How to Express Appreciation in English | 6 Ways to Encourage Others

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Have you ever wondered what it is that makes our words so powerful?
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How can they have such a strong impact on others? In his book,
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the Seven Habits of Highly Effective People,
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Stephen Covey has a quote that just might explain this. He says,
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next to physical survival,
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the greatest need of a human being is psychological survival.
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To be understood, to be affirmed, to be validated,
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and to be appreciated. Think about that for a moment.
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With the power of your words,
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you have the ability to motivate and inspire your coworkers.
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You can make your best friend smile on her worst day,
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and you can support a family member in a meaningful way as they make a
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decision during a particularly difficult time. Most importantly,
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you can give someone else the gift of knowing you,
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understand you see, and you value them.
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When you express sincere appreciation,
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such words might come easily to you in your native language,
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but if you've ever struggled to find the right words in English to
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express genuine appreciation or sincere encouragement,
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this lesson will help.
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I want to share with you six different ways you can express sincere appreciation
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in English, and of course, along the way,
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I'll provide examples with seven real-world scenarios.
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By the end,
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you'll know exactly how to lift others up with your words of appreciation
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and encouragement in English.
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First, if you don't already know, I'm Annemarie with Speak Confident English.
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Everything I do is designed to help you get the confidence you want for your
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life and work in English.
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One way I do that is with my weekly Confident English lessons where I focus on
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targeted English topics including communication training,
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just like in this lesson today. So while you're here,
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make sure you subscribe to the Speak Confident English YouTube channel so you
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never miss one of my Confident English lessons.
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Before we get into six different ways to express sincere appreciation in
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English, let's talk about a few dos and don'ts.
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We'll start with three don'ts and then I'll share what to do instead.
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Number one,
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don't be vague or ambiguous in your appreciation.
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Appreciation that is vague is appreciation that isn't specific
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or personalized to an individual, and as a result,
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it can sound disingenuous, for example,
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rather than using some general statements such as great job,
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it's better to include what exactly someone did well,
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why are you telling them that they've done a great job?
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The second don't on this list is don't overuse Superlatives.
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Superlatives are extreme adjectives used in extraordinary
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situations such as amazing, incredible,
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or awesome. These words certainly are meaningful,
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but when they're overused, they lose their power.
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And lastly,
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don't make impersonal statements similar to avoiding
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vague language.
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Words of encouragement that lack a personal touch or
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that aren't tailored to a specific individual can sound hollow and
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be easily forgotten. So with those three don'ts in mind,
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let's talk about what to do instead.
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So you're able to express meaningful,
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genuine appreciation and encouragement. In English.
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Here we have just one do.
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Do focus on or consider how you want someone to feel
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after they receive your words of appreciation. For example,
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if you want someone to feel valued,
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make sure that your words highlight in what way that individual is
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valuable to you or what have they done? What have they said?
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What character trait do they consistently demonstrate that you value?
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Or perhaps you want someone to feel seen,
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which means that they are noticed, understood,
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and recognized to make someone feel seen.
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You might acknowledge an area of difficulty or something painful that
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they're experiencing, and again,
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add on what you appreciate in how they're handling that
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situation.
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Or maybe you want someone to feel uplifted to do this.
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You would want to make sure your statements provide support to that
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individual. With all of this in mind,
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let's get started with our first of six ways to express sincere
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appreciation and encouragement. Number one, highlight their impact.
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If someone did or said something that had a positive impact,
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you can let them know using one of these three sentence structures thanks
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to you or because of you,
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and then add the outcome or positive consequence of that
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individual's actions or words. A second option,
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you made me smile when you said,
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add in the quote and then finish with a thank you or number three,
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I appreciate that you, and then again,
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highlight what that individual said or did. Let's take a look at an example.
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Imagine a parent's efforts at your child's school helped your child
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avoid a health scare to thank that parent. You might say,
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because of you,
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I'm able to send my child to school without worrying about a severe allergic
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reaction. Thank you so much.
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The second way to show appreciation and encouragement is to
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appreciate someone's efforts,
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particularly during a difficult or challenging situation.
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To do this effectively, we need to do two things. Number one,
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acknowledge or recognize the specific area of difficulty or
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the pain points someone is experiencing,
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and then add on your appreciation for their
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continued effort to do this.
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Here are three sentence structures you can use. Number one,
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I know you're doing the best you can,
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and I appreciate that you haven't given up or you could change that just a bit
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to, I appreciate that you never give up. Number two, I know X,
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the situation is hard right now and I appreciate that
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your Y.
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You can add in what that person is doing or recognize
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that they are continuing to take action, and number three,
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thank you for always x highlight what they're doing
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despite Y,
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despite the challenging situation or the difficulty. For example,
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let's say you have a coworker who is dealing with a particularly difficult
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client right now, you know she's feeling discouraged and frustrated,
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so you want to show some appreciation. You could do that by saying,
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I know things are tough right now with this particular client,
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and I appreciate your continued efforts to really understand what they need
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so that they're satisfied with their service. Now,
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if you feel particularly thrilled or appreciative of someone's efforts,
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you could certainly add in more powerful or superlative language. For example,
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wow, I'm blown away by the way you've handled X,
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so the situation or difficulty,
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or you're doing exceptionally well with X the situation,
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and I know you're going to succeed.
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Let's go back to that example of a coworker dealing with a difficult client.
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Let's imagine that whatever the situation might have been,
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it has come to a conclusion and in the end,
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the customer were satisfied to express your appreciation to your coworker.
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You might say, wow,
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I am totally blown away by how patiently you handled that
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client's demands.
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I know it wasn't easy and I admire your determination.
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The third way you can express your appreciation and encouragement is to cheer
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someone on. In other words, provide encouragement.
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When someone has worked hard or is continuing to work hard,
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especially if they're starting to feel a bit discouraged,
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here are four ways you can do that. Good luck with X,
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good luck with the situation, and I know you will succeed in Y.
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What will their ultimate outcome be? Number two,
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you're so talented at,
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and then let them know in what way they're talented and then continue with,
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and I can see that you're getting better every day. Number three,
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in the beginning,
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you x highlight maybe an area of struggle or difficulty
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and now you Y. What are they doing now?
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What has improved or gotten better? And then end with a supportive comment.
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I have no doubt that you can, and then again,
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highlight the ultimate outcome. And lastly, you've got this.
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I know you can do it. Let's look at one of these. In a real life situation,
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imagine you have a friend who has been working particularly hard on
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improving her English speaking skills,
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and right now she's feeling a bit stuck to encourage her.
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You might say in the beginning,
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you struggled with clearly sharing your opinions in English,
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and now I see you confidently sharing your ideas with others.
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I have no doubt that you'll be able to clearly express your ideas
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in the next business meeting.
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Fourth on our list is tell them that you're thinking about them.
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Never underestimate the power of a simple text message, a quick email,
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a handwritten note or a voice memo,
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letting someone know that they are on your mind.
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You can even remove any pressure for them to respond by using
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statements such as, I wanted to let you know,
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I'm thinking about you and I know you will X.
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You can add in what you know they will accomplish or do or
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succeed in in the days ahead. A second option,
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you don't have to answer or say anything.
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I just want you to know that you're in my thoughts. And lastly,
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just a little reminder that I'm proud of you and to keep doing what you're
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doing. Imagine for a moment, a friend of yours had her own business,
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but something recently happened and she has lost that business.
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You don't want to overwhelm her or bombard her with messages,
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but you do want her to feel supported.
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You can let her know by saying there's no need for you to respond.
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I just want you to know that I'm thinking about you and I know you will pull
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through this.
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The phrasalverb to pull through means to get through an illness,
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a difficult or dangerous situation.
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The fifth way we can show appreciation and encouragement is to show
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solidarity. In other words, letting someone know that they are not alone,
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especially after they've shared with you some of their innermost
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thoughts and shown vulnerability.
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Here are three sentence structures you can use to show solidarity.
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I know it wasn't easy to say this.
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Thank you for trusting me and sharing this with me. Number two,
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I'm so glad we can share this moment together, and number three,
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I'm grateful we can talk about this with each other.
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If you have a son or daughter,
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imagine your child is experiencing some difficulty learning a new subject at
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school,
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your child opens up to you and lets you know how she's really been
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feeling as part of your response in appreciating their openness
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and showing solidarity, you could say, I know it wasn't easy to talk about this.
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Thank you for trusting me and sharing with me how you're feeling about this
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class. And now number six on our list,
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reveal what you admire the most.
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Sometimes we can be our own worst critics,
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and that's exactly why eye-opening compliments can resonate
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so deeply. Whether you're aiming to show appreciation,
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encouraging someone, or simply complimenting a friend,
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you can do that by sharing what you admire most about someone.
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And here are three sentence structures that can help.
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Number one x a particular situation could not have been
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easy. I admire your courage and confidence. Number two,
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not everyone can X highlight a particular situation or
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action, and I appreciate that you Y,
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what does that person do that you admire? And number three,
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I admire your X.
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Highlight a quality or characteristic because,
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and then explain why. For example,
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imagine you have a team member who's really struggling at the moment,
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maybe even feeling a bit discouraged,
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but you truly admire this team member and you want them to know.
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You could do that by saying not everyone can understand
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another's perspective.
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I appreciate that you're so empathetic in this lesson today.
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You've learned 21 sentence structures you can use to express
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genuine appreciation in English.
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If you want to spend a little bit more time reviewing these carefully and
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thinking about how you can use these sentence structures,
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I recommend you visit this lesson at the Speak Confident English website where
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I've provided all these examples in writing. With that in mind,
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I'd love for you to practice choose two or three of the sentence structures
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you've learned today and write down genuine words of encouragement or
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appreciation for someone you know. If you're concerned about accuracy,
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you can always share your examples with me.
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The best place to do that is directly in the comments below.
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If you found today's lesson helpful to you, as always, I would love to know.
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You can tell me simply by giving this lesson a thumbs up here on YouTube or
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sharing a comment down below. Thank you so much for joining me,
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and I look forward to seeing you next time.
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