here in England and in the UK it was very much forbidden to live with

someone as if you were married it was really really frowned upon yes people

disagreed with it even right up until the 1960s

yeah well 70s even it was you know very much found upon I remember my I remember

growing up in a pond let me say friend upon we mean that it's unacceptable in

society and people whisper and talk yes I remember growing up in the seventies

and the neighbors were always talking about people who were living in sin yes

they were living in sin because they were living together they were having

relation relations or a relationship and they weren't married so yes they would

say that they were living in sin yes because if in in in our country

traditionally you always got married in the eyes of God in a church okay well so

if you didn't do that if you are having sexual relations and you weren't married

that was a sin yes so if you lived in sin I used to say you were living in sin

of course now hmm doesn't matter in fact if you were at school as a child

I remember when I grew up at school in the seventies you would know if there

were children who where their parents weren't married and it was talked about

and whispered about in in disparaging ways and quite often those children

would have a very hard time at school from other children because they would

ridicule them and call them all sorts of nasty names because their parents

weren't married and that was only in the night still in the 1970s now of course

probably the majority of people aren't married the children probably most of

them come from relationships where the parents aren't

married I would say I bet it's 5050 would you yes yes it's not by the way

that's not an official so I'm just saying whether that's right or wrong

we're not judging anything Steve doesn't know I don't know and it was save

certainly children at school now then where their parents aren't married would

not have a hard time at school now okay it would not be frowned as I just have

this wonderful image of God watching people in bed together and and trying to

find out if they were married or not so there they are in bed having relations a

little bit of fun slap and tickle are we done mr. Dannon and God's

watching like a peeping tom dating or going steady if you are dating or going

steady you are seeing someone romantically however you are not married

to them maybe you are engaged if you are engaged then it means you are intending

to get married you will get married so at the moment you are engaged to be

married yes it's a method of making sure your partner doesn't wander off with

anybody else yeah you get engaged but you you've got to have a period of time

to plan to get married and you're effectively saying I'm off the market

nobody else gonna have me I'm engaged effort and of course married you are

legally bound as husband and wife some people prefer or okay oh well you

can you can get married as a same-sex partnership now you don't have to be

married to somebody the opposite so what are you saying a man can marry another

man but we know that mr. Duncan is now legal in a lot of countries that's

disgustingly in this country to a woman to a woman you can actually get married

marriage yeah so the civil partnership which is where you okay what a civil

partnership is where you are legally you can inherit when somebody

dies all sorts of things like that marriage is more I think the main

difference is I think marriage still means if you get married that is still a

religious ceremony yeah so that's that's the definition is a thing about that's

why people didn't want gay people to get married you see because they said that

well God God doesn't like gays anyway and and that's it you see so if you're

getting married in front of God and you're gay he's gonna go no I don't

think so I'm not no get out get out of quite often as well the word lover is

described it can be used to describe somebody who's having an illicit

relationship outside so they could be married but they've got a lover as well

so they have somebody else who they're in a relationship with a sexual

relationship with but so they're having so that would be an affair

marital extramarital affair okay but you've described that other person

you're having that affair with as a lover so you've got two lovers there

personally married to and somebody else okay I did not understand any of that

don't can are we finished yet yes nearly well it's your fault you cannot do any

work you've got to get through these words that's it you can't go now until

you are legally bound you are legally bound to stay here until the end so

there you go you signed the contract single a lot of people these days Steve

prefer to stay single and unmarried ah sensible people well very sensible

people maybe stay single stay unmarried so a lot of people do choose these days

to stay unmarried if you say you're single it means you're not in a

relationship with anyone at all yes whereas if you say you're unmarried

you could be in a relationship with somebody yeah you're just not married

yes you could be living in sin so sink or well let's not use that phrase

anymore mister single just means you are not in a

relationship with anybody you could be single yeah so exactly so they're two

different words oh here's a couple of good ones Bachelor old-fashioned words

so these are quite old-fashioned words in fact one of these words is quite

offensive nowadays it's used as an offensive word Bachelor is generally

used to name an unmarried man so he is a bachelor oh I am a bachelor boy and

that's the way I'll stay and usually that's somebody who's not a young person

that would be somebody maybe in their forties in the forties or fifties yes a

bachelors an unmarried man which is often seen by a lot of women is a very

attractive thing because that man is seen to be maybe available particularly

if he's got a good job nice big house something like that yes then he might be

sought after by women yes well there are lots of reality TV shows where a man who

is a bachelor but maybe he is also a millionaire now can I just say I never

believed that a single man who is a millionaire will be actually single I

think they just pretend to be single for the television cameras also we have this

word spinster now in the past this would be used to describe a woman normally a

woman of a certain age and older woman who is unmarried however nowadays it is

often used as an insult or in a spiteful way so we don't often use this word

anymore unless we are being cruel to someone or using it negatively yes it's

interesting that Bachelor isn't a negative word if a man is unmarried

hmm and you say he's a bachelor there's no negative association with that hmm

whereas if you use the word spinster mm-hmm that means that's often that

often if you say at all about a woman she's a spinster that often denotes the

fact that she's there's something wrong with her

yes that's it she's attractive and therefore something yes

and she never got married for some bizarre reason he would never

use bachelor doesn't mean that there's something wrong with that man like mrs.

Havisham from is it Great Expectations where there's that poor that poor lady

that was left at the altar and she lives alone in the house surrounded by all of

the dust in the dirt and her wedding cake is still there and she wears her

wedding dress every day and she still yearns for that that man who who left

her hit the the church yes it's funny how how they both mean the same thing

but one has negative associations with it and the other one doesn't

hmm anyway another one anymore mr. Duncan we've only got another 35 no can

I go you want to go well it looks like you've gone already right there do you

want to go Steve I will finish off okay I'm going to finish off I will close the

store I will bring the shutters down on today's live stream in a few moments

thank you Steve for joining us that's our everyone and hopefully see

you next week I think a lot of people love seeing you here and I love seeing

you here these are here I know you also to be an expert in something in some

field you can be a bachelor as well a degree oh yes yeah yeah yes yes Bachelor

of Science yes so it's it's a high diploma or a high standard of education

that's right yes you're an expert you are you have a bachelor's degree again

positive associations with that word but not with spinster but you don't have a

spinsters degree nobody uses spinster any more age only only people of a

certain age over over the age of 60 remove that word from your brain yeah

but if you hear it yeah bye bye see you next week bye Steve I think Steve had

had enough fair Oh

he's collapsed on the floor Steve's on the floor I think I better call an

ambulance I think Steve is going back outside now to do some more gardening

thank you Steve wasn't that interesting today we had so

many words to get through today hello to Marina also know where me thank you very

much for your company today by the way there are many other words we can use

for wife here are some interesting words that we can use to describe our wife for

example you can say the dragon oh dear or the old dear she who must be obeyed

the old ball-and-chain and the missus the missus which is often used in

cockney rhyming slang or in cockney general a certain type of English used

in London and we can also have slang for husband we can say the old man where is

the old man today oh he's at home watching the football the hubby your

hubby can be your husband the hubby maybe you can use his lordship

sarcastically so maybe someone will ask a woman Oh where's his lordship tonight

where is he and she'll say Oh his lordship he's at home watching the

football or of course the man of the house as well can be described as the

husband the slang term for partner is the other half the other half is the

slang term for partner your partner is the other half the other half the word

friend by the way because we are talking about relationships and friend or

friendship is one of them the word friend originates from the indo-european

root to love which it shares with the word free did you know that very

interesting piece of information sometimes like to bring these

interesting facts to your doorstep we could also have lots of friend synonyms

or terms that mean friend pal buddy Chum mate best friend buddy someone is your

friend also that's what I used earlier honesty honesty is the thing that I

mentioned earlier and I think it's the most important part of any relationship

if you want to have a relationship that is successful and goes on forever and

ever you need honesty you really do thanks for your company today it is

almost time for me to go we have been here for two hours and 18 minutes can

you believe it a very long one today thank you very much Christina Corey also

Palmyra thanks a lot for joining me today

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thank you very much for your company today wow so many people on the live

chat today Jamelia says what about wifey wifey yes

I suppose you could say wifey the wifey hello - Cristina again thank you very

much for your lovely lovely comments please don't stop this argument it is

very interesting I am making all the girls in the chat my enemies for my

ideas about relationships says satury no I think so we've had a very lively

discussion today and of course once mr. Steve gets involved anything and I mean

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