Better English Conversations - Do this to improve your Speaking Skills!

Hello! I'm Emma. I am from mmmEnglish.

In this lesson, you will be taught how to improve your

conversation skills.

Wait, wait, wait. Let me try that again.

Hey there I'm Emma from mmmEnglish.

In this video I'm going to help you to have better

English conversations by giving you a few tips

to help you improve your speaking skills.

Now you can use these tips to have really interesting,

fun conversations

and if you're someone who likes getting to know people

and if you want to improve your English

by having longer, more meaningful conversations

then this lesson is for you.

I've also put together a really fun challenge

and I'm going to tell you all about it at the end of this video

so make sure you keep watching.

And remember to like the video, hit that subscribe button.

Let's get into it!

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Have you ever been part of a conversation with someone

where it feels like they just can't wait to leave?

You know they're looking around

like they want to run away or what's happening outside

the window is way more interesting than what you're saying.

Maybe there's a lot of

sighing.

Oh my goodness, it is so uncomfortable

but whose fault is this?

Do you remember at the beginning of this video?

Let's recap.

Hello, I'm Emma.

I am from mmmEnglish.

That was all my fault.

It was pretty dull. Did you notice that I used

more formal language when I spoke?

I said hello instead of my usual hey

and I added some unnecessary pauses instead of just

allowing the sentence to flow.

I used the passive voice instead of the active voice.

My tone was flat and monotonous and I had little facial expression

but when I changed the greeting to something more relaxed

and conversational, the mood completely changed, didn't it?

It went from being stiff and formal to being relaxed and fun.

When I changed from a passive voice to an active voice

it helped you to feel more involved

like we were going to be doing this, working on this together

and we are.

All of these are really small subtle changes but they can make a

big difference when you're speaking.

So I'm going to show you a few common phrases, maybe a little

dull phrases and responses

and then give you a few tips on how you can

improve them, how you can make your conversations

more engaging, fun

and help people to really love speaking with you.

So a really common question, one that you have to answer

all the time is "How are you?" but if you respond with

"I'm fine"

Well you're not really making anyone want to hang around and talk

with you, right? So a better way to respond might be

"I'm great, thanks!

I went to the spa today and had a lovely time. How about you?"

But why is the second response so much better?

I'll tell you.

It is so hard to have a good conversation with someone

if you are responding with just two words

and these two words are said so often

there is nothing interesting or inspiring about the conversation

and no desire to continue right? But remember,

our goal is to have great English conversations.

You want to invite that person to keep speaking with you.

I also added some extra details and asked a follow-on question

which gives them a chance to respond to you. I also used a really

easy going friendly tone, I had a smile on my face.

It gets the conversation off to a great start.

All right what about those times when someone tells you about

something that they've done, something really fun

and you do think that it's great. So you probably know,

you've got heaps of responses up your sleeve. You could say

"That's cool"

"Well that's nice"

But then they look at you and the conversation sort of

dies down a little.

You didn't really say anything wrong but

maybe they were hoping you were more enthusiastic

and don't forget you really did think their story was great

so perhaps a better thing to say might be

"Ahh, that's wonderful. When did you start doing that?"

So why shouldn't you say that's cool or that's nice

or that's good but they're just words that are used way too often.

They can be used for almost anything.

People get a little bit bored of hearing them.

So in this case because you were so impressed or you were so

interested or excited about what they had to say,

we've got to level up our language to help show that

enthusiasm.

You want to use more interesting adjectives like

incredible, wonderful

or my favourite that I use all the time is epic.

Now epic is a little more casual than the other options but

it really does help to show your enthusiasm.

Now with all of these responses

we want to make sure you've got a positive enthusiastic tone,

you're excited, right?

So get ready to practise after me.

Wow! That's incredible! When did you start doing that?

Nicely said!

Okay so imagine this.

You're sitting down with your colleague at lunch and you can't

wait to tell them about this crazy dream that you've had.

You start talking about the dungeons and the dragons and the

frogs with wings and fairies that barked but then you notice

they're actually staring off into the distance and they're not really

interested at all. I mean, you've been talking about this in a great

amount of detail for maybe five minutes now.

But they're not really paying any attention.

All right so if you want to have a great conversation with someone,

telling them a long story about your crazy wild dream is probably

not gonna help you get there. It's better to keep your story short

and to involve them in some way.

Ask for their opinion about it, get them in on the discussion.

I dreamt about barking fairies last night. It was a little strange.

What do you think it means?

Easy, right?

I mean, they probably won't know what it means but

at least you're not having a one-sided conversation.

You're inviting them in

and that is one of the keys to incredible conversations.

Imagine your flatmate has just told you about

the long day that they've had. They seem really down,

perhaps a little tired. So you say

"Don't worry, just be positive!"

Now I know that you have good intentions with this

but it is a phrase that is used so often,

so often it can kind of seem a little insensitive.

So instead you could say something like

"That sounds like an exhausting day.

Is there anything that I can do to help?"

So the first part of the response expresses empathy, it lets

them know that you understand how they're feeling

and of course,

showing empathy can get someone to open up more.

It lets them know that you care.

When you want to ask about someone's day you might simply say

"How are you?" or "How's it going?"

But you could also try mixing it up a little bit.

Did you have a good day?

I mean people are so accustomed to hearing "How are you?"

that they respond without thinking.

How are you?

I'm fine.

Good, thanks. How are you?

But remember our goal here is great conversations

and making sure our conversation keeps going.

So even if we just change the words a little bit and we

add something a bit more inquisitive, an upbeat tone

then they'll probably change the way that

they respond to you as well.

Hey Emma! How you going?

I'm fine, thanks. And you?

I'm fine too.

Hey Emma! Have you had a good day so far?

Yeah I had a great day! I went to the beach for a swim

and then I've just finished meeting with the mmmEnglish design

team about our new website. How about you?

All right, now I've got a little challenge for you.

You're going to hear

three different contexts or different examples of things that people

might say to you and I want you to think about

the best way to respond in order to keep the conversation going.

Try to think of

fun, interesting and engaging ways to continue the conversation.

Ready?

So your friend asks you about a movie that you saw last night.

It was a movie that you absolutely loved

and you really enjoyed the acting.

What kind of thing could you say?

So I might say:

It was fantastic! I really loved the actors.

So when someone asks you a question like this,

try to change up the words that you use.

Give a little bit more detail to keep things interesting.

Now imagine your friend tried skydiving for the first time.

What would you say to them when they told you

about what they did over the weekend?

I'd say:

That's epic! What was it like?

Now the word epic is way cooler than cool.

It's not said as often so it's more fun and engaging and meaningful

and asking that follow-on question helps to keep the conversation

going, doesn't it?

Okay how about this scenario?

Your friend has just told you that they received a low score

on their IELTS test. What would you say?

I'd say:

IELTS exams are so tough.

I'm sure many people feel the same way.

What can I do to help you feel better?

When a friend is feeling down or they've had some bad luck,

showing empathy and offering to help

shows them that you're listening,

it also invites the conversation to keep going, right?

Definitely don't show up telling them what they should have done

or how they could have done it better.

That's not very helpful at all.

So that's five boring, dull expressions out the window and

five new phrases and tips to keep your conversations going,

to keep them interesting.

I hope that this video helps you to have longer, more meaningful,

more interesting conversations in English.

And if you want to keep building your vocabulary to have these

great conversations then these videos right here

will help you to do exactly that.

Make sure you hit subscribe and I will see you in the next lesson.

Bye for now!