The Secret to Making New Friends as an Adult (part 2) | Marisa G. Franco @TED #ted #tedtalks

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That on the one hand
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we need people,
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they make us feel healthy,
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they make us feel connected,
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they make us feel like our very selves, right?
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But on the other hand,
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people are really scary.
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They can dismiss us,
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they can reject us,
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they can actively harm us.
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And so this sort of dilemma that we face,
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the sort of entity that we need the most
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is also the entity that can harm us the most.
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And how we walk across this tightrope
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handling this paradox of people
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says a lot about our ability
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to make and keep friends.
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Because if we find ourselves stuck in the place
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where we see people as --
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we mistrust people,
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or we see people as
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potentially rejecting us and harming us,
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it's really hard to foster connection.
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