Advanced English Listening - The INDIRECT Path To Fluency

hi there I'm Drew Badger the world's

hi there I'm Drew Badger the world's number one English Fluency Guide and it

number one English Fluency Guide and it

number one English Fluency Guide and it is a pleasure to welcome you to 2019

is a pleasure to welcome you to 2019

is a pleasure to welcome you to 2019 this is our first video of the new year

this is our first video of the new year

this is our first video of the new year so hello and welcome I hope you are

so hello and welcome I hope you are

so hello and welcome I hope you are excited to begin a new year just

excited to begin a new year just

excited to begin a new year just learning continuing to improve and

learning continuing to improve and

learning continuing to improve and hopefully this year becomes the year for

hopefully this year becomes the year for

hopefully this year becomes the year for you if you decide to make it it can be

you if you decide to make it it can be

you if you decide to make it it can be the year you become a confident speaker

the year you become a confident speaker

the year you become a confident speaker and a fluent speaker as well today I

and a fluent speaker as well today I

and a fluent speaker as well today I want to talk about an interesting idea

want to talk about an interesting idea

want to talk about an interesting idea just kind of to remind people always to

just kind of to remind people always to

just kind of to remind people always to think in a different way about how you

think in a different way about how you

think in a different way about how you learn because most people if you just do

learn because most people if you just do

learn because most people if you just do the same thing again and again if you

the same thing again and again if you

the same thing again and again if you keep learning the traditional way

keep learning the traditional way

keep learning the traditional way watching more videos about learning

watching more videos about learning

watching more videos about learning English especially if you're watching

English especially if you're watching

English especially if you're watching them in your native language you're not

them in your native language you're not

them in your native language you're not going to become a better speaker you're

going to become a better speaker you're

going to become a better speaker you're going to learn more but are you going to

going to learn more but are you going to

going to learn more but are you going to become fluent and if you want to become

become fluent and if you want to become

become fluent and if you want to become fluent you need to learn more in English

fluent you need to learn more in English

fluent you need to learn more in English and you need to speak more so today I

and you need to speak more so today I

and you need to speak more so today I wanted to talk about what I call like

wanted to talk about what I call like

wanted to talk about what I call like angles of approach so how you how you

angles of approach so how you how you

angles of approach so how you how you approach something whatever your

approach something whatever your

approach something whatever your particular target happens to be humans

particular target happens to be humans

particular target happens to be humans we have an interesting way of trying to

we have an interesting way of trying to

we have an interesting way of trying to get something as quickly as possible we

get something as quickly as possible we

get something as quickly as possible we think we think we can go directly to a

think we think we can go directly to a

think we think we can go directly to a particular target in a direct way that

particular target in a direct way that

particular target in a direct way that we think we can go in now I know that

we think we can go in now I know that

we think we can go in now I know that sounds kind of like a confusing idea but

sounds kind of like a confusing idea but

sounds kind of like a confusing idea but as an example like people want to do

as an example like people want to do

as an example like people want to do something like I want to go to a

something like I want to go to a

something like I want to go to a particular college or I want to achieve

particular college or I want to achieve

particular college or I want to achieve fluency or I want to do something we all

fluency or I want to do something we all

fluency or I want to do something we all have ideas about how we think this is

have ideas about how we think this is

have ideas about how we think this is going to happen so I'm going to get

going to happen so I'm going to get

going to happen so I'm going to get fluent by you know reading text books or

fluent by you know reading text books or

fluent by you know reading text books or practicing or doing this other thing so

practicing or doing this other thing so

practicing or doing this other thing so you have an idea about how you're going

you have an idea about how you're going

you have an idea about how you're going to do these things but often and this is

to do these things but often and this is

to do these things but often and this is the point of this video we don't get to

the point of this video we don't get to

the point of this video we don't get to where we want to go directly there's

where we want to go directly there's

where we want to go directly there's always like some kind of different way

always like some kind of different way

always like some kind of different way or something unexpected we still get

or something unexpected we still get

or something unexpected we still get where we want to go but it's thinking

where we want to go but it's thinking

where we want to go but it's thinking about it more in an indirect way now as

about it more in an indirect way now as

about it more in an indirect way now as an example let's say you are I'll draw

an example let's say you are I'll draw

an example let's say you are I'll draw like this is a pretty girl at a bar

like this is a pretty girl at a bar

like this is a pretty girl at a bar over here and she's like talking with

over here and she's like talking with

over here and she's like talking with her friends and some guy walks up to her

her friends and some guy walks up to her

her friends and some guy walks up to her and he you know he's interested he says

and he you know he's interested he says

and he you know he's interested he says wow that's a that's a good-looking girl

wow that's a that's a good-looking girl

wow that's a that's a good-looking girl over there I want to ask her out I want

over there I want to ask her out I want

over there I want to ask her out I want to try to get her phone number or

to try to get her phone number or

to try to get her phone number or something now let's say he walks up to

something now let's say he walks up to

something now let's say he walks up to her now he's thinking in his mind wow it

her now he's thinking in his mind wow it

her now he's thinking in his mind wow it would be great to have sex with that

would be great to have sex with that

would be great to have sex with that girl you know or maybe not maybe he's

girl you know or maybe not maybe he's

girl you know or maybe not maybe he's not thinking that specifically but you

not thinking that specifically but you

not thinking that specifically but you know like most men are do you know was

know like most men are do you know was

know like most men are do you know was thinking about that anyway if he were to

thinking about that anyway if he were to

thinking about that anyway if he were to ask her about that directly imagine if

ask her about that directly imagine if

ask her about that directly imagine if he walks up like his his kind of main

he walks up like his his kind of main

he walks up like his his kind of main goal is to walk up and say you know you

goal is to walk up and say you know you

goal is to walk up and say you know you look very attractive would you like to

look very attractive would you like to

look very attractive would you like to have sex with me this evening now she

have sex with me this evening now she

have sex with me this evening now she might you know slap him or throw some

might you know slap him or throw some

might you know slap him or throw some water in his face or something like that

water in his face or something like that

water in his face or something like that that you've probably seen in the movies

that you've probably seen in the movies

that you've probably seen in the movies or even in real life but when he's

or even in real life but when he's

or even in real life but when he's looking at you know someone like that

looking at you know someone like that

looking at you know someone like that and he walks up and directly tries to go

and he walks up and directly tries to go

and he walks up and directly tries to go after what he's interested in

after what he's interested in

after what he's interested in he's not going to get it and this is the

he's not going to get it and this is the

he's not going to get it and this is the same thing even for just regular men

same thing even for just regular men

same thing even for just regular men you're not even trying to get sex or

you're not even trying to get sex or

you're not even trying to get sex or whatever right from the very beginning

whatever right from the very beginning

whatever right from the very beginning but men too try too hard

but men too try too hard

but men too try too hard to get a girl and that makes the girl

to get a girl and that makes the girl

to get a girl and that makes the girl not interested so it's a really weird

not interested so it's a really weird

not interested so it's a really weird thing that like I remember I did that

thing that like I remember I did that

thing that like I remember I did that like there was you know a girl that I

like there was you know a girl that I

like there was you know a girl that I would be chasing or something like that

would be chasing or something like that

would be chasing or something like that for a really long time working really

for a really long time working really

for a really long time working really hard trying to you know like send her

hard trying to you know like send her

hard trying to you know like send her flowers and do all these other things

flowers and do all these other things

flowers and do all these other things but what I didn't realize when I was

but what I didn't realize when I was

but what I didn't realize when I was younger is that that usually doesn't

younger is that that usually doesn't

younger is that that usually doesn't work I mean unless the girl is already

work I mean unless the girl is already

work I mean unless the girl is already interested in you and you know often

interested in you and you know often

interested in you and you know often that's not really happening but the

that's not really happening but the

that's not really happening but the point is that trying to go directly to

point is that trying to go directly to

point is that trying to go directly to that thing it often pushes that thing

that thing it often pushes that thing

that thing it often pushes that thing away from you further so like another

away from you further so like another

away from you further so like another example again like I just talked about

example again like I just talked about

example again like I just talked about this because hopefully people understand

this because hopefully people understand

this because hopefully people understand that but just to connect that with the

that but just to connect that with the

that but just to connect that with the idea of fluency and the goal people have

idea of fluency and the goal people have

idea of fluency and the goal people have is to become a fluent speaker and so

is to become a fluent speaker and so

is to become a fluent speaker and so they're trying to get to that however

they're trying to get to that however

they're trying to get to that however they think that is possible to do so

they think that is possible to do so

they think that is possible to do so they may want to maybe again learn

they may want to maybe again learn

they may want to maybe again learn through textbooks or I'm going to learn

through textbooks or I'm going to learn

through textbooks or I'm going to learn a bunch of phrases I'm going to watch

a bunch of phrases I'm going to watch

a bunch of phrases I'm going to watch some videos on YouTube right now about

some videos on YouTube right now about

some videos on YouTube right now about how to improve but what really people

how to improve but what really people

how to improve but what really people should be doing the kind of different

should be doing the kind of different

should be doing the kind of different angle well even before I do this just

angle well even before I do this just

angle well even before I do this just an example with the men keep you in

an example with the men keep you in

an example with the men keep you in suspense for a moment but for men like

suspense for a moment but for men like

suspense for a moment but for men like actually just kind of focusing on

actually just kind of focusing on

actually just kind of focusing on yourself

yourself

yourself in the sense that like you know what I'm

in the sense that like you know what I'm

in the sense that like you know what I'm gonna stop trying to chase women I'm

gonna stop trying to chase women I'm

gonna stop trying to chase women I'm going to go to the gym I'm going to work

going to go to the gym I'm going to work

going to go to the gym I'm going to work on myself I'm going to improve myself

on myself I'm going to improve myself

on myself I'm going to improve myself and something magical happens the women

and something magical happens the women

and something magical happens the women become interested and end up like coming

become interested and end up like coming

become interested and end up like coming after you instead

after you instead

after you instead now this isn't for everyone but again

now this isn't for everyone but again

now this isn't for everyone but again working on yourself and doing things

working on yourself and doing things

working on yourself and doing things like that without trying to chase

like that without trying to chase

like that without trying to chase someone you begin attracting people to

someone you begin attracting people to

someone you begin attracting people to you because you become more attractive

you because you become more attractive

you because you become more attractive yourself so this is just one example of

yourself so this is just one example of

yourself so this is just one example of how this instead of trying to go at

how this instead of trying to go at

how this instead of trying to go at something directly you're thinking about

something directly you're thinking about

something directly you're thinking about it in a different way but you actually

it in a different way but you actually

it in a different way but you actually get the result you want faster so this

get the result you want faster so this

get the result you want faster so this doesn't mean like it takes longer this

doesn't mean like it takes longer this

doesn't mean like it takes longer this way it's more about doing something

way it's more about doing something

way it's more about doing something that's actually getting you to the goal

that's actually getting you to the goal

that's actually getting you to the goal what you need to be doing for that goal

what you need to be doing for that goal

what you need to be doing for that goal hopefully I'm explaining this well and

hopefully I'm explaining this well and

hopefully I'm explaining this well and not being too confusing anyway so this

not being too confusing anyway so this

not being too confusing anyway so this is what we have for simple relationships

is what we have for simple relationships

is what we have for simple relationships between men and women and this is not

between men and women and this is not

between men and women and this is not like all men and all women but just as

like all men and all women but just as

like all men and all women but just as an example now in the case of fluency

an example now in the case of fluency

an example now in the case of fluency people are thinking everyday and they're

people are thinking everyday and they're

people are thinking everyday and they're like how can I get fluent how can I get

like how can I get fluent how can I get

like how can I get fluent how can I get fluent and I talked with learners about

fluent and I talked with learners about

fluent and I talked with learners about fluency because it's such an important

fluency because it's such an important

fluency because it's such an important idea for them but what I really want

idea for them but what I really want

idea for them but what I really want them to focus on here it is it's an

them to focus on here it is it's an

them to focus on here it is it's an amazing idea let me see let me write it

amazing idea let me see let me write it

amazing idea let me see let me write it right here it might be kind of hard to

right here it might be kind of hard to

right here it might be kind of hard to see co and ve our conversations now

see co and ve our conversations now

see co and ve our conversations now trying to focus on conversations instead

trying to focus on conversations instead

trying to focus on conversations instead the reason you do this and it naturally

the reason you do this and it naturally

the reason you do this and it naturally brings you up to fluency is because you

brings you up to fluency is because you

brings you up to fluency is because you only get fluent by speaking so even if

only get fluent by speaking so even if

only get fluent by speaking so even if you only begin having conversations just

you only begin having conversations just

you only begin having conversations just like little children and I tell the

like little children and I tell the

like little children and I tell the story often about how I learned to speak

story often about how I learned to speak

story often about how I learned to speak Japanese and what changed me from

Japanese and what changed me from

Japanese and what changed me from learning the traditional way to learning

learning the traditional way to learning

learning the traditional way to learning in the native way that I teach now or

in the native way that I teach now or

in the native way that I teach now or the natural way that I teach now is just

the natural way that I teach now is just

the natural way that I teach now is just watching children and even right now

watching children and even right now

watching children and even right now having a young daughter who's learning

having a young daughter who's learning

having a young daughter who's learning to speak and just seeing what she does

to speak and just seeing what she does

to speak and just seeing what she does she begins with very simple simple

she begins with very simple simple

she begins with very simple simple words and phrases like hello and what's

words and phrases like hello and what's

words and phrases like hello and what's this and what's that and it's just

this and what's that and it's just

this and what's that and it's just speaking that actually delivers her to

speaking that actually delivers her to

speaking that actually delivers her to fluency now the problem with most

fluency now the problem with most

fluency now the problem with most learners is they think that they need to

learners is they think that they need to

learners is they think that they need to kind of like study and study and study

kind of like study and study and study

kind of like study and study and study and study oh I can't speak yet because I

and study oh I can't speak yet because I

and study oh I can't speak yet because I don't know enough or I need to keep on

don't know enough or I need to keep on

don't know enough or I need to keep on learning because I don't quite

learning because I don't quite

learning because I don't quite understand people so I need to know

understand people so I need to know

understand people so I need to know everything before I can speak so they're

everything before I can speak so they're

everything before I can speak so they're waiting and it's mostly because people

waiting and it's mostly because people

waiting and it's mostly because people are nervous so if you out there you're

are nervous so if you out there you're

are nervous so if you out there you're watching this video and you know a lot

watching this video and you know a lot

watching this video and you know a lot of English and you should know if you're

of English and you should know if you're

of English and you should know if you're watching this video because I you know

watching this video because I you know

watching this video because I you know most of the English I'm explaining here

most of the English I'm explaining here

most of the English I'm explaining here is it's pretty pretty easy English it's

is it's pretty pretty easy English it's

is it's pretty pretty easy English it's not beginner or basic English but it

not beginner or basic English but it

not beginner or basic English but it should be really easy to understand but

should be really easy to understand but

should be really easy to understand but if you are the kind of person who is

if you are the kind of person who is

if you are the kind of person who is waiting for a magical moment where you

waiting for a magical moment where you

waiting for a magical moment where you get fluent and then you finally speak

get fluent and then you finally speak

get fluent and then you finally speak it's not going to come and I remember I

it's not going to come and I remember I

it's not going to come and I remember I had these the same experience happen to

had these the same experience happen to

had these the same experience happen to me when I was learning Japanese I would

me when I was learning Japanese I would

me when I was learning Japanese I would be kind of studying and studying and

be kind of studying and studying and

be kind of studying and studying and studying more flashcards more this every

studying more flashcards more this every

studying more flashcards more this every day but because I just didn't speak

day but because I just didn't speak

day but because I just didn't speak again I'm not going try to get directly

again I'm not going try to get directly

again I'm not going try to get directly to that thing how I think I'm gonna do

to that thing how I think I'm gonna do

to that thing how I think I'm gonna do it I just do the one thing I need to do

it I just do the one thing I need to do

it I just do the one thing I need to do to become a good speaker and that's just

to become a good speaker and that's just

to become a good speaker and that's just speak so even if you only begin

speak so even if you only begin

speak so even if you only begin something with a hello or how are you or

something with a hello or how are you or

something with a hello or how are you or as the example that I've used when

as the example that I've used when

as the example that I've used when talking with students I went to a

talking with students I went to a

talking with students I went to a grocery store in Japan near my home and

grocery store in Japan near my home and

grocery store in Japan near my home and I just said where's the milk where's the

I just said where's the milk where's the

I just said where's the milk where's the ice cream where is this and I just

ice cream where is this and I just

ice cream where is this and I just practiced that because that's what's

practiced that because that's what's

practiced that because that's what's giving me a good conversation

giving me a good conversation

giving me a good conversation so conversations even if they are simple

so conversations even if they are simple

so conversations even if they are simple they give you confidence which

they give you confidence which

they give you confidence which automatically brings you up here to

automatically brings you up here to

automatically brings you up here to fluency so I'm drawing this in a way it

fluency so I'm drawing this in a way it

fluency so I'm drawing this in a way it looks like it's moving away from that

looks like it's moving away from that

looks like it's moving away from that but it's the fastest way to get here

but it's the fastest way to get here

but it's the fastest way to get here does that make sense so when you're

does that make sense so when you're

does that make sense so when you're thinking about the angle of approach at

thinking about the angle of approach at

thinking about the angle of approach at something how you think you're gonna do

something how you think you're gonna do

something how you think you're gonna do it if you're not already making progress

it if you're not already making progress

it if you're not already making progress a little bit now that way is probably

a little bit now that way is probably

a little bit now that way is probably not going to work but the interesting

not going to work but the interesting

not going to work but the interesting thing is you know you're going to make

thing is you know you're going to make

thing is you know you're going to make progress and I'll make another video

progress and I'll make another video

progress and I'll make another video about this soon but it's pretty easy to

about this soon but it's pretty easy to

about this soon but it's pretty easy to tell what works because it works a

tell what works because it works a

tell what works because it works a little bit so I'll explain more about

little bit so I'll explain more about

little bit so I'll explain more about that later in another video coming up

that later in another video coming up

that later in another video coming up but again this idea instead of trying to

but again this idea instead of trying to

but again this idea instead of trying to like study and study and study and think

like study and study and study and think

like study and study and study and think you need to know more and more and more

you need to know more and more and more

you need to know more and more and more you're going to learn more and hopefully

you're going to learn more and hopefully

you're going to learn more and hopefully you become able to speak it's much

you become able to speak it's much

you become able to speak it's much better even if you make mistakes to just

better even if you make mistakes to just

better even if you make mistakes to just start speaking with people now you can

start speaking with people now you can

start speaking with people now you can begin with just commenting online or

begin with just commenting online or

begin with just commenting online or speaking to the people around you just

speaking to the people around you just

speaking to the people around you just say hello even if you just say hello

say hello even if you just say hello

say hello even if you just say hello that's going to help build your

that's going to help build your

that's going to help build your confidence so you start speaking more

confidence so you start speaking more

confidence so you start speaking more and that's how you actually get fluent

and that's how you actually get fluent

and that's how you actually get fluent so when you think about the things you

so when you think about the things you

so when you think about the things you want in life if you're not getting what

want in life if you're not getting what

want in life if you're not getting what you want and you keep making that same

you want and you keep making that same

you want and you keep making that same effort then be willing to try something

effort then be willing to try something

effort then be willing to try something different don't worry about making a

different don't worry about making a

different don't worry about making a mistake when you open your mouth because

mistake when you open your mouth because

mistake when you open your mouth because each time you open your mouth you are

each time you open your mouth you are

each time you open your mouth you are guaranteed to improve either you say

guaranteed to improve either you say

guaranteed to improve either you say something well and you feel good or you

something well and you feel good or you

something well and you feel good or you make a mistake but you learn how to say

make a mistake but you learn how to say

make a mistake but you learn how to say something good in the same way and in

something good in the same way and in

something good in the same way and in either way it still makes you feel great

either way it still makes you feel great

either way it still makes you feel great so these are things to remember as

so these are things to remember as

so these are things to remember as you're learning so remember this as

you're learning so remember this as

you're learning so remember this as you're beginning your 2019 I hope this

you're beginning your 2019 I hope this

you're beginning your 2019 I hope this is a powerful video for you let me know

is a powerful video for you let me know

is a powerful video for you let me know in the comments below if this made sense

in the comments below if this made sense

in the comments below if this made sense again trying to think about going after

again trying to think about going after

again trying to think about going after something directly the way you think

something directly the way you think

something directly the way you think it's going to happen usually it's not

it's going to happen usually it's not

it's going to happen usually it's not happening especially if it's not working

happening especially if it's not working

happening especially if it's not working like I said the girl flowers and she

like I said the girl flowers and she

like I said the girl flowers and she didn't like so should I send her more

didn't like so should I send her more

didn't like so should I send her more flowers probably not no I should

flowers probably not no I should

flowers probably not no I should probably try to do something different

probably try to do something different

probably try to do something different or not send her anything at all and just

or not send her anything at all and just

or not send her anything at all and just focus on myself and improve myself and

focus on myself and improve myself and

focus on myself and improve myself and watch what happens later when I improve

watch what happens later when I improve

watch what happens later when I improve and she starts coming to me naturally

and she starts coming to me naturally

and she starts coming to me naturally again this is just one example but it

again this is just one example but it

again this is just one example but it works exactly the same way for fluency

works exactly the same way for fluency

works exactly the same way for fluency and the other things we want to do in

and the other things we want to do in

and the other things we want to do in life if this video helped you do give

life if this video helped you do give

life if this video helped you do give this video a like comment down below

this video a like comment down below

this video a like comment down below what let me know what specific you uh

what let me know what specific you uh

what let me know what specific you uh specifically about the video you enjoyed

specifically about the video you enjoyed

specifically about the video you enjoyed and let me know if there are other

and let me know if there are other

and let me know if there are other questions you have so I can help you

questions you have so I can help you

questions you have so I can help you with those if you'd like to learn more

with those if you'd like to learn more

with those if you'd like to learn more you can click on the link in the upper

you can click on the link in the upper

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specific personalized advice for your

specific personalized advice for your situation whatever it is you struggle

situation whatever it is you struggle

situation whatever it is you struggle with it could be reading writing

with it could be reading writing

with it could be reading writing listening speaking all of these things

listening speaking all of these things

listening speaking all of these things are connected and if you can improve

are connected and if you can improve

are connected and if you can improve your weakest fluency habit the thing

your weakest fluency habit the thing

your weakest fluency habit the thing that you're struggling with the most

that you're struggling with the most

that you're struggling with the most your biggest most painful communication

your biggest most painful communication

your biggest most painful communication problem

problem

problem that's going to help you become a fluent

that's going to help you become a fluent

that's going to help you become a fluent speaker much faster so click on the link

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your free personalized guide for

your free personalized guide for ever problem you have how to look

ever problem you have how to look

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