![Speaking English: How You SHOULD [and Shouldn’t!] Respond to “What’s Up?”](../../../data/channel/RachelsEnglish/img/CwhgquSdo6E.webp)
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how you doing you doing good all right let's
practice speaking English work on our fluency
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the topic is it's not a competition all
right let's look at the the text I don't
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aim to win I don't aim to win I'm not
looking to win okay you repeat after
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me so I don't aim to win is the same thing as
I'm not looking to win I'm not looking to win
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win looking looking I'm not looking looking
looking looking to win I'm not looking to win
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I don't want to win want to I don't want
to I don't want to win I don't want to
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win I don't I don't aim to win the argument or be
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right B right so that b is emphasized
right I don't aim to win the argument or be
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right I'm not looking to win the argument or feel
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like I [Music] won I'm not looking
to win the argument or feel like I
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won that's not what I'm trying to do
here now did you notice this sentence
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and the one before this one I don't
aim to win the argument or be right
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that's the the same as I'm not looking
to win the argument or feel like I
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won it's the same sentence two different ways
to say it I don't aim to win the argument or be
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right I'm not looking to win
the argument or feel like I
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won I don't want to win the
argument or feel like I'm
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right that's right this is a third way
to say it that's not the point nor my
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objective that's not the point nor is it my
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objective so this is it is optional you can
put it there for more clarification or not
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that's not the point nor my objective
that's not the point nor is it my
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objective that's not the point nor is it my object
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objective that's not my goal so this here
just means that's not my goal that's not
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my point that's not my goal that's not
my objective so an objective is a goal
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I want to feel like we've come to
an understanding of the issue at
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hand I want to feel like we've come to
an understanding of the issue at hand
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what the issue at hand what does that mean that
means the current problem the current problem
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is the issue at hand the issue that we must
deal with right now the current problem the
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issue at hand I want to feel like we've come to
an understanding of the issue at hand I want to
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feel like we've come to an understanding
of the issue at hand I want to feel like
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we've come to an understanding of the issue
at hand I want to feel like we've come to an
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understanding of the issue at hand okay that
was a little fast I know I know the issue at
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hand okay well let's look at this I just want us
to reach a mutual understanding of the current
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problem a mutual understanding we both understand
the current problem hey what's another way to say
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the current problem the issue at hand I just want
us to reach a mutual understanding of the current
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problem I just want us to reach a
mutual understanding of the issue at
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hand I want both of us to
walk away feeling heard and
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understood okay so this says I want both
of us to walk away to finish feeling heard
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so if you feel heard you feel like the other
person listen led to you and they understood
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you so it's a feeling of being listened
to if you are listened Ed listened to
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then you were heard and understood I want
both of us to walk away feeling heard and
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understood it's important to me that both
of us feel listened to and appreciated
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feeling what's another way to say feeling listened
to feeling heard it's important to me that we
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it's wait there's no we there I just added a
we it's important to me that both of us feel
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listened to and appreciated it's important
to me that both of us feel listened to and
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appreciated so when you say listened to you
you have to kind of pause a little bit to get
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that out of your mouth clearly it's important
to me that both of us feel listened to and
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appreciated yeah because you got
to get that Ed listened to listened
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to yeah it's important to me that both
of us feel listened to and appreciated
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I want us both to leave the
conversation feeling heard and
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understood I want both of us to leave the
conversation feeling heard and understood I
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want both of us to leave the conversation feeling
heard and understood it's not a competition it's
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not a competition I'm not competing against
you I'm not trying to beat you I'm not trying
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to win it's not a competition this isn't about
competing against each other this isn't about
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competing against each other it's not a win or
lose situation it's not a win or lose situation
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and that's it that's our workout for today was
it a good workout did you get a nice practice
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speaking English get a get one little step
closer to fluency I hope so I hope it helps
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I'll see you in the next step and we'll continue
on this journey to fluency I'll see you there
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