Practice English Conversation (How to improve your life) Improve English Speaking Skills

hello Stewart I see you're very happy any  particular reason for you to be this happy  

hi Daniel well no or yes I mean Life is Beautiful  my friend I see but on Friday you were not like  

this what happened don't you remember I told you  I was going to go to this seminar to change my

life oh yeah I remember then that's why you're so

happy of course I'm very happy I am  a different person now I am a better  

person life will be different from now on  everything will be perfect and I won't be sad

anymore is that what they told you look I don't  want to ruin your happiness but I think you're

exaggerating a seminar can't change your life  forever I know it can make you feel better but  

you're wrong I feel different you say that  because you have never been to this kind of

seminars oh I have that's why I'm telling  you this this is just one of the myths of  

personal development myths of personal  development I'm curious now tell me more  

about it sure look the human mind seek  to make meaning for every situation it

Encounters this is a good thing for our  survival mode but in this era of information

overload one has to be circumspect  about making Fast conclusions you

know May do come about as a result of  personal contemplation but mostly it comes  

from information with take in and one example of  it is one seminar or book can change your life

completely we have often heard the stories of how  someone's life took a drastic turn around after  

they were exposed opposed to some experience these  stories have led to a strong belief that one just  

need that one moment and everything turns over  for the good this is just too simple to be helpful  

to most people there is a principle in this but  not as a straight forward as most speakers will  

like you to believe now I can't say there are  no honest tremendous transformational stories  

out there but it is important to knowe that  the changes are not as it may seem experiences  

may serve as motivations when the motivation is  strong enough the person's will power comes into

action they gain a new form of energy  which helps them make small changes

and these small changes change up into a  bigger transformation do you understand what I

mean I think I do you say that what  I'm feeling now is motivation just

that exactly L but do not take  me wrong it is important to have

motivation you need to feel motivated to start  making a real change but motivation is not

enough take advantage of that motivation  to start taking action make a plan and  

start with that I think think I get it  what you say really makes sense tell me

more another myth is personal  development is for a certain class of

people personal development is not for any  class of people much more than physical

growth well probably it is more  practiced by successful people  

but hey have you thought about what got  them successful personal development is  

a choice and when you fail to make that  choice a default one is set for you if  

you want to be better achieve more be more  likable and generally enjoy life more you  

don't need to buy expensive books or to go  to these expensive seminars to change your

life I mean if you can do it good for you  maybe that can be a good experience but  

they are not necessary or that MTH that says  that you must read 10 books a month to be

successful or that if you don't read  books then you can't be successful in life

please many people don't like to read and that's  okay mostly because they have not been trained to  

read that is not to say personal development  is only through reading it is a personal

thing and you can can choose any way that is  comfortable with you we have audio and video

content whatever you like you can  experiment to see what works for you but

listen yet still I will advise you try out  improving your reading skills give it a

try another myth is if you want it bad  enough you will definitely get it come

on it is a sweet fantasy to just believe that  when you want anything bad enough you will  

slip it to reality this message has been sold  everywhere I am not against Law of Attraction  

but it is often present Ed out of proportion  desire to create action and action can lead  

to achievement achievement of the desire but  this is not how it is often presented what I  

mean is you can want it all you want but  without needed action you will likely not  

get it another myth you you must be joyful  all the time to attract good things to your

life there is a notion that when you get sad you  attract badl because sad is a negative emotion  

therefore in order to achieve personal development  one must learn to be joyful all the time some  

gurus sell philosophy that you have to have  positive emotions all the time to attract good  

things to your life but they don't mention that  by the principles of life down times are meant to

be they don't mention that even the  emotions we refer to as negative also  

often serve very important purposes imagine  you have never been sad before how will you  

know happiness that's crazy man the  important thing is to learn how to  

manage your emotional triggers but not to  pretend to be happy all the time I could  

be worried to see you happy all the time  we are human beings and we feel different

emotions so it is okay to be  sad depressed worried stressed  

happy motivated and so on you're right I  think I get it how do you know all these

things well I have tried different things to  be a successful person that's why I know these

things and I could tell you more I just want you  not to get scammed with this topic of personal

development so I can tell you more but only if  you like the idea let me know in the comments  

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