Fully Present ADVANCED Speaking English

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English Coach Chad


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what are we going to do here we're going to  practice speaking English Advanced English  
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speaking practice we're going to use the shadowing  method and I got to ask you are you fully present  
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for this you have to be fully present all right  let's jump right into it here we go have you ever  
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had a conversation with someone who didn't seem  fully present have you all right I want you to  
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Shadow me say it with me here we go have you  ever had a conversation with someone who did  
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didn't seem fully present again have you ever  had a conversation with someone who didn't seem  
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fully present have you ever had a conversation  with someone who didn't seem fully present have  
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you ever had a conversation with someone who  didn't seem fully present have you ever had a  
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conversation with someone who didn't seem fully  present did I say it too many times did I did  
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I bore you I'm sorry I should really tell you  what um present is if you are present you are  
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focusing on something you're focusing ing on  something you're present so here's an example  
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sentence I'm present in this conversation and  listening carefully to what you're saying I am  
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present in this conversation all right here's our  next sentence maybe they were distracted by their  
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phone or it felt like they were more focused on  what they were going to say next maybe they were  
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distracted by their phone or it felt like they  were more focused on on what they were going to  
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say next maybe they were distracted by their  phone or it felt like they were more focused  
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on what they were going to say next maybe they  were distracted by their phone or it felt like  
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they were more focused on what they were going to  say next all right it can be a bit isolating right  
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a bit isolating it can be a bit isolating right a  bit isolating is feel a little lonely it can feel  
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a little lonely right it can feel a little lonely  right it can be a bit isolating right yeah it can  
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be a bit isolating right right we all know the  joy of feeling truly heard whether it's sharing  
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our thoughts worries or even a light-hearted joke  being listened to is powerful yeah you want people  
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to listen to you right we all know the joy of  feeling truly heard we all know the joy of feeling  
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truly heard whether it's sharing our thoughts  worries or even a light-hearted joke being  
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listened to is powerful again we all know the  joy of feeling truly heard whether it's sharing  
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our thoughts worries or even a light-hearted joke  joke being listened to is powerful again we all  
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know the joy of feeling truly heard whether  it's sharing our thoughts worries or even a  
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light-hearted joke being listened to is powerful  one more time we all know the joy of feeling truly  
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heard whether it's sharing our thoughts worries  or even a light-hearted joke being listened to  
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is powerful but sometimes even when someone  appears to be listening it doesn't feel like  
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they're really connecting with us but sometimes  even when someone appears to be listening it  
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doesn't feel like they're really connecting with  us but sometimes even when someone appears to be  
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listening it doesn't feel like they're really  connecting with us but sometimes even when  
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someone appears to be listening it doesn't  feel like they're really connecting with us  
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today we're going to delve into something  incredibly important the art of listening  
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today we're going to delve dive into delve  into something incredibly important the art  
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of listening today we're going to delve into  something incredibly important the art of
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listening it's not just about hearing the words  it's about understanding the essence of what's  
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being conveyed what's that mean it's about  understanding the essence the pure meaning of  
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what's being transferred over to you what they're  saying what they're conveying to you it's not just  
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about hearing the words it's about understanding  the essence of what's being conveyed again  
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it's not just about hearing the words it's about  understanding the essence of what's being conveyed
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when someone confides in you they're  offering a piece of themselves active  
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listening demonstrates that you value this  gift so if some when someone confides in you  
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confides in you if they confide in you they  they are trusting you they are telling you  
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something something important and they  want they know that they can trust you  
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so they confide in you so they're offering a  piece of themselves they're opening up to you  
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and they're offering a piece of themselves  so active listening you listening carefully  
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will demonstrate that you value this gift it's  important to you and they are they are important  
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to you all right let's Shadow it ready join me  when someone confides in you they're offering a  
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piece of themselves AC of listening demonstrates  that you value this gift when someone confides  
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in you they're offering a piece of themselves  active listening demonstrates that you value this  
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gift so how can we tell if we're good listeners  here are a few indicators all right let's say  
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this sentence so so pause right there so how can  we tell if we're good listeners here are a few
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indicators so how can we tell if  we're good listeners here are a few
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indicators I have itchy neck right now I had to  scratch my neck all right when someone speaks  
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to you do you maintain eye contact we are making  eye contact right now maintain eye contact when  
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someone speaks to you do you maintain eye  contact do you do you maintain eye contact  
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when someone speaks to you it signifies your  interest and engagement in the conversation  
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it signifies your interest and engagement in the  the conversation when someone speaks to you do you  
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maintain eye contact it signifies your interest  and engagement in the conversation when someone  
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speaks to you do you maintain eye contact it  signifies your interest and engagement in the
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conversation another crucial important  crucial sign is body language
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are you leaning in nodding or facing the speaker  another crucial sign is body language are you  
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leaning in nodding or facing the speaker another  crucial sign is body language are you leaning in  
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nodding or facing the speaker our body language  during conversations can reveal whether we  
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genuinely care about the other person our body  language during conversations can reveal whether  
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we genuinely care about the other person our body  language during conversations can reveal whether  
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we genuinely care about the other person open  body language indicates interests and a desire  
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to hear more and a desire to hear more you want to  hear more if you have open body language tell me  
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more open body language indicates interest and a  desire to hear more open body language indicates  
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interest and a desire to hear more and and a  desire and a desire and a desire and a desire  
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and a and a and a desire to hear more yet another  essential sign is reframing from interrupting the  
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speaker stop yourself from interrupting this  person that is speaking yet another essential  
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sign is pause refraining from interrupting the  speaker yet another essential sign is reframing  
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from interrupting the speaker yet another  essential sign is reframing from interrupting  
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the speaker it can be challenging it can be  challenging we all feel enthusiastic at times  
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I want to interject interject that means to say  something you want to say something you want to  
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interrupt it's not interrupt you just want to say  you want to say what you want to say you want to  
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interject add your your words to the conversation  it can be challenging we all feel enthusiastic at  
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times and want to interject it can be challenging  we all feel enthusiastic at times and want to
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interject but allowing someone to finish their  thought demonstrates respect and provides them  
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with the space to express themselves fully  the space that just means you give them time  
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you you don't rush them and you you allow  them if you provide them with the time they  
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need to express themselves fully fully all  right I'm going to say it here we go but  
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allowing someone to finish their thought  demonstrates respect and provides them  
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with the space to express themselves fully  provides them with a space to express themselves
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fully okay from the top here we go  but allowing someone to finish their  
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thought demonstrates respect and provides  them with the space to express themselves  
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fully finally offering sincere feedback  is crucial offering sincere sincere means  
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honest honest feedback is important crucial  finally offering sincere feedback is crucial  
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finally offering sincere feedback is crucial  you say it yes offering sincere feedback is
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crucial when someone finishes speaking it's  important to convey that you've been attentive  
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and empathetic you've been attentive  you have been listening and empathetic  
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that means you care about their feelings  ah here's here's another way to say this  
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it's important to show that you are  listening you are listening you are  
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attentive attentive you have been attentive  and you care about their feelings you are
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empathetic all right here we go when someone  finishes speaking it's important to convey that  
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you've been attentive and empathetic when someone  finishes speaking it's important to convey that  
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you've been attentive and empathetic attentive and  empathetic you've been attentive and empathetic
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good those are big words huh you can achieve this  by saying something like that sounds tough or oh  
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I'm happy for you you can achieve this what are  you achieving you're achieving attentiveness and  
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empa empathy you achieve this by saying something  like that sounds tough that that sounds tough  
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that sounds difficult or I'm happy for for you  that's great I'm so happy that happened to you  
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I'm happy for you that sounds tough or I'm  happy for you don't say it like that say it  
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like this I'm happy for you I'm happy for you  that's better you can achieve this by saying  
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something like that sounds tough or I'm happy  for you all right a simple remark lets them know  
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that you've listened and are concerned about  their emotions so just a simple comment just  
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a simple comment a simple remark comment lets them  know you heard them you've listened you heard them  
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and care about their feelings and are concerned  about their emotions a simple remark lets them  
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know that you've listened and are concerned about  their emotions a simple remark lets them know that  
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you've listened and are concerned about their  emotions all right that's it that's the whole  
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text for today it took us some time how long have  we been going let's see 15 minutes oh no I'm going  
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too slow I'm going way too slow let's say it all  right now in a smooth smooth clear Voice without  
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stopping say it with me here we go have you ever  had a conversation with someone who didn't seem  
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fully [Music] present maybe they were distracted  by their phone or it felt like they were more  
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focused on what they were going to say next it  can be a bit isolating right we all know the  
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joy of feeling truly heard whether it's sharing  our thoughts worries or even a lighthearted joke  
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being listened to is powerful but sometimes even  when someone appears to be listening it doesn't  
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feel like they're really connecting with us  today we're going to delve into something  
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incredibly important the art of listening it's  not just about hearing the words it's about  
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understanding the essence of what's being conveyed  when someone confides in you they're offering a  
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piece of themselves active listening demonstrates  that you value this gift so how can we tell if  
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we're good listeners here are a few indicators  when someone speaks to you do you maintain eye  
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contact it signifies your interest and engagement  in the conversation another crucial sign is body  
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language are you leaning in nodding or facing the  speaker our body language during conversations can  
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reveal whether we genuinely care about the other  person open body language indicates interest  
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and a desire to hear more yet another essential  sign is refraining from interrupting the speaker  
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refraining refraining I don't know why I messed  up I'm sorry yet another essential sign is refrain  
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refraining from interrupting the speaker it can  be challenging we all feel enthusiastic at times  
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and want to interject but allowing someone to  finish their thought demonstrates respect and  
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provides them with the space to express themselves  fully finally offering sincere feedback is crucial  
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when someone finishes speaking it's important to  convey that you've been attentive and empathetic  
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you can achieve this by saying something  like that sounds tough or I'm happy for  
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you a simple remark lets them know that you've  listened and are concerned about their emotions  
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let me say that again a simple remark lets them  know that you've listened and are concerned about  
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their emotions did I get it right that time boom  we did it good job good workout it's not easy to  
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to say it all nice and smooth even for me keep  moving forward one step at a time hey let me know  
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do you like these longer more Deep dive lessons  or do you want me to move a little faster I don't  
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know maybe sometimes it's good for a long lesson  sometimes a fast lesson I know anyways get all  
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the steps at englishcoachchad.com  and I'll see you in the next step
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