Practice English Conversation to Improve Speaking Skills (Family life) English Conversation Practice

oh hello Ronald are you looking for  my son I will call Ben right now Ben

good morning Mr Connor yes  please I need to talk to him

sure he'll be here in a sec oh  sorry I forgot he's not here now

he went out with some friends didn't he  tell you I thought you were his best friend

oh it's a Pity what happens is that I  lost my cell phone and he couldn't call me

anyway I'm living then thank you  so much Mr Connor have a nice day

hey wait you don't look good  you're having problems aren't you

I can recognize that expression  it's for a woman right I know that

well yeah but I don't want to bother you sir  I wanted to talk to Ben but if he's not here  

all right if you don't want to talk  then that's okay have a great day

yeah it's a woman it's my girlfriend we  fight all the time I don't know what to do  

I see young couples usually  fight son is it serious

maybe you can help me Ben told me you and  your wife live happy how do you do that

look I'm not an expert but maybe I can give  you some advice about having a relationship

it could be an honor to hear that I  really need to solve my couple problems

well based on my experience the first thing  you have to do is get to know yourself

take the time to appreciate yourself  and get in touch with your emotions

this will help you to be able to express  yourself clearly and more effectively

not knowing how to regulate your emotions  and express them healthily is bad

it can negatively affect your mental  well-being couples always forget about that  

they just think about his or her couple and  forget about themselves that's something wrong

I think I get it you're saying that I should  focus on myself first before my partner

and that's correct because maybe  you are the problem or maybe not but  

you will never know that if you don't get  to know yourself first do you understand

yes I get it that's something  interesting what else sir

the second thing you must do is keep  expectations realistic all the time

no one can be everything we might want them to  be healthy relationships mean accepting people  

as they are and not trying to change them no  accept your couple with her weaknesses too

also talk to each other I know I  know you've heard this before I know

communication is essential to healthy  relationships that's the thing

of course we always talk about our  problems but we end up fighting  

that's because you're doing it in the wrong  way this is what you have to do pay attention

take the time really be there sometimes our  body is there but our mind is at any other place  

listen do not interrupt or plan what you're  going to say next please don't do that  

try to fully understand their perspective  and if you understand then ask questions

show you're interested ask about her  experiences feelings opinions and interests

I'll also be flexible it is natural to  feel uneasy about changes it happened to me

but a healthy relationships allowed  for Change and growth it's part of that

oh and never forget about taking care  of yourself too it's very important

healthy relationships are mutual with room  for both people needs you have your own needs  

go out with your friends visit your  parents play some sports study something

get your hair cut go to a spa or simply do  what you like to do you're not a prisoner

maybe that's the problem we're spending  too much time together I don't go out alone

well start doing that then take care  of yourself buddy don't forget that

I'll do that in fact I tried some  of these things but we keep fighting

hmm all right then I'll give  you some tips for those fights

look most relationships have some conflict  it only means you disagree about something

it does not have to mean you don't like each  other it just means that you think differently

cool down before talking the conversation  will be more productive if you have it when

when your emotions have cooled off a little so  you don't say something you may regret later

it really helped me a lot believe me I  also used to fight with my wife before

when we were angry we disrespected each other  that was something terrible to hear and see

then we started doing what I told you  cool off and everything will be better

also share how you feel and what you  want without assigning blame or motives

for example when you don't call me I  start to feel like you don't care about me

instead of you never call me  when you're away I guess I'm  

the only one who cares about this relationship

it's very very important to express your feelings  in the right way otherwise she'll misunderstand it

keep your language clear and specific try  to factually describe behavior that you  

are upset with avoiding criticism and Judgment  of course attacked the problem not the person

focus on the current issue the conversation  is likely to get bogged down if you pile on  

everything that bothers you avoid using always  or never language and others one issue at a time

and please Ronald take responsibility for mistakes  apologize if you have done something wrong

do not ignore your responsibility  do not play the fool do you hear me

yes sir sometimes it's difficult to  recognize you did something wrong but

I guess I will have to do it I don't want  to break up with her I really love her

I know that if you didn't love her you couldn't  be here listening to me or asking for help

and finally recognize some problems are not easily  solved not all differences or difficulties can be  

resolved communication is a good way to solve some  problems but some things are impossible to change

it is important to figure out for  yourself what you can accept or  

when a relationship is no longer healthy for you

sometimes that person is just not for us  and it's difficult to accept that I know

I hope it's not your case seriously  I hope you can solve your problems

I hope so thank you so much sir  you've helped me a lot thank you  

that's okay and if you want to talk  to someone you can always count on me

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