Networking in English | Easy, Effective Conversation Strategies

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When you hear the word networking.
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I know you know exactly what that means.
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Networking means meeting new people, starting conversations,
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and even engaging in small talk.
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If you're someone who's naturally shy and introverted, like I am,
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that can sound like the nightmare scenario. Not only that,
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but networking in English may be a challenge.
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You're never sure of the right questions to ask or how to best follow the
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conversation. Plus at the end of the day,
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what you really want is meaningful,
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engaging conversation.
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So when there are opportunities for you to network in English,
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you might turn them down, but here's the problem. You know,
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that networking can lead to amazing opportunities.
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It can lead to new career connections, job promotions,
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positions at a new company, new clients,
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and even lifelong friendships.
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So as an international English speaker,
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who struggles with networking in English,
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how can you muster up the motivation needed to engage in those
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opportunities and do it with confidence in English,
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maybe even enjoy it. I'm Annemarie with Speak Confident English.
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Everything I do here is designed to help you get the confidence you want for
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your life and work in English in this Confident English lesson today,
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I'm going to share with you six powerful and instantly effective tips to
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help you network in English so that you can meet new people easily.
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Even if you're an introvert or naturally shy.
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[Inaudible].
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Tip number one, prepare in advance.
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Do you ever think that some people seem to love networking and they
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seem to do it easily? It's like they don't even have to think about it.
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They can just jump into a group of people and start conversations and make
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connections without even thinking about it.
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If you've ever had that thought you're right,
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networking does come more easily to some than others.
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Research indicates that introverts need more time to think and process
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information.
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We can be easily overwhelmed by noise crowds and
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increased stimuli, which leads to anxiety.
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And as our anxiety increases,
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it makes it more difficult for us to think clearly or be in the moment.
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As the author of the introvert advantage explains an introvert's
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brain actually works harder to process events,
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thoughts, feelings, and interactions.
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There is literally a longer neuro pathway for information to
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travel as a result.
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It's no surprise that introverts often need or prefer to
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have time to think before they speak or in responding to
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questions.
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And that's exactly why preparing in advance is effective when you're
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getting ready to go to a networking event in English. Well,
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the first thing you can do is consider what kind of event it is.
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Is it a formalized professional networking event, or is it a dinner party?
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What kinds of people might you be meeting at that event?
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And then prepare the questions that you would like to ask in advance.
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Have a list of three, four or five questions that, you know,
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you can use with almost anyone you meet.
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This is something I often do anytime I know I'll be meeting new people.
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I always have a list of questions prepared to use.
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Another way to prepare in advance is to plan to limit your time
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there.
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If networking is a challenge and it drains your energy don't
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plan to spend hours at an event,
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if you don't need to give yourself a limited amount of time that you
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will be at the event and fully engaged during that time.
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And then when you're ready, you can leave. When, you know,
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in advance that you're only going to be there for a short time.
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It can help you get and keep the motivation you need to be
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present and start those conversations successfully.
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Tip number two is change your mindset as someone who is interested
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in personal growth,
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I'm sure that you've already implemented this strategy in many other areas of
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your life.
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So you know how effective it can be rather than views small talk and networking
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as a necessary evil,
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you can shift your mindset just a bit and think of it as an opportunity
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to engage in meaningful conversation or develop meaningful
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relationships. On top of that, instead of going into an event,
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thinking this is going to take forever and I'm going to be so tired when I'm
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finished again, you can shift that mindset just a bit to:
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I can be positive and engaging for one hour at this event.
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And instead of thinking, I never know what to say or ask.
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You can shift your mindset to,
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I only need two or three questions to get others talking.
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And that is the perfect opportunity for me to introduce tip number three,
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use your secret weapon as an introvert and ask questions.
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Introverts are natural question askers,
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and you can use this to your advantage when you don't want to be in the
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spotlight or you don't know what to say, let others do all the talking.
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And here's an effective way to do that when you're preparing your questions in
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advance,
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avoid focusing on questions that have a simple yes or no answer,
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for example, are you having a good time or do you like the food?
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Those questions can have a simple yes or no.
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And that immediately shuts down the conversation.
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Instead in your preparation focus on questions that require
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detailed answers.
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We call these open questions in English and they're easy to identify because
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they start with question words, such as who, what, when, where,
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why, how, how many, how long, how often and so on.
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Here are just a few examples of fantastic open questions.
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What's been the highlight of your year so far?
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What project are you working on right now?
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What exciting opportunities are on the horizon for your team?
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How did you get into your profession?
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What challenges do you think the industry is facing right now,
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before I move on to tip number four,
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there's one added benefit of asking these open questions.
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They naturally make you more interesting.
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I know that sounds a little bit strange,
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but individuals who are effective at asking questions are
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interesting people to talk to. If you don't believe me,
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I recommend that you check out my lesson titled how to be cool and interesting
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in English. What you discover might surprise you.
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And now tip number four,
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find common areas of interest as you ask your great open
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ended questions, listen carefully. As you do that,
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you'll quickly identify common areas of interest.
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And this is what can lead to more meaningful conversation and
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lasting relationships.
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A great way to show someone that you're listening carefully.
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And you've identified an area of common interest.
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Something that you want to talk more about is to reflect back to them.
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What you've heard, what that means is repeating what you heard them say.
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And turning that into a question. For example,
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maybe you're at a social networking event with everyone in the company.
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While you're chatting with one of your colleagues.
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You hear her say that she's been really struggling with how to implement
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all these new policies and rules around the budget this year to show that you
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heard her and that you have found something of interest that you want to keep
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talking. You could say,
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you mentioned that it's been a real struggle to implement some of these new
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policies. So how's it going?
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Have you been successful and where do you still have some challenges?
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Do you see how I did that?
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I repeated what I heard and I used it to continue the conversation.
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Here are some other ways you can do that. Oh, you play tennis. So do I,
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where do you like to play? I love cooking too. What's your favorite cuisine?
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I heard you say you're into hiking. Where do you usually go on the weekends?
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And that leads me into tip number five,
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which is make it easy to participate in the conversation.
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If you've planned your questions in advance,
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then make sure that you're also ready to answer those same
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questions. Have you ever noticed that when you ask a question,
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most people will answer and then say, and what about you?
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Where do you like to hike on the weekends? Or where do you play tennis?
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And that is the evolution of turn-taking in a conversation.
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Every good conversation has back and forth where everyone
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participates. So when you're following tip number one,
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and you're preparing your questions in advance,
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make sure that you're selecting questions,
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that you're also ready and willing to answer. So for example,
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if you're going to ask the question, what have you been working on lately?
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Be sure to take time,
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to also prepare your own answer to that question so that you feel well
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prepared and ready to go. And finally,
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our last tip for networking in English so that it's easy to meet other people.
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Even if you're an introvert is be genuine.
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It is absolutely okay if you're not comfortable when
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networking and it's also okay, to be honest about it,
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you might be surprised to discover how many people feel the same way.
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For example,
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if you're meeting peers at an international conference and you have no idea how
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to start a conversation,
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and it feels a little awkward to just introduce yourself,
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you could say something like, I'm not great at breaking the ice, but...
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or I'm not great at breaking the ice, so...
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I'm not great at breaking the ice. So I'll just introduce myself. I'm Annemarie,
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I'm an English coach and an entrepreneur. How about you? And another example,
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I'm not even going to pretend that I have a fancy ice breaker,
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so I'll just introduce myself. Hi, I'm Annemarie,
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and I'm a marketing specialist and you are your genuine honesty
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in those moments can put other nervous networkers at ease
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and help open the flow to conversation more quickly. And with that,
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you have six powerful tips to network in English and meet other
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people more easily. Even if you're shy. Before we finish,
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I want to give you a chance to put some of this into practice.
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I'm going to share with you three different situations.
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And I want you to use these as an opportunity to think about how you would begin
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a conversation.
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How would you use this as an opportunity to network with someone as you review
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these situations, you can share your example,
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answers with me in the comments below situation. Number one,
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you're attending a trade show and your dream company has a booth.
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You would love to find out more about working with that company and what the
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possibilities might be.
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How would you initiate the conversation with someone working at that booth
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situation? Number two,
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you're sitting next to someone in your industry at a conference.
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What would you say to start a conversation and situation? Number three,
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you're at a networking in a room full of potential customers.
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How would you start a conversation with one of them review the tips I've shared
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with you here and share your answers with me as always,
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