How I Stay Motivated To Get Fluent

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I'll be taking those after I go through the kind  of lesson portion at the beginning of this video  

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I think we are live I am Drew Badger the founder  of englishanyone.com and welcome to another live  

video here on YouTube and well the English fluency  guide today is going to tell you about motivation  

and mindset and the psychology of learning as  I like to talk about I haven't talked about  

this in a while but some people have asked me  questions about staying motivated to learn uh  

and I wanted to talk about this in detail so  hopefully this should be an entertaining video  

for you uh even the people who are really working  hard and really doing their best you know they can  

still get frustrated so I hope people can find  value in this video uh and also this is not just  

for language Learners I'll be talking about  this specifically in the context of language  

learning but this is really for people trying  to do anything uh and this is really because  

there are many things people would like to do but  for whatever reason people don't get motivated or  

they they just can't find a way to do the thing  they want to do so I want to break this down for  

you uh it's really two steps as far as I see it  uh this has been been very helpful for me and  

my students and I hopefully uh hopefully it will  be helpful for you as well uh but let me know if  

you have questions after we go through this we can  talk about other things but uh excuse me I wanted  

to talk about this uh because I think it will be  really helpful for people uh and yeah let's get  

started I think we're working here nice to see  people uh I'll keep an eye on the chat as usual  

but Hello nice to see everybody there oh and happy  4th of July says TJ yes uh in Japan it is July  

4th uh I was actually speaking with some people  two days ago and I forgot it was the 4th of July  

in United States or it will be Fourth of July  in the United States so what because I'm living  

in Japan I forget uh about you know like American  holidays so I was like oh yeah this like a holiday  

and I think people get a long weekend which is  nice a long weekend this is like when you get  

Thursday Friday Saturday Sunday off or also Monday  or some some combination of things like that all  

right so let's talk about motivation again this  is for people who want to do anything but the  

people typically watching my Channel or trying to  get fluent in English but it should help you get  

fluent uh in English or whatever language or  help you uh just be able to do whatever it is  

you're you're feeling stuck about doing all right  I want to keep this very simple because I I think  

it's actually a simple like the reality is quite  simple but in our minds we make it a much more  

complic licated process and it doesn't have to be  uh but hopefully this should make sense so there  

are two basic pieces of how motivation works and  by motivation I mean uh how we think about things  

or how we react to particular situations and so  if you think about like let's say there's a uh  

there's a person here uh and they want to get to  a particular place we'll just put a flag here like  

this is uh the goal the person wants to reach  and so there might be there's there's like the  

the physical thing whatever that thing is we'll  just put kind of like a rock over here uh just  

as kind of like an obstacle there uh but there  also the additional mental obstacles I'll just  

put like kind of a little brain over here too uh  and if you can overcome both of these things then  

you become you know fluent or you can get whatever  it is you're looking for and I'm going to explain  

to you how this process works it's actually quite  simple I know it can seem like a very frustrating  

or difficult thing but we'll look at these two  things uh individually first uh and then hopefully  

this should make sense but do let me know if  you have any questions again this has been very  

helpful for me I'll tell you a quick story about  it in just a moment uh but uh actually let me just  

tell you the story first uh it's probably a better  way to do it uh but I came to Japan in 2003 and  

uh for the first year I was still trying to learn  Japanese the traditional way by studying textbooks  

and there weren't really I mean YouTube wasn't  even available until 2006 I think and at even  

at that point uh there were there were no people  really teaching online or anything uh so really  

most of the learning was still just traditional  textbooks or maybe you could find a teacher or  

something uh but I was trying to learn Japanese  the traditional way uh and I was really struggling  

I couldn't improve I was able to understand people  a little bit but I really couldn't express myself  

it was very frustrating I couldn't find my words  all of the the typical kinds of things that most  

people learning languages experience uh but once  I discovered how to learn then the the like the  

learning process finally made sense to me I'll  explain more about that in this video but I'm  

trying to tell you the quick version of the story  um and I started making some progress so it took  

me about a year and even before I came to Jaan  I had already failed to learn three different  

languages so Spanish Latin and French I failed  to learn those before I came to Japan uh so then  

I failed to learn Japanese in Japan for the  first year uh and I was very frustrated again  

uh but once I figured out how to learn which I  can go into more detail in this video about um  

it became uh the process became a lot a lot easier  but so the the first kind of obstacle was the the  

how to do the thing so what to do how to actually  become fluent what to what to do uh and then the  

second thing was I was still kind of stuck because  I'm still at this point trying to learn by myself  

so I didn't know exactly how uh I I knew that I  should become fluent I should learn Japanese as  

a first language and try to understand it like  a native as best I could but being by myself it  

was really difficult to figure out how to do that  and I tried going to teachers but everyone just  

taught me the traditional way so I really had  to try to do this by myself and so I still had  

uh lots of frustrating moments where I would try  to learn something and I couldn't understand it  

because I'm basically trying to teach myself the  language the way a native would learn it which is  

really difficult especially even before we had  things like YouTube videos or you know whatever  

even any kind of video content really learning  the language other than stuff on Japanese TV and  

so I still had uh even though I knew what to do  the path was basically clear uh I still had lots  

of doubts lots of worries lots of uh like you know  just the typical kinds of issues that that people  

go through when they're learning languages and  so what happened was uh even though I was making  

a little bit of progress I would maybe you've  experienced this too like something positive  

happens and you feel good and other days you're  maybe trying to speak and you don't really feel  

so confident about the way you speak you know you  get this up and down a little bit as you improve  

hope hopefully over the long term you are you are  trending up but typically there's a little bit of  

up and down like that as you learn uh and so I  was uh actually teaching English at a school uh  

where was this in uh in kilo actually at the time  when when this happened to me uh but there was a  

mother there I was teaching her son and she said  oh your Japanese is is like it's really good and  

I was thinking like oh like I mean Japanese people  are usually very friendly very kind about giving  

compliments even if they think your Japanese is  not very good it's really like encouraging you uh  

but typically like if you're if your Japanese is  not so good they will tell you it's good uh but  

if your Japanese is good they usually don't  say anything they just have a like a regular  

conversation with you but anyway that's part  of the the culture over here uh so when she  

said that to me I actually felt like a rush of  confidence and I was like oh actually wow I guess  

like I'm actually you know sometimes it doesn't  feel like I'm making progress but I was able to  

speak with her and and she was complimenting me  on my Japanese but at the same time in that same  

moment I remembered that her son he was he was  like basically the same age as so he was I don't  

know like five or six years old or something  uh and that that's about how long I had been  

in Japan at that point so i' been in Japan went  back to America came back to Japan uh but uh when  

I was teaching there uh I realized like her son  he is he is uh younger than me well obviously  

he's younger than me but he was I don't know five  or six years old or something uh and I had been  

learning Japanese for about the same amount of  time and he was speaking better Japanese than I  

was and so I realized that like I'm learning for  like you know let's just say whatever whatever  

the amount of time is I'm learning Japanese for  this amount of time uh and he is learning Japanese  

for the same amount of time actually it was less  but uh his Japan speaking ability was way better  

now this makes sense obviously this is a child  born and getting way more exposer to Japanese  

than I was getting uh but still uh in my mind  I was just comparing like oh this this kid was  

speaking better than I was and uh and I got like  very very uh frustrated about it at at that moment  

so basically I was uh at first like she gave me  this compliment I was feeling a little bit of  

high but immediately I went back down uh because I  was feeling very frustrated that I I had made some  

progress but like look you know in the same amount  of time this child had made way more progress than  

I had for obvious reasons but still okay pardon  the uh the fire truck as usual or the ambulance  

or whatever so again I was I was feeling good  and then I was feeling bad but then in that same  

moment I realized wait a minute like this this is  like my this is my chance to actually do something  

and like prove that I can become a fluent speaker  even though I'm not born in the country and so my  

my it was it was like a roller coaster almost  almost so I was feeling high and then I was  

feeling really low and then I went back up again  uh because I was feeling like I felt like what I  

call the fire I was really excited I was really  like you know what I can do this if this little  

kid can speak well I I can probably learn to speak  well too that's basically the way I thought about  

it uh but again the like all of this stuff over  here it it really had nothing to do with the with  

like the actual learning path it was just in my  mind and the the interesting thing was that once I  

once I had this kind of fire in me uh it like all  of the other little little worries or doubts they  

didn't matter anymore okay so the the the kind two  phases about this I want to describe I wanted to  

tell this story first but I'll show you this in in  another way in just a moment uh but the basic idea  

is that all of the little doubts that you might  have about like I don't know if something will  

work or like I don't know if I can do it or maybe  that worked for someone else but it won't work  

for me uh or I don't have enough time or whatever  there's like a thousand thousand of these little  

little doubts uh and so so let's talk about that  uh the process in a bit more detail right here I  

really want to make sure people understand this  because if you have that fire you will find a  

way to do something okay you will figure it out  all right and the goal obviously is to try to  

make the path as simple and easy as possible but  then you still have yourself to to find that fire  

for if you don't then you will probably find some  kind of excuse to not do something because that's  

just what humans do either we get lazy or we are  nervous or tired or whatever but we will find lots  

of excuses and we only need just like a simple  excuse to not do something so that's why you  

need really something very strong to want to do it  so for me uh it was it was like kind of Pride and  

embarrassment and and I just I really wanted to  prove I could do it uh so let's let's look at the  

the actual path here and we'll we'll contrast two  different people trying to accomplish something

so remember I mentioned before about having  something you want to do and then there's actually  

the the the mental part the psychology of doing  that thing so if we imagine like here's a we'll  

draw another version of this person down here  make sure you can see that so this first person  

over here let's say they want to like they want  to climb up uh this wall over here and they don't  

really have any tools to do anything the goal is  to get up here so we'll put our little flag up at  

the top top of that but this person is not really  tall enough they don't have tools they don't have  

you know a ladder or a jetpack or something like  that that would allow this person to easily climb  

the wall uh and so in this case the path itself  we'll just put path right here so that remember  

I mentioned the first part about this there's  the there's the path part and then there's the  

you like that fire part over here or you have it's  basically the mental part of of doing something so  

here the path is actually quite difficult so  it it doesn't matter there there really isn't  

you know like there there's not much like mental  mental thinking about that maybe there is some way  

but let's say this is it's actually physically  impossible to do this kind of thing like just  

being able to climb up here so this person has  no tools they have nothing they're it's just not  

like they're in a prison or something so it's just  physically not possible for them to do this so in  

that case the path is actually blocked and they'll  need to maybe find a different way to do something  

uh but they don't need to think much about the  psychology because it's physically impossible  

to do now what usually happens with with regular  people trying to do things is uh it looks more  

like this where you've got some kind of staircase  where it actually is quite easy or you know it's  

certainly possible to do something okay and so in  this case like it's not it's not like perfectly  

easy it's not I mean ideally uh you would have  almost like a slide you just like sit down on the  

slide and there you go that would be the easiest  way to do something so it's it's it's easier just  

to sit down on the slide and slide down and get  what you want but typically that doesn't happen  

usually there's some kind of effort involved but  the the path is usually easier than something  

that's actually physically impossible all right  and so once you get this this is where the like  

the psychology part the mental the mindset part  comes in uh our little brain over here and this  

is where we start thinking of excuses why we can't  do something okay so remember like I really want  

to make this clear if something is not possible  we don't really spend much time thinking about  

it because it's just not possible we just think  oh it's not possible but if something actually is  

and like we've seen other people do it we know it  is possible we can imagine how it would work it's  

like we can it's actually possible to do something  uh and we have lots of good reason to believe that  

it is possible it might not be perfectly easy  like going down a slide there might be some kind  

of effort or work to do but still it's possible to  do something all right so this thing is impossible  

so we don't really think much about the mental  side but here as soon as something is actually  

possible it's it's really like the more possible  something is the more people worry about it and  

this is just it's a it's a a really interesting  thing about people and if you can control this  

part of yourself you can usually accomplish much  more than you think uh that or a lot of people  

would would just stop and not do something okay  so when we when we think something is possible  

and that we probably could do it this is where  we start thinking like well maybe I better not  

do that thing okay so we we use the brain to  to take something and make it impossible if  

that makes sense so we're taking something here  again in this situation you don't need to think  

much about it it's a physically impossible thing  to do so we don't think about it but here it is  

possible we see that it's possible we see other  people doing that thing uh and we so we know it  

is possible to do but we think well I don't know  maybe maybe I don't have time to do that or uh  

I don't know you like exactly how to do that I  need somebody to guide me at like very you know  

each step all the way uh what if I make a mistake  what if I do something all these different these  

thoughts come in here and so at this point when  something is possible this is where you need to  

find some reason even if it's not like a like a  logical positive reason so in my case for getting  

fluent in Japanese like I wanted to get fluent  like like I already wanted to get fluent but I  

was still like some days I'm I'm thinking like I  don't want to do anything or this is frustrating  

or I'm still making excuses uh but I stopped  making excuses once I got that fire once I saw  

like a little kid who spoke better than me and  this still happens to me today uh like I was at a  

coffee shop not that long ago and and and a woman  just like working at the coffee shop was like oh  

you speak Japanese really well and I said oh well  thank you you know again it's the same kind of  

situation um and she said how long have you been  here and I said oh like uh I don't know 20 years  

or whatever and she was like oh that's longer  than I've been alive you know she she was 18 or  

something like that it's basically the the exact  same situation and so like I feel I feel good that  

I've made progress but when I compare myself to  to like a regular native then I think oh I'm I'm  

just I'm not working hard enough I could be doing  this better so again like that's the that's the  

kind of fire thing uh that you that you actually  use and that cancels out all of the other pretty  

weak excuses that people have about doing things  so like not being able to find time like everybody  

has time and everybody finds time to do the things  they want to do especially the things they have to  

do so that's a that's a mental uh like a mental  constraint or a mental issue that we're we're  

putting on the situation that's that's not really  there we just create this with our minds all right  

so if you have that fire like the fire it should  be stronger or more powerful than any of these  

other little concerns you have and if you have  that then you will make progress you will make  

it up here you will find that way to do the thing  and again the if the if the path itself is easy  

and you have the strong determination to do that  thing and it doesn't need to be like super strong  

again like most most times we want to do something  and we just need you know there may be like a few  

small excuses why we don't do that thing so we  really want that thing we should do that thing  

but because there is some effort there's always  some effort all right you have to do something  

even if it's just like watching a video or reading  a book or something like that there is some kind  

of effort that's required to do something uh we  will think of many excuses but I want to remind  

you that the the excuses are usually not that  powerful and they're easy to uh kind of easy to  

cancel out if you have a really strong reason to  do something now another reason in my life that's  

also very strong uh is I have two children and  uh specifically for me learning Japanese I look  

at them and like their their Japanese is really  good you know they're basically living in a native  

environment and they spend much more time uh with  Japanese than they do with English so I I have to  

be very good about how I teach them when I do have  time to teach them um but when I see them and like  

my older daughter who is8 years old now she can  speak well uh and also like her ability to write  

Japanese characters she is learning those and so  that's giving me a lot of motivation like to not  

be embarrassed that my child can can write better  or speak better or whatever than I can okay so  

it's not it's not like a logical comparison where  I'm saying that uh like of course a native speaker  

is is probably going to learn like faster than  I am just because they have more opportunities  

or she's spending all day at school and talking  with people all day there are lots of good reasons  

why she would become a good speaker it's a natural  kind of thing uh but for me there is some kind  

of effort required to do that there not much but  again like the if there's if there's any kind of  

effort at all then that's where we start thinking  about excuses or reasons why something would not  

happen Okay uh but I'm I'm trying to show you how  the whole process works and this is really again  

how it's worked for me but typically how it works  for really anybody trying to do so something so  

if something is possible we've seen other people  do it like you know earning money or becoming a  

professional singer or whatever like many people  do that all right or many people do that if nobody  

is able to do a thing like if nobody is able  to breathe underwater that's an actual physical  

impossible thing so unless you have tools like you  know some breathing equipment or something uh but  

if you're not able to breathe underwater we don't  really we don't feel bad about that we don't spend  

any any time thinking about that we don't make any  excuses or reasons why something won't happen or  

whatever we don't think about that at all but when  something is possible you will feel your brain  

telling you these things like hey maybe maybe we  can't do that what will other people think if we  

make a mistake you have all these little voices  inside your head that make you think about that  

so you need something stronger than those voices  if you want to achieve what you want if you want  

to get what you want you need to find that thing  and it can be like me like embarrassment or Pride  

or whatever you can use that to to power your  way through something okay so specifically uh  

on the the the part of learning English like when  I figured out how to do that I spent a lot of time  

trying to make the path very simple so like many  many years and I'm still doing that today so 20  

years ago like in 200 I don't know 4 yeah about 20  20 years ago that's when I found uh that I needed  

to learn Japanese as a first language and that's  why I've been teaching English as a first language  

for 20 years because it works and it's the easiest  thing I've found to get fluent and it's been my  

way of helping people get fluent like better than  anything else I've found um but people still have  

lots of excuses about why they can't do something  so even if I make the path it could even be like  

a very gentle slope and I'm going to I'm going to  sit and like basically pull you up this thing and  

this is you know specifically for my students  people who are trying to get fluent uh if you  

can Master this all you need is one good reason  why you can do something One Good Reason okay  

hopefully that makes sense all right so this this  is not a uh like a really difficult idea but if  

you're thinking about this and you remember this  as you're trying to do something really look for  

that thing look for that that that real reason why  you want to do something so you might even have  

a like a logical reason like I need to pass the  toic test uh at a particular score so I can get  

a job or whatever so maybe that's like a logical  thing you you want um but that that might not be  

motivating enough for you uh to not make excuses  okay so maybe you're thinking about I need to pass  

a particular test and get a job and that sounds  like a good idea that's kind of your logical  

reason for doing something but I'm I'm saying you  need to have you need that fire you need that like  

real like like a stronger thing like like my  brother said I couldn't do it like that that  

kind of thing and that and this is typically when  you're watching a movie this is the kind of thing  

you see in a movie it's usually like a uh like a  a not so logical reason to do something but it's  

a it's like a like a it's it's it's more motiv  ating to you than just having a logical goal  

like hey I can get a better job like yeah like  a lot of people there there and this is this is  

why it seems very confusing to people like hey  why don't you just do this thing it will it will  

earn you more money or it will help you get the  girl you want or you know whatever like any any  

kind of thing like that so it's because they don't  have that there there's that kind of like fire uh  

thing that that that you really need in order to  get what you want all right now if you don't have  

any excuses at all that's great just go up and  go get the thing you want but a lot of us we will  

still have some kind of excuses or fears or doubts  or whatever reasons it is you know that that will  

stop us from from getting what we want so focus  on the particular thing uh I remember hearing uh  

stories about Michael Jordan so Michael Jordan  was already like you know a fantastic basketball  

player but he still created these reasons in  his head these kind of illogical or emotional I  

guess it's better to say non-logical but like an  emotional reason why like why he was going to do  

something well so I I think I I remember one story  where he was talking about he said like a player  

on a different team was was saying bad things  about him that the player the player did not and  

like he didn't know the player had no idea about  this but in in Jordan's mind he was thinking that  

guy that guy is saying I can't play you kidding me  I'm I'm the greatest basketball player ever that  

guy is saying I can't play and like and of course  Michael Jordan goes out and shoots I don't know  

50 points or something like that but like it's  all in his head okay so the the goal is is it's  

it's usually not that big of a deal but because  it's easy to do that's when we get more uh doubts  

about that thing so in order to to counteract  that to fight against that you need to have  

some strong reason and I just call it the fire  because it's basically in a kind of non-logical  

emotional thing that that like you really you  really need to do that thing for some reason  

okay whatever that is uh and and again it's it's  different from the particular goal you have of  

of using you know using English or getting a job  or getting a date or you know whatever whatever  

the particular goal is you want to become a good  swimmer or basketball player or something you have  

to have that fire and that's what's going to get  you the thing you want all right now go back and  

check uh comments but hopefully this makes sense  uh what I've done just I'll add this specifically  

for people who are learning English uh is the the  process of fluency really works in this same way  

where we want to communicate we know what we want  to say but we have lots of doubts that stop us  

from speaking and so very few people people will  will try to start speaking uh if they if they  

feel doubt anyway so it's a very rare person who  will say things and they don't care about being  

correct or whatever some people will do that uh  but maybe they don't get a job or whatever like  

but you know there is kind of a tradeoff there  uh but most people they they experience some kind  

of doubt uh about about trying to trying to learn  or trying to do something um and and specifically  

with English if you can remove those doubts that's  when you actually start speaking and so this is  

why uh like I made I made my program like fluent  for life this is why I try to make it uh basically  

as smooth as possible so the the actual path to  get fluent is very easy but the thing that I can't  

really control is uh all of the Learners and the  the mental or the psychological part of learning  

that they bring to the program so it doesn't  matter you could have like a really good gym  

program or a like learning program or doing  whatever it's all of this stuff over here and  

so I I wish I could reach into your brain and and  and give give people that fire but it really has  

to come from you okay so I can do everything I can  to make the path very simple and easy and it was  

frustrating for me because I was the one building  it I had to figure out how to do that thing uh  

but if you if if you have the path and usually  like it's almost like I mentioned before the  

path itself if the path is really easy then more  people have doubts about taking like taking that  

next step so if the path is really difficult then  you know people don't really think about it anyway  

but if it looks possible more people will think  well maybe I better not do that especially like if  

something is easy and I still fail so if something  is really easy and I still fail how will I look  

okay so if something is really difficult and  I fail then nobody will care about that that  

you know that's that's an easy thing everybody  understands that but if something looks easy and  

I make a mistake then people are going to laugh at  me or something and so that's a that's a big worry  

for a lot of people that's understandable so you  need to have that fire whatever that is you need  

to find that thing or create that thing the same  way Michael Jordan did I think Tom Brady he was  

a quarterback I don't know if he still plays  or not but like of the best quarterbacks ever  

American football player like American football  you know with the like the this kind of ball not  

soccer um and so he would do the same thing he  would think he was like what are they are they  

are they saying like I can't play anymore like  you know news writers or something sports sports  

writers are saying well like Tom Brady can't play  anymore he's not a very good player and then he  

goes out and wins another Super Bowl this is like  the you know the the championship of uh American  

football and so again like he has his reason for  doing something and it's it's basically like an  

emotional thing okay so whatever that thing  is like be clear about that and this is not  

just for learning English it's for doing anything  you'd like to do all right so you can have lots of  

motivation to learn English for example but maybe  you don't have lots of motivation to get a better  

job or to you know get a a wife or a husband or  you know whatever you care about whatever that  

thing is so uh think less as long as you have a  particular goal think less about like the actual  

thing that you're getting and more like the this  this kind of the fire part here that you need to  

find okay cuz it's these things over here none  of this is real it's all just stuff we create  

in our minds so we should create something good to  overcome all that stuff that we create that's not  

so good that's not actually helping us okay so the  like the steps you might take if you go to the gym  

and you try to exercise and you know you want to  lose weight or put on muscle whatever your goal  

is the the the path is very clear people have  been doing that for a very long time but the  

reason people don't like some people do and some  people don't it's all over here it's all in the  

the mental part of that how we think how we feel  about something but the if you look it's it's not  

really that that complicated of a process you have  the thing you want to do and the way you think  

about that okay so it's actually quite simple and  the easier something is the more possible the more  

people are doing something the more doubts you  will have in your mind so just have something  

you need to have that fire from somewhere create  that thing whatever that thing is but it should  

give you a lot of motivation to do whatever it is  you want to do and then as you're getting started  

uh you need this kind of less and less because you  actually see you're making progress and and this  

thing becomes like its own thing that's powering  you so now like I don't really think about this  

so much I mean I I I like remember the story  uh and if I'm ever reminded like man I'm kind  

of lazy to improve today or I think about my kids  like wait a minute my my child used a word that I  

don't know so I better learn that word I like I I  feel bad and I use that to keep me motivated to do  

the thing all right so instead of focusing on the  the particular logical thing which probably is a  

good idea for your life focus on this other  one over here whatever that is create that  

idea uh get excited about something but if you  have this the fire should be stronger than any  

of these other little things and you won't think  about those doubts anymore because well what if  

somebody laughs at me it's like well they're  already laughing at me because I can't speak  

as well as you know I I want to speak so I better  just do the thing anyway all right so my kids are  

already knowing some words or using vocabulary I  don't know so I have to work harder and it's it's  

like my personal Pride which is just emotional  there is's nothing nothing logical there about  

achieving the goal but I'm using that to achieve  the goal okay so as you're trying to do something  

you want to find obviously an easy path to do  it the easiest path you can but remember this  

over here so if you're feeling unmotivated or  you you're trying to do something but you feel  

lots of doubts that's your uh it's basically  your mind telling you hey you need to have a  

really good reason to do something so it's it's  much more difficult um like when when people  

say just ignore the fear I'll just kind of end  this conversation talking about this last last  

little bit here so if you try to ignore the fear  or you try to if we like logically clear this up  

um like in like a sales process or whatever like  people are like well I don't have time it's like  

well okay when will you have time you know do you  want this thing or not like when when is the when  

is the time where you're going to actually have  time and the reality is most people have time  

nobody's really that busy you know people spend  an hour looking at their phone or whatever  

wasting wasting lots of time nobody is really that  efficient with their time uh but the problem with  

that strategy like you're you're trying to to deal  with each one of these objections uh in your own  

mind so okay I don't have time or I what if I make  a mistake or whatever like trying to deal with all  

these is a really it's a really difficult thing  because it's never ending you will always find  

more reasons to not do something it's really easy  to find reasons to not do something so if you like  

whatever your goal is it's very very easy for the  mind because we're lazy we don't want to actually  

make an effort to do something to to find a reason  not to do it like well maybe I don't really need  

that thing maybe I don't really care you know  maybe maybe I should do something else or I'm  

tired uh or maybe other people will think about  me or what will I don't know what will my mom  

say or you know whatever there there's an infinite  number of these of these little objections that  

people have uh or doubts or whatever but they're  not really very powerful okay so instead of trying  

to kill one doubt you should just make one thing  that's stronger than all of these I'm trying to  

kind of draw this at a level for you so you can  see the like the strength of each of these things  

so you just need something like the the power of  this thing outweighs or it's bigger or stronger  

than all of these other things over here okay  so for me personally my personal example is uh  

feeling Pride or feeling shame or feeling you  can take these these kind of like the seven  

deadly sins or whatever and and actually use that  for your benefit so if people are saying I'm not  

actually very good at what I do I would say well  what are you talking about I'm going to prove to  

you that I that I can do that thing okay so even  if nobody else is actually saying anything you can  

create that in your mind and if Michael Jordan  and Tom Brady are doing that like anybody could  

do that all right so these people who are like  at the very top of their professional career are  

still creating this fire in their mind like then  we should probably try doing that too and remember  

this is the easy part over here it's just mental  so you can all you need is like oh I just need a  

good reason to do something all right so don't  worry about trying to address like all of these  

things over here like well I don't have time or I  don't have whatever like find this thing now you  

can let me know in the comments if you have  a particular thing like what is what is this  

reason this is like the hidden reason why you're  trying to do something so it could be like maybe  

some people laughed at my English at work and now  I want to show them that I can actually speak all  

right it could be something like that that's a  good reason to to actually become a good speaker  

now as you learn and improve you won't really  care about those people anymore which is fine  

uh you'll actually be focusing on the real goal  but to get started especially at the beginning or  

if you feel like you know someday you're feeling  not so motivated or whatever you have to have this  

thing in your mind to remember that okay all right  I'll go back and look at chat but if you have any  

questions about this uh it should be pretty clear  remember uh just a quick recap about this if the  

thing you're trying to do is actually impossible  like really impossible then you won't be thinking  

at all about reasons not to do it because it's  already impossible to do but if something is  

possible and we see other people doing that thing  like other people are exercising and getting fit  

or other people are learning to play the guitar or  you know whatever that thing is then that's where  

we start having the doubts about it ourselves like  well that person is special or I I just don't have  

time to do that or you know maybe maybe uh like  other people will laugh at me if I make a mistake  

doing that that's all these little things and it's  just going on inside your own head okay it's all  

it's all in you and that means you can control it  all right but the smarter way to control it is not  

by trying to like logically address all these  fears you just have to have something stronger  

that's more powerful than these other things here  okay so like I explain to people sometimes when I  

talk about confidence in English if you if you  see a child drowning in water and maybe you're  

you're like nervous about swimming yourself like  you would probably just jump in and try to save  

that child anyway uh you would you would probably  find a way to do that because that motivation is  

stronger than whatever fear you have so you're not  trying to talk yourself out logically out of this  

you really need to find this trigger here that's  actually going to give you the motivation that's  

where the motivation comes from all right uh let  me look at chat and if you do have any questions  

about this or anything else we can talk about  that all right where did we start of let's see  

Tom says good morning Alexander good evening yes  it is uh typically the mornings here in Japan when  

I do these so it is what time is it 10:00 uh 10:  a.m. good morning from Thailand uh Everton says  

greetings from Brazil I turn on my cell phone's  notification just to watch your lives well I'm I'm  

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it is evening baraco says hi good afternoon and  ASDF uh good morning from Nan Jing nice to see  

you there an Anette from Wisconsin uh let's see  manolin says good morning from Dominican Republic  

uh let's see cam says good morning n Danielle  hello again teacher and everyone here we go  

again yes we are back me says hello from Brazil  Hassam says hello from Morocco excited person  

good morning Drew these days it's raining and  that's why I've got to take joining your lives  

well welcome to the program yes we are we are kind  of I guess still in the middle of the rainy season  

in Japan uh it's a little bit cloudy but we don't  have any rain I think for the next week which is  

nice but we'll see uh I remember a few years ago  there was actually just a month it was really like  

a few weeks of just heavy rain all day like we  were in a like a rainforest or something uh n says  

good uh great job and Sam says hello saludos from  Mexico uh Eritrea and Ohio okay I see and Juan  

says hey there I really need advice about that I  started with the course four months ago and I have  

read only two lessons I quit again oh no why did  you quit so remember for any for any program like  

think about whatever whatever it is whether it's  trying to learn English or or you know get fit  

in exercise don't think about like The Logical  goal I know it seems like a good idea uh but  

the the psychology here is much more powerful  uh if you can use that uh and as an example  

uh I remember hearing some interesting advice  about credit cards I'll just share this with  

you now uh because it's it really goes along with  this anyway CU we're talking about the mind uh but  

let's say you have two different uh credit cards  so this credit card you have uh I don't know let's  

see a $22,000 you need to pay on this credit card  and this credit card over here is uh I don't know  

like $100 or whatever and uh so this credit card  is like 2% interest and this this credit card is  

18% interest I don't want to do a lot of math  but basically the uh like we we really want to  

make sure we're we're cancelling out uh like even  though this credit card like it's it's going to be  

costing us more money uh and I'm I'm not really  setting up this example very well but basically  

like we would be paying more money uh each month  with this credit card but the the the psychology  

thing here is your brain is just looking at two  credit cards the brain is not really thinking  

about how much the money is it's just thinking  well I've got two credit cards in this one I can  

pay this one off much faster I should pay that  one off faster uh so now I only have one credit  

card to pay off so it looks like i' I've done  half of the work all right so this is like a a  

good reason again the the power of the mind you  can use the like the and our minds don't don't  

work perfectly like we we have to kind of train  our minds and use them in the right way but if  

you can create that fire for yourself uh then  you will easily find a way to do what you want  

to do all right so I in in like in every instance  in my life not just for language learning but for  

doing anything I mean even think about me being in  the in the United States and then traveling to a  

new country you know that that's like a like for  for some people you could you could have lots of  

reasons why that's a bad idea or maybe you don't  have time or maybe you should you know start your  

career first and then think about going back later  to to you know travel or do something something  

like that there are lots of good reasons that's  a pretty big thing to do that's a big decision  

uh but for me like I had that fire I was just I  was just I need to really be out here I just had  

to do it and so that's why I did it so I wasn't  thinking so much about the logical part I was I  

was using that fire that I had in order to get  out into uh into Japan all right so when you're  

thinking about whatever you're doing it doesn't  matter if it's language learning or you know  

whatever the course is so this is why you can have  one course like the same course and you could have  

five different people go through that program and  one person could just go through it really easily  

and and just do very well and maybe one person  starts and they just don't do anything with it  

they don't open up any of the programs or lessons  or whatever and the program didn't change it's the  

different people who are trying and thinking about  things in a different way but if one person can do  

something other people can probably do that thing  too and if two people can do it then definitely  

other people can do that thing I remember one  of my uh favorite movies especially when I was  

young this is a movie called The Edge it's a  movie with uh what was his name Anthony Hopkins  

and uh I forget Alec Baldwin uh and it's about  two guys actually three guys that get uh kind of  

lost out in the Alaskan Wilderness so they're out  in the in the woods uh and they have to they have  

to find a way back home and uh and at one point in  the movie Anthony Hopkins says like what one man  

can do another can do and I was like yeah that  sounds like a good idea like I mean obviously  

there are sometimes when maybe only one person  like you know if you imagine Shaquille O'Neal  

like a really huge basketball player there are  not many people that are like Shaquille O'Neal  

and that's fine like I'm not trying to be a you  know fantastic uh like you know a 7'2 uh like  

extra large basketball player but for for most  things that people want to do there's usually  

more than one person who can achieve at that  thing okay so uh you should get good at this  

thing over here this is the thing to get good at  and then this thing follows very easily from that  

all right so if you are uh if you are on fire if  you feel that fire inside you for whatever the  

goal is then the goal becomes very easy even if  it's something that that's a bit more tricky to do  

all right uh so if whatever your thing is like I  know it seems logical like your parents will will  

tell you a logical reason to do something like you  should go to college so you can get a job and and  

like the logical part of that it's just not it's  just not very exciting it's not it doesn't really  

move us uh and motivate us to do something but  if we have a really strong desire to do something  

this is why people talk about the desire the fire  uh to do something if you have that then it's it's  

quite easy to accomplish many things all right so  yes whatever like if you're in any kind of course  

or or trying to learn something or do something or  go to the gym or learn an instrument or whatever  

uh get that get that fire whatever that thing  is so you can you guys can let me know in the  

comments if you have a particular thing like what  is your reason for in this case learning English  

or for doing whatever but make it like a powerful  emotional thing don't just say well I have to get  

a job or I have to pass the toeic test like  your your brain doesn't care about that we we  

are not like you have to think about like many  many years of human design for our brains and  

our like our Our Kind Of Evolution over a really  long periods of time we're not really motivated  

by the toeic test but we are motivated by like  getting some girl or boy or you know whatever  

you're you know you're you're interested in or  or trying to impress some kind of people it's  

emotional thing that's going to motivate you so  you need to find that trigger whatever that is  

but if you have a good one uh then everything  else becomes very easy to do especially if the  

uh the path itself is easy so I know like  for people going to the gym the path like  

it is it is a little bit challenging because you  actually have to get in you have to go to the gym  

that takes time and you have to exercise and you  have to you like lift weights and it gets kind of  

boring you're just doing the same thing again and  again and it's just like for a lot of people yeah  

it seems like like it could be a waste of time  um but uh you you need to think about like what  

is the what is the thing you're actually excited  about and so that's why um I remember there was  

some ads many years ago it was like a like a comic  I can't I can't even remember I'm not going to  

draw it very well you know I'm not going to draw  it very well but I'll try I'll try to draw it here

so there were uh in in the back of like little  kids magazines there would be ads for things just  

like there are ads in regular magazines uh but  this was a uh an ad for I think it was Charles  

Atlas um and Atlas was uh like he was he was just  like like a strong man and he was teaching people  

how to exercise and so he had a like it was  a comic strip ad you can probably just search  

this and find a better example of it but the  basic idea is that the ad is telling a story so  

there was a like a kind of weak looking you know  kind of guy he had like like a scrawny kid and he  

had no muscles and then he saw this like you know  kind of big guy over here and he had some muscles  

and he had a girlfriend and he was like oh wow  I really want that you know um and so when he  

when he thought about that and and like some other  guys are uh they're like teasing him or something  

because he's very small and then he thought like  well I I got the fire from that so you can you  

can give people the like the healthy reason to do  something say like you know it's like you probably  

shouldn't be overweight because it's bad for your  body and you could die or you know whatever that  

thing whatever that logical reason is but people  don't care about that so it's very hard to to to  

tell them that in a logical way and this is is  why we use stories in order to show people like  

trying to give them a reason to to get that fire  we're trying to put that fire into people uh and  

so that's what I do often when I'm talking with  Learners about like why are you really trying to  

learn and so if they tell me something like well  I want to pass the toic test or you know I want  

to you know get a job or something I'm like well  why is that important to you uh so this this is  

another a good way to find that fire if you're  stop if you're not really feeling motivated  

think about what what the real reason behind that  thing is so let's say like a a man like a young  

a young guy in college he's kind of lazy and he's  not really taking his classes um and uh his mother  

comes one day and is just talking with him and  is saying like like you're not you're not working  

hard what's going on here I'm very disappointed  in you and if the boy cares about that then he  

will make an effort to do better to make his mom  feel better if he doesn't care about what his mom  

thinks then he's not going to care but he should  find some reason to to care about whatever that  

is and so let's say uh he sees like when he's out  one day he sees a like a lawyer uh and like and  

this this lawyer like has like a happy family  and he's got his kids and he and he meets this  

young man and he's talking with him uh and he says  oh hey what like you know what are you doing and  

the and the kid says well I'm in college and you  know I'm not really like working very hard but I  

you know I just don't really feel very motivated  and the guy says oh like well like what are you  

excited about what is your fire and like for me  it was like you know I wanted to be like the man  

I wanted to be able to control my own life and  have a family and you know whatever that thing  

is and so when when the young man heard that he  thought oh like yeah like like that would be nice  

you know and so he's thinking more of like if not  about passing College it's about like the you know  

like envisioning that that actual life all right  so when I when I talk with Learners specifically  

again this is not is just you know an example for  anybody but for people learning a language don't  

think about the uh like you know passing a test  even if that's helpful for you I'm sure it is you  

know getting a job or passing a test but think  about why you want to do that thing why is it  

important for you to get that job and if you think  about like the person getting the job it's usually  

because they have a family to support or something  like I don't want to let my family down I need to  

work very hard at what I'm doing because like I  don't know what my uh like it would it would be  

awful if my if I failed and my my family like  didn't you know didn't do well and this is why  

this is this is another it's like a funny a funny  kind of meme or picture I saw recently uh it was  

a kind of similar thing to this but it showed a  guy uh and and women were kind of talking about  

him and they were saying men only think about one  thing but then it was a picture of the guy he was  

thinking like I have to work harder I have to care  about my family I'm like not doing a good enough  

job like and this guy was putting lots of pressure  on himself he wasn't thinking about sex which is  

the kind of the joke of the thing um but it it's  again it all comes back to that fire uh that you  

that you're really excited about okay so take the  the particular thing you want whatever that goal  

is like speaking English fluently and think about  why is it you want to have that why why is that  

actually valuable for you and if you think like  well I would be able to you know talk with people  

in my community and it's like yeah that's a good  that's a good reason but why is that why is that  

reason important for you and like well if I if  I if I can talk with people well in my community  

then like I will be respected and that's like oh  now we're now we're getting somewhere now we're  

getting to the fire over here okay so instead of  just thinking about like The Logical goal we're  

trying to get to that why the deeper why which  will give you that fire for what you want to do  

that's the thing that will actually motivate you  so like obviously people would agree being able  

to speak another language fluently is a really  cool thing to do just like playing the guitar  

or you know doing a martial art or whatever your  you know whatever that thing is but the reason we  

actually do something is the deeper reason here  and that's what gives you the fire to do that  

thing okay hopefully that makes sense all right  I'm kind of going on and on about this but I  

really want to make this idea very clear when I'm  talking with Learners this is the kind of thing  

I'm trying to get from them so it's usually the  deeper emotional things like I feel disrespected  

by my co-workers uh or I just I just don't feel  like I'm like as good as they are because they  

they speak better uh and you know the same thing  I was just talking about at the beginning of this  

video like me comparing myself to a young child  and it doesn't matter if the comparison is is is  

real or not or fair or not the point is uh does  it give me the fire to do something all right so  

if you have particular things I'd love to know  why you are trying to learn English or trying  

to do whatever the thing is uh whatever it is  you're trying to do all right let's go back and  

make sure we get all these questions over here all  right n says great job I say I got these I think I  

did these already uh always motivated that's why  I'm here glad to hear it Diana Nona says I'm here  

to tell you God bless you teacher well thank you  that's how I feel Drew is the best person to do it  

foreign still trapping that's an interesting name  sammon with some uh little lovey uh heart faces  

over there uh oh I guess you guys are talking with  each other in there understanding you I'm feeling  

motivated glad to hear it uh let's see Sandra from  Korea Carlos happy 4th of July hi teacher Drew hi  

from Wisconsin well more people from Wisconsin  over there you guys should have a little like a  

club or something uh Manuel nice to see you there  RI every depends on interest and motivation then  

we can find time says uh Randi yes that's correct  and so it's easy to find time for the things  

you want to do you know like we we we basically  find time or we make time uh and it's important  

to to realize uh you have control over that so  if we think like I don't have time you're saying  

you don't have control over your life but if you  think oh I'm not making time uh it's you're you're  

you're getting closer to uh to finding that  fire ABDO says thanks for this uh expensive  

information you have a smart technique teacher  uh that sounds come from the comfortable Zone if  

we listen in we can't uh we can't anything new in  our life life if I read that correctly excuse me  

uh Rich says I have to put in the hours to help me  achieve my English goal I consistently do it with  

determination even though I may be a bit sluggish  however I also reach the point uh how to say on  

English I don't know what that's referring  to uh but yes if you're feeling motivated  

again the the clearer you can be about doing  something for me it's like not being embarrassed  

by my kids speaking better than me that's my  that's my non-logical very emotional reason like  

it's just a personal Pride issue about learning so  would it be a good idea if I spoke well absolutely  

but like that's not a good enough reason for me  or you know typically like I mean it's a good  

reason I think about it logically uh but the  the illogical reason the non-logical reason is  

I'm just like I don't want my my children to speak  better than me because that would be embarrassing  

so I'm I'm happy that they do they do speak very  well and that's great uh but again like I'm using  

that in my mind I create that fire to help me get  what what I want all right uh hip says I seen your  

video on YouTube and it's very helpful for me glad  to hear uh if you know uh other people who would  

enjoy the video click the like button and share it  Jamie says speaking of motivation how do you think  

of strong social pressure about learning English  especially from Korea uh Japan or Korea because  

sometimes psychologically blocks motivation of one  um yeah there's certainly a lot of people trying  

there's a lot of push to get people I don't know  so much about Korea uh but certainly in Japan and  

now they're lowering the age where people start  learning the language so like Elementary School  

third and fourth graders I think in public schools  and they they probably want to get that to first  

and second graders as well uh where people are  starting to learn English um they're still not  

doing a very good job of teaching the language but  you know they're making more of an effort to do  

that thing um but I would not depend on outside  motivation like a person coming and telling you  

or your parents telling you to do something the  whole point of the fire is that it comes from  

inside you now you create that thing it might not  even be like a real reason to do something you're  

just I'm getting angry about something or I'm  passionate about something or I'm whatever like  

that that's the reason I do something and usually  uh it comes back to like feeling loved or respect  

or included or whatever uh in relation to other  people in your life so that's why I mentioned  

the idea about like people having uh like they're  comparing each other at work so this other guy uh  

is speaking really well at my job and he's doing  well I can see he's about to get promoted to do  

something else I feel really disappointed that I  can't do that uh so I should actually think like  

wait a minute if that guy can do it I can do that  too and then I will either like ask him how did  

he do it or find a good way to get what I want  uh but yes like the the the problem with a lot  

of like typical ways of doing things is that they  make the process more difficult so if I go back to  

uh comparing specifically for uh language Learners  and this is it's probably the same thing for for  

trying to learn anything but in general there are  good ways of doing something and not so good or  

less efficient ways of doing things and so when  I first came to Japan I spent a year trying to do  

things uh what I'll just call uh learning Japanese  as a second language like the way T people would  

learn English as a second language and so in this  way I'm trying to study grammar rules and memorize  

translations and I'm looking at uh flash cards  and trying to remember words or write things down  

uh but that wasn't really working for me so the  path itself was really frustrating okay remember  

we've got these two pieces there's a path here  and then we've got also the mental part of how  

we think about that so the the the actual path to  to getting uh fluent in Japanese was like this it  

was like the slope was it was possible people  were doing it but it was it was actually quite  

difficult to do and the reason is because like  trying to remember grammar rules and translations  

it's not a very efficient way to learn and it's  actually making it more difficult for you to  

speak because how we learn is how we speak so so  if we spend a lot of time thinking about like I'm  

trying to translate in my mind when I learn then  of course I would have to translate when I speak  

all right so there are lots of good reasons why  this way is much more difficult okay so we have uh  

it it is possible but this way is more difficult  to do it and so fewer people will succeed doing  

that uh and so again if it is possible even if  it's difficult then we will also have the mental  

reasons like well this is kind of uh it's it's  not really working very well for me or I don't  

have time to do this I'm not making much progress  lots of those those little reasons will come up in  

our mind about not wanting to do something so you  really need a very strong reason that very strong  

fire to accomplish something especially that's  more difficult all right now once I discovered  

that okay there is a a second way of learning  which is learning Japanese as a first language  

and this is why I teach English as a first  language and by first Lang I mean you're learning  

it all in that language so right now I'm teaching  English in English so if you're learning things  

I'm I'm trying to make it clear in English I'm not  using Spanish to teach you uh you know English or  

whatever so again here's like the difficulty curve  like trying to climb up this this wall over here  

it is possible to do but it's going to be more  difficult but for learning Japanese as a first  

language it's like super easy I mean you're  basically just getting lots of examples from  

from other people the difficult thing is if you  try to do it yourself which is what I was doing so  

like I like in in theory this is how how children  are learning the language and children should be  

getting lots of good examples because they're  hearing that from other people lots of other  

people are teaching them the language for me it  was a bit more difficult I'll just kind of draw  

this this line up here so it's easier than that  one it's like we're going to we're going to make  

it like the the other way it's a bit easier uh to  do but I'm I'm still making it a little bit hard  

or it is a little bit hard because I have to teach  myself the language and that's hard to do it's  

hard to it's hard to like to learn a language as a  first language and teach yourself that language as  

a first language all right uh but if you have  someone to help you do it then of course it's  

really easy because it's just other people telling  you what what things mean you understand things  

very easily and so you become very fluent and  this is why you look at little kids and and kids  

don't really have this problem about motivation  because everyone else is just getting them fluent  

automatically in the language all right so what  I did for helping people learn English is like  

I'm basically like your parent I'm like a parent  and an expert and a guide at the same time and  

trying to make the process very easy so instead  of learning Japanese as a first language you're  

learning English as a first language all right but  again like there's still some effort all right so  

it's like you have to watch a video you know like  you have to push play or make some kind of time to  

do something so there's always some kind of effort  and because you need some kind of effort you're  

going to get those mental things that pop up that  think ah uh wait a minute like I don't have time  

for this or do I really care about this you'll  find lots of doubts excuses reasons where other  

people will laugh at you or something like that  all right so again the idea like if the path you  

you want to make the path as easy as possible but  there's always there's always some kind of effort  

there okay there's always always something uh and  so if there is anything like you got to make sure  

uh you're making it like you know get that get  that fire all right so remember like when when  

little kids are trying to learn a language like  there's lots and lots of natural pressure on them  

to learn it even if the teaching is not so good  but because children get so many examples of the  

language they just naturally come to understand  it without sitting and studying anything and and  

like humans have been learning to speak for  way longer than uh there has been any kind of  

writing so if you think about learning through  textbooks even natives use textbooks when they  

start getting into school but for thousands and  thousands of years people have been learning to  

speak without textbooks you don't need a textbook  to learn to speak and you just get that naturally  

because you're getting lots of examples all in the  language you're learning all right so again again  

this is the easiest way I have found to get fluent  and so if you make it really easy for people to  

get fluent they get fluent easily but remember  there's still some kind of effort there and if  

any kind of effort even again like if something  is really easy to do there's still there's still  

going to be some reason why you're not going to  do that thing so you have to create even if it's  

a a non-logical reason an emotional reason why  you will do something you need to create that  

thing but it's pretty easy to do all right so  I I I told you I'll mention this again one more  

time just for new people watching so if you think  about your your logical goal you take that logical  

goal like needing to pass the toic test and I say  okay why do you need to do that you continue to  

ask yourself why until you get to that emotional  reason so I need to pass the toic test why well  

because I need to get a job okay why is that  important to you because uh if I don't get a  

job then my family will die okay that's a good  reason you know there like so there's there's  

some like the actual emotional reason there like  I would be disappointing to my family if I don't  

do this all right I would it would be very  shameful for me if I don't do this all right  

so that's again it could even be a negative kind  of emotion like for me it's I'm using a basically  

a negative emotion of pride in that way like like  ah like my children know some vocabulary I do not  

you know and and of course they're going to do  that that makes sense but I'm using that as a  

reason to push me to do something okay all right  so remember like you don't you don't have to uh  

try to force yourself like you should find an easy  way to do something whatever that is learning to  

play the guitar or something but you'll still need  to find some kind of actual non-logical reason why  

you should do that thing all right so even even  the best students should should be thinking about  

that just like I mean that's why I gave the  examples of Michael Jordan and Tom Brady and  

these these are two people who are at the top of  their game they are the best at what they do and  

they still come up with some kind of non-logical  reason they create you know a drama or something  

like that to make it interesting for them all  right uh let's see I think I answered that one

already uh let's see I think I answered that  one too let's see and how to let's let's see  

uh Jamie again says and how could people overcome  those kinds you would say those kinds of social  

pressure uh and enjoy learning by the way uh  always thank you for your saying I enjoy it  

glad to hear it um well I I think like if you're  if you're talking personally I'd like to know more  

Jamie more details about if you're talking about  your personal situation or you're talking about  

in general um but uh like the the the the the  two things I'm trying to do as a teacher I know  

I have to deal with both of these things I can't  just make I can't give you like really difficult  

uh confusing lessons and then tell you like well  just just get out and do it you know like that's  

that's not good teaching at all I have to make the  process really simple and I actually have to help  

you if I can find your own motivation to do that  so I can't I can't motivate you but I can like  

like help you find that thing so I know I have  to do both of those things and so in like in a  

like let's say the Japanese government uh should  also be thinking about this like the Japanese  

government or the you know Korean government  whatever if their goal is to get lots of people  

speaking English or doing anything like you have  to make the process easy and you also have to have  

to show them like how to be motivated to do that  thing cuz lots of people again they will naturally  

think about the reasons they can't do something  that's just the the natural process what most  

people do it's always easier because there are  so many of these things there it's just in it's  

infinite you can always find another reason not  to do something you can always find another reason  

not to do something but you only need one good  reason to do that thing and if it's strong and  

if it's more powerful than these other ones over  here then you will accomplish that thing okay so  

if I'm the Japanese government like like let's  say not even learning English right right now  

the Japanese government uh and I don't know  about Korea but they probably have a similar  

issue uh but young people are like not getting  married and having kids so you have a population  

decline now whether that's a good thing or a bad  thing that's it's not really I'm not here to talk  

about that but if it's the goal of the government  to motivate people to do that they're basically  

making it more difficult for people to have kids  so they're not dealing with the path issue over  

here of like how do we actually make it easy for  people to do that so like if we if we made it  

easier for more people like people thought like  the future was going to be uh I don't know like  

more positive or whatever than the present then  more people would try to have kids you don't have  

to convince people to do it you have to make the  path easy and then remind them why you're doing  

that thing and then usually the the problem will  solve itself so in the like the larger population  

for a a government that's how I would do that uh  but that's the same thing people should be doing  

individually as they're trying to learn all right  uh let's see I think I got that one too all right  

Joe says so so cool and kazm says I'm glad to see  you watching you from Iraq welcome and jerma says  

Hi teacher and ASDF again could I learn Japanese  with English are there any benefits to learning  

two or more languages at the same time um well  you could do that but I would not try to learn  

Japanese like through through English you're  learning them separately in the same way that you  

might take two different classes in college like  I can learn a science class and a computer class  

at the same time uh but I'm not trying to like  learn uh Japanese through English or something  

like that uh let's see being the best doctor in  you or like your University or whatever yeah so  

if that if that's like if that's important to you  that's your that's your reason think about like  

why that is so again like you could have a goal  of being the best at whatever but you'll notice  

like in the uh in the examples with Michael Jordan  and uh and Tom Brady that I gave they're giving  

very kind of lowlevel motivation for themselves  which is like that guy said I couldn't do it so  

like Michael Jordan like he doesn't really need  to prove he's the best because he's already the  

best so he's actually finding a very low reason  to continue working hard and that that reason  

is like well that guy just said I'm not a good  player so basically he's saying like not only  

that I have to be the best but I have to prove I  am the best to every person so everybody who knows  

my name or ever heard of me should be saying  I'm the best and if I see like a little kid or  

some guy some person watching a game is like yeah  Michael Jordan's pretty good but he's not he's not  

like the best you know it's like what like I am  the best let me prove to you I'm the best and I  

I'll shoot like you know 50 uh you know 50 points  or whatever in a in a game or something like that  

and so the the the point is like uh think like  continue to ask yourself why until you really  

feel confident about something okay so you feel  like yeah like like you have that you when you  

feel that fire the more you ask why the easier  it is to to find that thing uh let's see I am in  

into business glader and I think I saw the movie  someone gets killed by a bear Yeah by says Dre  

do you still experience aha moment when learning  Japanese uh yes so every day uh I'm I'm I'm still  

again I have that fire to learn Japanese and I  become fluent in individual words and phrases  

as I remove the doubt from those things so  I like I can say I'm a good Japanese speaker  

about the things I know and I am continuing to  expand this as I learn new ways of describing  

things or whatever um and and so I become better  like at these things as I add those if that makes  

any sense but I this is like a very very quick  thing I'll mention because I mentioned this in  

almost every video but you really become fluent  in things as you understand them individually so  

individual words and phrases rather than um like  trying to get fluent in English so you get fluent  

in a grammar Point as you understand how to use  it well rather than like trying to memorize it  

or get a translation of it or something like that  so you might understand something to a low degree  

where you only have exposure or awareness of a  particular grammar point or vocabulary but you  

don't really have ownership you don't really feel  100% confident that you'll speak correctly about  

something and if you don't feel that then you're  probably not going to speak so when you're trying  

to learn things uh you should be trying to get  like uh as many aha moments as you can as you're  

learning and you learn them for each individual  thing okay so continue to push yourself and the  

way I push myself in is reminding myself that my  kids know more than I do so again I laugh because  

it's a it's like a non-logical it's kind of a  silly reason but it's silly the same way Michael  

Jordan cares about what some random player  thinks about him that's clearly not as good  

as Michael Jordan and like and the and the guy  didn't even like say anything about that and so  

I think there's actually a good video a YouTube  video about this particular story about Michael  

Jordan and this other guy is like uh I didn't  say anything about Michael Jordan but he like  

he like really like you know played me very  badly uh another story actually about Michael  

Jordan this happened during the um I think it was  the 1994 US Olympics uh or not it was wasn't the  

US Olympics but it was it was like the Barcelona  I think the the one in was that was that Spain I  

don't remember where that Olympics was um but this  was where uh the the men's basketball team from  

America the the Dream Team uh went to play this  was the first year they're getting uh professional  

athletes I think um like actual like pre players  from the NBA uh going and they're they're making  

this like really good All-Star team of players  to be in the Olympics and so you had all the  

the best players in the NBA at that time Michael  Jordan Magic Johnson Larry Bird that there's a  

documentary about this uh but at the time uh two  of the players from that team so Michael Jordan  

and Scotti Pippen uh they were both playing  on Chicago where I'm from they're playing on  

Chicago's team normally uh the Chicago Bulls and  the uh like the manager of I don't know if he was  

the manager I think it was like Jerry crous is  his name I think I I forget anyway uh he's he's  

recruiting a uh a player named Tony kach I think  from I think he's from Croatia I think I forget  

it's again it's not really important for the  story uh but Tony kach is like the best player  

uh in his country and he's going to meet the  meet them in the Olympics and so Michael Jordan  

and Scotty Pippen are they're like so angry  uh I mean they should be happy that they're  

going to get another good player on their team but  they're actually they're using that to create that  

fire for themselves where they get really angry  that like their player or their their manager is  

like finding another good player and he thinks  like he said you think that guy can play and so  

Michael Jordan and Scotti Pippen every time they  they play like they're they're basically going  

to like really hurt Tony kach as much as they can  just because they they just have that fire and so  

even Tony kach was talking about it he was like  you know I couldn't do anything he's like these  

guys are just they were like really on me and he  was just a really good uh basketball player also  

and he came to America and helped the Bulls win uh  more championships uh but it's just interesting to  

hear that like they just they were like what like  you think he's a good player I'm going to show  

you I'm a good player and so there's no there's  no logic to this it's and again it's like when  

you're trying to think about the logic of why  something happens um often it's the emotional  

fire that gets you the thing you want y Tony CUO  from Yugoslav was that was that the Yugoslavian  

team I thought it was um I don't know I don't  know where that like what what that team was  

in that Olympics but I don't I don't remember  that name being Yugoslavia but uh if you look  

that up yeah I'm sure you can find that tuba says  uh Drew Sensei nice to see you with the DAP there  

it is too hot and humid here in Japan yes uh we're  experiencing that here in Nagasaki I don't know if  

you have rain I think you're in uh aren't you in  Tokyo I don't know where you are but uh aara says  

hi Drew uh could I say like this after you have  been learning English from you for 2 months and my  

English is starting better and and better by the  day now I understand a lot what you are teaching  

yeah you can say after 2 months I'm understanding  more that would be a simple way to say that can I  

use English to learn another language like Spanish  or Portuguese uh I wouldn't learn English or I  

wouldn't use English to learn a different language  but I would I would just learn that language in  

that language if you can find someone who can help  you do that or you can try to do it yourself like  

I did which was a real pain so again like I'm  trying to teach myself uh Japanese like first  

I'm trying to learn Japanese by myself then I'm at  least you know I found a better way to do it but  

the easiest way is really to have other people who  know how to teach it to you uh what are the things  

to be considered to get fluent in English uh  basically you just need to make sure you eliminate  

the doubt that stops you from speaking that's it  that's the that's the basis or the foundation of  

being able to communicate so for most people you  will not speak if you have doubts about vocabulary  

or pronunciation or grammar or whatever uh and so  that's the thing you need that's the real problem  

you need to solve for getting fluent so even if  you know some vocabulary how well do you know  

that vocabulary if you still have doubts about it  you should review that vocabulary more so getting  

fluent is really just removing doubt all right  I talked about this recently uh like you have a  

block of wood and you're trying to carve a uh like  a statue or something in that and the the statue  

is always there but the the wood around it is like  the doubt you have when you're trying to speak so  

you know what you want to say but there's some  kind of doubt around that that's preventing you  

from speaking so you need to clear that doubt  or whatever the the the questions you have or  

uncertainty about that thing and that's what's  going to help you speak so that's the fastest  

easiest way I can explain that so the the fastest  way to get fluent is to eliminate or destroy or to  

stop or end the doubts that stop you from speaking  the fastest way to get fluent is to eliminate the  

doubts that stop you from speaking hopefully that  makes sense uh let's see budy says hi Elder says  

hey there what's going on Mohammad says it's been  two years now I'm in the US I'm not able to speak  

English with people generally but sometimes I  couldn't find the right so I oh I am I am able  

to speak with people sometimes I can't find the  right words during the conversation especially the  

moments when I feel doubt yes and so like you have  to clear these doubts basically one at a time and  

so like for for me trying to learn Japanese I will  maybe hear a new grammar point or something like  

like a new thing I'm learning right now and I'm  still like I still feel doubt about it uh is say  

uh and this is like like the English equivalent  would be like even something like uh like or  

like like even even a child could do something uh  but I still need like many more examples and and  

even trying to get many different examples from  different people uh it's still confusing for me  

so I still have doubt about that so I'm not going  to be able to use it fluently but when I get that  

aha moment usually after I have enough examples or  if I have a good teacher who can explain something  

uh and it's rare to find that uh but if I have  someone who can explain something very well uh  

then I feel confident using it so you really  get fluent in these things individually as you  

understand them better andette says thanks  for your motivation it's my pleasure all  

right Jamie says I couldn't agree more the path  is much easier and fun when we learn a language  

as first one yeah uh Louis says I bought your  English course already welcome to the program  

uh boan do Brazil Drew well good evening uh  let's see and is it says a good teacher that  

guy speak English so easily to understand yes  if you're talking about me yes I'm intentionally  

being understandable so that you can follow what  I'm saying you don't have any questions and then  

it's like the first level for understanding  more difficult native speakers so what we do  

in fluent for life we start you with helping you  understand this so you get lots of examples of  

understandable English but then we show you kind  of lead you to understand uh much more difficult

examples uh let's see

uh right uh what is the difference between humble  and modest that's a good question I'd have to  

think about that humble and modest I mean you  could be you could be humble is humble is like  

the it's like the opposite of having lots of Pride  uh and like you could be you could be modest in  

in like maybe you um like you don't you don't  like tell tell like so much about yourself I'm  

just trying to think about a person who could be  uh like who they could be modest but they're not  

necessarily humble so you could like let's say  you're like really good at I don't know playing  

the guitar or whatever and I don't talk about that  much like I personally have a lot of Pride about  

that but I'm modest like I don't mention much  about it uh there's also the meaning of modest  

where like you're like you don't like like women  dressing uh we're showing they're like showing a  

lot of skin or something like that like a modest  woman would be the opposite but that's not really  

connected to Humble so you have to go deeper  into the the understandings of the word and and  

this isn't I this video is already 80 minutes  long but um if you if you look at the uh the  

differences in in in vocabulary for particular  situations it becomes easier to understand that  

so it's a good question but you have to think  about like like using humble versus uh modest  

in a particular situation which I I don't want  to go into because I've already I'm like this  

just isn't the video for that um but uh that's  how you would do that all right let's see Saar  

says I'm late it's okay remember you can watch  these videos anytime Elizabeth says humble is  

a virtue of the quality of human uh intelligence  why well that's a you could you could put a lot  

of things in that description I guess kazim says  uh your topic is very important to living great  

life without motivation is difficult to Dodge  in the pressure yes so I'm talking about this  

mainly for people learning English but again it  works for anything that's why I was using excuse  

me uh like examples like Michael Jordan and Tom  Brady so those are sports things but it's the same  

basic idea Elizabeth says how do you keep American  Events up to dat living in Japan uh usually just  

hearing about that from other people so if like  I was talking with some people and they reminded  

me about July 4th so I always forget about July  4th because in Japan it's just it's just a day  

it's not like Yay it's like July 4th right now  but nobody is outside barbecuing or anything  

like that uh let's see Elder says again Drew I'm  definitely catch every point of your basketball  

story very interesting thanks glad to hear yes I  usually I want to give a few different kinds of  

stories really uh I don't know why I'm thinking  more about basketball for this one but just cuz  

Sports is it's a little bit different from  language learning Pedro teach you your price  

in the website and Facebook Facebook and others  is totally different they are us and uh yeah well  

that makes sense sometimes we're running like a  promotion and you will find if you find a cheaper  

price like from an ad then I recommend you get  that but we have the normal prices of things  

on our website so if you find a good price then I  recommend you join the program but this is that's  

kind of like a typical thing like you will find  different prices for things all over the place it  

just depends on where you get them or if you have  a coupon or whatever and that's for you know many  

different organizations or companies or stores or  whatever Molly says how to clear the doubt that  

prevent you from speaking English uh well Molly  you have to do that individually for you know  

whatever words and phrases you're trying to use  but as you that that's why I want to remind people  

you don't really get fluent in English you get  fluent in particular words and phrases or grammar  

points or whatever so the particular vocabulary  you're learning whatever that is if you have a  

doubt about something then that's where you focus  so that becomes the like the the opposite of that  

you you want to clear the doubt by getting many  more examples of that thing until you get that aha  

moment where you really understand something and  so I've like if you watch my videos you will see  

many examples of this but this is what fluent for  life is so the whole point of the program is to  

take you through the steps that get you fluent and  help you understand things like a native so if we  

can clear the doubt then you will naturally start  speaking things without worrying because the doubt  

is gone and that's the doubt is what stops you  from speaking so if you're doing it by yourself  

uh just like I was trying to get fluent in  Japanese and I still am getting fluent basically  

uh in Japanese by myself I'm spending time getting  many examples about something like this like I've  

been spending like three days trying to get many  examples about this all right now people think  

like well who cares if you know this particular  grammar point there are like you know many ways  

to express something it's personally important to  me I'm creating that fire for myself just for you  

know something even smaller and silly like one  little you know phrase It's look at it's like  

Sai like it's like who cares it's other I could I  could easily find other ways to express myself but  

if I think there's a phrase or grammar that I just  couldn't understand that would make me feel feel  

there's that that key word about feeling like that  would make me feel disappointed so if my child  

for example could use this but then I could not I  would feel very bad about that I would feel very  

bad about that again this is not a logical thing  this is about finding that fire that's why I call  

it fire the the motivation comes from that it's  not coming from like a logical reason like well  

I should get a job so I can earn money or whatever  like earn money for what what is the point of that  

so you have to think you have to ask yourself why  until you get to that real fire all right that's  

where we that's where we get where we're going all  right let's see here we're at 90 minutes already  

oh my goodness I think I think we're getting to  the Finish Line though uh let's see from Guinea  

West AA Tom choah hi Drew do you have a video that  gives examples of English fluency bits uh if you  

search the YouTube channel you should probably  find some uh and we also cover this in fluent  

for Life canero says hi Drew I've noticed that  people who don't care if they're making mistakes  

while speaking achieve their goals faster than  the ones who know the language better but don't  

dare to speak yes so again like there are people  who don't care about doing something and like like  

for me uh I care about making mistakes when I  speak and when I when I realize I have made a  

mistake even if you know like let's say I'm I'm  saying something and this happens to me sometimes  

I feel confident that I'm saying something and  then I will be corrected later like I will hear  

it in a movie or a TV show and I will feel really  embarrassed about that I will think oh my oh my  

goodness I've been saying this incorrectly this  whole time and so I very quickly like I learn  

okay I should correct that thing um and so some  people uh they like they worry about like whatever  

their particular thing is that like being able to  communicate typically if that's an important thing  

for them like if communic if they're communicating  well in their native language then typically they  

will care more about communicating well in the  language they're learning um but other things  

that maybe you don't care care so much about you  don't care so let's say I I don't know much about  

I don't know playing some Sport and I go out and  like try to play that sport like I don't I don't  

care if people think I'm bad at that game because  I know I'm bad I'm just learning how to play so I  

wouldn't feel bad about that but for learning a  language like I care about communicating well in  

English so I I also care about communicating well  in Japanese or whatever other language I'm trying  

to learn so it depends on the person also depends  on the thing that you're doing and the same person  

can feel like they care about one thing but they  don't care about something else and so you you  

have to find that that balance uh like for you  personally if you care about making mistakes in  

the language then you should correct that problem  you can like and for some things like it actually  

is more important than others like for language  communication uh if I need to communicate well  

for a job then I should actually solve that  problem I can't just be confident and speak  

incorrectly that that will that will just look  stupid and you know I would I would probably not  

get the job or or do whatever it is I'm trying to  do so there are situations where you where you do  

have to make a strong effort to uh to solve that  particular doubt but yes like you will find some  

people who don't care and maybe they don't speak  very well anyway uh but they don't care about that  

all right so and it's interesting like and you you  find that when people don't care about something  

they can uh either do it very well or do it very  poorly it just depends on the uh on the person  

let's see Pedro again talking about your course  your website offer the amazing 29 but the offer  

another uh I think you have that backwards Pedro  uh but yes so like if you see like typically like  

and this is the way like advertising works so we  don't um also just like so everybody knows like uh  

if you have not noticed already for my videos you  will not find advertising on my videos but like  

we do use advertising because we're trying to tell  other people like hey we have a really good way to  

help people and so that's what we do so often like  advertisements will have and this is not just for  

us but people will have a like a lower price or  something to attract people to come give something  

a try because it's new but you know on our website  we will have typically like the normal prices of  

programs uh and so people do pay both depending  on how they find us uh uh let's see Elizabeth  

said when I don't remember the right word I have  doubt of my mental acuity yes and it's it's okay  

to like you will forget words sometimes um and you  know that's that's just going to happen but you  

can choose to focus more on that particular thing  solve the problem by ending the doubt and once you  

understand something then you you basically have  it forever so you get that aha moment like ah now  

I understand what something means and usually  I do that I give examples of that kind of thing  

uh in uh in lots of my videos I'm just spending  more time in this one talking about mindset and

motivation uh let's see uh Pedro again New  Zealand will have a new law to force school to  

teach phonics oh really huh that's interesting uh  they should be teaching phonics it's a good idea  

uh they should also use my app so I created that  just for uh I think I actually I I sent an email  

and got I got a reply back this was I don't know  a few years ago I was talking about the um talking  

with the like I don't know some some like actually  pretty high up minister in education or something  

in New Zealand about using Frederick uh and like  I don't think they're using it but they could but  

anybody who wants to learn how to how to speak the  language correctly how to spell how to understand  

and especially learning fonics they should get  the app and you can do that by clicking on the  

link in the description below there's a video uh  J oh J no or you know the best let's see speaking  

English with a lot of mistakes or take time to  find the right word speaking which is the best way  

for someone to learn English uh well it depends  on who you are I guess if you care about that and  

it's and it's not important to your life to speak  correctly then you can just keep talking I guess  

but if it is important then you should find the  things that you are uncertain about solve those  

by getting many examples until you understand it  and then you move on to the next thing Pedro again  

what do you think even native country is caring  about how caring about now what is the opinion for  

us adults learn phonics now uh yes and and most  of the people who get Frederick are adults because  

they they have been learning English and they have  trouble with uh spelling or understanding English  

pronunciation and it's much easier if you learn it  with phonics so phonics doesn't cover everything  

but it covers most things uh and we show how uh in  the app uh even for things that don't use phonics  

or don't follow those same rules um we show you  how to how to learn those words too fars is how  

long have you been in Japan I've been here about  20 years a little over 20 years Ash says hey Drew  

I know that my speaking skills are growing but uh  still I feel that I can't speak with people so is  

there any way to remove this thing uh well think  about what specifically that is what is the thing  

that's stopping you maybe it's it's doubt about  particular words or phrases or whatever but you  

need to solve those problems that's it uh when I  force my brain to speak it gives me the words huh  

Alexis says Dear drw you really uh navigated me or  you can say like yeah like yeah navigating me it  

sounds a little bit but I understand what you're  saying uh and my friend to get uh the Right Way  

You Are personally share that fire with us you  are an amazing guy glad to hear it well again  

like in Miami well welcome to America uh enjoy uh  and remember like yeah find that find that fire if  

you find that fire there's there's really nothing  you can't do uh could you tell me more about your  

course is there anything special about it uh  well like when people say like what makes the  

program differently I or what makes the program  different I usually ask them what they've been  

doing to learn English and then they typically say  well I'm trying to like learn English through my  

native language or even if I'm learning English  I have a teacher that doesn't really sound like  

native English speakers and uh like just kind of  the typical things and then I say well the reason  

you're not becoming a good speaker is because  you're using all those typical methods that  

actually stop you from speaking and they stop  you from speaking because they don't clear the  

doubt that actually allows you to speak and so  what we do uh specifically in fluent for life is  

really help you understand the language  well because there are different levels of  

understanding you could say there are different  levels of fluency so you could have a very low  

level of fluency where you just hear things but  don't really understand them or you understand  

them a little bit and you can recognize them  in conversations or you actually are able to  

understand things and you can use them confidently  and fluently so what happens is most people  

only understand things a little bit so they can  recognize them they think they know the vocabulary  

but they actually don't know the vocabulary  well enough to speak and so that's what we do  

in fluent for life we actually get you fluent by  helping you understand the vocabulary really well  

by eliminating the doubts you have that stop you  from speaking and when the doubts are gone you  

start speaking so that's how it works so if you'd  like to learn more though uh you can click on the  

links uh in the description below this video uh  thank you you are amazing well it's my pleasure  

it's glad to be uh amazing uh let's see but I'm  always trying to trying to think of better ways  

to explain the program but that's basically it we  clear up the doubts that stop you from speaking  

uh so we do that by helping you understand the  language like a native rather than like learning  

it like a typical student would all right uh what  do you think about a a I don't know what that  

is uh and canero says that fire in Me is from my  childhood so I burned a lot by that fire yes so if  

you're if you have like a reason to do something  even if it's from your childhood or whatever uh  

like another example from my own childhood  I was always a bad reader I hated reading it  

was really difficult for me I didn't  want to do it uh and then I remember  

very clearly I was in a like an interview to  get into high school and my mom and I were  

sitting at a table with a guy from the high  school and I was in eighth grade uh at that  

time so this is just before going into high  school and he said he looked at my reading  

scores and he said my scores were like two levels  below where they should be and I remember looking  

like looking at my mom uh and my mom was just like  you know she was trying not to look disappointed  

in front of this guy when she's hearing this  information uh but you know she looked at me  

and I could tell like I know my mom very well I  know she she doesn't need to make a big you know  

a really obvious face but I could feel it and I  was like all right I need to I need to I need to  

figure this out so at that moment I was like all  right I need to find something where like and and  

and the and this is like I I'll make this last  point about motivation here um when like you've  

probably heard the expression where there's a  will there's a way where there's a will there's a

way I don't want to make this video  too long we're at 100 minutes already

where where there's a will there's a

weight so the will is the desire to do something  the will and so if you it basically means if you  

have a strong desire where there's a will the way  will be found uh the way will be found uh and and  

so when I uh at that moment and I I remember  this like it was very clear I could feel the  

uh the embarrassment that my mom had because my  reading level was so low compared to where it  

should have been it was like I don't know fifth  or sixth grade reading level when it should have  

been obviously eighth grade or better um but I  just hated reading so much and so at that point  

like I felt something change in me now I didn't  know how I was going to become a good reader but  

I just knew like I had to do it like I felt like  I must you know be able to Pro to my parents that  

I can actually read uh and and so like it's  interesting not long after that uh I was I  

was introduced to some comic books about uh like  Eastern philosophy and I still have some of those  

books today uh but and and like I wasn't looking  for that specifically but that was like the way  

like I became a good reader by reading those  books uh and it got me interested in you know  

other things and uh so that that's part of my own  history is from that but again it was interesting  

often if you just have the will the way will F  like the way will find you okay so you will find  

a way or the way will find you like that that's  uh you know that that's basically how it how it  

happens but it's the uh cuz you're when you have  the will you don't you don't really worry about  

like like excuses like well I don't know exactly  how I'm going to do it you just find a way or the  

way findes you and it's amazing it's like the  universe will provide you the things or you  

will notice those more in your life or whatever  uh but you will have those experiences that make  

something possible if you have the will all right  so I guess it's it's good to to end on this uh on  

this topic here it it it ties up uh this whole  thing uh nicely but again like try not to think  

about the the kind of higher level logical reason  why you want to do something think about the the  

deeper what is the real reason you're doing that  thing and if you have a really strong reason  

you will find like things will naturally find  themselves to you automatically so that that's  

kind of how you know you found the the right  way to do something I could probably have like  

organized this this video better if I was like  trying to think about this whole process but I  

I this like covers everything basically so uh just  to recap everything uh if you want to do something  

logically like you want to get fluent or get a  job or pass a test or whatever try to think less  

about that particular goal and think about what  is your deeper reason for doing that because if  

you don't have a deeper reason for doing that it  will be very difficult for you to uh to overcome  

any doubts or uncertainty or whatever you have  about that thing uh but if you have a really  

strong reason typically you will find a good way  to do it so for me like getting fluent in [ __ ]  

Japanese like At first I was like yeah like I can  do this I really want to come out here and be here  

and I had a really strong desire to do that and I  found a way and that way was learning Japanese as  

a first language and so when I discovered that  I was like oh wow look at that like I had the  

desire in the way found me all right so I wasn't  I like didn't know where that was going to come  

from you don't often know how it's going to happen  but usually it does so and it begins often with  

having a strong enough will so the will the idea  or the Deep desire or fire keeps you uh excited  

to uh you know whatever do your do your particular  thing all right look person says I'm looking tired  

I got my I got a small bottle of water today so  this is easier to deal with while I'm shooting a

video all right the home stretch last little last  little comments over here last few comments all  

right nice class I use your app it's very useful  glad to hear it Pedro if you know other people or  

you want to tell the people of New Zealand are you  in New Zealand I don't know why you're mentioning  

that but if you in New Zealand tell people to  use it uh we would like to add more uh voices  

in the future so that's still a plan to have like  you know uh like American like female voice and  

Canadian and British and so people can hear the  difference between those uh way will find me is  

better yes so the way will find you and that's  why this expression is like where there is a will  

there is a way like there is a way we don't know  how the way will find us or if we will find the  

way but uh we will get connected somehow if that  makes sense all right uh quim AC alanka like ah  

okay that's a Brazilian ah okay have a variation  where when this expression all right well we've  

gotten to the end of this video and I can rest  my voice look at that 108 minutes oh my goodness  

I did not anticipate that from this video but I  had lots of motivation you know I want to make  

sure other people can experience the things that  they would like to do so hopefully this has been  

beneficial for you if it has do click the like  button let other people know about this video  

because YouTube like is really bad about sharing  our content probably because we don't monetize it  

I think maybe YouTube would share our content  more if we had uh if we like put ads on all of  

our videos but let's see far says uh yesterday I  really wanted Fried Chicken now I'm it follow your  

dreams keep learning yes very good yeah like when  you feel that you're like man I just really want  

something like the universe opens up even if it's  just fried chicken you know there you go all right  

well again click on the links in the description  if you'd like to learn more most of the things we  

talk about in these YouTube videos it's explaining  the principles of fluency like talking about the  

principles of motivation the mindset you need to  get fluent but if you'd really like me to just get  

you fluent and help you understand the language  to clear up the doubts that stop you from speaking  

click on the links in the description below  this video and I'll see you next time bye-bye