Conversation Skills: A quick & easy way to make people understand you

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English with Emma


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Hello.
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My name is Emma, and in today's video I am going to teach you a tip that will really
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help you when you're in a conversation and somebody does not understand you.
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Okay?
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So, to begin I just wanted to talk about some situations a lot of people learning English
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find themselves in.
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A lot of students or a lot of people studying English, when they speak English, they say:
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"People don't understand me."
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Okay?
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Sometimes people who are learning English, they have very strong accents and they have
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trouble with pronunciation.
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Sometimes people just want to be a clearer speaker, they want people to understand them
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better.
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So, this video is for anyone who falls into these categories; anyone who has had people
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not understand them before, and wants an easy thing they can do to help people understand.
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So, what can you do?
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Well, the number one thing you can do when someone doesn't understand you in conversation
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is you can start by introducing the topic before you being speaking.
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If the person who is listening knows the topic, it helps their understanding so much.
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So, introducing the topic first increases understanding.
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It makes it a lot easier to understand if a person knows the topic before you start
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to speak.
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Okay?
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So, what is a topic?
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A topic is the main idea of what you want to talk about.
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So, some examples of topics are: Sports, family, work, school, politics, religion, celebrities,
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movies, books.
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There are a lot of different topics.
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And so, before you start talking about a topic, you can introduce the topic and I'll teach
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you how to do that in one moment.
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The other thing I just wanted to say quickly is another tip is if you introduce a topic
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and the person doesn't understand what you're saying, you can always write down the key
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word or the topic word.
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Okay?
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So if I'm talking about baseball, and somebody doesn't understand what I'm saying, I can
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write down the word: "Baseball", and that will make the rest of the conversation easier
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for the person to understand.
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So now let's talk about some expressions you can use to introduce the topic which will
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help people understand you.
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Okay, so you're about to have a conversation, a good idea is before you start talking, you
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can choose a key topic word that you're going to introduce your topic with.
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Okay?
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So before the conversation, think about the key word that you're about to talk about.
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So this might be the weather, this might be school-okay?-it might be university, it might
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be family.
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But just think about the key word, so that's a first step.
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The next thing you can do is you can say a sentence, your first sentence with this key
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word in it.
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When you say this key word, you make sure you say it loud and long.
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Okay?
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Because in English, the most important parts of the sentences, we say them louder and longer.
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Okay?
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This helps the listener know what part of the sentence is important.
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So let's look at an example.
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So, imagine I want to talk about my favourite restaurant.
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Okay?
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And I don't think the person who is listening is going to understand me, what I can say
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is I can start by saying: "I'd like to tell you about my favourite restaurant."
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Notice how I said the word: "restaurant" louder and longer.
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By saying "restaurant" louder and longer, it makes it easier for the listener to understand
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me.
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Okay?
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So now I can start talking about restaurants, and they're going to understand what I'm talking
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about because I've introduced the subject.
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The conversation is going to be a lot easier for the listener.
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Okay?
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So, what are some other ways to introduce a topic?
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Well, you can start by saying: "I have a question" if you're going to ask a question.
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This tells the listener that a question is coming, and so it prepares them.
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If you're not asking a question, you can say...
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And you want them to tell you something, you can say: "Tell me about", "Tell me about your
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family", "Tell me about your favourite restaurant", "Tell me about school".
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Okay?
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So, again, I'm saying the last word, which is the key word, louder and longer.
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Maybe I want to talk about myself.
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I can say something, like: "Let me tell you about school.", "Let me tell you about work.",
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"Let me tell you about my vacation."
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So even if your pronunciation...
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Maybe you have some trouble with pronunciation, even if you have some trouble, because you're
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saying the key word louder and longer, it will really help the listener.
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You can say: "I'd like to talk about", and you just say the topic here.
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"I'd like to talk about sports."
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If you want to say something a bit shorter, you can also just say: "You know sports?"
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Okay?
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And this way when they hear that, then it prepares them for the conversation.
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Okay, so now let's look at some more expressions and some practice for how to introduce the
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topic.
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Okay, so we've talked about how to use key words or the topic word to help people understand
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you better.
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So let's do an example.
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Imagine you're trying to talk to somebody and they don't understand what you say.
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What do they say to you?
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"I'm sorry.
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I don't understand what you're saying."
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So what you can do now is now that you know how important the topic word is, you can use
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that.
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You can say: "I'm talking about work."
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And, again, "work" is louder and longer.
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And when they hear the word "work", it will be easier for them to follow the conversation.
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So let's look at another example.
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Imagine you want to introduce the topic, you can say: "Let me tell you about my work."
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So, again, "work" is the key word here and it's general.
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"I work at ABCD Company.
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I've worked there for 5 years.
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I love my job.
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The people there are fantastic."
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Okay, so I've highlighted the key word "work" here.
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This is just to show that you go from general or the big idea, the topic, which is "work",
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and you go more and more specific.
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So, for example, "ABCD Company" is more specific, or "5 years", that's more specific.
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By following this...
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And, oh, one other thing I should say is if somebody doesn't understand you, like I've
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said before, imagine they said: "I'm sorry.
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I don't understand", and you say: "I'm talking about work." and they still don't understand,
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you can write the word "work" down on a piece of paper.
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That can really help the conversation and it can help people understand you better if
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there's a conversation breakdown.
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Okay, so we've learned a very good tip on what to do if people don't understand you
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or you have a very strong accent and you're having a trouble communicating.
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Using the key word can really help you when you say your first sentence.
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This will really help with understanding and improving your conversation.
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So, thank you for watching this video.
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I invite you to check out our website at www.engvid.com; there, you can actually do a quiz to practice
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what you've learned and heard in this video.
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I also invite you to check out my channel and subscribe; we have a lot of great resources
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on that channel, including tips on pronunciation, work, work English, vocabulary, expressions,
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slang, grammar, and many more.
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So until next time, thank you for watching and take care.
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