19 Common English Questions You'll Ask Again and Again [Fluent English Conversation]

Hello, this is Jack from tofluency.com.

Now, in this lesson, I'm going to talk about

a really powerful way to overcome your fear

of speaking English or your shyness

when it comes to speaking English

especially when you meet new people.

So imagine the situation.

You are at a party in your native country

and in walks this group of people who are English speakers

and they come over to you to say hello,

to introduce themselves and you know, okay,

now I have to start speaking English.

So this is when you panic

or this is when you start to feel really nervous,

you start to feel very stressed about speaking.

Well, I've got a quick tip

that's going to help you overcome this fear

to make you feel more confident

and comfortable in these types of situations

and I'm also going to teach you the type of language

you can use in these situations too

so that you're ready to start speaking English

and then watch until the end because I need your help too.

So I'll have a question for you at the end

that I want you to answer.

Before I talk about the little trick here,

know that this can often be quite awkward or uncomfortable

when you're doing this in your native language.

Meeting new people can be uncomfortable for a lot of people.

So know that this happens

when you're speaking in your native language too

and that it happens to English speakers at the same time.

It's a normal thing to feel but the trick is this.

Ask questions.

So you be the one who asks the most questions

and this helps you in a few ways.

Firstly, it gives you an opportunity

to get used to the situation

because you can ask one question

and then the other person starts speaking

and it gives you a chance

just to get used to this new situation that you are in.

So it gives you some time to overcome your fear

but also it gives you an opportunity

to learn the English you need to know

in order to have a conversation with this person

because if you ask this person a question,

they're quite likely going to ask you the same question

and when they're answering, you can listen for key phrases

that you can also use because when you speak to people,

it's not just about practicing your speaking,

it's about listening for key phrases,

it's about learning English in context

and also improving your English too.

So when somebody is answering the question,

you can steal little phrases from them.

You can imitate the way they speak.

You can take the phrases that they use

and use them when you're speaking too.

So with that in mind, I've got a few questions for you

to have in your arsenal, to store up your sleeve

or without using an idiom, to store in your brain

so that you can use these questions and ask these questions

when you find yourself in these situations

and finding yourself in these situations is quite common

if you put yourself out there if you are in an environment

where there are other English speakers around.

So things like when you go to parties,

when you go to events, when you go to language exchanges

or even when you go to weddings.

So learn these questions, commit them to memory

and go to my website to learn more

about how you can store these sentences in your brain.

The first one is this.

So how do you know and Paul and Sarah?

How do you know Paul and Sarah?

This is when you're trying to find common ground

because if you're at a party or an event or wedding

or something similar then somebody's hosting this,

the host, the hostess or the hosts.

So you can say how do you know Paul, how do you know Sarah,

how do you know Paul and Sarah?

So you're trying to find that common ground

and this is a question people ask all the time

in these situations.

People ask me this at parties and weddings.

So when you're sat next to somebody at a wedding

who you don't know, you can say,

oh, how do you know the bride and groom,

how do you know Paul and Sarah

and again, when you're listening to the answer,

you can use some of those phrases

to then answer for yourself

and it also gives you a bit of time

to think about how you're going to answer too.

Another common question to ask is about their job

and a very common way to do this is just to say,

what do you do?

What do you do?

What do you do?

When people ask me this

when I'm meeting them for the first time,

I tell them that I'm an online teacher and then usually,

there are a a lot of followup questions here

like how do you teach,

do you teach for yourself or for a company,

what is YouTube like, how do you find your students?

So this is when you need to be a little bit flexible

and think about some followup questions

but a common one is to ask do you like it

or do you find it enjoyable?

So you can ask them if they like their job

or if they find it enjoyable

but don't ask them about their salary.

It's quite rude to ask people how much they are earning

although I do find people want to know

if how much I'm earning when I talk about what I do.

The next one is something you learned a long time ago

but the followup question is something

you probably don't know.

So you can ask people where are you from?

Where are you from?

And in these types of situations

when you're talking to somebody who isn't from your country,

they're going to tell you the country.

So they'll say I'm from the UK, I'm from England,

I'm from Australia, I'm from America, et cetera

but you want to be more specific here.

So you can ask whereabouts in England

or whereabouts in Ireland?

So this is when you're getting more specific

about the city or the region

and again, this happens to me all the time.

Where are you from?

The UK.

Whereabouts?

Near Manchester.

So people ask me this all the time

and then it's time to use the present perfect

because you can either say oh, I've been there

or I've never been there, what's it like?

So this is when you can start using the present perfect

and if you have been to the place that this person is from

then you can be more specific.

You can say, oh, I was there in 2009, I used to teach there

or I went traveling there for a couple of weeks.

So this whereabouts, whereabouts in Spain,

whereabouts in the UK, whereabouts in England

is a really good followup question

and then you can ask somebody

how often do you go back to the UK,

how often do you go back to the UK,

how often do you visit your home where you are from?

This is again a question that people ask me all the time.

So it's a really good question to have.

How often do you go back home?

How often do you go back to the UK?

People are going to answer I go back every six months

or I go back about once a year.

So people are going to say I go back

and then use some type of time expression.

Now, before I give you some more questions,

you can also just give statements, make observations

and a good one that I like

when you are at a party or an event

is this is such a good spread, this is such a good spread

and this means that you think the food is really good.

I think this might be quite a regional expression

so be careful when using it.

Instead, you might want to say the food is fantastic

or the food is really good

because when you're having a conversation with somebody,

there are times when it goes a little bit silent

when no one speaks and this is just a good way

to continue the conversation.

So you can say the food is fantastic

and then that person is going to say,

oh yeah, I love the chili, I love the macaroni and cheese

or that broccoli and dip is really good

and then you can start talking about food from there.

Another statement you can make is about the weather.

People love talking about the weather.

It happens all the time.

So just saying things like it was so cold this morning

or it's gone cold, hasn't it

or I don't think this weather is going to last

or do you know if it might rain later?

So that's a question you can ask.

Now, to learn lots of phrases

to help you better talk about the weather,

check out the videos that I've made on this subject.

I'll leave them in the description.

You can also just make statements about the party

like this is a great party, this is a great wedding

or if you're at a wedding, the ceremony was fantastic

or if you're at the party, you can just say

I love this song if it's playing.

Just simple statements keep that conversation going.

I'm not sure why these next questions can be awkward

but asking people about their hobbies and interests

isn't the easiest thing to do.

I don't know why.

It just sometimes seems quite strange

to ask what hobbies do you like

or what do you do in your spare time?

What do you do in your free time?

And I know these are the types of questions you learn

when you're learning English through a textbook

but it can just sound a little bit strange.

Having said that, that doesn't mean you shouldn't ask them

and as an English second language learner

because English isn't your native language,

you can get away with asking questions

sometimes in an awkward way.

So don't worry about this too much

but I like to say things like so what are you into

or if you think that this person is into sports,

you can say so do you have a soccer team

or do you play any sports around here,

those types of things.

So people know that I'm from the UK

and when they find out I'm from the UK, they can ask me,

they usually ask me about football or soccer

like do you have a team in England or do you play soccer?

So you can start thinking about where they're from

or the information you already have

and then ask them something like that

or you could just simply ask them like what are you into?

So what are you into?

So what do you do when you're not working?

Ask something like that because that can open up a new topic

and you can find some good common ground there too.

Now, speaking about a question that could be awkward,

let's say that you really hit it off with this person

or you connect in a really good way.

Now, I'm not talking about romantically

although I'll leave a question for you soon with that

but let's just say you want to be friends

and you want to meet up.

You can just say something like hey,

would you like to grab a coffee sometime?

Would you like to grab a coffee sometime?

It's just a way to say let's meet up in a casual way

because we have this new friendship,

we could be friends maybe.

Would you like to grab a coffee sometime?

Or you could ask them would you like to hang out sometime?

Would you like to hang out sometime

and then you can get their number or their Facebook profile

and then get in touch with them at a later date.

Now, you can also ask these questions

if you are interested in this person romantically too.

So these questions still work

like would you like to grab a coffee sometime

but you might want to invite them out to a date

by saying would you like to go out sometime?

Would you like to go out sometime?

Anyway, it's been a long time

since I asked somebody out on a date

so I'm probably not the best person to ask here

and then finally,

I've just got a really good question for you

which you can use in lots of different situations.

So before, we talked about your job, okay, and jobs

or asking about jobs and then followup questions

and you can ask things like

how do you like working at the hospital,

how do you like working for that company

but you can use this how do you like for almost anything.

For example, how do you like going back home,

how do you like playing for that soccer team?

So it's a really good question for you to ask

if you want to know more information

about what someone has said.

All right, so those are the questions you can ask.

Those are the statements you can give as well

so that you have things to ask and say

when you meet someone for the first time.

So having that knowledge, having those common questions

and also knowing that asking a question

allows you to feel more comfortable with the person

and also allows you to steal the language that they're using

means that you can overcome your fear of speaking English

using these tips.

So my question for you is this.

What other questions can you ask in these situations?

Leave these questions below

and I'm going to comment on some of those posts

and let you know if it's a good question to ask

or if you need to change it slightly.

So leave those comments below.

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