Practice English Conversation (Questions about life) Improve English Speaking Skills

hello son when you spoke to me on the phone I  heard you a little worried what's happening I  

你好，儿子，当你在电话里跟我说话时，我听到你有点担心发生了什么事，我

am not worried or well maybe yeah I'm just curious  because I don't know what to do curious all right  

并不担心，也许是的，我只是好奇，因为我不知道该怎么做，好奇，

then tell me how can I help you what can I do for  you well I have a friend well I don't know if he's  

然后告诉我我能帮忙吗？你我能为你做些什么吗？我有一个朋友，我不知道他是否是

my friend anymore that's the thing when I broke  up with my girlfriend last year I didn't care much  

我的朋友，去年我和女朋友分手时就是这样，我本来不太在意，

but then I found out something my best friend  and my ex-girlfriend were dating and he didn't  

但后来我发现了一些事情，我最好的朋友和我的前女友约会，他没有

tell me anything that's the problem with fought  and stopped talking to each other for a long time  

告诉我任何关于吵架的问题，并且很长一段时间都不再说话，

until this week he came to my house and asked  me to forgive him and I don't know what to do

直到本周他来到我家请求我原谅他，我不知道 爷爷 该怎么办

grandp I mean I don't think I hate him  but I still resent him I wonder should  

我的意思是我不认为我恨他，但我仍然怨恨他，我想知道

I forgive him my father says no because he was  not a good friend but my mother says I should  

我是否应该原谅他，我父亲说不，因为他不是一个好朋友，但我母亲说我应该

do it and I don't know what to do should  I forgive him then I read something in a

这样做，我不知道我应该怎么原谅他然后我在一

book that we should forgive others for our  own good but I didn't get that idea very well  

本书上读到一些内容，我们应该为了自己的利益而原谅别人，但我不太明白这个想法，

that's why I came came here I know you have  a lot of experience in life situations like

这就是我来这里的原因我知道你在生活中有很多经验像

this I understand I will help you  why you should forgive others for  

这样我明白我会帮助你为什么你应该因为

your own good forgiveness means different  things to different people but one thing  

自己的善意而原谅别人宽恕对不同的人意味着不同的事情但

we hear often is that forgiving others is  important to the healing process but why  

我们经常听到的一件事是宽恕他人对于治愈过程很重要但为什么

let's dive in forgiveness is an active  gesture of releasing anger guilt and

让我们深入宽恕是一种积极的姿态释放愤怒、内疚和

resentment all of which have a huge  negative impact on those who Harbor such

怨恨，所有这些都会对那些怀有这种

feelings forgiveness is linked to better  better mental health by reducing stress and

感觉的人产生巨大的负面影响，宽恕可以通过减轻压力和焦虑来改善心理健康

anxy and also lower in physical  ailments it has already been proven by

，还可以减少身体疾病，

experts I know it is not easy it is  a difficult process that requires our

我知道这一点已经被专家 证明了。 这并不容易，这是一个困难的过程，需要我们

presence so if you ask me if you should forgive  your friend or not I could tell you yes do it  

在场，所以如果你问我是否应该原谅你的朋友，我可以告诉你是的，

but it is important to always tell them  that we were really upset they have to

但重要的是要始终告诉他们我们真的很沮丧，他们必须

know and you don't need to be friends again if  you don't feel comfortable with that believe

知道，而你如果你对此感到不舒服，就不需要再次成为朋友，相信

me but if his friendship is important  for you then you should try to reconcile  

我，但如果他的友谊对你来说很重要，那么你应该尝试和解，

yes I guess you're right I think I  will have to think about it I am not

是的，我想你是对的，我想我必须考虑一下我我不确定

sure and another question Grandpa  why do bad things happen to good

还有另一个问题爷爷为什么坏事会发生在好人身上

people my friend's mother is sick and  she's a really good person why does that

我朋友的母亲病了，她是一个非常好的人为什么会

happen oh that's kind of difficult to explain  many people will tell you it's a part of some  

发生这种情况哦这很难解释很多人会告诉你这是某个

divine plan the truth is pain is not always  punishment and tragedy is not always part of  

神圣计划 的一部分 事实是，痛苦并不总是惩罚，悲剧并不总是

some master plan sometimes bad things just  happen and there isn't anything anyone could  

某些总体计划的一部分，有时糟糕的事情就会发生，而任何人都无能为力，

have done about it we're given Free Will and  we make daily choices that affect our future  

我们被赋予自由意志，我们每天都会做出影响我们未来的选择

and our experience in life when something  happens to you it may be tempting to think  

，我们在生活中的经历 当某件事发生在你身上时，你可能会很容易认为

that it's God banishing you for something  but that is not always the case if you want  

这是上帝因为某件事而驱逐你，但情况并非总是如此，如果你想

to find happiness in life don't let pain  suffering Define who you are and your life  

在生活中找到幸福，不要让痛苦定义你是谁和你的生活

some things happen in this world that has no  explanation and no amount of prayer will change

这个世界上发生的一些事情是无法解释的，无论多少祈祷都无法改变

them what I mean is there are no easy  answers to why bad things happen to good

它们，我的意思是，对于为什么坏事发生在好人身上，没有简单的答案

people but there are some questions that can help  you process your emotions when strategy strikes

，但有一些问题可以帮助你在策略发生时处理你的情绪

that makes sense and is the  purpose of life predetermined from

这是有道理的，是从出生就注定的生命目的，

birth I mean from the moment I am born  as my destiny being established I always  

我的意思是从我出生的那一刻起，我的命运就已经确定了，我总是

think about it life is a journey and the biggest  questions of our lives are those we come across  

认为生命是一个旅程，我们生命中最大的问题是我们 在尝试时 遇到的那些问题

as we try does success mean the same thing  to everyone how do we find our purpose in

成功对每个人来说都意味着同样的事情，我们如何找到人生的目标，

life are our talents predetermined at Birth  or can they be nurtured practiced developed  

我们的才能是在出生时就被预先确定的，还是可以被培养、实践、发展

and expanded is it possible to pursue a dream  that doesn't fit into society's predetermined  

和扩展？是否有可能追求不符合社会预先确定的

norms or will it be impossible to achieve  success if we aren't willing to compromise our

规范的 梦想？ 如果我们不愿意

values in the end there are no right or wrong  answers and the only thing that matters is  

在价值观上妥协，就不可能取得成功。答案没有对错之分，唯一重要的是

that makes us feel fulfilled the extent of  how much we enjoy each day is determined  

让我们感到满足。我们每天享受多少取决于

by the happiness we derive from the things  we do if you want to find your calling you  

幸福感。我们从我们所做的事情中汲取灵感 如果你想找到你的使命，你

have to be able to distinguish between what  brings you Joy and what doesn't what I mean  

必须能够区分什么能给你带来快乐，什么不会给你带来快乐 我的意思

is life is short and the most important is  to enjoy all the moments we have if you're  

是生命短暂，最重要的是享受我们拥有的所有时刻如果你是

good at doing something it doesn't mean  you have to do it for the rest of your

擅长做某件事并不意味着你必须在余生中都这样做，

life for examp example if you're good at  playing soccer but it doesn't make you feel

例如，如果你擅长踢足球，但它并不会让你感到

happy you don't have to dedicate your  entire life to it you should do things  

快乐，你不必奉献你的一生你应该做

you really love because if you really love  to do it you will improve at it that's for

你真正喜欢的事情，因为如果你真的喜欢这样做，你就会在这方面有所进步，这是肯定的，

sure I needed to hear that that because  I am really good at playing the piano but  

我需要听到这一点，因为我真的很擅长弹钢琴，但

I don't really like it my dad says that is my  purpose of life but I don't think it is I like

我不太喜欢它，我爸爸说这是我人生的目的，但我不认为这是我喜欢

cooking I am not good at cooking  but I enjoy doing it I want to study

烹饪我不擅长烹饪，但我喜欢这样做我想学习

Gastronomy that's fantastic I support your  decision I sure you will be an excellent

美食，这太棒了我支持你的决定我相信你会成为一名出色的

chef and is it okay if I compare my life  to someone else my father always tells me  

厨师并且如果我将自己的生活与其他人进行比较，没关系，我父亲总是告诉我，

you should be like your cousin he works in  a very important company and has a lot of

你应该像你的表弟一样，他在一家非常重要的公司工作，并且有很多

money everyone's journey is different we  should not try to copy someone else's life

钱，每个人的旅程都不同，我们当然不应该尝试复制别人的人生

path of course it doesn't mean we cannot  get inspired but remember we are all

道路这并不意味着我们不能得到灵感，但请记住我们都是

different yeah you're right do people  possess souls and if so where are they in the

不同的，是的，你是对的，人们是否拥有灵魂，如果是的话，他们在身体的哪里，

body that's a difficult question too I can  answer you but it will have to be on the  

这也是一个困难的问题，我可以回答你，但它必须在

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