Practice English Conversation (Advice on life from my grandpa) Improve English Speaking Skills

hello father finally I could come here to  visit you sorry for not coming sooner as I  

你好，父亲，我终于可以来这里看望你了，很抱歉没有早点来，因为我

promised don't worry son you look  happy to see me that's not very

答应过，别担心，儿子，你看起来很高兴见到我，这并不常见，

common yeah I know what happens is that the  advice you gave me last time I was here it  

是的，我知道会发生什么，这是你上次我来这里时给我的建议它

really worked for me I could solve my  problem and I want to thank you and I  

真的对我有用，我可以解决我的问题，我要感谢你，我

want to hear more I'm so happy you could solve  that problem so do you want to hear more life

想听到更多我很高兴你能解决这个问题，所以你想听到更多的生活

advice yes that you have a lot  of experience since you are

建议吗？是的，你有很多经验，因为你已经

old well maybe you're right soon I will leave this  

老了，也许你很快就对了，我将离开这个

world and it's a great idea to pass on  my experience and knowledge to the Next

世界，将我的经验和知识传授给下一代是个好主意，

Generation so I will give you the best life  advice the number one is stop trying to feel  

所以我会给你最好的生活建议，第一就是不要试图让

happy you should try for happiness  but trying to feel happy is a losing

你感到快乐应该努力追求幸福，但试图感到幸福是一种失败的

strategy the truth is you can't self-help  yourself into a perfect life and it's impossible  

策略，事实是，你无法自助进入完美的生活，

for humans to to feel happy all the time  understanding that and instead taking conscious

人类也不可能一直感到幸福，理解这一点，而是采取有意识的

actions actions that make your your  day-to-day life more joyful is the key to true

行动，让自己的生活变得完美。你的日常生活更加快乐是真正

happiness what I mean is if you have to  try to be cool you will never be cool do  

幸福的关键我的意思是如果你必须努力变得冷静你永远不会冷静

you understand if you have to try to be  happy then you will never be happy people  

你明白吗如果你必须努力快乐那么你永远不会快乐 现在的 人们

these days are just trying too hard it is  temporary always so live the moment those  

只是太努力了，这都是暂时的，所以要活在那些

temporary moments other advice I want  you to know is don't make impossible

暂时的时刻，我想让你知道的其他建议是，不要做出不可能的

affirmations affirmations create belief traps  the standing in the mirror and saying I'm a  

肯定，肯定创造信念，让站在镜子里说我是一个

gorgeous model will only make you feel more inner  turmoil because you won't believe the words you're

漂亮的模特 。 只会让你感到更加内心的混乱，因为你不会相信你所说的话

saying instead of affirmations straight up  to realistic beliefs that you can accept I  

，而是直接肯定你可以接受的现实信念，我

look amazing for my age what I mean is do  not exaggerate you could think it makes  

对我的年龄来说看起来很棒我的意思是不要夸大你可以认为它使

you feel better but no being realistic is the  best option what else let go of your ego your  

你感觉好多了，但不现实是最好的选择 还有什么办法放开你的自我 你的

ego tries to protect you from looking stupid  your ego will keep you from signing up for a  

自我试图保护你不显得愚蠢 你的自我会让你报名参加

dance class playing a sport or attending a trivia  night even when those things are good interesting  

舞蹈班、参加运动或参加琐事之夜，即使这些事情很有趣

and fun instead of listening to it all the time  learn when it's okay to let go of your ego and do  

而且有趣，而不是一直听它学习什么时候可以放弃你的自我并做

something different learn to accept the essence  of something life isn't fair but it can still be

一些不同的事情学习接受某些事情的本质生活是不公平的，但它仍然可以是

wonderful sometimes you simply can't have  something in life maybe you can't have

美好的，有时你只是可以生活中没有什么东西，也许你不能生

children your dream job didn't work out or your  relationship with your brother will never be

孩子，你梦想的工作没有成功，或者你和你兄弟的关系永远不会好，

good instead of chasing something you can't  have accept that you can have the essence of

而不是去追求一些你无法拥有的东西，接受你可以拥有

something people who can't have babies can  adopt people who don't have their dream

某些人 的本质 不能生孩子的人可以收养没有梦想

career can Pur their interest as  hobbies and people with prid family

职业的人可以将自己的兴趣作为爱好，有骄傲的家庭

bonds can make close connection with  friends instead but there is always a  

纽带的人可以与朋友建立密切的联系，但总有一种

way to enjoy these things also you need to  understand what true freedom is it's very

方法可以享受这些事情，你也需要了解什么是真正的自由，这非常

important Freedom isn't having tons of money  or being able to travel all the time of course

重要自由不是拥有大量金钱或能够一直旅行当然

not instead freedom is having a greated ability  to control your emotional state no matter  

不是相反，自由是无论生活中发生什么，都有强大的能力控制自己的情绪状态，

what happens in life that's what Freedom really  means so the question for you is are you really

这就是自由的真正含义所以你的问题是你真的

free be happy instead of right that's probably  some of the best advice I I can give you we  

自由快乐而不是正确的这可能是我可以给你的一些最好的建议我们

talked about not trying to find happiness  that's true but it's also true that one way  

谈到不要试图寻找幸福这是真的但也是真的

to guarantee more happiness in your life  involves choosing to be happy instead of

保证你生活中更多幸福的 一种方法 包括选择快乐而不是

right you can try this the next time you're  arguing with your wife partner brother or friend

正确，你可以在下次与你的妻子、伴侣、兄弟或朋友争论时尝试这个，

ask yourself would I rather be right  or happy that way the argument will end  

问问自己我宁愿是正确的还是快乐的，这样争论就会

peacefully and something important this  doesn't mean you are being the bigger

和平结束，这并不意味着重要的事情你是一个更伟大的

person nor does it mean that you are allowing  yourself to be pushed around all it means is  

人，也不意味着你允许自己被摆布，这意味着

that you see that there is a better way not  every situation should lead to One winner  

你看到有更好的方法，并不是每种情况都应该导致一个赢家

and one Loser by taking this step you not  only preserve your own happiness but also  

和一个输家，通过采取这一步，你不仅维护自己的幸福，也维护

the happiness of all involveed so decide to put  ego aside and try it what else live according to  

所有相关人员的幸福，所以决定把自我放在一边，尝试一下还有什么可以按照

your values a lot of us don't always behave in  accordance with our values let me explain it to

你的价值观生活我们很多人并不总是按照我们的价值观行事让我向

you you can value honesty creativity Freedom

你解释一下你可以重视的诚实 创造力 自由

Ingenuity but if your beliefs actions and  lifestyle don't mirror your values you won't  

独创性，但如果你的信仰、行动和生活方式不能反映你的价值观，你就不会

be satisfied with your life take a stock of your  life and see if it matches the values you hold  

满意你的生活，审视一下你的生活，看看它是否符合你所持有的价值观

dear if not it's time to make some changes  another thing whatever you do give it 100%

亲爱的，如果不是，那么是时候做出一些改变了，无论你做什么，

seriously whenever you find yourself  at work or in your personal life do  

只要你发现自己在工作或个人生活中，就

the very best you can do to do something  mediocrity harms both our psychic and our

百分百认真地对待它，尽你所能，做一些平庸的事情，

prospects it negatively impacts our  credibility lets people down and erodes our

这会对我们的精神和前景产生负面 影响 影响我们的信誉，让人们失望并侵蚀我们的

self-esteem so give your work your old do it  with Excellence do it more efficiently make  

自尊，所以把你的工作交给你的旧工作，以卓越的方式去做，更高效，让它更

it more interesting interes in improve  it or automate it give care to even the  

有趣，有兴趣改进它或自动化它，即使是

smallest task you'll stand out if you do many  people today would rather be noticed than do  

最小的任务，你也会脱颖而出，如果今天，很多人宁愿被关注，也不愿做

something not worth it choose to do something  not worth it getting noticed will then be a

一些不值得的事情，选择做一些不值得被关注的事情，这将成为一种

byproduct and one example of this is when  people want to learn English they do what's

副产品，这方面的一个例子是，当人们想学习英语时，他们会做必要的事情，

necessary but that's all they just do what  they have to do but if you want better

但仅此而已做他们必须做的事情，但如果你想要更好的

results you should give 100%  of your effort to obtain better

结果，你应该付出 100% 的努力来获得更好的

results I hope these life tips are useful  to you son soon I will no longer be here  

结果 我希望这些生活技巧很快对你有用，儿子，我将不再在这里

to help you don't say that you will live  many more years so I want more life advice  

帮助你，不要说你我会活很多年，所以我想要更多的生活建议，

please I would be happy to but only if  the people watching these videos like the

我很乐意，但前提是观看这些视频的人喜欢这个想法，

idea I hope you liked this conversation if you  could improve your English a little more please  

我希望你喜欢这次对话，如果你能再提高一点英语，请

subscribe to the channel and share this video with  a friend and if you want to support this channel  

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you can join us or click on the super thanks  button thank you very much for your support take

可以加入我们或单击超级感谢按钮，非常感谢您的支持，

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