Practice English Conversation to Improve Speaking Skills (Family life) English Conversation Practice

oh hello Ronald are you looking for  my son I will call Ben right now Ben

哦，你好，罗纳德，你在找我儿子吗，我现在就给本打电话，本，

good morning Mr Connor yes  please I need to talk to him

早上好，康纳先生，是的，我需要和他谈谈，

sure he'll be here in a sec oh  sorry I forgot he's not here now

确保他马上就到哦，对不起，我忘了他现在不在，

he went out with some friends didn't he  tell you I thought you were his best friend

他出去带了一些东西朋友他没告诉你吗我以为你是他最好的朋友

oh it's a Pity what happens is that I  lost my cell phone and he couldn't call me

哦很遗憾发生的事情是我的手机丢了他

anyway I'm living then thank you  so much Mr Connor have a nice day

无论如何也不能给我打电话我还活着然后非常感谢康纳先生祝你有愉快的一天

hey wait you don't look good  you're having problems aren't you

嘿，等等，你看起来不太好，你有问题，不是吗？

I can recognize that expression  it's for a woman right I know that

我能认出这是给女人的表情，对，我知道，是

well yeah but I don't want to bother you sir  I wanted to talk to Ben but if he's not here  

的，但我不想打扰你，先生，我想和本谈谈，但如果他不在这里，

all right if you don't want to talk  then that's okay have a great day

如果你不想说话，那没关系，祝你今天愉快，

yeah it's a woman it's my girlfriend we  fight all the time I don't know what to do  

是的，这是一个女人，是我的女朋友，我们一直在吵架，我不知道该怎么办，

I see young couples usually  fight son is it serious

我看到年轻夫妇经常吵架，儿子，这是认真的吗

maybe you can help me Ben told me you and  your wife live happy how do you do that

也许你能帮我 Ben 告诉我你和你的妻子过得很幸福你是怎么做到的

look I'm not an expert but maybe I can give  you some advice about having a relationship

我不是专家但也许我可以给你一些关于 ha 的建议建立关系

it could be an honor to hear that I  really need to solve my couple problems

很荣幸听到我真的需要

well based on my experience the first thing  you have to do is get to know yourself

根据我的经验很好地解决我的夫妻问题 你要做的第一件事就是了解你自己

take the time to appreciate yourself  and get in touch with your emotions

花时间欣赏自己并接触你的情绪

this will help you to be able to express  yourself clearly and more effectively

这将帮助您能够清楚和更有效地表达自己

not knowing how to regulate your emotions  and express them healthily is bad

不知道如何调节自己的情绪并健康地表达它们是不好的

it can negatively affect your mental  well-being couples always forget about that  

它会对您的心理健康产生负面影响 夫妻总是忘记他们只是

they just think about his or her couple and  forget about themselves that's something wrong

想着他或她的夫妻而忘记了关于他们自己，这是错误的

I think I get it you're saying that I should  focus on myself first before my partner

我想我明白你是说我应该先关注自己，

and that's correct because maybe  you are the problem or maybe not but  

然后再关注我的伴侣，这是正确的，因为也许你是问题所在，也许不是，但

you will never know that if you don't get  to know yourself first do you understand

如果你不了解，你永远不会知道你自己首先，你明白

yes I get it that's something  interesting what else sir

吗，是的，我明白了，这很有趣还有什么，先生，

the second thing you must do is keep  expectations realistic all the time

你必须做的第二件事是始终保持现实的期望

no one can be everything we might want them to  be healthy relationships mean accepting people  

没有人可以成为我们希望他们治愈的一切你的人际关系意味着接受人们

as they are and not trying to change them no  accept your couple with her weaknesses too

本来的样子，而不是试图改变他们 不接受你的夫妻也有她的弱点

also talk to each other I know I  know you've heard this before I know

也 互相

communication is essential to healthy  relationships that's the thing

交谈

of course we always talk about our  problems but we end up fighting  

我们总是谈论我们的问题，但我们最终会吵架

that's because you're doing it in the wrong  way this is what you have to do pay attention

那是因为你以错误的方式做事 这是你必须做的 注意

take the time really be there sometimes our  body is there but our mind is at any other place  

花点时间真正在那里 有时我们的身体在那里，但我们的思想在任何其他地方

listen do not interrupt or plan what you're  going to say next please don't do that  

倾听 不要打断或计划你接下来要说的话 请不要那样做

try to fully understand their perspective  and if you understand then ask questions

尝试完全理解他们的观点，如果你理解了然后问问题

show you're interested ask about her  experiences feelings opinions and interests

表明你有兴趣 问她的经历 感受 意见和兴趣

I'll also be flexible it is natural to  feel uneasy about changes it happened to me

我也会要灵活，对发生在我身上的变化感到不安是很自然的

but a healthy relationships allowed  for Change and growth it's part of that

，但健康的关系允许变化和成长，这是其中的一部分

oh and never forget about taking care  of yourself too it's very important

哦 ，永远不要忘记照顾好自己，这非常重要

healthy relationships are mutual with room  for both people needs you have your own needs  

关系是相互的，双方都有空间需要 你有自己的需要

go out with your friends visit your  parents play some sports study something

和你的朋友出去 看望你的父母 参加一些体育运动 学习一些东西 理发

get your hair cut go to a spa or simply do  what you like to do you're not a prisoner

去水疗中心或者只是做你喜欢做的事 你不是囚犯

maybe that's the problem we're spending  too much time together I don't go out alone

也许 这就是我们花了太多时间在一起的

well start doing that then take care  of yourself buddy don't forget that

问题

I'll do that in fact I tried some  of these things but we keep fighting

打架

hmm all right then I'll give  you some tips for those fights

嗯，好吧，那么我会给你一些关于这些打架的提示

look most relationships have some conflict  it only means you disagree about something

看起来大多数人际关系都有一些冲突 这只意味着你不同意某事

it does not have to mean you don't like each  other it just means that you think differently

这不一定意味着你不喜欢对方 这只是意味着你的想法不同

cool down before talking the conversation  will be more productive if you have it when

冷静下来在谈话之前 如果你有谈话会更有成效，当

when your emotions have cooled off a little so  you don't say something you may regret later

你的情绪稍微冷静下来时，你不会说出一些你以后可能会后悔的话，

it really helped me a lot believe me I  also used to fight with my wife before

这真的帮助了我很多，相信我，我以前也曾经和我的妻子

when we were angry we disrespected each other  that was something terrible to hear and see

吵架我们很生气我们不尊重告诉对方那是一件很可怕的事情，

then we started doing what I told you  cool off and everything will be better

然后我们开始做我告诉你的事，冷静下来，一切都会好起来的

also share how you feel and what you  want without assigning blame or motives

还可以分享你的感受和你想要的东西，而不是指责或动机，

for example when you don't call me I  start to feel like you don't care about me

例如当你不打电话给我时，我开始觉得你不关心我，

instead of you never call me  when you're away I guess I'm  

而不是你不在的时候从不打电话给我，我想我我是

the only one who cares about this relationship

唯一关心这段关系的人，

it's very very important to express your feelings  in the right way otherwise she'll misunderstand it

以正确的方式表达你的感受非常重要，否则她会误解它

keep your language clear and specific try  to factually describe behavior that you  

保持你的语言清晰和具体尝试如实描述你

are upset with avoiding criticism and Judgment  of course attacked the problem not the person

不高兴的行为避免批评和判断当然受到攻击问题不是这个人

focus on the current issue the conversation  is likely to get bogged down if you pile on  

关注当前的问题如果你把所有困扰你的事情都堆在一起，谈话可能会陷入困境

everything that bothers you avoid using always  or never language and others one issue at a time

你避免总是或从不使用语言和其他人一次一个问题

and please Ronald take responsibility for mistakes  apologize if you have done something wrong

请罗纳德为错误承担责任如果你有做错了什么

do not ignore your responsibility  do not play the fool do you hear me

不要忽视你的责任

yes sir sometimes it's difficult to  recognize you did something wrong but

不要

I guess I will have to do it I don't want  to break up with her I really love her

装傻不要和她分手 我真的很爱她

I know that if you didn't love her you couldn't  be here listening to me or asking for help

我知道如果你不爱她 你就不能在这里听我说话或寻求帮助

and finally recognize some problems are not easily  solved not all differences or difficulties can be  

最后认识到有些问题不容易解决 并非所有的差异或困难都可以

resolved communication is a good way to solve some  problems but some things are impossible to change

解决沟通是解决一些问题的好方法，但有些事情是不可能改变的

it is important to figure out for  yourself what you can accept or  

重要的是要自己弄清楚你可以接受什么，或者

when a relationship is no longer healthy for you

当一段关系对你来说不再健康时，

sometimes that person is just not for us  and it's difficult to accept that I know

有时那个人不适合我们而且很难接受我知道

I hope it's not your case seriously  I hope you can solve your problems

我希望这不是你的情况我希望你能解决你的问题我希望

I hope so thank you so much sir  you've helped me a lot thank you  

非常感谢你帮助了我很多谢谢你

that's okay and if you want to talk  to someone you can always count on me

没关系如果你想和某人交谈你总是可以指望我

I hope you liked this conversation if you  could improve your English a little more  

希望你喜欢这个对话如果你能再提高一点英语

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请订阅频道并与朋友分享这个视频如果你想

to support this channel you can join  us or click on the super thanks button  

支持这个频道你可以加入我们或点击超级感谢按钮

thank you very much for your support take care

非常感谢亩ch 为了你的支持保重