How NOT to Fail in English

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Accent's Way English with Hadar


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Hey, what's up, it's Hadar and this is the Accent's Way.
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Today we are going to talk about 'Why English Learners Fail'.
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Okay, well, I don't mean fail like
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'can't learn English at all'
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'can't read and write'
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All that.
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But by fail, I mean they fail to reach the next level.
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They fail to get off the hamster wheel of learning, and studying and speaking, yet not seeing satisfying results.
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The reason why English learners fail is because of their beliefs.
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Their beliefs that lead them to either take the right action or not take action at all.
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A belief is a thought that is rooted in your brain so deeply until it becomes a reality.
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You can have empowering belief, for example
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'No matter what happens I will succeed.'
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Or you can have a limiting belief
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'I'm a failure, I'll never be able to do anything'.
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Whatever that belief is, it is what leads us to either move forward or stay stuck in life.
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And today I'm going to talk about the five limiting beliefs that prevent my students from mastering spoken English
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and speaking English with clarity and confidence.
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Belief number one:
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In order to master spoken English I have to practice hours on end
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and spend a lot of money and I just can't afford it.
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Well, is that really true?
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Think of all the hours that you've put in during your studies in high school...
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or afterwards.
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Has that led you to where you want to be?
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When you did invest a lot of hours learning something
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is the time investment that you've put in equaled your success?
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Or has it been like this, you're investing more, and more, and more, and more time, but your success or your
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achievements are still pretty low and mediocre.
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And what about this?
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Has that ever happened to you, where you watched a YouTube video, whether it was about English
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or about something else that interests you, and it completely blew your mind.
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And you learned so much about English, or about anything else, in those 3-4 minutes.
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Right, so maybe it is possible to learn something in just a few minutes that may change
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how you speak, how you hear things, how you sound?
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So maybe it's not about time equals progress.
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Maybe it's all about how committed you are to learning what you need to learn
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and how good the content that you're consuming is.
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The next thing that might be preventing you from improving is the belief that
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if you don't live in an English-speaking country you will never be able to really master spoken English.
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But do you really know that to be true?
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I mean, how many people do you know that have lived in the US for example, for many, many years
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and still struggle with their spoken English.
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They're still unclear. They still make mistakes. They haven't mastered spoken English.
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Or on the contrary, do you know of anyone, even one person, that has never
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lived in an English-speaking country yet was able to master his or her English?
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Like Anna, for example.
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Anna is a student of mine and she's also a youtuber with a successful YouTube channel called
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'English Fluency Journey'
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Anna has always lived in Ukraine and has never left Ukraine, and yet she was able to master
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her spoken English, to a degree where she is now influencing thousands of people
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and she teaches English, how incredible is that?
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And that is without ever living in an English-speaking country.
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So here's a proof why this belief is not a fact, it's not reality.
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And if it doesn't apply to her it doesn't apply to you too.
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There are ways to immerse yourself in English
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even if you don't live in an English-speaking country, as long as you have access to technology.
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Which if you're watching me right now, you do!
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So, all you need to do is: do the work and commit to it.
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And you'll find a way to immerse yourself in English and improve tremendously.
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Another limiting belief that might be holding you back from really getting to the next level is
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the belief that your spoken English will improve only when you perfect your grammar.
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Really?
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How many people do you know that have perfect grammar?
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Maybe they are teachers or translators or just people who know how to read and write really, really well
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but they still struggle with speaking English with clarity and with confidence.
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Maybe they're afraid to speak because they're afraid of feeling like a fraud.
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So perfect grammar is not the secret to mastering spoken English
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to feeling the ultimate confidence in speaking.
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Do you know of good speakers, people who have good spoken English, yet they still make grammar mistakes?
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I know one.
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I make mistakes. Sometimes I make grammar mistakes as I'm making my videos.
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Sometimes when I'm teaching people, high-level, executives, and I make mistakes, and you know what?
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That doesn't bother me, because I'm still able to convey my message and usually they don't even notice.
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Even native speakers make mistakes.
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So imperfect grammar is not a good enough reason to prevent you from being the speaker that you want to be.
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And that perfectionism is just an excuse to not invest the work that you really need to invest
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in order to speak the way you want to speak.
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And what about this? I can't improve my accent or spoken English because I can't hear it.
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I don't notice the different sounds, therefore I will never be able to make it.
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If someone were to sing your favorite song, and they would go off-key, you'd immediately pick it up.
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Or if you were to sit in a busy restaurant and everyone would be like talking, and yelling, and laughing
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and then someone would call your name from the end of the restaurant, the back of the restaurant...
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Would you notice it?
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Because your brain puts the focus or your brain processes the familiar things.
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Your name.
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The song.
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You're aware of those things, you are able to hear those things because your brain processes them.
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These are familiar things.
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When you're saying to yourself
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'I can't hear it.'
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then your brain shuts down and you really cannot hear it.
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Your brain will not register anything, because that's it. You close that door.
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However, if you're open to listening, to understanding, to paying attention to things that don't exist
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in your language, that's when you start hearing it.
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This is why in my programs, in my online course working with students I always coach them
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to hear those sounds first.
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They need to be able to perceive them before they can make them and will learn how to hear them
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through listening exercises and physical exercises of pronouncing these sounds until it registers.
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And you know it takes time to change all those habits, but it's possible.
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The most important thing is that you're open to it and that you are really working at hearing those differences.
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So don't use this excuse of
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'I just can't hear it'
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to get you off the hook from doing the work in order to improve your spoken English.
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And in order to master your spoken English, it has to go through pronunciation.
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You have to know the sounds, you have to hear them, you have to know how to use them...
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You have to know where to put the stress, cause then you have the power of speech.
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And I think for me that was an essential step in mastering my spoken English, my confidence
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and my fluency.
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The last thing is saying to yourself the phrase 'English is so hard'.
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Nod your head if you've ever said that.
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Well...
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Yes, maybe English is tricky, and funny, and strange, and so many irregular verbs
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and the pronunciation doesn't match the spelling, but...
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If you keep thinking of it as hard, your brain will not be willing to learn.
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You would always give it the excuse for not working hard to really figure it out.
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Okay.
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When you say to yourself
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'I can't do it'
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'It's too hard'
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then your brain will not be receptive.
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You will not have that exciting feeling that gives you the motivation to learn and to take action.
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When you feel depressed about the language, when you feel that it's impossible
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'Because it's so hard'
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it generates negative emotions, it generates this frustration and stress
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and from that state, who wants to take action? Who wants to open books?
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Or open YouTube and start learning and speaking out loud. Who wants to start recording themselves?
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Not me... not from a place of depression, but when I reframe it and I say
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'English is exciting'
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'English will get me places'
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'If I change my English, I change my circumstances.'
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That's when it becomes exciting, and from that place, being excited, and happy, and motivated...
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That's the place where you take action and you take the right action.
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And again, this is why in my programs the mindset and the understanding of your state of being
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is crucial for learning effectively.
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And not wasting hours and hours learning things that won't get you results.
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So to wrap it up let's go over all the five beliefs that we talked about.
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One, 'I don't live in an English-speaking country. Therefore, I can't improve.'
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Two, 'In order to improve my English I will need to invest many, many hours and lots of money.'
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Three, 'I can't hear it therefore, I can't say it.'
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Four, 'In order to improve my spoken English I first need to perfect my grammar.'
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And five, 'English is so hard.'
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Which one of those are you guilty of?
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What thoughts have crossed your mind in the past few years trying to learn and to improve?
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And what is the one thing you are going to take from this video?
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Let me know in the comments below. Also, I wanted to invite you to my online program Accent Makeover.
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I open doors to this program twice a year, and we are about to start in just a few days.
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Accent Makeover is a transformational program that is aimed at taking you from point A, where you are now
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to point B, where you want to be.
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With a step by step guide, with support, and feedback, and guidance.
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Telling you what exactly you need to do every single day...
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And what to focus on, so you don't waste your time learning things that are unnecessary for you.
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In this program, I will teach you how to coach yourself, how to start detecting your mistakes
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and how to change that, because we believe that instead of giving you fish, in that feedback
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that you're looking for, we will teach you how to fish.
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How to know whether or not you're pronouncing something correctly and then...
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You will always have it, even when you're not in the program.
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My students say it's a transformational program, and the best part about it is that once you join
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you get lifetime access, so you are always my student, you're always a part of the family.
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So if you like my videos I think you should definitely come and check out.
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And I will help you how to get from the speaker that you are today, stuck on that hamster wheel
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to the speaker that you want to be, that speaks English, with confidence, with clarity...
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And without the self-doubt that you might be experiencing now every time you speak English.
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So if you're serious about seeing results this year still in 2019, then come check out
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theaccentsway.com/course
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I'm gonna put a link below and I'm inviting you to join and if you're watching it after the course has started
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get yourself on the wait list and I will notify you when the next round starts.
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In the meantime have a beautiful, beautiful day and I will see you next week in the next video.
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